Going to attempt to start a new life in SE Asia, any Advice/Tips ?

[altcar bob]

24 minutes ago, Bonobojt said:

sorry about that, any particular reason as to why ? health issue or you just have had some trouble living in Thailand ?

My issue with living in Thailand is..Thailand,a right shithole. 

Health wonderful,pensions wonderful,fact is i could afford far better than Thailand far too ,many choices,  not broke far from it  Not poss suicide  just want to drain the public sector pension pot for all its worth and doing a better than good job,  on the horizon tho making plans  just like the majority of ex pats have done ,are doing or want to 

   Edit here, the only 'happy ex pats' here are the house owners,never sell in a million years so they have to be 'happy'

Edited June 3, 2018 by altcar bob

[55Jay]

19 minutes ago, Bonobojt said:

of course we don't know what the world will be like when I'm in my 60s or 70s which is 40-50 years from now, the retirement age might change, maybe another financial bank crisis, another war, fishless oceans, overpopulation issues, the bees are dying, the migrant crisis in Europe etc.. its hard for young people to trust our governments, maybe I'll lose all my pension money because of a financial crisis

 

then there is A.I  technology that is getting more intelligent, machines are taking our jobs etc..

 

so I kind of want to do what makes me happy before the world gets even more messed up and insane rather than working a 9 till 5 job to pay the bills and the highlight of my life is jerking off to women shaking their ass on webcam and treating myself to a Chinese takeway 

Oh yeah, you are down the depression rabbit hole, or you're trolling.    

 

In either case, totally up to you. 

 

Stew in your soup of despair and self pity with the weight of the world's problems on your poor wittle shoulders via too much internet and television.

 

Or pull your head out, man up and get yourself sorted. 

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, Bonobojt said:

I did post about asking if I could get a job in Thailand without a degree and may of mentioned my Kitchen Porter job, this is me asking about any work in general in any SEasian country and I've actually left my job and taken redundancy and booked a one way ticket to Bangkok, not trolling, just want some advice/tips.

 

 

What about insurance? Have you been thinking about that? 

 

Camera is cheep these days for social media quality, but do you have the personlaity and editing skills to make it interesting? Also computer skills even you can do it on an ipad, but my best guess is a proper editing computer and software is needed if you want to make a living out of it. A huge + is also a drone to make an overview look at the destinations you visit. The easiest would to be a bar monger, and share whatever comes up of people, but still not easy to make it intersting, and not another dull sex addict sharing his type of fun. 

 

It is hard work, and you have to be on time, or time your releases to keep the crowd intrested. 

 

I got addicted 19 years old after travelling 4 months in USA, and almost jumped on the train, with the rest of the people who stayed illegal there, but found out I had to go home, do my duty (army), go school, and make money for my next trip. I never regret that. 

 

Have fun, spend your money, but have an escape plan and go home be somehting and do something with your life. Make yourselves proud. Good luck

Edited June 3, 2018 by Hummin

[Bonobojt]

20 minutes ago, Hummin said:

What about insurance? Have you been thinking about that? 

 

Camera is cheep these days for social media quality, but do you have the personlaity and editing skills to make it interesting? Also computer skills even you can do it on an ipad, but my best guess is a proper editing computer and software is needed if you want to make a living out of it. A huge + is also a drone to make an overview look at the destinations you visit. The easiest would to be a bar monger, and share whatever comes up of people, but still not easy to make it intersting, and not another dull sex addict sharing his type of fun. 

 

It is hard work, and you have to be on time, or time your releases to keep the crowd intrested. 

 

I got addicted 19 years old after travelling 4 months in USA, and almost jumped on the train, with the rest of the people who stayed illegal there, but found out I had to go home, do my duty (army), go school, and make money for my next trip. I never regret that. 

 

Have fun, spend your money, but have an escape plan and go home be somehting and do something with your life. Make yourselves proud. Good luck

my personality is more of a quiet, man of few words type of guy, I can't talk to a camera with confidence and ease, I tried it before and it felt very awkward.

there are some Thailand youtube channels like Bangkok 112 that don't talk or show his face, just film the bar/hooker scenes (easier said than done). He must of had some photography skills before he started because videos are very well made.

