The poisonous Brother in Law

[oldhippy]

2 quotes that should be awarded a nobel prize for funnyness:

 

>>> brought together by a common denominator ( did I mean denominator or dominator) ?

>>> local "farangs" who have gone native and seem to be suffering from a congenital case of Stockholm Syndrome?

 

Thank you. So my day is not completely wasted.

 

 

[Odysseus123]

I know a Dutchman here who declines to speak Dutch to his countrymen and will only communicate with them in English-much to their bemusement.

 

Ah! Thailand..hub of eccentrics...or I guess that it was that way 20-30 years ago.

[Odysseus123]

11 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

Hey guys is it just me or are any of you suffering at the hands of this predictive text and spell checking nazi? 

 

I get double words posted, words that looking at the keyboard there is no way I wrote them  example posted police typed polite and why is <deleted> a banned word it is why they find in my lexicon. ( just stopped another in typing lexicon it gave me Mexico ) 

Nope-everything is okay at this end.

 

Sent from my Marconi 1904 using overworked carrier pigeons..

[The Dark Lord]

3 hours ago, Odysseus123 said:

Nope-everything is okay at this end.

 

Sent from my Marconi 1904 using overworked carrier pigeons..

Must be a combination between this recently replaced "genuine" iPad and my fat fingers.........

 

getting back to the subject in hand though, organised a Honda CR-V for the morning. Will pack all my rubbish in it and go. 

 

I need some moral support though as my guilt complex seems to be in the ascendency over the self preservation will.

 

i cannot give in now, the problems are not of my making! 

[Been there done that]

12 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

Must be a combination between this recently replaced "genuine" iPad and my fat fingers.........

 

getting back to the subject in hand though, organised a Honda CR-V for the morning. Will pack all my rubbish in it and go. 

 

I need some moral support though as my guilt complex seems to be in the ascendency over the self preservation will.

 

i cannot give in now, the problems are not of my making! 

Yes, blame them for it all 

[Odysseus123]

15 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

Must be a combination between this recently replaced "genuine" iPad and my fat fingers.........

 

getting back to the subject in hand though, organised a Honda CR-V for the morning. Will pack all my rubbish in it and go. 

 

I need some moral support though as my guilt complex seems to be in the ascendency over the self preservation will.

 

i cannot give in now, the problems are not of my making! 

Good for you!

 

You will feel better once you get underway.This delay must have been extremely taxing considering the unpredictability of it all.

 

There needs to be some sort of resolution to the situation-exactly the same as in my case.If I had been physically able I would have done what  one of the other posters (?oldhippy) has done and travelled back and forth to my home country on a regular basis instead of getting all Thai'd out.

 

 

Edited July 12, 2017 by Odysseus123

[oldhippy]

The Entitled Son borrowed the car again....

Wife went hysterical when I asked her if he has no shame or respect.

The usual threats  - suicide, murder, burn the house down.

Coming back to Thailand 2 weeks ago was a big mistake.

 

 

 

[oldhippy]

42 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

Must be a combination between this recently replaced "genuine" iPad and my fat fingers.........

 

getting back to the subject in hand though, organised a Honda CR-V for the morning. Will pack all my rubbish in it and go. 

 

I need some moral support though as my guilt complex seems to be in the ascendency over the self preservation will.

 

i cannot give in now, the problems are not of my making! 

Go!

In the unlikely case that she changes, you can always come back.

Meanwhile you will have the time to think about it all, with less stress.

hehehe - great advise coming from me!

[oldhippy]

34 minutes ago, Been there done that said:

Yes, blame them for it all 

Blame them for it all? No, that would not be fair.

Only 99%.

 

 

 

[Odysseus123]

14 minutes ago, oldhippy said:

The Entitled Son borrowed the car again....

Wife went hysterical when I asked her if he has no shame or respect.

The usual threats  - suicide, murder, burn the house down.

Coming back to Thailand 2 weeks ago was a big mistake.

 

 

 

oldhippy,

 

What to say?

I know it and have experienced it as have half a dozen foreigners that have lived in this area.

 

Any Aussie who writes to me from home asking about Thai women I simply say "Don't touch 'em with a barge-pole if they have male Thai offspring."

 

Hmmm..and the female offspring aren't much better either.

Edited July 12, 2017 by Odysseus123

[GarryP]

Yes. Hit the road Jack and don't you come back no more, no more. You get what I mean. 

