My father passed away and I think there is/was a book of remembrance with his name in it. Same with my mother, never seen the book. Brother passed away in Australia with instructions there should be no memorial/urn or anything. Brother in law passed away in India....nothing.
As a family we have never really discussed this aspect of dying....... we just die and that's it.
My kids are dyed in the wool atheists and are likely to follow suit as they live in the US, France, Germany and the UK.....too much travel and too much hassle.