 

then there is a youtube channel called Cheap Charlie Chronicles, he basically went to thailand with a cheap camera and 4 or 5 thousand dollars and made Pattaya videos for a year and now he has a successful channel and income, although he did overstay and get banned from Thailand for a year, he's now in the philippines making videos.

 

I only have an average windows 10 laptop and an Iphone SE. I guess it would be a little interesting to watch a guy on youtube go to thailand with not much money to try and live out there, I'm sure it would be some peoples attention, but if I don't have the personality, confidence and passion to make videos then it wont work out well for me.

[Hummin]

We past one western looking up in the sky with a funny grin on his face, and  a thai language poster in his hand, telling Im travelling the world without money, would you like to help me. This was outside Terminal 21, and I have no idea how it works out with permits etc, but my guess it is illegal. 

 

Annoying and made me angry, and I just wonder how do they dare to do so. 

 

Again, du you have a good plan for insurance? The most important thing with your plan, is a good insurance. 

[Bonobojt]

8 minutes ago, Hummin said:

We past one western looking up in the sky with a funny grin on his face, and  a thai language poster in his hand, telling Im travelling the world without money, would you like to help me. This was outside Terminal 21, and I have no idea how it works out with permits etc, but my guess it is illegal. 

 

Annoying and made me angry, and I just wonder how do they dare to do so. 

 

Again, du you have a good plan for insurance? The most important thing with your plan, is a good insurance. 

yes that annoys me too, I saw a couple (man and woman) begging with a sign in Silom by the BTS station, I would never beg for money, in fact I would never let my situation get like that, I'd rather go home or end my life than be begging on the streets of Thailand.

 

as for insurance, I haven't thought much about it yet, if I got a job somewhere I would definitely look into it, if I went to Australia I would sign up for the free health care. 

[rumak]

2 hours ago, Lacessit said:

It's very easy to be hypnotized by the free and paid pussy in Thailand. Especially as a 20 year old. And end up broke.

Enjoy 2-3 weeks here. Make sure you have a return flight paid for.

Go back to the UK, and acquire a trade. Electricians and diesel mechanics are in demand worldwide. Especially in remote areas, such as oil rigs and mines. Well paid.

Save and invest until you have enough capital to generate enough income while you sleep.

THEN, come to Thailand full time. BUT leave your capital in the UK.

Good luck. Don't forget to pack condoms.

i can't believe that I am going to agree with you.   But you know,  I was just about to post something VERY similar to what you suggest.    Just hope that pussy doesn't make all his plans go out the door (like so many

before him)

[Bonobojt]

21 minutes ago, rumak said:

i can't believe that I am going to agree with you.   But you know,  I was just about to post something VERY similar to what you suggest.    Just hope that pussy doesn't make all his plans go out the door (like so many

before him)

whenever I go on holiday to Bangkok, I do seem to have an addiction to staying around Nana and going to soi 4 and people watching at a Hillary Bar and at night going to Nana Plaza and looking at all the ass and popping over to see the ass at Soi Cowboy, but that's a holiday, this will be different and I should be able to control myself if I do decide to step on that plane..

 

if I can't control myself and do have a bad addiction or mental health issues then you might be seeing me on Farang Deaths . com

[sidjameson]

I think you should address your mental health issues first.

See your GP

[Bonobojt]

1 minute ago, sidjameson said:

I think you should address your mental health issues first.

See your GP

so they can force pills down me with nasty side effects ? that will look great on my CV, please employ me but just to let you know I am messed up in the head, need to take anti depressants to stop me from escaping this life.. no thank you

 

I have no choice, I have to leave my parents place by the end of this summer, parents want me gone, I've got nothing here, no friends, I'm not handsome or successful enough for british girls, and I have a pelvic issue that's ruined everything for me, mentally also. bad posture and Tinnitus also make me think whats the point anymore.

 

I'm currently thinking to myself about whether I should go to a doctor again one last time to try and fix this pelvic issue but I think I wont bother, there's only 2 scenario's from this, I'll need physiotherapy or surgery, surgery would put me out of work for a long time, physio is a long waiting list and I think you have to pay for most of it nowadays and who knows if it will even work. 

 

I'm very delusional, I keep thinking or wanting to do all these cool fun things like backpack, hitchhike, ride a bicycle through a country, couchsurf, work abroad, do some volunteer work, but I can't, this pelvic issue makes me need to pee too often, makes me depressed or feel low, makes me give bad energy/vibes to others,  no one wants to be around a guy like me.

