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BTW Thank You Holland for stepping up and taking some of the burden from the rest of us. Americans, Brit's, Aussies we all have our time in the barrel, nice to see someone else filling the limelight Now where are the Belgians......

I think these guys fell into the trap of buying into the SE Asian woman stereotype. It's some weird belief that all asian women are somehow hyper sexualized. Of course the Thai sex industry doesn't exactly help in dispelling that myth, which is well documented far and wide. So lets say a couple of, not the sharpest tools in the toolshed guys show up. They've heard the stories, bought into the myth and bingo here we are!

My wife started to go gray about 10 years ago, and she also was plucking them out. Eventually she bowed to the inevitable and just gave up. I rather like her salt and pepper look, it's kinda sexy if you ask me. As for men dying their hair, just don't!

I couldn't have ever left my kids behind. There is a myth that all break ups are acrimonious. They may be painful but they don't have to be bad. I still talk to my ex every week, mother of my daughters and I'd count her as my best friend. I travelled a lot, probably too much for work and we just drifted apart. Fast forward to today and I think I have it all. We have grandkids, from my American daughter and my Thai son. We all get together, we all kinda get along We recently all got together for my American grandson(although my Thai grandson is also American) first birthday in San Diego It was a great time. One of the more disturbing parts was my wife and ex wife trading stories on my various faults!

Thats what a lot of these guys just don't get. A lot of the fun of life is actually growing old together. Might not, well actually not the bodies you had 20, 30 years ago, but in those years you learn to know someone. We watch TV and I know when she will laugh. We go to dinner she will order for me, she knows what I want. Those are the silly things that make a relationship

Yeah you are exactly the type I'm referering too!

And you you think thats right? Hopefully most grown men treat women with some respect. Unfortunately many who relocate to Thailand seem to regard woman as a commodity to be bought and traded. The sex trade in Thailand goes way beyond the transaction and insidiously affects mens attitudes to women

Have you ever walked in a mall? The typical western male, old, fat, bald slopping around with a 20 something and a couple of rugrats!

Over my lifetime I've spent a lot of money on pet(cats) health. Sometimes it worked out, sometimes not. Would I do it again, Hell Yes. My cats have always been like children to me, and ฿1000, $30 small price to pay

I'm a little disturbed by some of the attitudes here. We all start off with physical attraction, thats how nature works. But if you truly develop affection and love that becomes secondary. How many of us are the adonis we were when we were 20 or 30? Beer Belly? How many of you have lost your hair? Trouble with living in Thailand is sometimes, 60 year old men revert to High School locker talk when talking about women without having a look in the mirror

I had a bit of a different take on the wife. Assuming that this is a real marriage, regardless of the fact that he does seem to be a dick, she probably loves him and in the space of a few days her world is shattered. He's going to prison(?) and deported. I have no idea what it takes to get a foreign wife into Switzerland but I'm making the leap that it's time consuming and expensive as it is for most Western countries

So Bob, I gotta ask the glaring question. So if you leave are you going without Mrs Bob, if indeed you are married? If you are just going to up sticks and leave without her, I'm making the leap that maybe she is part of the reason to leave. When left I couldn't even leave my cat behind, she came too!

In some respects I sorta understand where he's at I was bored, and the more bored I got silly things would irritate me, or I'd blow things out of proportion. Thats when you 'should' know it's time to throw in the towel and walk away. Life is short and if something just ain't working for you, move on and try something different

Hmmm, well to concur with others, if a full scale nuclear war was indeed to happen, let me be at ground zero and vaporize me in a second. Regardless of where you were the ensuing nuclear winter would reduce humanity to some primeval state. We watch post apocalypse TV shows and movies as fiction, but after a real nuclear war pretty much what the world would be headed for

