Tale of woe! South Korean conned into marriage by tricky Thai woman

[dallen52]

8 hours ago, RobbyXNorway said:

350.000 baht? Well he got off lucky ????

 

I racked up an account of about 2,8 million so far. We live, we learn....hopefully. I cant say its money down the drain though.

 

There should be a 2 hours school session for every foreigner landing at Suvarnabhumi about the honeytraps here in Thailand.

Good on you for at least having a set, and admitting that you are being milked. 

Many of us are..

But few will actually own up to it.

My bill so far is about the same.

6 years on.

And she still borrows.

And still gives her family and lazy son. 

And still hocks the gold.

Works a legitimate job for about 10 grand a month. 

Shares a room with a friend when I'm not there. 

And we give, and clear the slate every time we are back.

She is 100% loyal.

That's one consolation. 

 

I'm sure there's more than one word for it. (what we do)

But the eyes are wide open. 

[dallen52]

7 hours ago, epicstuff said:

A good rule of thumb is . If you not living with her,  why  get married in the first place?  The other rule of thumb is, why would anyone get married in the fisrt place? If you  love each other you will stay together........ why does anyone need a legal document for that? It doesnt offer any inssurance or other benifit as far as I'm aware...  This stupid  antiquated social concept of marriage for romantically dumb people has a lot to answer for....

400k retirement visa 

Instead of 800k.

[rollrunna]

Oh common...... this behavior and experience is international.... He is an Idiot ! Thats also international ...cant make it in his own country and surprise surprise nor in another...

 

[Captain 776]

8 hours ago, nev said:

How did he know she wasn't just messaging her brother to go eat somtam ????

Copy n paste in Google translate

[dallen52]

2 hours ago, tifino said:

... for attempting an Anullment back home...

 

 - interrogate your home Courts' system for acceptance of 'Spousal Abandonement'

 

it won't get your manoey back, but at least might help in freeing you of the chains

Irreconcilable differences..

12 months separation. 

In the UK and Australia that's enough. 

Then one month after the court it becomes absolute.

[Captain 776]

Filipinas are just as bad or worse.........prolific liars.

[Captain 776]

WWW.thepattayaflyingclub.com

 

Their office is on the 56th Floor, but you sign up on the roof.

 

Thank you for flying The Pattaya Flying Club

[raccos21]

Whenever you are in Thailand,all you need to remember “No money No honey and No honey No Problem.

[batata]

I don't claim to be smarter than anybody nor am I a court jester  but this type of scams are so easy to detect, only a fool would believe these girls

[batata]

1 minute ago, raccos21 said:

Whenever you are in Thailand,all you need to remember “No money No honey and No honey No Problem.

you are correct, I completely forgot the mobile  ATM machines

[xtrnuno41]

42 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Who on earth gets involved with someone online, and starts sending them money, without getting to know them first? What is the problem here? The biggest part of the problem here, is the extreme emasculation that is taking place in the West. Most men, in the US, Europe, and Oz, are no longer real men, when it comes to dealing with their women. Their women have made their lives so difficult, and alot of women have gotten so far away from their innate femininity, and have become dominant, and super controlling, and men just go along with it. Most men have become so hungry for love, or emotionally desperate for some kindness, and TLC. And most are so desirous of being around a real woman, who knows how to act like a woman, and manifest the dignity, within femininity. So, it is easy for the con artists, like this worm Jariyaporn, to take advantage of emotionally wounded men, who seem to be willing to do anything to regain a semblance of normality in their lives, with a decent woman. 

 

Always remember, if it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are problems, or The bottom line is this. Take your time getting to know a woman here, or anywhere. Do not consider a pen pal on the internet to be a girlfriend. This is sheer insanity. 

