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Yes, I'm not just close, but right there......... realist 1 of 2 noun re·al·ist ˈrē-ə-list plural realists Synonyms of realist 1 : a person who recognizes what is real or possible in a particular situation : one who accepts and deals with things as they really are

I know the definition. I've been studying psychology for over 30 years, including narcissism, depression, sociopaths, misogyny, and child psychology.

Boys in school. They're easy to find. This is one statement...........One in eight girls, women raped or sexually assaulted before 18 - Unicef..................and another................ Please credit and share this article with others using this link: https://www.bangkokpost.com/world/2881302/one-in-eight-girls-and-women-raped-or-sexually-assaulted-before-age-18-unicef. View our policies at http://goo.gl/9HgTd and http://goo.gl/ou6Ip. © Bangkok Post PCL. All rights reserved.. More than 31,000 girls and women were raped in Thailand last year and about 60% of them were university students and school pupils, while alcohol use is a major contributing factor to sexual assault, academics said on Thursday. According to the Public Health Ministry, there were 31,866 rape cases last year, or 87 cases per day on average, or one victim every 15 minutes, Supensri Puengkhokesoong, a leading member of the Women and Men Progressive Movement Foundation (WMP), said at a forum on sexual violence in Thailand. The event was organised by the government's Social Development and Welfare Department, the Thai Health Promotion Foundation and the WMP. "Most of the women and girls were exploited by people who they were close to and trusted," Ms Supensri said...........One link....https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_against_women_in_Thailand In many cases, the rapists were educated and they were able to take advantage of their victims because the victims owed them money. According to some of the women, they were tricked or blackmailed into such acts, she said.................https://www.channelnewsasia.com/asia/thailand-rape-patriarchy-power-gender-933231

Truth isn't my perspective. I don't make opinions. Being a realist means you see things as they are.

That's your belief, and calling people narcissists, which you obviously don't know the definition of, is ludicrous. Every failed relationship anyone has, including yours,is due to both sides, either making bad choices or those choices themselves, meaning they cause the friction. You have no idea what constitutes a normal relationship as you pay for all of yours, besides maybe the wife you had in the UK. Who's fault was that one? Your kids don't talk to you so that's someone's fault. Maybe yours because you don't care. Maybe she brainwashed the kids against you, which happens but doesn't have to last forever, as kids aren't always kids in their thinking when they reach adulthood. You've again, assumed, because you know nothing about me besides what I've said here, and you've twisted that around to suit your jealousy of anyone that knows how to have a relationship with a woman without paying for it. It's not the truth but your own way of thinking, which is so off it's laughable.

No, I see many here complaining, and have heard it all of my life, and everyone with sense agrees because they also see if for themselves. You live a completely different life than I and many of us do, so you can't compare your experiences with ours. Don't answer for others, because I see here many that understand how you live, and what your past was like. Remember some of us have good memories , and what you've said in the past is still in our minds. You said you left your children behind in the UK, and they won't talk to you. I understand brainwashing to an extent, but that doesn't excuse your actions towards those kids. You came here and had more and forgot about those earlier. they are adults now and will usually always accept the other parent if you tell them the truth, and apologize if it was you that was wrong. You also blame your ex wife, saying she was the problem, so why can't I? Maybe it was you that was to blame, but I won't assume because I wasn't there. I did most of the child raising of all of my children, as the moms weren't capable or didn't care. having one parent there that cares is better than having two that don't. Again, for the third time, I don't call anyone a narcissist that isn't showing the signs. My ex is a covert narcissist. If you understand what that means, you needn't comment, because you weren't there. I haven't said any other woman was a narcissist, even though they're around. Power goes off here almost daily for a few seconds, which means they aren't up to maintenance on this area. This has happened for years before I moved here, even after I and others have talked to them about it. It goes off at least 2 times a month for hours, which is not normal either. In Texas, where I lived 32 years, it might have gone off two times a YEAR, and always during a storm. here it goes off in good weather, and there is no excuses. I'm thinking you really don't know what goes on elsewhere and only go, like a few others here, by videos.

I just tell things as they are. Easy to be honest when you tell the truth. When you get older, your thinking isn't like it was when you were a child or teen.At least hopefully. When you work all your life, you see the world in a different way. It is impossible to have the same feeling about life now than when you were young, as it was much easier, unless you had a terrible childhood.