 

 

[Bonobojt]

just forget about this topic guys, sorry to waste your time and energy, I can't do any work in SouthEast Asia, It be a disaster if I tried,  I just was having a delusional moment. 

[Shaksey]

Going to SE Asia with potential mental health issues sounds like a bad idea, people in weak/poor states of mind get eaten up in SE Asia very often. You need to be on your A-Game for a move like this, especially with limited resources and no firm plans. 

 

My advice is to try the Oz working/holiday visa thing while you're still young enough for it. 

[Bang Bang]

1 hour ago, Bonobojt said:

just forget about this topic guys, sorry to waste your time and energy, I can't do any work in SouthEast Asia, It be a disaster if I tried,  I just was having a delusional moment. 

I just finished reading the whole thread. OP, you write well. Though you don't have a great job, at least you sound well-educated, which is the next best thing to being well-educated, which maybe you are. And you come across as a straight-up sort of fellow.

 

But you're in a lousy place because of having to move away soon and health problems. So, this is definitely not the frame of mind in which to plunge into a foreign adventure with no one to bail you out in case you break a leg (metaphorically speaking). I am assuming your parents won't be up for it.

 

I would suggest, along the lines of some above, to use your windfall money to find a place of your own in the UK. And get a specialized trade skill. Maybe computer repair, maybe sales, maybe pharmacist... There'll be something for sure. Immerse yourself in it, save, and - when you get to the point where the job pays well enough and it surely will - start vacationing here frequently.

 

And then I look forward to your next post, possibly 5, 10 or 20 years from now:

"Hi, this is Bonobojt again. Remember me? Well, thanks all for you advise. I turned my life around. Now, I've got $1,000,000 in the bank and rental income of $5,700/month and was wondering if you could suggest the best place in Thailand to buy a 4-bedroom house with a pool and a view."

 

Good luck! 

 

Edited June 3, 2018 by Bang Bang

[Bonobojt]

1 hour ago, Bang Bang said:

I just finished reading the whole thread. OP, you write well. Though you don't have a great job, at least you sound well-educated, which is the next best thing to being well-educated, which maybe you are. And you come across as a straight-up sort of fellow.

 

But you're in a lousy place because of having to move away soon and health problems. So, this is definitely not the frame of mind in which to plunge into a foreign adventure with no one to bail you out in case you break a leg (metaphorically speaking). I am assuming your parents won't be up for it.

 

I would suggest, along the lines of some above, to use your windfall money to find a place of your own in the UK. And get a specialized trade skill. Maybe computer repair, maybe sales, maybe pharmacist... There'll be something for sure. Immerse yourself in it, save, and - when you get to the point where the job pays well enough and it surely will - start vacationing here frequently.

 

And then I look forward to your next post, possibly 5, 10 or 20 years from now:

"Hi, this is Bonobojt again. Remember me? Well, thanks all for you advise. I turned my life around. Now, I've got $1,000,000 in the bank and rental income of $5,700/month and was wondering if you could suggest the best place in Thailand to buy a 4-bedroom house with a pool and a view." 

Good luck! 

 

thanks for your positive outlook on this but right now I seriously want to die, this pelvic issue is giving me urinary symptoms that are frustrating to live with, think I'll have to see a doc about this as I might end up killing myself in England  and not Thailand

[lemonjelly]

Go to college, evening classes etc, get a trade first before it’s too late.

[Lacessit]

9 hours ago, Bonobojt said:

thanks for your positive outlook on this but right now I seriously want to die, this pelvic issue is giving me urinary symptoms that are frustrating to live with, think I'll have to see a doc about this as I might end up killing myself in England  and not Thailand

Is the pelvic issue work-related? See a lawyer.

Physiotherapy only goes so far. You need surgery if it's major.

[Dick Crank]

You'll need income ASAP, try Hanoi,teach English school openings all over start at $20 an hour.

 

if u need Thailand you can do short weekend flights over cheaply

 

Take it from me, youll need to be super motivated though, there's a reason they can't find people. Thailand is easy like Disneyland in comparison.