 

Take some time to shake out those cobwebs from your head. Get your head straight. Get the bounce back in your stride, the rhythm in your soul. You'll never want to go back. You'll be sure you did the right thing and kickin' yourself you didn't take your life back on your own terms sooner. 

[Odysseus123]

Dark Lord,

 

So this is the day,eh?

 

Load up the car and get out of there.Enjoy some peace and rest in Rayong.

 

All the best to you.

[LannaGuy]

11 minutes ago, Odysseus123 said:

Dark Lord,

 

So this is the day,eh?

 

Load up the car and get out of there.Enjoy some peace and rest in Rayong.

 

All the best to you.

Yes walk and don't look back!  a shattered vase cannot be glued together and THAT is what you have been trying to do

 

peace be with you

[rhodie]

Waiting to hear how it all went DL. JUST DO IT!

[Odysseus123]

I got involved in a slight fracas yesterday.

 

I was asked to buy them a new washing machine.

 

I declined on the very proper grounds that I had only 5 days to go,that I knew that they would ransack my house after I departed and I needed my money for expensive medical treatment in my home country.

 

That cut absolutely no ice with them so I pointed out that if anyone had actually worked in the last three years then they would have been able to buy quite a number of washing machines.

 

Ol' granny has already decided that it is all hers (and her family's) and is invading the place with a proprietorial air.

 

I couldn't care less anymore.

[transam]

9 minutes ago, Odysseus123 said:

I got involved in a slight fracas yesterday.

 

I was asked to buy them a new washing machine.

 

I declined on the very proper grounds that I had only 5 days to go,that I knew that they would ransack my house after I departed and I needed my money for expensive medical treatment in my home country.

 

That cut absolutely no ice with them so I pointed out that if anyone had actually worked in the last three years then they would have been able to buy quite a number of washing machines.

 

Ol' granny has already decided that it is all hers (and her family's) and is invading the place with a proprietorial air.

 

I couldn't care less anymore.

I can just picture it.......

 

 

 

[Odysseus123]

Yep-within a month they will have transformed my modern house into one of any ordinary, decent,15th century Transylvanian hovels-and will be quite comfortable in it.

 

I have seen other "foreign" houses transformed in this way.I have even installed safety power points in the vain hope that ol' granny and her cronies won't burn it down.

 

They have become quite intrusive of late presumably for two reasons.1.The ATM is no longer spitting out cash.2.The ATM will not return.

Edited July 13, 2017 by Odysseus123

[Odysseus123]

My apologies for my garrulity this morning but I have been reflecting upon the last 6 years and my career as a "white  Knight."

 

When I came here in 2011 I identified 4 areas that I thought that I could offer some assistance with.

1.The family restaurant:Destroyed in the flood.I gave them money to fix it up and get them on their feet again.It is now abandoned.

2.Housing.Clean up the existing hovel and build a modern place for my wife and myself.

3.Encourage education/technical training of offspring with a view to remunerative employment in the future.

4.Provide modern transport so that they could work and/or educate themselves.

 

From what I observed the other white knights in the area did exactly the same.They are all gone now and I will turn off the lights as I depart.

[owl sees all]

47 minutes ago, Odysseus123 said:

They have become quite intrusive of late presumably for two reasons.1.The ATM is no longer spitting out cash.2.The ATM will not return.

The 'penny has dropped' so to speak. We must have a reunion in a few months if this topic cools. 

 

I've had 3 or 4 good days. Now that says something good = normal. They should all be normal! 

 

Don't let them get to you Ody. They are losing out big time here. Whether they will regret things; well who knows? Thainess is unfathomable at the best of times.

 

Take care out there. 

[Odysseus123]

21 minutes ago, owl sees all said:

The 'penny has dropped' so to speak. We must have a reunion in a few months if this topic cools. 

 

I've had 3 or 4 good days. Now that says something good = normal. They should all be normal! 

 

Don't let them get to you Ody. They are losing out big time here. Whether they will regret things; well who knows? Thainess is unfathomable at the best of times.

 

Take care out there. 

Thank you, wise old owl.

Yes,all the days should be normal or at least reasonably enjoyable.

 

I do not know whether I will even be in the land of the living in 3 months time but if I am I shall certainly drop in and say hello to you all.

 

All the best.

[rhodie]

The @The Dark Lord is keeping us in suspense. I hope that means you are on the move. Run, Forrest, run.

[The Dark Lord]

On 12/07/2017 at 9:36 PM, oldhippy said:

Go!

In the unlikely case that she changes, you can always come back.

