Thai women going from farang back to Thai men?

[Jools]

The men speak their language and know the culture. Most of them would choose a Thai man if they had a REAL choice.

[AntDee]

Many of these women never left the Thai man while dating unsuspecting foreigners. If your lady spends an unusually high amount of time with her "uncle" or "brothers", she is double dipping. Many farang too dumb to pick up on it. 

[AntDee]

On 2/20/2018 at 11:53 AM, jamesmacleod said:

Thai women in the UK often cheat on their husbands for fellow Brits. I don't know what the official figure is for Thai ladies cheating in the UK but I would suggest it is probably very high. In my area about 50% of Thai ladies cheat and leave within the first 10 years of life in the UK. My ex-wife cheated, and out of about 30 relationships I knew through her Thai circles that she hung around in more than half of the relationships saw Ferang Brits being cheated on!

 

While I'm sure you all know what your doing, choose wisely if your planning on marrying a Thai lady, because divorce is more common than you would think in these types of relationships. Personally I don't consider a lady who sells herself as good company, but many ferang seem to feel they make excellent partner material, and while in some cases they might make good life partners, in most cases they will never stop using you!

 

When Ferang become Ex pats in Thailand, you may well find that your partner/wife will cheat on you with Thai men, it does happen a lot! likewise if you are in a relationship with a Thai lady and you live abroad and are doing the long distance thing, you may well be being cheated on. 

 

But that said plenty of Thai ladies don't cheat and hopefully you are with one of them!

 

One point I will add is that in the UK I have also seen many Thai ladies and male Brits together and living very happily together, I've also seen this in Thailand as well and so it is possible that you'll have a worthwhile and successful relationship overall!

 

chok dee! 

 

 

 

And what percentage of those guys take women who worked in a bar or similar? These farang somehow convince themselves that their girls are not simply former hookers. These girls are not middle class, normal women. Old crusties believe ridiculous phrases like "I work at bar, honey, but not go with man. I only serve drink na." Boggles the mind how gullible farang are. 

[yogi100]

On 31/12/2017 at 10:54 AM, Kerryd said:

I've heard numerous stories of Thai women "going back" to a Thai man after having been with a foreigner. In many cases, the girls viewed being with a foreigner as an "occupation" and when the job "ended" (for whatever reason), if she had enough money to pay off the family debts and buy a house (etc, etc) she'd go back to her home village and get (back) together with her high school sweetheart (who may or may not have dumped her years earlier after knocking her up). 

Every time I hear a Thai woman say she prefers foreigners over Thai men I have to laugh as you can almost see/smell/feel the lie as it is so strong. It is one of the first 3 or 4 phrases almost every bar bar girl learns within hours of arriving in Bangkok/Pattaya/Phuket. 

(Hello sexy man. I love you ! I only start working here this week ! I not like Thai man, only like farang man !)

It's not true in every case of course but look at it. Do you really think that Thai girls prefer old, fat, lazy white guys twice (or thrice) their age that spend most of their time propping up a bar stool and barely speak a word or 2 of Thai (and have absolutely nothing in common), or young Thai guys around their own age that speak the same language and have a lot in common (and similar cultural values). 
Especially when a lot of those old fat foreigners are only looking for a (free) bed warmer/cook/maid (and cheat just as much as any Thai guy).
I've seen the way a lot of foreigners treat the women they are with and it's almost amazing that they can find someone that wants to be with them at all (and probably helps explain how many of those guys were divorced in their home countries, repeatedly in some cases). 

It's not really surprising to think that some (many/most) Thai women would "go back" to a Thai man after having been with a foreigner.
 

I remember when I was a lot greener a BG telling me 'I no like young men. I like old men' I wasn't really old then but I believed her.

 

But one night I was in a Pattaya GGB and I indicated to one of the lasses that four young falangs had just come in. She said 'young man no good, he no want to pay'. The girls more or less ignored them.

 

So maybe what that first girl told me was not so far from the truth after all.

[poanoi]

11 minutes ago, yogi100 said:

I remember when I was a lot greener a BG telling me 'I no like young men. I like old men' I wasn't really old then but I believed her.

