Getting married in Thailand while unemployed (answers from FR people preferred)

[bwpage3]

No Job !

That will go over very well with her family. The only reason why any Thai Father would want you as a son inlaw; would

be because you can pay him money every month. How are you going to pay the 500,000 bt ; to the family at the wedding ?

That's exactly the reason why I don't post often on this forum because there is always - at least - one guy, oops sorry, I meant one moron, who is going to judge you when you ask a question.

The question was pretty simple: is it possible to do it or not? And the question wasn't: do you think it is good to do it or not?

Bark, I don't care about what you think. WE are decided to do it and WE have our reasons to do it in this way. By they way, if it is your vision of the wedding (that means wedding = paying the father every month), I seriously suggest to find another wife. The family of my girlfriend and my girlfriend herself NEVER asked me any kind of money. The fact that you mention 500,000 baht instead of 100,000 to 300,000 just confirms that you actually found the wrong wife. You see, I can also judge you, is it nice?

Thanks to the other serious people who answered my question. I had already the link and the pdf. I asked this question because I found another website: http://vivre-en-thailande.com/mariage-franco-thailandais/1391/

And there they say I need to give papers about my current work. Reason why I was doubting about it. But I guess the most important is the link you gave me as it is directly from the French Embassy in Thailand

Another question: in case of divorce, it works like this:

- each keeps what he had before the wedding

- each takes 50% of what has been earned during the wedding?

Am I right? This is what it is applied by default, isn't it?

When you are asking questions about marriage and divorce in the same post, that makes your understanding of Thai women questionable.

There are all kinds that want to get married in Thailand, and every single man has all the answers and has it all figured out. Just ask any man.

You must have found the very first Thai woman to marry a farang that does not want a wedding party, celebration or sin sod?

The loss of face for her getting married would be unbearable in her village with no celebration.

Secondly maybe she does not want to have to answer the question what does you husband do, when you have no job?

Thai women have a lot more sense than you give them credit for.

Most all are looking to improve their lives through marriage to a foreigner.

Right now you are the great white hope to a better life.

However, in your country or Thailand, when you start with the "I can't afford to buy a house, car, etc., you will find the romance dies quickly and you will be heading for divorce.

I think many Thai women will take a chance to get legal in a foreign country with a husband, knowing if they have nothing to offer, she will still find a way on her own.

You might have grandiose ideas of love and romance forever, but that is not the way it works in real life.

Sooner or later, in your country or hers, she will see other married Thai women having things from their husbands she will want more than you.

If you do not understand this 100%, getting married is a moot point and a pathway to heartache and trouble down the road.

One only has to read the 1000's of stories of divorce here on TV to really understand.

Edited April 1, 2016 by bwpage3

[bwpage3]

millman, may I ask where you intend to live after marriage?

Not sure what you mean about a 'contract' before marriage, I assume you mean a prenuptial agreement.

In Thailand the law states that what you own before marriage remains yours, everything purchased after marriage is 50/50, but be aware a foreigner cannot own or purchase land.

In the case of divorce between two foreigners, a Thai wife could use either the laws of your Country, or Thai law depending on which is more favourable to her and depending on how well she is advised. Prenuptial agreements can therefore not be worth the paper there written on because the law will always dictate the outcome, although they can influence a judgement.

Well, that is not exactly how it works, or is suppose to work. True that you can't officially own land in Thailand under normal conditions, but there are ways in which you can have rights to land for your life time. But that is a different topic.

In dealing with land and a divorce the Divorce Law is 50/50. This applies to both partners. So if his wife acquired this land after marriage, and even if he signs papers saying he didn't help her pay for that, he would still be entitled to half the value of this land no matter what. The only exception to this is if this land was passed on to her from inheritance. If an Old Grandmother passes away after marriage, but promised his wife this property after she is gone, it can be considered property prior to marriage.

No, he cannot own this land but the Divorce Court can grant him time to sell it. His wife can be forced to sell it also if this is the only asset they have since marriage. What usually happens is they have more assets than this so some deal is made between the husband and wife for the land. Keep in mind that being able to keep your assets before marriage does not protect you against spousal or child support. Like anywhere, the more assets you have the more support you are expected to pay. But it is still far better getting a Divorce here in Thailand than in the West.

If you buy your Girl Friend a House and Property you might as well kiss that goodbye, as they will consider this as a gift.

Did you read the post? How do you buy a land and house when you have no job?

[theguyfromanotherforum]

Anyway, we will get married in Thailand but we plan to live in Europe. We just get married in Thailand because it is simpler for the administrative paperwork

We don't know yet where exactly as it will mainly depends on the job I will find but - I guess - probably in Germany. In all cases in Europe. We will move back to Thailand later, probably when retired.

Big mistake to bring a Thai woman with a career to Europe.... Unless you will support her financially. Big mistake and she will hate you for it. Think this through.

[millmann]

hey guys, I dont care about what you think or "your advices".

The question was pretty simple: Is it possible to get married without having jobs?

Serious people answered perfectly to the question and I thank them.

For all other <deleted>, you know nothing about our life so stop judging about appearances and/or what you dont know. That's not because your life is a shit that it is the case for everybody. Keep your pessimism and your bullshit for yourself and stop making and speading stereotypes

Edited April 1, 2016 by millmann

[theguyfromanotherforum]

I am not judging, I am stating a fact. It's a big mistake to bring a Thai woman who has a career in Thailand to no job Europe. I don't know nothing about your live and you don't know nothing about Thai women. Good luck you "deleted" moron.

[millmann]

I am not judging, I am stating a fact. It's a big mistake to bring a Thai woman who has a career in Thailand to no job Europe. I don't know nothing about your live and you don't know nothing about Thai women. Good luck you "deleted" moron.

And on what is based your "fact" except your shitty personal experience? Do you have any statistics or reliable sources to support your "fact"?

[theguyfromanotherforum]

No, I don't have any "personal experience" because I didn't allow myself to have any.

However, my girlfriend is in contact with numerous Thai women who married for a "better" life in another country and every single one that had a career in Thailand is regretting their decision (except the ones that moved to USA... that seems to be an exception). No job, no friends and now they just complain on Facebook about lonely and penniless life. I dunno, maybe you are a rich guy who will provide, but judging by your replies you probably sold youf gf some stories and fairytales about farangland.

[ubonjoe]

Topic closed at the request of the OP.