Tale of woe! South Korean conned into marriage by tricky Thai woman

[dotpoom]

Chicken feed...350,000 Bt...got off light methinks.

[Syduan]

Have you had a traumatic, strange, terrifying or humorous experience whilst living in Thailand and would like to share it with the public.

If so, after having spent 29 years in Thailand, I have finally decided to write a book.

If you would like to be a part of it, please message me or send your written contributions to [email protected] and I'll get back to you. 

[Emdog]

I think it was Ben Franklin who said "The school of life has a high tuition but some fools will learn in no other"

[atyclb]

6 hours ago, DrTuner said:

Not so long ago TVF old hands were touting "Asians will not go out with bargirls". Looks like they're just as gullible as the farang kwais.

 

seems a small % are duped. chinese men that travel as tourists have more money then the avg chinamen so they get the "pick of the litter" in china and likely r not interested in thai gals plus light complexion is important to them.

[Razek]

You are not alone.????

[klauskunkel]

7 hours ago, webfact said:

But when he came back in January the woman said her parents had objected to the relationship continuing. 

+

 

7 hours ago, webfact said:

Then her poor, ailing old father needed money.

= duh

[MellowYellow101]

6 hours ago, ezzra said:

There's a huge club of dejected, bamboozled and screwed men in Thailand that have been taking for a ride to proverbial cleaners by local unscrupulous women who from the get go set out to cheat, control and steal properties and wealth from unsuspecting honest hearted foreigners who's their only mistake was to trust, and dare i say, to love a Thai women...

Rule No.1 Never marry a Thai woman (or any woman for that matter) 
Rule No.2 Make sure your Thai gf has a job beforehand, and that she keeps her job (being a bargirl does not count as a job)
Rule No.3 Make sure your Thai gf isn't a Thai bf (unless you're into that kind of thing) 

[Zack61]

4 hours ago, Lodestone said:

My first rule (among several) is no women with children. Even if she's honest and perfect in every other way, I simply will not become the new father to and take on the responsibility and expense of raising a child that's not my own.

Find one who is an only chiid, orphaned with no kids

[tifino]

... for attempting an Anullment back home...

 

 - interrogate your home Courts' system for acceptance of 'Spousal Abandonement'

 

it won't get your manoey back, but at least might help in freeing you of the chains

[tifino]

3 minutes ago, Zack61 said:

Find one who is an only chiid, orphaned with no kids

 

that'll probably get you not a Soul Buddy, but a Sole Buddy

[johng50]

never ever trust a Thai woman, never, there would not be one honest thai woman alive.

[xtrnuno41]

I saw once a documentary about UK women.

There is a group just cashing in money for ...nothing.

THey have a special name, sorry cant recall how they are called. Mostly have a website, where you can see her pics (of course big money to see) and then you can hire her for spending your money !! 

They have contact with very rich guys all over the world, who pay them all nice kinds of things.

Men let them come over, pay first class plane, hotels, have them shopping on their cc.

The men dont get ANYTHING in return, just their presence some times when having dinner in expensive restaurants. If she wants !

He cant touch, he ....just nothing but pay and not just a few dollar, talking of 10-thousands of dollars. And if he gets annoying, then the barbie doll disappears again. 

I was flabbergasted then.

[tifino]

10 minutes ago, xtrnuno41 said:

I saw once a documentary about UK women.

There is a group just cashing in money for ...nothing.

THey have a special name, sorry cant recall how they are called. Mostly have a website, where you can see her pics (of course big money to see) and then you can hire her for spending your money !! 

They have contact with very rich guys all over the world, who pay them all nice kinds of things.

Men let them come over, pay first class plane, hotels, have them shopping on their cc.

The men dont get ANYTHING in return, just their presence some times when having dinner in expensive restaurants. If she wants !

He cant touch, he ....just nothing but pay and not just a few dollar, talking of 10-thousands of dollars. And if he gets annoying, then the barbie doll disappears again. 

I was flabbergasted then.

yes... but that is Not a Con!   angreed by both parties, business transaction

 - the proverbial Sugar Babe / Sugar Daddy arrangement

 

This business is not the same as thainess(where only one of the party is 'aware' of it)

[Happy Grumpy]

I'm making 300k a month pretending to be a Thai woman on international dating sites.

[car720]

8 hours ago, kotsak said:

He should consider himself lucky if he's lost only 350,000 baht and figured it out early. Others are being left only with their shirt on their backs.

and many not even left with their life.

[Jane Dough]

8 hours ago, mok199 said:

If you cant stand the heat stay out of Thailand..

I can;t stand the heat but I still stay.

