GinBoy2

Sorry if you took that as an attack, it wasn't meant to be. I really just wanted to make the point that i would always put my biological kids ahead of anything.

Oh come on, this is one of the more probable Thai/Farang relationships. Similar ages all good. As for bringing up another mans kid, well thats not unusual. I work with a young guy, just got married to his gf. Her daughter is as much his, if not more than the biological dad

There are single Mom's I agree, but you aren't dead! The single Mom who at 25 married a 70 year old guy is going to have a child with a dead Father before that kid is an adult

The other thing goes through my head is the fate of kids born of age disparate relationships. You may alienate kids from previous relationships since your new gf/wife may well be the same age as them, but what about the kids you spawn with that 20 something Thai gf? We've all seen it, the 60/70 something with the 20 something slopping around the mall with a couple of rugrats. Those kids are never going to experience growing up with Dad. First prom, first terrifying meeting with bf/gf, Dad teaching them how drive, just goofing off playing ball, and the delight of grandkids. Thats part of a kids upbringing and for many a child of an elderly Dad those things just ain't gonna happen

I get that For me it's more language. After all these years I still translate Thai and Lao in my head as I speak. English and Spanish swirl in my head fluidly, i don't even think about it. I dream in my native languages, yet never once have I dreamt in Thai Lao or Mandarin Mt wife is Thai, speaks Thai English and Lao but she grew up as a teenager in the US. She has the same issues, but for her all three are native and she dreams as such So maybe thats what I mean about familiarity rather than a physical place

I'd like to believe that, but color does matter. I hope my Grandson is born into world where color doesn't matter so much. But I fear the same cr***p I grew up with as an Hispanic kid at college still exists, But as a red headed Hispanic/Thai boy, he'll be a hit with the ladies for sure

Well thats the other factor often overlooked. That 20 something, with the 60 something is probably educated to middle school level at best. They have no conversation, let alone a real adult relationship. Kids see that, and know it for what it is. I'm happy that my Thai wife is old enough to be my American daughters Mom, and they treat her as such. If I'd have a Thai wife their age, things would be very different

Well I'd like to think my kids love me a little bit more than just what I'm gonna leave them. I'd dump any woman if it meant keeping my children on side. At the end of the day, you are related to your children by blood, some random gf you pick up, will drop you like a pair of dirty underwear when the money runs out

Well ditto that. I would have serious issues if either of my daughters were dating a man my age. Of course my daughters are American, so the money/power dynamic doesn't really come into play as in so many(most) Thai/Farang older man younger woman relationships. I know the fantasy is that when you take your 'younger than my daughter' wife/gf home, other men are envious. Truth is men and women find it kinda creepy

Thankfully I have never experienced this, both my American and Thai wife's are roughly the same age as are our assorted adult kids, and we all kinda work it out. But I've got a couple friends, who's adult kids never spoke to their Dad again. One especially after he had a child with his younger than his farang daughter Thai wife. He now lives back in the UK, 20 miles away from his daughter, and the last time I spoke to him, she still refuses to speak to him

Boring is so subjective. I could be bored in many places in my younger years I could equally be in love with the same places 20 years later

So my Thai son now has a one year old baby, with his American wife. He seems to have inherited red hair from her grandad Skin color is all my son's Thai/Hispanic Mom & Dad, so talk about how wonderful the mixing of races can be. He'll grow up as a tribute to all of his heritage

Noooo, I think the OP needs to up his game. Buy half of Isaan in preparation for Bangkok being under water. That been the prevailing myth for over 20 years, so Pattaya just invest in a hooker bar and good luck with that!

