Thai Girl Embarrasses Me Infront Of My Folks

[Farang007]

my parents are at my house in phucket. i am playing a video game with my thai girl friend who is uni educated and works in an office. i scored a goal against her in a football game so she threw the controller across the room.

i suppose this was a "thai" moment for her.

how can i explain to my parents that her doing this does not make her a complete idiot, and that things like this are common among thai people for some reason unknown to farang.

[Soph]

my parents are at my house in phucket. i am playing a video game with my thai girl friend who is uni educated and works in an office. i scored a goal against her in a football game so she threw the controller across the room.

i suppose this was a "thai" moment for her.

how can i explain to my parents that her doing this does not make her a complete idiot, and that things like this are common among thai people for some reason unknown to farang.

Dont know, I mean, that is the kind of thing I would do and im not Thai - maybe yr parents will just realise that she gets a little bit mardy now and then - some people are just like that, crikey I have my moments that for sure. Maybe let her win next time!

[britmaveric]

Sore loser would be all I'd think.

[khunyae]

my parents are at my house in phucket. i am playing a video game with my thai girl friend who is uni educated and works in an office. i scored a goal against her in a football game so she threw the controller across the room.

i suppose this was a "thai" moment for her.

how can i explain to my parents that her doing this does not make her a complete idiot, and that things like this are common among thai people for some reason unknown to farang.

You should not have to explain anything to your parents. They will accept her because you love her.

But it sounds like you are offended by her behaviour. Are you? If so you must teach her that such behavior is not acceptable to you. Otherwise ignore it.

Edited November 20, 2006 by khunyae

[khall64au]

My niece did that at age 7 - but she grew up!!!

[johnnyk]

Did you have to buy another controller?

If not, mai ben lai.

[GuestHouse]

I think Khall has it right, she probably needs to grow up.

As for your parents, have they said anything or is this one of those, 'they don't have to say anything moments"?

I'm of the opinion that throwing things across the room in front of your parents is not normal Thai behaviour, and for those who say you should not have to explain/apologise to your parents - why not?

A farang marries a Thai and has to acept the family comes into the marriage, like wise in very many normal western marriages.

We learn almost all of our values from our parents and family, we are, whether we like to admit it or not our parent's children, and it is natural for them to be concerned for us as it is for us to be concerned for them - Thais do not have a manopoly on this (despite what they believe and would tell us).

Throwing things across the room infront of elders and in partucularly a boyfriend's partents.

Absolutely out of order.

[opothai]

did you get to see the expression on your parents faces,

was it priceless

computer rage

seriously as said before explain to the good lady about behaviour in front of elders,

and how would her parents react if you had acted in a similar manner

[GuestHouse]

and how would her parents react if you had acted in a similar manner

and how would she react if you had acted in a similar manner in front of her parents?

Is the question to ask.

[mittheimp]

my parents are at my house in phucket. i am playing a video game with my thai girl friend who is uni educated and works in an office. i scored a goal against her in a football game so she threw the controller across the room.

i suppose this was a "thai" moment for her.

how can i explain to my parents that her doing this does not make her a complete idiot, and that things like this are common among thai people for some reason unknown to farang.

Oh for goodness sake - is this the extent of your worries!

How would you react if she actually did something really embarrasing!

[GuestHouse]

How would you react if she actually did something really embarrasing!

In the context of Thai culture she has.

[englishoak]

Ok so it was a tantrum, big deal. She needs to grow up.

Hardly a major embarressment though, at least she was comfortable enough in front of your parents to act normal. Better that than being a dumb wall flower or fawning all over them.

[LaoPo]

how can i explain to my parents ...................

You don't have to explain anything....your parents are probably wise people and have seen a thing or 2 in their lives before...

The only thing they wish (for you) is, that you will be happy in your relationship and if they are wise, they will keep their lips sealed

LaoPo

[opothai]

and how would her parents react if you had acted in a similar manner

and how would she react if you had acted in a similar manner in front of her parents?

Is the question to ask.

very true guest

if only she knew that i know that she knows that i know, i think

[mittheimp]

How would you react if she actually did something really embarrasing!

In the context of Thai culture she has.

Is the OP and his parents Thai?

No, so what's your point ?

[alexth]

My niece did that at age 7 - but she grew up!!!

Is she still a human or she turned out to be an experiment?

[tropo]

my parents are at my house in phucket. i am playing a video game with my thai girl friend who is uni educated and works in an office. i scored a goal against her in a football game so she threw the controller across the room.

i suppose this was a "thai" moment for her.

how can i explain to my parents that her doing this does not make her a complete idiot, and that things like this are common among thai people for some reason unknown to farang.

This reminds me of a time earlier this year. I came from the Philippines with my GF (Filipino) to stay at an American friend's house in Pattaya for 3 months. His Thai girlfriend of 3 years used to shout at her boyfriend and go on like you wouldn't believe right in front of us as though we were not there.