 

Rooster

[Traubert]

Fair exchange is no robbery.

 

350k is approximately 175 boom booms. If he fell short of that number, he simply wasn't trying hard enough.

[Andycoops]

8 hours ago, kotsak said:

He should consider himself lucky if he's lost only 350,000 baht and figured it out early. Others are being left only with their shirt on their backs.

Not all.

[soistalker]

Never pay her more than per diem.

[xtrnuno41]

54 minutes ago, tifino said:

yes... but that is Not a Con!   angreed by both parties, business transaction

 - the proverbial Sugar Babe / Sugar Daddy arrangement

 

This business is not the same as thainess(where only one of the party is 'aware' of it)

OK thats true, though the guy surely hopes for some physical contact.

But it shows how stupid men are sometimes, i think so.

I have had my experiences with women, being in relationship or married, but at one point there is always a lie , a cheat or whatever. Then one sided it starts sneaky and things happen in the name of money. And that is not only Thainess !

I learned, heard, saw and also learned to say NO. Hard but necessary.

As with women , it doesnt matter if you love her or being the real good guy, sometimes they have their own fals ways. Just keep awake and darer to say NO

Money it's a drag, keep your hands out of my stack.  

[Derek B]

8 hours ago, RobbyXNorway said:

350.000 baht? Well he got off lucky ????

 

I racked up an account of about 2,8 million so far. We live, we learn....hopefully. I cant say its money down the drain though.

 

There should be a 2 hours school session for every foreigner landing at Suvarnabhumi about the honeytraps here in Thailand.

.....and handed a copy of "Private Dancer"..........fiction based on facts.

[jak2002003]

Why would anybody marry someone if they were not even living together for a few years full time first?!

 

I never understand the 'need' to marry someone anyway.  It's like men think that if you put a ring on the women she is there property (like putting a collar on a dog).  Then they are shocked and surprised when the marriage goes off the rails.  

 

Be suspicious of any women pressuring you into marring them when you have not been with them a few years first, and better still... NEVER get married!!

[Derek B]

8 hours ago, RobbyXNorway said:

350.000 baht? Well he got off lucky ????

 

I racked up an account of about 2,8 million so far. We live, we learn....hopefully. I cant say its money down the drain though.

 

There should be a 2 hours school session for every foreigner landing at Suvarnabhumi about the honeytraps here in Thailand.

I think most guys wake up around the 3 million mark which tends to coincide with an awareness of ever increasing difficulty of partying at will else where......

[Derek B]

5 hours ago, yokat said:

1 - It's convenient when moving out of Thailand since the thai passport is not really a masterkey to immigration. Girlfriend is not a status when applying for a visa.

2 - After a few years of being married it may grant citizenship (true for my country, not the other way around) and all the privileges that come with it.

What country is that?

[spidermike007]

Who on earth gets involved with someone online, and starts sending them money, without getting to know them first? What is the problem here? The biggest part of the problem here, is the extreme emasculation that is taking place in the West. Most men, in the US, Europe, and Oz, are no longer real men, when it comes to dealing with their women. Their women have made their lives so difficult, and alot of women have gotten so far away from their innate femininity, and have become dominant, and super controlling, and men just go along with it. Most men have become so hungry for love, or emotionally desperate for some kindness, and TLC. And most are so desirous of being around a real woman, who knows how to act like a woman, and manifest the dignity, within femininity. So, it is easy for the con artists, like this worm Jariyaporn, to take advantage of emotionally wounded men, who seem to be willing to do anything to regain a semblance of normality in their lives, with a decent woman. 

 

Always remember, if it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are problems, or The bottom line is this. Take your time getting to know a woman here, or anywhere. Do not consider a pen pal on the internet to be a girlfriend. This is sheer insanity. 

 

Time is your ally. It is rarely their ally. They are usually trying to step up the timetable. We need to push back. We need to assert control. An environment like this allows us to do so. Take advantage of that. Be a man. Step up. Pay tribute to the gender. Refuse to lay down anymore. Refuse to be a doormat. Refuse to check your cajones at the door. Start making the decisions, and stop saying "honey what do you want?" all the time. When a woman says up to you, take charge. I have so many friends, who come here, and from the very start, make the same mistakes they made back in the West. Except here, they do not need to make those mistakes. The environment does not dictate that they behave like lambs. Many do not know, or realize that, or they succumb to "force of habit". Every ship needs a captain. If the man is not willing to be the captain of the ship, the woman will take over, here in Thailand. Most women here seem to want a strong man. They prefer that. But, if they end up with a wimp, they will take charge. Someone has to.

