is my thai wife cheating on me?

[leverito]

Go away...

Find your second adventure in life, it maybe will be happier...

But better if you had adventures before Thailand.

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎11‎/‎26‎/‎2017 at 9:50 PM, Thai Ron said:

Someone else has probably said this but I can't be arsed to read beyond the first few pages as I'm sure I've got the jist of popular opinion on the OP's ridiculous but easily-avoidable situation.

 

Lot of guys slagging off the woman for basically doing what women (prostitutes & deadbeat single moms of varying ages) at the bottom of the barrel on dating sites like Thai Friendly tend to do - try to generate income.

 

Basically, if you're looking for genuine love and affection, you're a livin' mug if you pay a woman a monthly stipend.

There is no excuse; there is no version of events where paying a woman to engage in a romantic relationship with you can be justified.

 

If, however, you're just looking for a maid/cook/whore rolled into one person, then a stipend is the most efficient route to success.

The sooner guys like the OP get this simple rule drilled into their heads, the more likely it is they'll find women who actually want to be with them for them.

 

 

 

 

 

maid/cook/whore rolled into one person,

Sounds good to me, as long as she is good at them all.

I tried love and it didn't work, so if a purely commercial arrangement works, so be it.

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎11‎/‎27‎/‎2017 at 2:18 AM, Kadilo said:

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There is no excuse; there is no version of events where paying a woman to engage in a romantic relationship with you can be justified.

 

You have very strong and passionate views on a variety of issues and personally I respect you for that often against the norm on here.

Personally I believe there are situations where it can be appropriate where paying a woman is the right thing to do and moreover no one needs an excuse or needs to justify why. It’s their money, their choice and only them that have to live with the consequences.




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there is no version of events where paying a woman to engage in a romantic relationship with you can be justified.

 

Only a gullible fool believes that paying gains true love. I'll be happy if I can find one that gives good sex and sod the romance.
 

[Wake Up]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

maid/cook/whore rolled into one person,

Sounds good to me, as long as she is good at them all.

I tried love and it didn't work, so if a purely commercial arrangement works, so be it.

Agree with you. I quit caring if she wants to “really” be with me or not. What I care about is if she is clean and tastes good and if she can lick and rock my world. I am willing to pay for the best maid, sex, partner, fun person, companion and don’t care if we will be together forever because I know we will not. I will want New after a while and I expect she will too. Never living the lie again and never living without great sex again. Only thing that lasts forever and I don’t get bored with is a great dog.  But there are some great women out there that are worth every cent and can rock your world and you don’t have to play games and buy presents and lie about wanting to have sex with other women. Just wish I knew this at 18 instead of 58. May not be your way but at age 50 plus it is my way. 

[chiman]

I don't need to read beyond your first paragraph, stop wasting your time and taking these kinds of people seriously.  

[mettech]

Love goes a long way when you find it but it always boiled down to money this is what run the world so if both have enough money to make a descent living than it will be a very good couple living.

 

[eldragon]

This is why I don’t play Thai Friendly anymore. Any girl you meet there could be chatting with hundreds of guys.


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[Thai Ron]

1 hour ago, eldragon said:

This is why I don’t play Thai Friendly anymore. Any girl you meet there could be chatting with hundreds of guys.

Of course they could - what's wrong with that?

Didn't you speak with loads of women while you were looking for the right fit?

 

What would you have them do. Sit there waiting patiently for Mr. Right?? 

[eldragon]

Of course they could - what's wrong with that?
Didn't you speak with loads of women while you were looking for the right fit?
 
What would you have them do. Sit there waiting patiently for Mr. Right?? 

A Thai girl’s gonna keep chatting with those guys even if she finds Mr. Right.


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[Thai Ron]

2 minutes ago, eldragon said:

A Thai girl’s gonna keep chatting with those guys even if she finds Mr. Right.

 

No, she'll do that if she finds Mr. Placeholder.

 

Men aren't any better. 

Half the girls there have to write disclaimers saying they won't send nude pics or do sex shows so you can just imagine the kind of dirtbags they're being approached by.

 

When I first joined, I was getting like 40-50 interests and messages a week but they were mostly from deadbeats.

I amended my profile to say "No prostitutes, "no 'take care' with money every month" and "no single mothers" because I wanted to avoid the lowlife.

