Plus side is while she is making good money in the bar, she not asking you for money.
Many if us here have good happy relationships. Some have married bar girls and prostitutes and are happy.
Everybody to their own.
My wife worked many years at Home Pro so was easy for me to see her background. First time I met her I asked if she could show me where she worked. She took me to both stores she worked in previous 5 years.
I was amazed by how much respect from staff and management was shown.
Maybe you could do same before partingj with you money.
Staff at hospital and bar, and her customers.
Good luck