 

try 'tay Ho lake' area for an apt. 300-500 / month gets nice place. Use an agent. Prearrange taxi from the airport so you don't get robbed.

Edited June 4, 2018 by Dick Crank

[Bonobojt]

2 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Is the pelvic issue work-related? See a lawyer.

Physiotherapy only goes so far. You need surgery if it's major.

no I had a bad bicycle fall, landed on a stone/rock road going down hill, landed hard on the left side of Hip/pelvis, then months later had hard sex with a pattaya bar girl 3 times in one night and then my pelvic issues started, and yes I don't have an std. I believe the bike fall done something to my left side of my pelvis and the hard sex marathon was the nail in the coffin .. symptoms have been tingling on my perineum, painful or frequent urination, nerve pain in rectum or penis, muscle entrapment's in rectum, perineum pain, pubic area discomfort etc... luckily its not 24/7 but I haven't felt normal down in my pelvic area in almost 2 years now. 

[Hummin]

12 hours ago, Bonobojt said:

thanks for your positive outlook on this but right now I seriously want to die, this pelvic issue is giving me urinary symptoms that are frustrating to live with, think I'll have to see a doc about this as I might end up killing myself in England  and not Thailand

Seek som proffesional help, it is not good to hang around at TV or any other internet forum. It will not help you much. 

 

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/suicide/

[Bonobojt]

On 6/3/2018 at 8:25 AM, geriatrickid said:

I can see why you worked as a kitchen porter.

 

Now, I certainly appreciate that the sky is the limit and that young people can do anything, but unless you have some job skills that  they need in SE Asia, or lots of money ( e.g. 1 million pounds +) your prospects are limited, very limited.

Here are the types of jobs available for unskilled UK labour in SE Asia;

-Time share tout (might last 6 months)

- Call center salesman (aka boiler room)  

- Toyboy/sexual companion. If you are capable of satisfying elderly people you may be able to attract the attention of someone. It will most likely be a  male, so you may wish to practice  satisfying the desires of men before you arrive, so that you will be  ready.

- Adult films (Sporadic, but  2/3 roles would be for male targeted audiences. and you better have the anatomy for it too.)

- Drug courier (This is illegal and has a high failure rate. The death penalty applies  in much of SE Asia if caught and even if leniency given, it could be 20+ years in a nasty prison, so it is recommended to avoid. Don't do drugs when in SE Asia. even if someone promises you  lots of dosh and easy women.)

- Organ donor - Many elderly Europeans need  organs and  although a trade in organs is illegal, this has never stopped anyone in SE Asia from buying a kidney.

- Thug and petty thief (Shortened life expectancy)

 

If I were you, I'd take the redundancy money,  put aside some money for rent and food for a few months and enroll is a government sponsored trade school. There are openings for the skilled trades such as electricians and plumbers. There is also a need for ambulance drivers, paramedics, orderlies and nursing assistants. 

Get one of these jobs and you will make enough to visit SE Asia 2X or more  a year.

 

farang men and women can't sell sex in Thailand, because its illegal, only the Thais get away with it, I'd end up in Bangkok Hilton if I got caught selling my ass

[rumak]

40 minutes ago, Bonobojt said:

farang men and women can't sell sex in Thailand, because its illegal, only the Thais get away with it, I'd end up in Bangkok Hilton if I got caught selling my ass

seems like with your disability you could also be charged with "misrepresenting your sexual prowess".

 

Is it just me...or do tv members think this guy is just looking for attention ?  If you are young, as you say,

get your sht together .   

posting a lot of nonsense is not going to get you any friends

[danea83]

Dude stop whining, you already have more than tons off other ppl out there!

Everyone has health problems, go see a doc and fix it, or get to a point it’s actually tolerable condition.

Being a native English speaker with good UK passport, getting a job is not that hard and if you get some extra like TEFL it be almost a piece of cake. Sure, maybe not in fancy places like Korea or Japan, sure, you might not be swimming in dough or pussy, but it’s bloody doable. And you said Thai makes you happy.

So unless you want a pity “pat pat” on your back, suck it up go see a doc and start looking for a job in Asia or back home.

[Bonobojt]

I had a co worker who has Sciatica, he said doctor can't do anything to cure it, if they can't cure Sciatica then highly doubtful they can cure my messed up pelvic area, of course I've already seen doctors about it, went private to see an Neuro and had MRI, waste of time and money, he gave me a crap mis diagnose and told me it would go away on its own eventually, didn't go back to see him again.