 

But one night I was in a Pattaya GGB and I indicated to one of the lasses that four young falangs had just come in. She said 'young man no good, he no want to pay'. The girls more or less ignored them.

 

So maybe what that first girl told me was not so far from the truth after all.

well, there is young, and then there is YOUNG,

i saw a 15 yo blonde falang boy walk in together with his dad,

and in my 15 years in a go-go i have NEVER seen the girls so wild,

they were SCREAMING out their lust

[Happyman58]

Guys i have told u heaps of times now If you are in your 50s early 60 get a Thai Lady in her 50s Mate my wife is 53 and she is good at everything.  It stands to reason if you see a Thai chick walking around with a guy old enough to be her father there is only one reason she is doing that and it is not what is hanging between his legs She has her secret Thai lover on the side taking care of that for her.  Think before lust is all I can say 

[NonthaburiBear]

Don't be so foolish over your Thai women. Sometime you have to let a man be another woman headache

[metisdead]

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[yogi100]

On 05/05/2018 at 5:01 AM, poanoi said:

well, there is young, and then there is YOUNG,

i saw a 15 yo blonde falang boy walk in together with his dad,

and in my 15 years in a go-go i have NEVER seen the girls so wild,

they were SCREAMING out their lust

 

The poor kid must have been terrified.

[poanoi]

7 minutes ago, yogi100 said:

 

The poor kid must have been terrified.

i was sitting almost next to him, he didnt look terrified,

altho he also didnt look like he knew what to say or how to behave,

i suggested to the naked stunner that had squeezed up to him to breast feed him

to get things started. man that was one boy i wanted to swap with,

they would all have paid their own barfine to have an orgy with him throughout the night

[Jteam]

Mine was very open about it.  She didn't want to live in falung land and with the growth in manufacturing there is a growing working class of men who can hold a job and be a provider. I'm 40 she is 33 and she walked away from a residency visa to be with this fella .

Still pretty raw and new so who knows if she will regret it but it's a choice she made 

[Happyman58]

On 4/22/2018 at 6:37 AM, AntDee said:

Many of these women never left the Thai man while dating unsuspecting foreigners. If your lady spends an unusually high amount of time with her "uncle" or "brothers", she is double dipping. Many farang too dumb to pick up on it. 

How about if your wife is on the bloody mobile all day is she double dipping to?

[Happyman58]

On 4/22/2018 at 6:37 AM, AntDee said:

Many of these women never left the Thai man while dating unsuspecting foreigners. If your lady spends an unusually high amount of time with her "uncle" or "brothers", she is double dipping. Many farang too dumb to pick up on it. 

Adultery is Thailand is running at 58% The highest in the world.  Many many times Married Thai men or women come to wife's restaurant not with their wives or husbands but there Giks.

[brling]

2 hours ago, Happyman58 said:

Adultery is Thailand is running at 58% The highest in the world. 

What, another number 1 for Thailand ?

[Happyman58]

3 hours ago, brling said:

What, another number 1 for Thailand ?

1. Yep in this case you cant get killed like car accidents Well sometimes you can if husband catches wife. But generally it accepted the husband can have Giks but for the wife, it's not acceptable to have a Gik. Her job is to stay home take care of the house and kids His job is to lay around and throw the sausage around

[NonthaburiBear]

3 hours ago, Happyman58 said:

1. Yep in this case you cant get killed like car accidents Well sometimes you can if husband catches wife. But generally it accepted the husband can have Giks but for the wife, it's not acceptable to have a Gik. Her job is to stay home take care of the house and kids His job is to lay around and throw the sausage around

quite the same like most of farungs

[Ks45672]

4 hours ago, NonthaburiBear said:

quite the same like most of farungs

Wouldn't want it any other way..... ?

[jamesmacleod]

On 6/1/2018 at 7:04 AM, Happyman58 said:

Adultery is Thailand is running at 58% The highest in the world.  Many many times Married Thai men or women come to wife's restaurant not with their wives or husbands but there Giks.