Meanwhile you will have the time to think about it all, with less stress.

hehehe - great advise coming from me!

I went and loaded the car with complete silence from her

 

my guilt (?) levels are very high, I feel that I have been the swine here leaving her to a future which in all honesty is not very pretty for her. I suppose at the very bottom of it all and if I am brutally honest with myself I still love the ratbag. How, I don't know maybe it is the battered husband syndrome but right now I just cannot shake it off. 

 

The fredom is not as as sweet as I imagined it would be but it is only day one. It was a very long drive and a my stomach was in my feet most of the way ( no it was not the 7/11 ham cheese I took though it was revolting) 

 

planned on merting a very very kind guy from this forum who has offered to help me find somewhere to stay but I just could not drive the extra hour ( sorry my friend, you know who you are and I will take your offer up but not right now just could not do that extra hour drive in the dark in my state)  Found a place where they will store my extra stuff for free whilst I go back to uk. I know the guy from years ago and he is as honest as the day is long. turned to his place on a whim didn't even know if he was still there but he and his wife took me in, fed me gave me beer and were so super, 

 

Plan now is sort out my stuff, drive back to (ex) home town do my 90 day report ( a week early but what the hell) get the " permission to leave"  stamp, drop off the car, bus it to swampy and head back to the land of high taxes and immigration. 

 

Family have offered me a roof and food for as ling as I want as well as  a large portion of support. 

 

Will come back once my head  is sorted ( if that ever happens) but will keep up the contact with you chaps. 

 

You guys have been a fantastic support to me in these very here very difficult times and perhaps prevented another headline in the papers. Did not plan to go to Koh Tao but it might have solved my very turbulent emotions for  me...........

 

earlier on one of you sage chaps suggested to kick in with a new thread titled something like the road to recovery. Might think a bit about that as we have already hit 31 pages and pushing on 500 posts but for the time being I think I will stay here. 

 

Once more chaps thanks very very very much, I have been touched by your wisdom, by your shared stories and by your support. I can only hope that you realise what you have so selflessly done for someone you not even know

[The Dark Lord]

On 12/07/2017 at 9:03 PM, Been there done that said:

Yes, blame them for it all 

Hey "got the t shirt dude" if I type in hello why does it say hello twice? If I type in ( as just happened) dude I get dude due  That must be either a fault in my iPad or some electronic gremlin breaking my balls . I may be senile but I have not gone that far just yet, I hope.......

 

 

ps I got the red card bit, just pulling your leg.

[The Dark Lord]

13 hours ago, Odysseus123 said:

My apologies for my garrulity this morning but I have been reflecting upon the last 6 years and my career as a "white  Knight."

 

When I came here in 2011 I identified 4 areas that I thought that I could offer some assistance with.

1.The family restaurant:Destroyed in the flood.I gave them money to fix it up and get them on their feet again.It is now abandoned.

2.Housing.Clean up the existing hovel and build a modern place for my wife and myself.

3.Encourage education/technical training of offspring with a view to remunerative employment in the future.

4.Provide modern transport so that they could work and/or educate themselves.

 

From what I observed the other white knights in the area did exactly the same.They are all gone now and I will turn off the lights as I depart.

Do t forget to lower the flag too mate. 

 

Seriously though Ody old chum, don't give in to them and for all that is holy please crack this illness. Don't want to lose you mate, seriously.

[rhodie]

13 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

I went and loaded the car with complete silence from her

 

my guilt (?) levels are very high, I feel that I have been the swine here leaving her to a future which in all honesty is not very pretty for her. I suppose at the very bottom of it all and if I am brutally honest with myself I still love the ratbag. How, I don't know maybe it is the battered husband syndrome but right now I just cannot shake it off. 

 

The fredom is not as as sweet as I imagined it would be but it is only day one. It was a very long drive and a my stomach was in my feet most of the way ( no it was not the 7/11 ham cheese I took though it was revolting) 

 

planned on merting a very very kind guy from this forum who has offered to help me find somewhere to stay but I just could not drive the extra hour ( sorry my friend, you know who you are and I will take your offer up but not right now just could not do that extra hour drive in the dark in my state)  Found a place where they will store my extra stuff for free whilst I go back to uk. I know the guy from years ago and he is as honest as the day is long. turned to his place on a whim didn't even know if he was still there but he and his wife took me in, fed me gave me beer and were so super, 

 

Plan now is sort out my stuff, drive back to (ex) home town do my 90 day report ( a week early but what the hell) get the " permission to leave"  stamp, drop off the car, bus it to swampy and head back to the land of high taxes and immigration. 