 

Time is your ally. It is rarely their ally. They are usually trying to step up the timetable. We need to push back. We need to assert control. An environment like this allows us to do so. Take advantage of that. Be a man. Step up. Pay tribute to the gender. Refuse to lay down anymore. Refuse to be a doormat. Refuse to check your cajones at the door. Start making the decisions, and stop saying "honey what do you want?" all the time. When a woman says up to you, take charge. I have so many friends, who come here, and from the very start, make the same mistakes they made back in the West. Except here, they do not need to make those mistakes. The environment does not dictate that they behave like lambs. Many do not know, or realize that, or they succumb to "force of habit". Every ship needs a captain. If the man is not willing to be the captain of the ship, the woman will take over, here in Thailand. Most women here seem to want a strong man. They prefer that. But, if they end up with a wimp, they will take charge. Someone has to.

 

Remember, if she is a big baby, who only looks like a real woman, but in reality is a 13 year old, or if she is a con artist, if she is only in it for the money, those realizations will manifest themselves over time. Time allows clarity. Never, ever move too quickly. That is the undoing of most of these guys. Be like Bond. be a real man. Man up. Do yourself proud. 

 

 

Korea has his own tradition in getting to know a woman for relationship. It is horrible, in my eyes. Guess also that guy, Thai is way easy, so he did, having no knowledge about anything in relationship. 

Bond is single and just cares for 3 holes in the woman then he leaves.

UK , has quite some women in prison, coz the man "stood up" , finally women shoot their beloved husband as the only way out.

A woman always change in time and mostly not  for the better. Lived, heard,saw it. 

I think the story in the bible says all. Not im a believer, but Eve cursed Adam by giving him the forbidden fruit. See the woman changed ! FElt unhappy and changed. Costed Adam paradise. Guess it is  a story, just to tell beware off the woman. 

I believe Kenia, the woman seeks fights, so the man can slap her. It means he still loves her?! Ok

In India if your wife doesnt comply anymore, you set her on fire and leave.

In the middle east, only by suspicions, you can have your wife executed by stoning to death. 

What you mean by manning up, all those things? Maybe then be better BOnd, single and just hop on to the next holes.

[sanemax]

10 hours ago, DrTuner said:

Not so long ago TVF old hands were touting "Asians will not go out with bargirls". Looks like they're just as gullible as the farang kwais.

How do you know that she was a bargirl ?

[xtrnuno41]

4 minutes ago, raccos21 said:

Whenever you are in Thailand,all you need to remember “No money No honey and No honey No Problem.

Typical stupid alien, one is distracting him wiht sweet talk and the other is watching how to do it and get the pin. SUcces !!

[brian2f2f]

9 hours ago, RobbyXNorway said:

350.000 baht? Well he got off lucky ????

 

I racked up an account of about 2,8 million so far. We live, we learn....hopefully. I cant say its money down the drain though.

 

There should be a 2 hours school session for every foreigner landing at Suvarnabhumi about the honeytraps here in Thailand.

