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3 minutes ago, wildewillie89 said:

I think his point was he should have got out and made more friends  for if he became in a position he is in (bed ridden). Many people are willing to help if you are in desperate need that you have no control over. Not just money, things such as food, clothing, the same help you receive back home generally when you become incapacitated. I don't think the country is relevant in the point. Just making friends to help you out in a time of need. 

I do have Thai friends.and they would do small things for me for sure. More than foreigners. What good does that do? They cannot do my banking. They can visit ,comfort and try to help but that is it. I have to much pride to ever in my life be desperate. I ask nothing of any one and never had. I have been personally responsible for every part of my life since I was 13 and will end before I ever become desperate. I have never ask to  borrowed a penny from any one and will die never having to do it. All i was trying to point out was vulnerable we really are here. We live each day not realizing one accident or health problem and access to funds to keep us going could be a real problem.I wonder how many people here at TV have a plan in place for or if something happened to them and they were bed ridden and perhaps lost their ability to think for them selves or care for themselves.

 But thanks for your concern.

2 hours ago, geriatrickid said:

This thread makes little sense.

 

If you have suffered a "mini stroke", but are not  treating it, and then say you expect/hope to be able to fly in a few weeks time, I would say that you are delusional. A stroke is the equivalent of a heart attack, except that it happens with the brain. Instead of damage to the heart, one incurs brain damage.  If you are not on drug therapy and rehabilitation, then how do you expect to be able to fly in such a short time frame? I appreciate that surgical intervention is unnecessary, but  strokes require follow up care.

 

Living Wills are not recognized in Thailand.

 

 

Are you aware that if you are visibly infirm, the  airline agents will require a fitness certificate?

Unless you are certified by a cardiologist, don't be a selfish  prick and fly because you will either have an episode on the plane or will die. When that happens, it disrupts the flight and inconveniences hundreds. I have been on a flight when we've had to deal with one of these cases and it is exceptionally disruptive and often avoidable.  If you die, they wrap you in a sheet and move you to an empty row away from people, but in the process  traumatize many pax.

 

Since when does  an ATM card have an expiry date? What Bank are you dealing with that does this.?  If you are dealing with a major bank, they e transfers can easily be set up and  supervised. Scotia Bank has a major interest in Thanachart, BMO switched from SCB to Bangkok Bank, HSBC has its own branch network.

As for  you not trusting online banking,  it's no wonder you have  issues now. That's how it's done. It's safer than the old bricks and sticks format. How do you think money is transferred when you visit a branch? The  bank clerk uses the online transfer format. This is how it's done. If you do not wish to adapt, then sorry, no sympathy.

 

As for your cryptic references to ending it all,  a stroke is not the end of life, even if severe.  If Kirk Douglas was able to  fight back from a massive stroke which caused serious damage and is still going strong at 100, you can deal with  your "mini stroke".  

 

I get it, you are  depressed and want to get organized. However, you are not getting organized, but making a mess of things  by being stubborn. If you are indeed dying, then surely what's it matter then if you give your wife access to the ATM card? This silliness over waiting  for whether or not your sister dies before you amend your will is just nonsensical. Nothing stops you from setting out an order of payment.  In any case, it doesn't matter, because it will be contestable if there wasn't a separation of assets before your marriage. Your wife has rights under Canadian law and if you die in Canada, that's where the estate will be settled. There will probably be assets in Thailand and the wife can apply for a  declaratory judgement there.

I have no idea as to the nature of your estate, but you may need to seek  the advice of a tax lawyer to prepare for the probate costs and capital gains taxes if assets are sold.

 

 

Wow are you confused. I never on any post stated was would be flying soon. That was another poster.

My bank is Scotiabank and 2 branchs told me there was no way they could do it for me. Also the ATM card expires. They only give them out for a period of 3 years. now. I had one for 10 years they took away saying the chip would fail.

 My estate is well under control thank you.

There is other things envolved with how this plays out.. In my will in Canada I give everything to my younger sister,with my niece as second inheriter if sister dies. Well as luck will have it my sister now has small cell cancer and only a short time to live.( it is down to weeks we feel)So if I die first she gets the money for a short time then my nephew inherits it from her. I do not want him to have it. As cold as this sounds it is true. I need to wait for my sister to die before I can commit.So I am battling my death and my sisters.at the same time.If I die after my sister then my niece inherits it all.My biggest concern is while we wait for death to make every thing happen I may have a major stroke and die or be paralyzed for life and unable to end it.This is not how a person should have to deal with life ending.

Thanks Howard ashoul but i went back to Canada last year to specifically do what you said. The bank could not or would not do it. I was told ATM or Western union.or try swift. Swift I will not use if I must do myself online.I do not trust online banking.  

  I have enough here at the moment to last a few years in my Thai account. But when that is get used up bringing more may be impossible if I am paralyzed and in bed.