There was a poll done about this by Durex and it ranked the men of Thailand as the most likely to cheat in the world, and the women of Thailand at the number 2 spot.

 

My country (the UK) was ranked about number 9 I think....

 

My ex Thai wife did the adultery thing, however that doesn't count on the poll because she denied it (However I was still with her when her facebook status changed from married to in a relationship lol), so the actual figure is possibly far higher than that recorded...

 

I have a thing for Thai ladies, but I have to say with the stats as they are my fingers will no doubt get burned again ? 

 

 

[Jteam]

On ‎6‎/‎1‎/‎2018 at 4:00 PM, Happyman58 said:

How about if your wife is on the bloody mobile all day is she double dipping to?

yes. just a bit harder to prove.

 

[holy cow cm]

Why care if it is getting an itch itched if she comes home every time happy and you don't know about it.  

[Hummin]

No one is better to smooth sweet talk thai ladies in to a romance, than a thai himselves. Be warned and be prepered ?

[Bill Miller]

I think language can be a biggie, more than many realize in the throws of the initial romance. Some cultural items can be a killer, too.
Sex is not everything, but this BS about it being "inappropriate" for Thai women older than 40, or 50, or whatever number they happen to choose will end many a Thai/farang relationship, and for sure sends many Thai men in search of the mia noi.
Big need for marriage counselling, IMO, and/or acceptance that some of the physical changes are remedial with modern medicine and it is ok for women of a "certain age" to still have fun between the sheets.

[Hummin]

Many did not leave thai men, even with falang. 

[thairookie]

The blurring of the line between marriage and cohabitation in Thai culture plays a big part in the level of commitment one adheres the moral concept of fidelity.

 

A Thai man and a Thai woman live together as man and wife.  They don't bother to register the union as marriage at the municipal office, and they don't bother with a ceremony in the baan nok.  They address each other as "faen", which in Thai can mean either a regular sex buddy or an official spouse. 

 

For those who are neither officially married, the use of the term "faen" offers them the best of both worlds.  If a woman refers to her regular sex buddy as "faen", in the normal course of events nobody would probe and ask if they are officially married.  But if the woman encounters another man for whom she has affection, she can proclaim that she is not married. 

 

In other words, when she needs some moral acceptance from her social circle, the term "faen" which can be used interchangeably with "husband" will do the trick.  If she feels that she wants to have a fling with another man, she reminds herself that she is not married and therefore not morally accountable to her current sex buddy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[BobBKK]

Just now, thairookie said:

The blurring of the line between marriage and cohabitation in Thai culture plays a big part in the level of commitment one adheres the moral concept of fidelity.

 

A Thai man and a Thai woman live together as man and wife.  They don't bother to register the union as marriage at the municipal office, and they don't bother with a ceremony in the baan nok.  They address each other as "faen", which in Thai can mean either a regular sex buddy or an official spouse. 

 

For those who are neither officially married, the use of the term "faen" offers them the best of both worlds.  If a woman refers to her regular sex buddy as "faen", in the normal course of events nobody would probe and ask if they are officially married.  But if the woman encounters another man for whom she has affection, she can proclaim that she is not married. 

 

In other words, when she needs some moral acceptance from her social circle, the term "faen" which can be used interchangeably with "husband" will do the trick.  If she feels that she wants to have a fling with another man, she reminds herself that she is not married and therefore not morally accountable to her current sex buddy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

well isn't it a hierarchy?

 

Samii/Mia

Mia Noi

Faen

Gik

Sideline

Customer

 

They are all interchangeable when situation demands  (normally linked to THB)

 

 

 

[Spidey]

On ‎6‎/‎3‎/‎2018 at 11:09 PM, jamesmacleod said:

There was a poll done about this by Durex and it ranked the men of Thailand as the most likely to cheat in the world, and the women of Thailand at the number 2 spot.

 

My country (the UK) was ranked about number 9 I think....

 

My ex Thai wife did the adultery thing, however that doesn't count on the poll because she denied it (However I was still with her when her facebook status changed from married to in a relationship lol), so the actual figure is possibly far higher than that recorded...