Thailand is a great place for you, until it isn't, but that's true of almost anywhere My wife is Thai, my son is Thai, we have a house in Thailand, but choose to now live in the US, and Thailand is our vacation, 2nd home destination, but not our home. We struggled at the end of our full time in Thailand, my wife was frustrated over lack of career opportunities, I was bored because I couldn't work, and finally our son said he wasn't coming back from the US after college! Everyone is different, and we make decisions on personal situations, we most definitely aren't all built the same I don't regret my time living in Thailand, but it ran it's course and I moved on. Now we enjoy our life in the US with our kids and Grandkids, and our annual vacation to Thailand to visit my wife's family is the perfect compromise

Well on the topic of 'how does he stay' doesn't it come down to two basic options He has no income, so... 1. Mommy & Daddy buy him an elite visa and fund him. 2. He applies for an Ed Visa, and Mommy & Daddy fund him while he earns poverty wages. Maybe I'm missing something, but seems like a spoilt brat kid to me.

Basically all Western countries are going down this road. Think of it as 'visa lite' It's not the horrendous application fee, no paperwork, no interview. 10 minutes sat at a computer is a small price to pay. ESTA for the US I think costs $20, and I'm sure the EU version won't be much different $20 on top of whatever you are paying for your trip is a drop in the ocean, and you know what, if that $20 weeds out one potential threat in a million, I'm happy to pay it

Well all I would say, unless you are ex military and have Tricare, just don't get seriously sick. We can bitch and moan about health insurance in the US. but Thailand is a rare insuance market and as you age, that premium is gonna skyrocket. Now I know i will hear, "I self insure" which means nothing more than I can pay out of income. So just don't get anything seriously sick, because that $2400/month will get sucked up pretty quick

I think male on male and male to female abuse tends to be physical Female to male abuse is very verbal and mind games, not so much physical but abuse all the same

Things change What I thought was fun 20, 30 years ago now not so much. I've lived in a lot of countries and enjoyed them all, until I didn't. I loved Thailand, still do but I got bored and wanted to work You have a passport to your home country, thats the ultimate bolt hole The problem arises when you have burnt all the bridges back to that bolt hole. Thats the genesis for the really unhappy expat

In our little enclave here in South Dakota, my wife has a group of friends married or in some relationship with a farang. Now many are young pups and you'd think they would be the ones who might get upset. But I pose no threat to them as an older guy, so me talking to their wife/gf in Thai, or Lao doesn't faze them in the least. Now if I was 20 years younger and talking to their sweetheart in a language they couldn't understand, well then I really couldn't say

I don't really understand the problem. Of course I'll speak to a Thai in Thai if she's more comfortable with that, if the hubby can't understand that's his problem not mine. If he can't understand Thai, well she's living 99% of her life speaking Thai, so the 1% I would have to say is meaningless.

There are a thousand reasons to hit your wife, but only one...You Just Don't! I have a really sad situation at work with one of my employees right now. Came to work horribly black and blue. Not the first time, and she still goes back to him....because he's 'sorry' I told my Boss, and she took her to Urgent Care, where even though she didn't want to press charges, the abuse was documented and recorded Domestic violence isn't restricted to any culture it's mainly some Neanderthal male thing which maybe lurks in all of us! But at least in the West it's accepted as wrong, and if, unlike my co-worker, the woman accepts the fact, the law will intervene. In Thailand not so much, I don't think Thai police would even dream of intervening

That was my thinking. In fact we were planning to come over to visit you before this little 'incident' After blood, that was it and i was getting on a plane asap Toi was totally freaked out after the last time and just wanted me to see a Dr in the US So here we are, yep same as last time, although caught super early compared to last time, and it'll get removed in the next couple of weeks

I'll describe how weird skin cancer can be. I've had this mole on my upper lip my whole life. When I've been completely clean shaven never been an issue, nowadays I sport some scruff. So it wasn't like I shaved the damn thing off, in fact we were sat on the couch watching TV in the evening and MrsG remarked, "You're bleeding" The mole literally had fell off and left the underlying legion.