  If I give my wife my ATM card for Canada it has an expiring date so when it expires what does she do?

 The more I look at it the more I see ending it all as the best way to solve it. Just do not want it to be messy or painful.

Just now, Odysseus123 said:

You do need to trust someone.

 

I am in a similar situation and my Thai wife has responded nobly.

 

She is going to take me home.We tried last month but I was too ill to travel.Now  that I have rallied a bit we plan to go early next month.

 

Please do not leave this until you become totally incapacitated and ALL the decision making is taken out of your hands.

 

This may be paradoxical but in order to retain some control you have to surrender part of it too.

The part about not leaving it till I am incapacitated is true.  I am dealing with ending it all and not going that route. Just not sure how much time I have to decide.

I have a wife but what does that good does that do? How could she help if I was totally disabled?

she has no access to my accounts.Even the money in my Thai bank would be unaccessble if I could not get down to an ATM. 

faraday no treatment will be done but thanks any ways.

 ulysses how do I arrange to get money transferred from a hospital bed while incapacitated?

 tomwct AE in Bangkok is useless they cannot even cash the cheques.

  Sorry for being so negative to everyone trying to help,

  I made a trip back to Canada last year to creat some way to send money. The banker said use western union. Hows that for a good response.

  All day I was dealing with ending it.I have other health problems too. I catheter because my bladder completely quit.so am pretty well house captive as it is I have pain constantly in the bladder area that the doctors say should not be there so nothing can be done to help me I just live with severe pain all the time.Who wants to be this vulnerable late in life.In a split second I could be in a bed for the rest of my life and have no access to funds to maintain me.

 The bottom line on trusting someone to have access to my money  is really testing the boundaries of trust. 

 I talked to a friend last night and explained that if I wait to end it I may not be able to end it because of a stroke that makes it impossible to do anything. So if I want to make sure it is done I have to stop gambling on how long I have before a major stroke happens.and do it soon.

I am sure I had a mini stroke yesterday. After it I realized if I become disabled and bed ridden I will not be able to get money to live and pay my bills.

 I use the ATM to get all my money from Canada. If I become bedridden I cannot access my money.

  I tried to creat some way to have money sent to me regularly but the bank in Canada said they couldnot do that. So if I cannot get to the ATM because of illness or accident I am without money this is real scary.

 How would some one like me even pay the hospital? 

 This is a real wakeup call on how vulnerable we are here.

1 hour ago, Kwasaki said:

Surely deciding to live in a gated houses area with facilities you would expert to pay more l would of thought.

Our house is just in a village near-by surrounded tourist attractions we still have to pay the local village council every year, we pay 8 baht. 

You got off cheap we pay 11 baht a year. 

I really like this post. After learning what pottage is and means I feel it describes the new generation Thai to a T. Thanks for that.

Good luck with this. I receive airmail letters from Canada in 10 days.

 Last year I was returning to Canada and ask a friend to send me a leg bag for my catheter. He sent it by traceable mail. He traced it to Thailand took 10 days after that could not track . He sent 6 weeks before I had to go. I was in Canada for 3 weeks. The large envelope he sent got to me a week after I returned. Seems they hold trackable some where for ever.

On 4/25/2017 at 8:13 AM, kannot said:

didnt get him any taste though

I agree I am not a Porsche fan bought a car of poor taste but he still had it and it will be his trophy for ever.

I think the guy is right on.  He can keep his simple Isaan  life of little cost. But at the moment can splurge on a fancy car. Why not? If in a few years if he is a broke ex fighter he still has the lifestyle he knows and charishs,plus a old Porsche to remind him and bring back memories of his glory years. If he is happy where he is and who he is,why should he change. Fighting just got him out into the world and he left it at that. I respect him more than all the Thai want to be high so and demand respect for driving a new Toyota. A man who gives himself one simple reward and pleasure  but otherwise is the same man gets my vote any day. Money did not take away his roots.

We have a few kinds of bananas at our house. It  seems to me this happens 2 different ways. The biggest factor on going mushy is

when the bananas were picked. By this I mean what stage of ripeness. Too early and they will start being mushy before they are even ripe. Harvest to late and as soon as they are ripe they start to go mushy,these ones will be mushy in 24 hours.

  If the farmer harvests at the wrong time the consumer has mushy bananas.

How long it lasts come down how you adapt. If you are willing to go find a decent cheat place to live it can be cheap,if you do not bother to look for cheap accommodations,it can be expensive.

 If you eat thai food thai style can be cheap. If you eat foreigner food can be expensive.It is all up to you. 5months to 15months all up to you

koh tao the most dangerous tourist place

 if you want adventure danger go trekking north of chiang rai  easy to get killed there

I totally agree with tonray.

  People who burn the flag are idiots and ignorant people. Why they do it only they know. Why would want one destroy their own nations flag. If they dislike the election results then in 4 years vote again and see what happens.. 