She was a bargirl with no uni education, but it got me to thinking if this was the Thai way, a bargirl way, or just that girl having some major issues.

In my limited experience in Thailand I've noticed that Thai women seem quite aggressive...but that might just be a bargirl trait.

Edited November 20, 2006 by tropo

[GuestHouse]

Is the OP and his parents Thai?

No, so what's your point ?

My point is, she is Thai, by any Thai standards her behaviour is unacceptable.

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Meanwhile, perhaps we should make a note of those who are so dismissive of the feelings of Farang Parents in a Thai/Farang relationship, in order that we can compare their response to farangs who have problems with Thai parents in a Thai/Farang relationship.

Against a number of of Thai manners and Thai sensibilities the girl's behaviour is out of order.

A) Behaviour in front of family of b/f

B ) Behaviour in front of people older than she

C) Expression of emotion in front of people she presumably hardly knows.

So my point is two fold.

1. Her behaviour is out of order

2. There is a double standard being applied here with regards to respect to family. Thai they deserve respect, farang they do not deserve respect.

Make your mind up. Do you want your cake, or shall you eat it?

[Mighty Mouse]

The Thai girl is only your girlfriend.

It's incidents like these that make you consider whether she would be the right choice as your fiance.

If you think that she would be, then maybe once you are married it will be YOU that she throws....outa the house.

[taxi40]

Is she related to the Chelsea Manager, Hmmmm forget his name!!!

[sriracha john]

Look on the bright side...

Just think how embarrassing it would have been to you in front of your parents if she had scored a goal on you....

[El Taco Loco]

Mine did that and I sold the PS2 the next day.

That is normal, but wait to see the expression in your parents's faces when "the buffalo village" come to town and shack up at your place.

On a serious note, she lost face infront of your parents and now she will be an absolute doll as a way to make up. Enjoy it and abuse it, man!!!!

my parents are at my house in phucket. i am playing a video game with my thai girl friend who is uni educated and works in an office. i scored a goal against her in a football game so she threw the controller across the room.

i suppose this was a "thai" moment for her.

how can i explain to my parents that her doing this does not make her a complete idiot, and that things like this are common among thai people for some reason unknown to farang.

[LaoPo]

Is she related to the Chelsea Manager, Hmmmm forget his name!!!

Frank Rijkaard....

LaoPo

[Creeper]

Sore loser would be all I'd think.

I was playing Gran Turismo 4 the other day and threw the controller on the floor cos that %$#@#)&^# Car hit mine and I had the 5 second penalty cos he hit me!!!!!!

[h5n1]

shes paying for the broken controller right?

[Maigo6]

Yet another thread throwing Thai people through the Farang gauntlet.

Of course, my Mother used to scream and shout and have tantrums, so 65 Million other uk citizens must be the same right?

And American women are world renowned for their patience and quiet gentle behaviour........

And Aussie women are all so petite and gentle, never a foul word out of their mouths.

Yep, Thai people really do need Farangs to teach them acceptable behaviour.

[rocky]

The Thai girl is only your girlfriend.

It's incidents like these that make you consider whether she would be the right choice as your fiance.

If you think that she would be, then maybe once you are married it will be YOU that she throws....outa the house.

Very good view point, though only one sign of bad behaviour, what would she be like if married and having a 50% share holder stake.

Maybe you require a lady with more education

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Yet another thread throwing Thai people through the Farang gauntlet.

Of course, my Mother used to scream and shout and have tantrums, so 65 Million other uk citizens must be the same right?

And American women are world renowned for their patience and quiet gentle behaviour........

And Aussie women are all so petite and gentle, never a foul word out of their mouths.

Yep, Thai people really do need Farangs to teach them acceptable behaviour.

[cdnvic]

While it may have been unacceptable behaviour by Thai or other standards, everyone can have a bad day. Worry about it if her temper becomes habitually bad, or if she aims her throws at anyone. Right now I think she just goofed, and we all do that.

If she's nervous around your parents, she may be a bit extra jittery. Especially if she gets the vibe from you that her behaviour is under close scrutiny.

Edited November 21, 2006 by cdnvic

[pumpkin_pie]

While it may have been unacceptable behaviour by Thai or other standards, everyone can have a bad day. Worry about it if her temper becomes habitually bad, or if she aims her throws at anyone. Right now I think she just goofed, and we all do that.

If she's nervous around your parents, she may be a bit extra jittery. Especially if she gets the vibe from you that her behaviour is under close scrutiny.

tsk tsk tsk tsk....... is that being childish, or no sport spirit...... now u see the controller flew across the room, once married, we ......... heheheh..... might read from u .......pots and pans and plates flying across the room......... quick!!!!! duck........ hahahahah.......