Problem there, is that the education system here is among the worst worldwide unless you send them to an international school, which is almost comparable to an average school in the west.

You can disagree but you're wrong. Girls are treated like the women here, as second class. That's not a good way to start your life, and it happens in a few countries like it does here. It's actually one of the worst places to raise kids, especially girls. Up to 70% of girls here are molested in schools before they turn 18. In the US it's 12%. Quite a difference. Here the intentional homicide rate is higher than the US. Here, a large majority carry weapons , illegally, and use them all the time for minor differences. There is just as much bullying done here as anywhere else. Parents here care a lot less than in the west for their children, pawning them off over 35% with grandparents so they can enjoy their freedom working elsewhere. Children here are still hit by teachers. You do that in the US you'll never work as a teacher again. There are gangs all over Thailand, much like the west, and human trafficking here is huge, along with some officials that allow it to happen. People that look at woman as second class, objects or slaves, will always think things are going well for the girls here, as they don't care.

One thing I think you're missing, is that the only way anything is changed for the better, is to complain about it. Westerners are far more advanced and know what's wrong here that locals just let fly, or their officials don't care enough about to change. Again, take away all western influence here and what do you have? You actually like the driving here? Or the fact children are not cared for like they are in the west? That women are second class citizens? You like the smoke from constant burning that hurts thousands of people? That children are passed even if they don't attend school? The power going off all the time in many areas? The crappy road and sidewalk conditions? The terrible building of homes? These are just things that affect us, let alone the locals and all the things that hurt them........... " All the moaning, it's strange behaviour, why complain, it was like that before you all arrived in Thailand"..........You make it sound like you were born here, separate from the rest of us foreigners. You aren't a local and never will be one. You're tolerated because you have money.

I thought you lived in the UK. It's still Merry Christmas like always. Still a marketing thing but still Christmas to most people there. When we were young, it might have felt different because of our naivete as children, but to the children now, it's the same as we saw it. Commercial of course, but still a tradition many look forward to, although the most are those children. Just like Halloween. It's still fun, but mostly for the younger crowd. As parents we can watch them have the fun we did when we were young. years have jaded a lot of us, having to work instead of just play. I hate the driving here also. Just got into an accident two days ago, on a scooter with my daughter. A local was on the side of the road and turned across in front of us without looking, on a scooter with a sidecar. We ran right into him with no options but to brake. Of course since there were 5 locals there, I got the blame and now need to fix my ex's scooter, which I was using. She was vehement about it, wanting to go "talk" to them and make them pay, so I said okay, this week. It was 100% his fault, but they don't see it that way because their thinking is different.

There will always be those that like tradition, along with liking new ideas. Remember the US is a conglomeration of all world cultures and isn't just one. That melting pot of cultures is what makes it interesting and why many travel to other countries to see firsthand.

You have trouble comprehending. Try again. Read what I wrote, slowly, and you'll see the gist of it. You are among a select few here who constantly complain about other foreigners, and you are a foreigner. You aren't a local, but you seem to think you are. I'll reiterate for you here so you can also have this post to go by. I never said I hated Thais. I have a half Thai daughter, and a Thai girlfriend. I get along with everyone who isn't mentally ill, including the locals here That my ex is, therein lies most of the problem here. The rest involve things that not only I and other foreigners complain about, but locals also. An oppressed society is slow to complain enough, or for long enough, to get things done faster. Outsiders, westerners, have seen what good changes have done to their own countries,m and we, along with informed locals, would also like to see happen here. I'm not staying here because it's not a good place for my daughter to grow up, along with me not being able to enjoy my hobbies. Otherwise the country, and much of it's people, are fine. You, with your fantasy about superior genes, are nowhere near my league on health and fitness. You just think you are, which is one of your many faults. Now think for awhile. Reflect, look at how many you have turned off with your attitude about supposed superiority, realize you are superior to no one, and maybe think about the only reason you are accepted here might be that you again, spend money here. On food, shelter, women and other things.

The death penalty when the victim lived? Years in jail perhaps, but like most things here, compensation rules over sense. Seeing this happens daily, many more times than we'll ever hear about, it doesn't show that light hearted amicable feel you would get from living here, and it will continue unabated for decades to come.