Compared to me he got very lucky over the course of 2 yrs me my mom and my uncle got conned out if 200k usd. Wjen wr all refused to allow the money anymore. Inwas thrown out on the streer at 2 am in nakhon pathom with 3 bags. Was left to walk to the McDonald's near siam paragon to stay till tuesday when i could get some money to get a hotel while my mom and uncle worked out a way to bring me back to america. Being this was on a sat morning and i had no money when thrown out as the 3k i had left they stripped of me before beibg forced out onto the street. I was lucky that on the way some thai uni girls stopped and asked if im ok and gave me 100 baht. Ibused some to get to paragon station by bts and the rest for ice cream cones and 1o baht sodas at 7-Eleven to get me through till money could arrive in my bank account. Which left me 3 day living out of McDonald's. I've received all kinds of threats over the past 2 yrs as well from them. Not to mention all the times they committed deformation against me. Which one of the times her and a Filipina almost got charges brought against them for it. As i made friends with a lawer in the Philippines at that time that also had worked in thailand as well. So had expierence in both thai and Philippines law. The girl from the Philippines after getting a fee messages from me then sent me a message saying she sent me 5k pesos via Palawan and about 2 months later sent me a message asking me if i am ok i said yes. And she said glad to hear that and again said sorry to me. After that she never messaged me again. Since i dont use fb anymore and ive blocked my ex here in ig and line as well as made all new accounts on both. She has no way to contact me anymore so she is no longer an issue either. See she and her family will never try to actually do anything to me since there is security footage of her attacking me infront of the security guards at an apartment i rented as well as endangering our son at the same time. Also knowing all the times she attacked me as well as her family including with knifes and bottles even broken bottles and the time i went to the hospital with injury after being attaked. So if going to court to have security footage brought in then also then having lawyers get lie detectors tests done on her family regarding their attempts to kill me. They would not end up winning but landing in jail. Not including when comes to the treatment and care of our son. When comes out she has beat him and punched him like punching an attacker when he was not even 8 months old yet to try and get him to stop crying. She has a second son now and both have been in the hospital multiple times for some sort of health and medical problems. That alone too shoes her lack of care and poor treatment of her kids. Before i left he never got sick well once he did but only very minor. But in her and her family care he has been in the hospital many times. Not to mention allowing him to run around 7-Eleven naked at the age of 2 and posting the pics of him naked in 7-Eleven on fb as well clearly seeing that he is naked and his manhood. Since we were never legally married not much i can really do without spending huge amounts of money in lawyer fees. And unless she tries to do anything to me im not going that route. Its too much money and not worth all the abuse id suffer at the same time. Not to mention im now marrisd legally to a new thai girl. We fight sometimes but she dont cheat on me or ask of money. But she does ignore me refuse any time or attention to me. Thus only helo provide money and if sick looks after me. The rest of a relationship told if want i have to find other girl to get it from. So starting any action to protect my son thats not even legally my son under thai law would only cause lot of problems with my current relationship as well. So would have nothing but abuse from every direction most likely at that point. But ya again tl the point he got lucky with only 350k baht lost. As could be far worse indeed. 

[NRGF]

10 hours ago, kotsak said:

He should consider himself lucky if he's lost only 350,000 baht and figured it out early. Others are being left only with their shirt on their backs.

And sometimes not even a shirt.

 

[spidermike007]

1 hour ago, Captain 776 said:

Any idiot that thinks sending money to ANY WOMAN every month is LOVE......absolutely deserves everything he gets.

I have lived here 14 yrs and tell em all......,as soon as she says you need to pay her.......or support her parents.........dont walk away.....RUN away....or u lose.

My good friend who should know better better with same girl he took out of a var on Soi 6 over 10 yrs ago has stolen so much from him, now he has been out of work almost a year and she told him if he wants her to hang around she needs 50,000 BHAT a month and the dipstick is paying it.

I cut his line, he can drift away, his stupidity disgusts me.

These guys 50-80 yrs old that think a 20 y o from a bar really loves them is beyond stupid.

 

I am very fortunate, before I ever came here I got a heads up from a colleague that had been coming here for 10 yrs....,,he gave me valuable Do’s ——Dont’s and NEVER Do’s it was some of the best life advice I ever got but even without it.....   I would have never fallen for the you have to pay me scam.

 

Many ofu said he got off easy....only 350,000 I would be a paycheck he is already with the next one......cuz they never learn

Same happened to an old friend of mine years ago on Samui. He gave her everything. He opened two well equipped laundromats for her, with a good portion of his savings. Bought a new car in HER NAME! What a fool. Within a year she started bringing her boyfriends back to their home. Openly. What did he do? Took it like a chump. He used to come crying to me asking for advice. I told him, sorry you already made all the mistakes. No way you can fix it now. Your life is broken. Start over again. Problem was he was nearly  wiped out financially, so he stuck around, and took the beat down. I could not stand to see it. Cut him off entirely. I would not be a party to that nonsense. You cannot allow yourself to be dragged into the sinkhole with him. I am loyal to my friends to a fault, but I did not know this guy well enough to occupy the space with him! He literally broke every rule of manhood, in developing a healthy relationship, from the beginning. He made all the classic mistakes. It was Shakesperean. 