 

there's a reason why Chiropractor's are still in Business, because when it comes to bone/skeleton alignment issues, doctors just want to give pills or do surgery, physio waiting list is probably ridiculously long.

 

anyway we shouldn't discuss this issue here as this is not the health section of the forum   

[Bonobojt]

2 hours ago, danea83 said:

Dude stop whining, you already have more than tons off other ppl out there!

Everyone has health problems, go see a doc and fix it, or get to a point it’s actually tolerable condition.

Being a native English speaker with good UK passport, getting a job is not that hard and if you get some extra like TEFL it be almost a piece of cake. Sure, maybe not in fancy places like Korea or Japan, sure, you might not be swimming in dough or pussy, but it’s bloody doable. And you said Thai makes you happy.

So unless you want a pity “pat pat” on your back, suck it up go see a doc and start looking for a job in Asia or back home.

everyone has a whine every now and then, don't act like you've never had a whine, people can whine if their suffering or feel hard done by

 

there I might go for a teaching english job, or work in Australia for a year doing kitchen jobs, those are my two best options.

[StreetCowboy]

1 minute ago, Bonobojt said:

I had a co worker who has Sciatica, he said doctor can't do anything to cure it, if they can't cure Sciatica then highly doubtful they can cure my messed up pelvic area, of course I've already seen doctors about it, went private to see an Neuro and had MRI, waste of time and money, he gave me a crap mis diagnose and told me it would go away on its own eventually, didn't go back to see him again.

 

there's a reason why Chiropractor's are still in Business, because when it comes to bone/skeleton alignment issues, doctors just want to give pills or do surgery, physio waiting list is probably ridiculously long.

 

anyway we shouldn't discuss this issue here as this is not the health section of the forum   

It’s not the jobs section either, but never mind.  One option would be to convert to Islam, and study at one of the Malay universities; in Malaysia as a student I believe you could work part-time, and your English should stand you in good stead in many of the bars in town; it seems at least on a par with most of the Filipinos.

[StreetCowboy]

1 minute ago, Bonobojt said:

everyone has a whine every now and then, don't act like you've never had a whine, people can whine if their suffering or feel hard done by

 

there I might go for a teaching english job, or work in Australia for a year doing kitchen jobs, those are my two best options.

Even if you complain, no-one listens, so you might as well not bother

[catman20]

On 6/3/2018 at 4:06 PM, jackdd said:

The reality will probably be: Enjoy your 3 months holiday in south east asia and then you go back to the UK and good luck finding a new job

just another desperate young going no where in life. 

[StreetCowboy]

50 minutes ago, catman20 said:

just another desperate young going no where in life. 

Isn't he a bit like you and me?

[BobbyL]

A lot of negativity in here. As long as you aren't a complete abomination of a man, which is what most of the old boys here are like, then even without a degree you can still do okay. I know a few people here with no qualifications who are doing well and living a reasonable life in Bangkok. 

 

It might not be luxurious and you certainly won't be living the dream in expensive places, but Bangkok is still easily livable on a low salary. I am a qualified primary school teacher so money certainly isn't a worry, but I can still comfortably live on a few thousand baht per week as long as I am not out on the beers, having expensive meals or playing golf. Yeah, you can't do that every week, but even then Thailand isn't just about partying and birds. 

 

There are far too many foreign men here saying Bangkok isn't cheap, then they're the ones dropping 2000THB in the pub two or three nights a week. 

 

Do a TEFL and you will find work, either here or definitely somewhere else in SE Asia. Give it a go and if it seems like things aren't going well just make sure you have money in a bank for a flight out. 

[smotherb]

On 6/3/2018 at 3:15 PM, StreetCowboy said:

I was going to post something negative, but the above post has turned me around.  

 

If you are willing to move to Malaysia, there are lots of jobs for foreigners, I think around the RM2k/month mark

Well, 2,000 ringit is what, B16,000? And the types of jobs an unskilled foreigner could get may not even earn 2k ringit. Whether you think it is cheaper in Thailand or in Malaysia; is that enough to live, exist maybe, but live?  I think geriatrickid had the better idea, get some skills.