You can influence some people to change, but you'll never ruin a whole culture that's been handed down over centuries. In another hundred years, if the world last that long, there might be more people join another side, but there will always be more born into a certain belief because of their parents.

But why did you bother to post this if all you had to do was not get involved in any discussions about politics? You say they're wasting their time, as they can't actually change things, but then you posted the reasonings in black. If enough people get together with the same ideas, they can change things, if they have a leader that can have a voice. That's how all political things start, and how things have been changed over the years. I'm not political, but politics affects me and everyone else, so we have our thinking about who should do what since there are those people in charge of our daily lives. I dislike Trump, but since he's our president, I only hope he does things this time which help the everyday man. You don't have to be an expert on any particular subject to join a discussion on it, because there are people that are very knowledgeable on things you can learn from. Yes, this forum might not reach anyone outside of it, especially about politics, but certain people who are on it might have friends outside of it they talk to, share ideas, and who might be someone in a position to talk to those who can make changes. Every good change that's come about in the world was started by someone with an idea. Others they talked to agreed, who brought others into it, and they took that idea to the rest of the public for voting. Of course all bad things that have happened have started the same way. People influence other people for many reasons. About what you said. There are people, many, who have a lot of money from being it given to them. Would you listen to them or to the people who have actually earned it by working? Some men have girls surrounding them, and many aren't that attractive. Are they experts in getting women or do they just have enough money to attract those girls? Some very lean people know nothing about how to be lean, and are just lucky they have a fast metabolism and get away with eating whatever they want, at least for awhile. Would they be the people to go to for diet advice or one that was overweight and researched how to get lean and used those ideas?

And those who constantly complain about foreigners, thinking we're all the same. Foreigners can't ruin other cultures or traditions. Blending cultures helps other cultures, as you can plainly see with Thais adopting most of what they do from the west. Take away phones, vehicles, motorbikes, maintenance on everything, home building, computers, TV's, boats, military items, Law practices, and other assorted things, guess how Thailand would be then. We aren't taking over but fitting in. Most here I'm sure respect the place, even though some of us would rather be back home. One thing I'm thinking you're missing, is that even you wouldn't be so welcome here without your spending. Some of us might come off as hating the place to those who aren't understanding what we say, but it's a dislike for some practices here that makes us angry. Practices that would, if corrected, make life for everyone here more rewarding and safer. I'm sure most here know what they are.

Then why come on here, if only to just to complain about those foreigners?

Then why come on here?

Same, but definite retirement in Texas.

Seeing you've always been wrong, it might be better for you to learn the art of research, as I provided valid links that could educate you in this matter. But seeing you have adult ODD, it wouldn't help much anyway. I'm thinking you're another who is actually sticking up for his behavior, seeing you think it wasn't illegal. This also shows everyone here how you think, although you might have also missed that point. This link describes much of what you and a select few others do here. And please don't try to act smart, as other intelligent people can read right through you.................https://www.additudemag.com/oppositional-defiant-disorder-in-adults/?srsltid=AfmBOoofcN8jQMZgLeWKTQANGECwyyovTzCWOJhQmiiYCPAUotr1g0os.

Try thinking before you reply . Assuming like a few others here, who coincidentally, all act the same. And what's amusing, all stick up for each other, not realizing you're dealing with older adults here, yet respond like clueless teenagers. That again, is what's over your head. Try reading the link on cyberbullying, and then, maybe, you might understand why I said bullying can be construed as what this boy is doing.

No, actually it shows you know little about the subject, while I have experience in it. This is what you said first,..........."So what you're saying is that all of the women haters on this forum used to cut and paste porn pictures of their classmates using the Sears catalog ? The nerve !", which has nothing to do with what I've said. .......Then you disputed my reply, "So now you're manufacturing things to be upset about. It either is or it isn't. This isn't", and were proven wrong, as I wasn't "manufacturing" anything but telling it like it is. This shows you're ignorant on the subject at hand. But keep coming back in those various usernames, because I'm not the only one who gets a kick out of it. This is what's been over your head for a long time.

As an addendum to my previous reply............ What is cyberbullying? Cyberbullying is bullying that happens through text messages or online. It could be through emails, social media, forums, or gaming. Some examples are: Posting rumors on social media Sharing embarrassing pictures or videos online Sharing someone else's private information online (doxing)