 

I have a thing for Thai ladies, but I have to say with the stats as they are my fingers will no doubt get burned again ? 

 

 

It was the other way round, women were number one and weirdly men at number two, which makes me cast some doubt on the poll.

[THE REVERAND]

An interesting topic. I was in Los Vegas at a casino and the comedian ask the females in the audience "What are the 2 things in the world that make women happy" .After 30 minutes of female answers  not 1 woman had the correct answer on even 1 of the 2 things. The Answer was "Nobody has ever worked out anything that makes women happy"

[scorecard]

On 12/31/2017 at 10:54 AM, Kerryd said:

I've heard numerous stories of Thai women "going back" to a Thai man after having been with a foreigner. In many cases, the girls viewed being with a foreigner as an "occupation" and when the job "ended" (for whatever reason), if she had enough money to pay off the family debts and buy a house (etc, etc) she'd go back to her home village and get (back) together with her high school sweetheart (who may or may not have dumped her years earlier after knocking her up). 

Every time I hear a Thai woman say she prefers foreigners over Thai men I have to laugh as you can almost see/smell/feel the lie as it is so strong. It is one of the first 3 or 4 phrases almost every bar bar girl learns within hours of arriving in Bangkok/Pattaya/Phuket. 

(Hello sexy man. I love you ! I only start working here this week ! I not like Thai man, only like farang man !)

It's not true in every case of course but look at it. Do you really think that Thai girls prefer old, fat, lazy white guys twice (or thrice) their age that spend most of their time propping up a bar stool and barely speak a word or 2 of Thai (and have absolutely nothing in common), or young Thai guys around their own age that speak the same language and have a lot in common (and similar cultural values). 
Especially when a lot of those old fat foreigners are only looking for a (free) bed warmer/cook/maid (and cheat just as much as any Thai guy).
I've seen the way a lot of foreigners treat the women they are with and it's almost amazing that they can find someone that wants to be with them at all (and probably helps explain how many of those guys were divorced in their home countries, repeatedly in some cases). 

It's not really surprising to think that some (many/most) Thai women would "go back" to a Thai man after having been with a foreigner.
 

 

Best I'm aware of was a 40ish Thai lady, very good admin. manager job in multinational company, speaks excellent English. She has several Thai boyfriends, all profesional guys, but all ended quickly.

 

Then she fell in love with a farang engineer from UK.

 

She shared with many friends, Thai and farang;

 

       ' I'm really afraid of sex, I can't do it. Do you think a farang will agree to marry on the basis of no sex, ever? '

 

Answer every time NO. 

 

She got molested by another farang, then went back for a second session. Then changed her mind, she enjoyed sex.

 

Went back to UK engineer, now happily married for 10 years.

 

 

[cyberfarang]

I think many Thai women eventually revert to having Thai partners, because their Farang boyfriends/husbands, keep dying from old age.

 

Old Farangs are considered by Thai women to be a good short time investment.

[nsimmons]

On 1/6/2018 at 6:55 AM, observer90210 said:

Cannot generalize, but I have a few lady friends in Europe (in their early or late 30ies, properly educated, socially and physically ok etc.),  who only get turned on with guys that treat them like real shit. Something unexplainable in these women, turns them "On" at the start of the relationship, that naturally does not always last,  as the guy is a obvious jerk.

Female dynamics, guys....even Freud had to admit that he just could not understand the whole damm thing ...

 

 

I too noticed the "bad boy syndrome" when in High School. I saw the best looking, and sometimes nice girls, go with scumbags, 

that they knew were scumbags. Then when inevitably crying on my shoulder i sometimes said "well we all knew he is a scumbag?"

And they often, really could not see thei part in it!? One time I was led out of HS by the cops for "failing to stop when requested by Police" the night before, with three schoolgirl classmates in the car.

I was shocked how it made me quite popular to some, that had ignored me before!? ????

(17yo in March, I was one of five that drove to our last year of HS) 

 

The "My Good Old Days", so to speak i guess!

 

NS