 

Remember, if she is a big baby, who only looks like a real woman, but in reality is a 13 year old, or if she is a con artist, if she is only in it for the money, those realizations will manifest themselves over time. Time allows clarity. Never, ever move too quickly. That is the undoing of most of these guys. Be like Bond. be a real man. Man up. Do yourself proud. 

 

 

[Derek B]

1 hour ago, tifino said:

yes... but that is Not a Con!   angreed by both parties, business transaction

 - the proverbial Sugar Babe / Sugar Daddy arrangement

 

This business is not the same as thainess(where only one of the party is 'aware' of it)

Hence the rationale of an induction at entry into the country......................for fresh meat only that is.

[BritManToo]

8 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

 The biggest part of the problem here, is the extreme emasculation that is taking place in the West.

Is S. Korea now in the west?

Although I sort of agree with you, I thought it was mainly fear of the police and courts that made men stop being men. Upset a woman in the west for even the most trivial of reasons and she can have you dismissed from your employment and probably jailed for a while. Brush against a woman in a rush hour crowd and you can potentially spend years in jail. Annoy your wife and you can lose your home, children and pension.

[Derek B]

11 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Who on earth gets involved with someone online, and starts sending them money, without getting to know them first? What is the problem here? The biggest part of the problem here, is the extreme emasculation that is taking place in the West. Most men, in the US, Europe, and Oz, are no longer real men, when it comes to dealing with their women. Their women have made their lives so difficult, and alot of women have gotten so far away from their innate femininity, and have become dominant, and super controlling, and men just go along with it. Most men have become so hungry for love, or emotionally desperate for some kindness, and TLC. And most are so desirous of being around a real woman, who knows how to act like a woman, and manifest the dignity, within femininity. So, it is easy for the con artists, like this worm Jariyaporn, to take advantage of emotionally wounded men, who seem to be willing to do anything to regain a semblance of normality in their lives, with a decent woman. 

 

Always remember, if it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are problems, or The bottom line is this. Take your time getting to know a woman here, or anywhere. Do not consider a pen pal on the internet to be a girlfriend. This is sheer insanity. 

 

Time is your ally. It is rarely their ally. They are usually trying to step up the timetable. We need to push back. We need to assert control. An environment like this allows us to do so. Take advantage of that. Be a man. Step up. Pay tribute to the gender. Refuse to lay down anymore. Refuse to be a doormat. Refuse to check your cajones at the door. Start making the decisions, and stop saying "honey what do you want?" all the time. When a woman says up to you, take charge. I have so many friends, who come here, and from the very start, make the same mistakes they made back in the West. Except here, they do not need to make those mistakes. The environment does not dictate that they behave like lambs. Many do not know, or realize that, or they succumb to "force of habit". Every ship needs a captain. If the man is not willing to be the captain of the ship, the woman will take over, here in Thailand. Most women here seem to want a strong man. They prefer that. But, if they end up with a wimp, they will take charge. Someone has to.

 

Remember, if she is a big baby, who only looks like a real woman, but in reality is a 13 year old, or if she is a con artist, if she is only in it for the money, those realizations will manifest themselves over time. Time allows clarity. Never, ever move too quickly. That is the undoing of most of these guys. Be like Bond. be a real man. Man up. Do yourself proud. 

 

 

"Man up"..............does that mean we can slap them back? Just asking.

[ttrd]

9 hours ago, kotsak said:

He should consider himself lucky if he's lost only 350,000 baht and figured it out early. Others are being left only with their shirt on their backs.

If 350k/thb was all he had then he cannot be considered as Lucky … 

[Captain 776]

Any idiot that thinks sending money to ANY WOMAN every month is LOVE......absolutely deserves everything he gets.

I have lived here 14 yrs and tell em all......,as soon as she says you need to pay her.......or support her parents.........dont walk away.....RUN away....or u lose.

My good friend who should know better better with same girl he took out of a var on Soi 6 over 10 yrs ago has stolen so much from him, now he has been out of work almost a year and she told him if he wants her to hang around she needs 50,000 BHAT a month and the dipstick is paying it.

I cut his line, he can drift away, his stupidity disgusts me.

These guys 50-80 yrs old that think a 20 y o from a bar really loves them is beyond stupid.

 

I am very fortunate, before I ever came here I got a heads up from a colleague that had been coming here for 10 yrs....,,he gave me valuable Do’s ——Dont’s and NEVER Do’s it was some of the best life advice I ever got but even without it.....   I would have never fallen for the you have to pay me scam.

 

Many ofu said he got off easy....only 350,000 I would be a paycheck he is already with the next one......cuz they never learn