Actually the emoji things are a pain in the ass. I'm a big boy and generally will fess up to my mistakes if folks point them out. The emoji thing, well I leave that to the kids

Not all of us marry bargirls, but that being said.... My wife in an engineer, she works on B1 bombers, and honestly sometimes after hearing recount her day, I don't really care if the damn wings fall off, just be quiet and let me watch Star Trek, much more educational lol So maybe it's just life, we all put up with each other either married or single in some shape or form, and hopefully it all works out

So what exactly is the point of this thread? I don't think many of us lose our various linguistic abilities, unless there is some underlying medical condition. Another weird Gamma thread I fear

I don't 'get' tattoo's, never have. Would i wear the same clothes I wore in the 70's, which I was sure made me pretty damn Hot, Hell No I'd look like an idiot today. So why I would get some ink, that isn't a pair of 1976 flared jeans that I could discard but be with a tat to my dying day? But it's a cultural thing nowadays. I pleaded with my kids, I told them pierce whatever you want, but for God's sake don't tattoo it. Made absolutely no difference, all three of them are tattoo'd, one at least more than the others. But they are all decent human beings, and Heck that's the job of a Dad to be outraged by his kids lol

To add to my previous post this is just insane I work for an airline in the US and no one can access the airside (sterile) area of the airport without security clearance. The idea that folks are wandering between runways hitting golf balls, which in itself I find problematic, is a security joke. No one is a security risk, until they are. No one considered the 9-11 hijackers a security risk until they were. Maybe a Southern Thai dissident was to infiltrate the military and the golf club, we could all speculate how that could pan out!

The golf course is the most bizarre part of DMK. Never quite got how someone who has not gone through security can be on the sterile side of an airport, albeit on a golf course

My major problem as I age is separating my my two native languages. English and Spanish have swirled around in my head since I was a kid. Today I will have instances where I know should be speaking English and vice versa where I just blurt out in the wrong language. My two daughters are also bilingual and we often swap languages as we talk. My Thai son doesn't speak Spanish, and I have to catch myself sometimes. He will sometimes speak to me in Thai, Lao or Mandarin, just because he knows I need to focus on learned languages, and my frontal lobes take over

Maybe some of us have a higher tolerance to it. Thai's discriminate within their own country. My wife grew up and educated in the US, but as obviously Lao will be looked down upon by BKK Thai's. I'm Hispanic and I can be looked down upon in a whiter than white lily white State in the US. If you are brought up in an environment like that, you sorta grow thick skin. I couldn't give a rats ass what Thai folks think about me or my wife. Most of them assume you don't speak Thai, I do and have heard some pretty appalling comments sitting on Skytrain. Do I care? No Can I even be bothered to response? On occasions but mostly I just roll my eyes and think 'moron'

I think as we enter the final phase of our lives, many of us want familiarity more than anything. Somewhere in the back of my head I'm pretty sure that drove me along with a son moving to the US that made us move too. Yeah I speak Thai and Lao, and I can be comfortable, but it takes effort. I sort of want no effort nowadays. Without those pesky kids, I could easily have moved to Mexico for a no effort life

We may be conflating two things here. Many of us are loners, which often means we live somewhat at arms length from the mainstream. I'm an odd duck, only child of an only child mother in an Hispanic family. I grew up to be very self sufficient and never really made true friends, in fact I can count them on one hand, all from my early childhood Folks have come in and out of my life, in the US and throughout the world, I liked them but when we moved on never thought about them again. Now as for integrating into a society not sure given my personality I could do it even if I wanted to. I can skate of the surface and play the game, but at the end of the day I don't really care less if people accept me or not

I don't dream about my ex since we talk at least once a week. Not all marriages end in acrimony She's the mother of two of my children, still love her and she me, we just kinda got bored of living together. Now in our twilight years we're fine being together with new partners, in fact we go on vacations together. All my kids, with American wife and Thai wife all get along. My Thai son lived with my eldest daughter when he went to the US for college. So No, I don't dream about my ex, because I still have a life with her

I think you got that spot on. I met both my wives (American & Thai) at work. I was never very good at the bar/club pickup scene even when I was young, and the work, slowly getting to know someone vibe just worked for me. So then you get to Thailand where the vast majority of Westerners outside of Bangkok are retired old farts, so no work hookup there. They don't frequent 'normal' bars and clubs, since to be brutally honest a balding 60 something strutting his stuff on the dance floor is kinda cringe worthy. But those are places the 'nice' girls go. As for the question of freelancers, my wife's niece did it. She's now a flight attendant for Emirates, but while at college she'd work the bars at the weekend for money, and not the clubs frequented by the young 'hansum' men, she was doing it for fee paying customers, which her eyes were most definitely not her type!