What are the burners saying ?That. they hate Trump or they hate America. Either way their expression of free speech is blurry. If they wish to express free speech this way try and be articulate with it.or it is just seen as hooligans on the lose again in America.

  And these low life's want to come to Canada. I would not welcome them to my neighbourhood.

  A lot of Americans need to grow up and see what they really have and stop complaining and get to work.Trump will make this happen and will make the US great again as he says.And all these protesters will take whatever Trump gets for them in improved life style,wages etc. Bunch of free loader loser low life's.that do not know how to use their freedoms in a positive way.

 As mania says those burning the flag are not American.A real American would never do such that.

I came from Canada. There many of us like a really cold room to sleep in and a warm blanket to curl up in.We believe a cold room is better for sleeping. Some of my family leave their bedroom window open to get cold air in all winter.Even when it is minus 40 celsius cold outside.  

Makes me wonder . Do you think immigration officer's would come to an ambulance with a foreigner in it if he came to the office in an ambulance but was unable to get out of the ambulance? He would be at the office but not able to enter  would that suffice?

Thailand suits me perfectly I feel I never let other people influence how I lived or what I did with my life. So I wasnot mainstream in many ways. I invested,travelled sailed and kept active doing what pleased me.Because I was single and doing this not many people,were in close association. Most people I met did one of the things I did but not all so were pigeon holed to that interest. So I became a sort of loner with associations.When I retired  in Thailand and moved to the village i live in now it suits me to a T. My neighbours are quiet no problem,,no stress, no noise,no one bothering me and cheap. My bladder quit so travel and sailing are history. So a quiet,easy life in an uncomplicated village is a wonderful way to spend the remaining days. My wife bless her soul will take care of me as I age. Already she is taking extra special care and appears to see it as her role. I could not ask for more.I am not sure but think my wife realises the longer I live the more my net worth grows and as she gets that when I die so keeping me healthy and around just means more for her in the inheritance.a little bit of a cold thought but true to some point.

Of course he can retire with that.BUT he will probably die in dire poverty. Money will get depleted and cost will increase, he will reach a point where he is flat broke and too old to work.He would have to live real simple well he has his health and build on the 16million through spending less than it produces. this puts him out of access to many things in life well he is still healthy and young enough to enjoy. All retirement at his age with that money will do is allow him to live simple without frills for the rest of his life. Better to keep working and add the retirement fund so there is some flexibilty at retirement time.

Buy crappy processed foods at Lotus.and non nutritional white bread, Get stuck in  traffic jam in front of a school. every morning and  afternoon. Buy pizza with mayonaise and ketchup on it but no cheese. Pay 400 baht for a massage from some one who never took a massage course.  Go to Thermae Cafe and be ignored for not being Japanese. Get refused often by cabbies not wanting to take you or not wanting to use meter. Find a girl with more tattos than Zebra.s have stripes. Walk in front of Nana plaza and have ladyboys grab at you. Pay more for home country food in Thailand than at home and not as good. Pay a barfine of 400 to 1000 baht,instead of 100 or 200 like 20 years ago.

I have known about a few over the years.....One had 4 on the go (so she said) and bragged about it...

How many a girl may have is not an issue. Many used to work Nana or Soi Cowboy just take time off work when the Husband came. The foreigner knew no problem would even go out some times to the bar she worked at to see her friends with her.

That was the essence of Thai "wives" I remember sitting with guys in the Nana at the bar their "wives" worked at when they were out of country no problem. The guys were ok with it.But you must understand the women were different then too. Many did not drink or smoke,no tatoos,no drugs.. That was back in GF experience times. The girls worked the bar solely to make money for the family.The family and girl were happy when the foreigner came. Their daughter got a break from work.and usually went with foreigner to visit the village. The guys were treated well by family,friends and Thai "wife". Men liked the arrangement. Some guys still do it that way and if have the right girl no problem.

What you described is the old form of Thai " wife"for foreigner's. In the old days foreigners kept Thai women in Thailand and lived abroad.Most of the "wives" worked the bar but some stayed in the village with Thai husband. When the foreigner would come to visit the woman would leave the bar or Thai BF and go with the foreigner till he went home.It was like rent a wife.The term Thai wife back then didnot mean a woman a foreigner married it meant a kept woman,be she a bar girl or village wife of Thai man. Time and real marriages has changed this so now it is not discussed as much or practiced. Before it was felt the foreigner was benefiting from this arrangement,because in the past was cheap to do this $100 a month and have a young pretty woman.So guys would come here have a great time with a woman they knew,no bar fine no extra costs,every thing prepaid. One of the reasons this ended was the girls started asking for more than guys were willing to give.

If it was me I would check at an immigration office.Preferably the one I feel I need to use for 90 day reports if they told me that was the visa I had.. Go right to the source here you get how it should be not how it may play out.