 

Family have offered me a roof and food for as ling as I want as well as  a large portion of support. 

 

Will come back once my head  is sorted ( if that ever happens) but will keep up the contact with you chaps. 

 

You guys have been a fantastic support to me in these very here very difficult times and perhaps prevented another headline in the papers. Did not plan to go to Koh Tao but it might have solved my very turbulent emotions for  me...........

 

earlier on one of you sage chaps suggested to kick in with a new thread titled something like the road to recovery. Might think a bit about that as we have already hit 31 pages and pushing on 500 posts but for the time being I think I will stay here. 

 

Once more chaps thanks very very very much, I have been touched by your wisdom, by your shared stories and by your support. I can only hope that you realise what you have so selflessly done for someone you not even know

Glad you made it and got some help. Just relax a bit and clear your head. We all know that feeling of guilt. Normal as you are human. But you need to get out of that environment and think clearly. It is obvious that you still have feelings as you were hoping she would come around.

Good luck mate. Never easy, but keep reminding yourself of the really bad times and do you want to go back there. Then at least you go back with open eyes.

[The Dark Lord]

11 hours ago, rhodie said:

The @The Dark Lord is keeping us in suspense. I hope that means you are on the move. Run, Forrest, run.

Hi Rhodie old chum, yup I did my run , didn't go quite as either planned I suspect as from her side I hid the very sharp curved tree cutting thingy that had all of a sudden appeared in the house and the hire car guy got lost trying to find the house.  I spent a rather uncomfortable  couple of hours partially due to this navigational clown but also because the car I ordered could not fit my stuff in it so ended up with a monster long wheel base Isuzu POS. 

 

noticed a few more posters have joined in here swelling swelling the ranks of the dominated welcome to you fellow sufferers and moral supporters . Know ye that you are not alone, no matter how emotionally unstable I have been of late I could never feel sorry for myself once I was aware of some of the other fantastic guys on this forum who have far more challenges in life than I do but they do not let it show. 

 

Instead they  turn adversity into humour, suffering into happiness,  and so much more which has given me and my pathetic problems  a backbone and resolution.

 

Guys you are fantastic and I am all in for the reunion.

 

 

Edited July 13, 2017 by The Dark Lord
My eternal fight with technology

[The Dark Lord]

Garrulity ? ( yes I admit I looked it up)  talking a lot about something unimportant....

 

No way Ody old chum, your posts are fantastic, well written ( even if you do use long words that defeat me) and often filled with wry humour. I would never classify your postings as garrulous my friend. Don't sell yourself short, you have been one of my mainstays of support in these dark days. 

 

I do hope we can do a get together though it would be interesting to see if we met in person how well we would get on. I think I would have to be the major purveyor of the cold refreshments though from what you guys have done for me. I do hope however that in some way it has made us all realise how much we are not alone in our troubles and that each of us has in some way helped brighten up the days of the others. 

 

got to sign out now so I can let the farang family ( mine by birth not by marriage) know that I am still in the land of the living. 

 

Chin up chaps!

 

TDL 

 

ps sorry about the unintentional pun in para 2

Edited July 13, 2017 by The Dark Lord

[The Dark Lord]

19 minutes ago, rhodie said:

Glad you made it and got some help. Just relax a bit and clear your head. We all know that feeling of guilt. Normal as you are human. But you need to get out of that environment and think clearly. It is obvious that you still have feelings as you were hoping she would come around.

Good luck mate. Never easy, but keep reminding yourself of the really bad times and do you want to go back there. Then at least you go back with open eyes.

Thanks, can't see me doing a dick Whittington this time, too much abuse under the bridge and too many nasty things said.

 

just got to come to terms with it. 

[sandrabbit]

1 hour ago, The Dark Lord said:

Thanks, can't see me doing a dick Whittington this time, too much abuse under the bridge and too many nasty things said.

 

just got to come to terms with it. 

just buy some red shoes and repeat 'There's no place like home' .....

[The Dark Lord]

42 minutes ago, sandrabbit said:

just buy some red shoes and repeat 'There's no place like home' .....

But would I not have to grow pigtails? Might be a bit tough with my follically challenged barnet.

 

Sorry did not make it as planned but will do so once I return from tne UK. 

 

Got some new issues there too adding to my woes.

gotta sign out I am dog tired

 

cheeers

TDL

Edited July 13, 2017 by The Dark Lord
Knackered