Rights and duties between thai parents and son

[jackdd]

25 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

No, I have a 19 year old Thai daughter, if she dated any male she would be out the house with our boot helping her out the door, never to  return. Decent Thai girls only touch a man for the first time on their wedding night.

Probably she does (of course there is a slight chance that she really does not), she would just never tell you

[tolsti]

Run Forrest... Run

[wildewillie89]

The girl should get a part time job whilst studying at university. Will give the mother a more grown up view of her daughter and greater trust in her life decisions. Also will create more space. If she studies as hard as you claim, she will end up with an excellent job, then the mother will respect/trust her decision making even more. 

 

Mother couldn't be all that conservative if let's you sleep together and has not wondered why no marriage after meeting her. 

 

My family are super good, and even they didn't let us sleep in the same room. But as soon as we married everything is now no different from Western ways. Don't meet the family unless you plan to marry, you could go years being in a relationship without meeting them. Unless of course they are more modernised or westernised. I'm surprised she introduced you if no plans on something really serious, almost like she wanted to cause friction. 

 

Obviously we don't know all details, but this mother sounds like she is a lot more accepting of a lot of things than a lot of others. If the Mrs stayed out too late, her father used to send his staff to pick her up in front of all her friends. A midnight curfew of an 'educated 19 year old' is a lot of freedom for many Thai. Obviously if live in separate cities it is a different matter. My wife's secretary for example is only allowed out at night if with us, as the wife is her boss. She is 25.

 

Seems more just like age related drama, but of course your view will be a little blurred so will take the daughters side obviously. I would be inclined to think, even if the girls decision, that if she left home for reasons other than work or study, then the mother will blame you. Before marriage, the family decide what goes on, after marriage they give all decision making to you. 

[MaeJoMTB]

10 hours ago, jackdd said:

Probably she does (of course there is a slight chance that she really does not), she would just never tell you

You don't understand Thai society, not all Thai girls are sluts, not all Thai girls want to be sluts.

[JLCrab]

... and the secret word is 'obviously'.

[Bardeh]

7 hours ago, MaeJoMTB said:

You don't understand Thai society, not all Thai girls are sluts, not all Thai girls want to be sluts.

Simply having a boyfriend is considered being a slut? I feel sorry for your daughter.

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎10‎/‎15‎/‎2017 at 4:24 PM, Mihawk said:

 

 

 

So she arrived at a point that she wants to escape from home. (typical from many girls of her age or younger)

Now i of course suggested her to do this in the best and gentle possible way and trying to find a deal with the mother and do not do this the wrong way creating just a big mess which will indirectly will include me.

So, now i really love this girl and we love each other. There are no money between us of course cause i am 26 years old.

 

She purely interested having me in her life and also she's not a material person.

Saying that how can i help her to handle this situation? 

She should wait till reaching the majority age and then leave home or she can do it now?

 

 

 

And please be reasonable and don't tell me to find another girl cause i already been out with hundreds like most of you. So i want to settle down with this girl there is a real genuine love purpose despite here she's still considered a minor for another year.

Thanks and any suggestion is welcomed.

She is a minor till 20 and if you are involved in removing her from the home without mother's consent, guess who will be in trouble with the law?

 

She is 19. IMO she doesn't know what "love" is. Just because she has feelings for you now doesn't mean she will in a couple of years once she meets other men.

I fell "in love" many times when I was young and you are still young too.

People change all the time, and it sounds as though she hasn't been in the real world before. Moving out and getting older will change her.

If she leaves home to be with you, are you committed to thick and thin, or is it just feelings?

 

Perhaps her mum is angry because she doesn't want to be alone with nothing, and her daughter obviously wants to leave. If she committed to still supporting her mum, perhaps that would change her mum's mind.

 

If she waits till 20 she can leave with no legal problems.

[thaibeachlovers]

1 hour ago, Bardeh said:

Simply having a boyfriend is considered being a slut? I feel sorry for your daughter.

Far as I can tell, having a "boyfriend" means they are sleeping with them. I don't consider that being a slut.

When I was 19, girls normally didn't because of the risk of getting pregnant ( before the pill ). Times have changed, and it seems like they're all doing it like rabbits now.

[jackdd]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

When I was 19, girls normally didn't because of the risk of getting pregnant ( before the pill ). Times have changed, and it seems like they're all doing it like rabbits now.

Only a small percentage of girls in Thailand is on the pill, the most common method to avoid pregnancy is pulling out, which is often not very effective as one can see by looking at statistics about teenager pregnancy

[greenchair]

In the end the lady will choose her mother over you. The mother has probably noticed your desire to exclude her from your idealic plan. Not to mention she has realised that you are penniless and her daughters assets are being wasted. In addition there is the possibility that this lady knows little about contraception, of which you think is just dandy. So a pregnant daughter with a penniless boyfriend usually ends up dumped right back at mums doorstep. You should learn to think of your love interest in terms of my girlfriend and mum. Or leave.