 

You have to start out the relationship, as a man. And continue to express your power and position throughout. She will respect that. Otherwise? Woe is the man who lays down and dies. 

Edited May 10, 2019 by spidermike007

[spidermike007]

38 minutes ago, xtrnuno41 said:

Korea has his own tradition in getting to know a woman for relationship. It is horrible, in my eyes. Guess also that guy, Thai is way easy, so he did, having no knowledge about anything in relationship. 

Bond is single and just cares for 3 holes in the woman then he leaves.

UK , has quite some women in prison, coz the man "stood up" , finally women shoot their beloved husband as the only way out.

A woman always change in time and mostly not  for the better. Lived, heard,saw it. 

I think the story in the bible says all. Not im a believer, but Eve cursed Adam by giving him the forbidden fruit. See the woman changed ! FElt unhappy and changed. Costed Adam paradise. Guess it is  a story, just to tell beware off the woman. 

I believe Kenia, the woman seeks fights, so the man can slap her. It means he still loves her?! Ok

In India if your wife doesnt comply anymore, you set her on fire and leave.

In the middle east, only by suspicions, you can have your wife executed by stoning to death. 

What you mean by manning up, all those things? Maybe then be better BOnd, single and just hop on to the next holes.

Not at all. Manning up means maintaining possession of your cajones. Drawing the line in the sand. Showing her the door, if need be. Telling her about the usefulness of the door, and it's multiple purposes. Sticking to your convictions. It can be done here. Many of us have found wonderful women, and have amazing, long term relationships, with women who are comfortable with their femininity, not afraid to manifest the dignity and elegance within that femininity (something so few women in the West know how to do) and are really comfortable in their role as a strong, kindhearted, smart, funny, light hearted, supportive, loving spouse or GF. And many of them love being with an equally kindhearted, supportive man, who is strong, sets the tone, does not allow himself to be pushed around, and manipulated, and they respect the hell out of their man for that strength of character. 

 

This is not the West, thankfully. We are not required to suffer lives of spousal abuse. A man can be a man here. There is no such nonsense as toxic masculinity here. Reject the nonsense with all the power within your being. Reject the con women. Push them away. Give it time. Then you will know what you are dealing with. Moving too fast almost always plays right into their hands. You need to set the agenda and the timetable. 

[Bournville]

Only 350 k? Lucky man. I'm sure many of us were fleeced of millions!

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[OneEyedPie]

1 hour ago, xtrnuno41 said:

In India if your wife doesnt comply anymore, you set her on fire and leave.

Is it better to use unleaded or leaded?  Should price per litre be a consideration?  ???? 

[dallen52]

10 hours ago, sunnyboy2018 said:

A fool and his money are soon parted

Must be a lot of us fools in Thailand. 

 

"Thank you for your contribution"

[ICELANDMAN]

2 hours ago, Captain 776 said:

Filipinas are just as bad or worse.........prolific liars.

I see you speaking with experience, I agree with you about Filipinas prolific liars

[RobbyXNorway]

SO many heartbreaking stories about naive kind men who come here and dont know how bad it can be here in Thailand.

 

Here is a funny one. Last year I stayed 3 months in Hua Hin. In early February I found a girlfriend who worked at a restaurant with her aunty. I should have noticed the "tells", lots of tattoos, heavy english cursing with "<deleted> this!" and that. But she was sooooo sugar sweet. Anyway, we were having lunch at a restaurant in Soi 88 and this old guy comes over and starts talking. Turns out he is a finnish guy in his mid-late 70s. He got rolled over by his thai wife after buying a hotell business. Once the money ran out she disappeared with a Norwegian guy. So he was broke and bitter. Told me I had to be really carefull. Perhaps he saw what I didnt see. Because later it turned out the girl had just been milking me for money and cut me off once I had my return ticket to Thailand. About 250.000 baht disappeared in that hole. And be warned, the "sick buffalo" had been replaced with "old car" ???? For me it wasnt so much money, but the deceit stung.