Still got 25-30- every week but I figured they weren't reading the profile so I put the three messages on individual photos in Thaiscript (can't miss them there)

My hits dropped like a stone  but the remaining interests were from nice, honest women

[MaeJoMTB]

On 11/24/2017 at 7:30 AM, dumbdumb said:

My wife and I have been married for more the 1 year (she's 48, I'm 58) but it is a long distance marriage until I can take early retirement. 

My question would be, why did you marry someone so old.

A 25 year old wouldn't cost any more.

[bazza73]

7 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

My question would be, why did you marry someone so old.

A 25 year old wouldn't cost any more.

Maybe, if the 25 yo is fairly homely. I'd bet she would usually cost a lot more if she is beautiful.

[MaeJoMTB]

20 minutes ago, bazza73 said:

Maybe, if the 25 yo is fairly homely. I'd bet she would usually cost a lot more if she is beautiful.

I've not found that to be the case, many of the 25-30 year olds are happy to escape prostitution, the older women (35+) love their occupation.

Generally, as women get older, they become more jaded, more damaged, and less manageable (looks and youth never enter their idea of self worth).

Edited December 2, 2017 by MaeJoMTB

[jenny2017]

3 hours ago, eldragon said:

This is why I don’t play Thai Friendly anymore. Any girl you meet there could be chatting with hundreds of guys.


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And I'm always trying to let the kids know not to use Play Facebook. 

[Been there done that]

This fabricated topic really got the punters of the house going.

 

A serious and honest topic on this section hardly gets any attention. The mind boggles !

[Nemises]

This fabricated topic really got the punters of the house going.
 

Fabricated topic?

Farang’s Thai wife/GF secretly maintaining their profiles on dating websites is no fabrication.

[OneMoreFarang]

6 hours ago, Gregster said:

Fabricated topic?
Farang’s Thai wife/GF secretly maintaining their profiles on dating websites is no fabrication.

 

 

This topic was created by Newbie dumbdumb who wrote in total two comments in this forum. What does that tell you?

[Nemises]

This topic was created by Newbie dumbdumb who wrote in total two comments in this forum. What does that tell you?

 

There’s little doubt it was a fake OP. But the bit he wrote about “his Thai wife” maintaining dating site profiles is not and it is something that farangs need to wary of, especially if they (the farang) is abroad or away for any length of time.

[tifino]

I feel that OP has gone through it all...but in the past - and this was all simply posted as a generic warning to others - that might follow the same path

 

The power of hindsight...

 

[MuntyC0re]

yeah it's obvious, dumb her

[theguyfromanotherforum]

On 11/28/2017 at 7:26 AM, Wake Up said:

Agree with you. I quit caring if she wants to “really” be with me or not. What I care about is if she is clean and tastes good and if she can lick and rock my world. I am willing to pay for the best maid, sex, partner, fun person, companion and don’t care if we will be together forever because I know we will not. I will want New after a while and I expect she will too. Never living the lie again and never living without great sex again. Only thing that lasts forever and I don’t get bored with is a great dog.  But there are some great women out there that are worth every cent and can rock your world and you don’t have to play games and buy presents and lie about wanting to have sex with other women. Just wish I knew this at 18 instead of 58. May not be your way but at age 50 plus it is my way. 

 

 

Blah, blah, blah..... I'm in Thailand where woman are cheap. Love is a lie, blah, blah....all women are the same, blah, blah, blah.... I'm incapable of understanding the sex between a real woman and a prostitute..... blah blah, blah.....I'm older, but none the wiser, blah, blah, blah ....

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Thai Ron]

55 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

Blah, blah, blah..... I'm in Thailand where woman are cheap. Love is a lie, blah, blah....all women are the same, blah, blah, blah.... I'm incapable of understanding the sex between a real woman and a prostitute..... blah blah, blah.....I'm older, but none the wiser, blah, blah, blah ....

It's so tiresome, innit

The way these guys go on, you'd think they've awakened to the true nature of the universe; that any man still with a Western woman or any woman he doesn't pay for sex is living some huge lie.

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

[...] blah, blah, blah.... I'm incapable of understanding the sex between a real woman and a prostitute..... blah blah, blah...

Did it ever cross your mind that some guys like the kind of sex they pay for? Some girls perform like a porn star and you are the director of your personal movie and get exactly what you want. Most wives and girlfriends are likely not willing to perform like that, at least not all the time. But some guys like the so called girlfriend experience - it's very much up to personal taste.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

4 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Did it ever cross your mind that some guys like the kind of sex they pay for? Some girls perform like a porn star and you are the director of your personal movie and get exactly what you want. Most wives and girlfriends are likely not willing to perform like that, at least not all the time. But some guys like the so called girlfriend experience - it's very much up to personal taste.

 

 

If you come to Thailand for sex and the "pornstar" experience then why the need to keep harping about most relationships being a lie? I see this as extreme insecurity and need to justify ones actions through slagging off women that don't spread their legs for baht. 

 

Even Weinstein who had more wealth than all the sexpats combined couldn't buy sex without being known as a fat pig. Do I want to be called a fat pig for the 5 minutes of "pornstar" experience after these women finish with me and talk behind my back or do I want to be in a respected relationship? If I can't earn sex on my amazing good looks alone then it's sex not worth having in my personal opinion.

 

No need to call relationships a lie based on the lifestyle choices you made in Thailand.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[MaeJoMTB]

10 hours ago, Thai Ron said:

It's so tiresome, innit

The way these guys go on, you'd think they've awakened to the true nature of the universe; that any man still with a Western woman or any woman he doesn't pay for sex is living some huge lie.

Correction,

Any guy that's living with a woman he doesn't bang 2-3 times a week.

(which would include nearly all men married to a western woman for more than a year)

[MaeJoMTB]

3 hours ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

 

 

Even Weinstein who had more wealth than all the sexpats combined couldn't buy sex without being known as a fat pig. Do I want to be called a fat pig for the 5 minutes of "pornstar" experience after these women finish with me and talk behind my back or do I want to be in a respected relationship? If I can't earn sex on my amazing good looks alone then it's sex not worth having in my personal opinion.

I think the trick is to be in great physical shape and not actually be a fat pig.

[Wake Up]

6 hours ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

 

 

If you come to Thailand for sex and the "pornstar" experience then why the need to keep harping about most relationships being a lie? I see this as extreme insecurity and need to justify ones actions through slagging off women that don't spread their legs for baht. 

 

Even Weinstein who had more wealth than all the sexpats combined couldn't buy sex without being known as a fat pig. Do I want to be called a fat pig for the 5 minutes of "pornstar" experience after these women finish with me and talk behind my back or do I want to be in a respected relationship? If I can't earn sex on my amazing good looks alone then it's sex not worth having in my personal opinion.

 

No need to call relationships a lie based on the lifestyle choices you made in Thailand.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This would be funny except you truly believe it.  No one said love does not exist but if you think you are getting it for free and money is irrelevant in your relationship you are just wrong. Nothing sinister or wrong with money being a factor in “relationships” and nothing wrong or sinister about sex being a factor also. Spend one day in divorce court and hear the testimony or read history.  You are not unique — you are human and so is your partner however you describe her/him.  I know this may make you upset or angry or whatever so “hit me one more time with how great thou art” and I will not respond.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

19 minutes ago, Wake Up said:

This would be funny except you truly believe it.  No one said love does not exist but if you think you are getting it for free and money is irrelevant in your relationship you are just wrong. Nothing sinister or wrong with money being a factor in “relationships” and nothing wrong or sinister about sex being a factor also. Spend one day in divorce court and hear the testimony or read history.  You are not unique — you are human and so is your partner however you describe her/him.  I know this may make you upset or angry or whatever so “hit me one more time with how great thou art” and I will not respond.

 

Who says I am great?

 

Who says money is not important? Certainly if I was living in my wife's house for free (which I do) and was  contributing f all in this relationship she would have kicked me out long time ago. I have also been divorced once to one of them bad Australian women. No lawyers or court room drama. 

 

What you guys fail to grasp is that people who avoid to pay for sex appreciate loyalty.

 

Have you seen Zuck's wife lately? 

 

The guy is a billionaire, so why is he loyal to his fat Chinese wife? She met him before he made his millions.

 

Personally, I like to plan my life together with a better half without fear of being tricked and schemed. 

 

My relationship is as real as it gets and I ain't paying for it.

 

Who's angry?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Kadilo]

 
, and from my experience she's always getting banged 2-3 times a week by someone, maybe not her husband who thinks not having sex with his wife is normal

Your own experience sadly rears it’s head in many of your posts.
You are one scarred man.


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[MaeJoMTB]

2 minutes ago, Kadilo said:

Your own experience sadly rears it’s head in many of your posts.
You are one scarred man.

You don't think most fertile women are getting banged 3x a week?

You are one deluded man!

 

Edited December 6, 2017 by MaeJoMTB