 

 

A good reply to the "No money no honey!" is "No honey no money!" followed by "Bad honey bad money!". Considering the pouting face I got it was a bullseye comment ????

[emptypockets]

5 hours ago, johng50 said:

All these skanks should be executed, my opinion only, dont care what others think.

How much did the uneducated dumb farm girl take you for cobber?

[from the home of CC]

13 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

How exceptional. This must be the exception which confirms that otherwise all Thai women are sweethearts who only care to make their lover happy.

what did you put in her eye?

[emptypockets]

4 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Who on earth gets involved with someone online, and starts sending them money, without getting to know them first? What is the problem here? The biggest part of the problem here, is the extreme emasculation that is taking place in the West. Most men, in the US, Europe, and Oz, are no longer real men, when it comes to dealing with their women. Their women have made their lives so difficult, and alot of women have gotten so far away from their innate femininity, and have become dominant, and super controlling, and men just go along with it. Most men have become so hungry for love, or emotionally desperate for some kindness, and TLC. And most are so desirous of being around a real woman, who knows how to act like a woman, and manifest the dignity, within femininity. So, it is easy for the con artists, like this worm Jariyaporn, to take advantage of emotionally wounded men, who seem to be willing to do anything to regain a semblance of normality in their lives, with a decent woman. 

 

Always remember, if it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are problems, or The bottom line is this. Take your time getting to know a woman here, or anywhere. Do not consider a pen pal on the internet to be a girlfriend. This is sheer insanity. 

 

Time is your ally. It is rarely their ally. They are usually trying to step up the timetable. We need to push back. We need to assert control. An environment like this allows us to do so. Take advantage of that. Be a man. Step up. Pay tribute to the gender. Refuse to lay down anymore. Refuse to be a doormat. Refuse to check your cajones at the door. Start making the decisions, and stop saying "honey what do you want?" all the time. When a woman says up to you, take charge. I have so many friends, who come here, and from the very start, make the same mistakes they made back in the West. Except here, they do not need to make those mistakes. The environment does not dictate that they behave like lambs. Many do not know, or realize that, or they succumb to "force of habit". Every ship needs a captain. If the man is not willing to be the captain of the ship, the woman will take over, here in Thailand. Most women here seem to want a strong man. They prefer that. But, if they end up with a wimp, they will take charge. Someone has to.

 

Remember, if she is a big baby, who only looks like a real woman, but in reality is a 13 year old, or if she is a con artist, if she is only in it for the money, those realizations will manifest themselves over time. Time allows clarity. Never, ever move too quickly. That is the undoing of most of these guys. Be like Bond. be a real man. Man up. Do yourself proud. 

 

 

Spoken like a committed single man. I feel so sorry for you.  You do understand James Bond was a fictional character? Good luck getting the Aston Martin serviced in Thailand

[alfalfa19]

13 hours ago, rkidlad said:

I had a friend from England who fell for this kind of thing 'twice'. He's now in the same kind of predicament but he's learnt to be worth more to his missus in a relationship than out of one.

 

Some people's concept of love really can be a mental disease. 

William Burroughs said love was a virus.  He may have been on to something. 

[emptypockets]

In Australia it is a requirement to have a financial settlement first prior to decree absolute. 

Edited May 10, 2019 by emptypockets

[OneEyedPie]

22 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Spoken like a committed single man. I feel so sorry for you.  You do understand James Bond was a fictional character? Good luck getting the Aston Martin serviced in Thailand

You really don't understand.  

 

Some of us ended up in LOS after successful careers in the SAS and MI5.  I can't say too much other than every Pattaya bar has a seat reserved for the elite.  

[Ctkong]

7 hours ago, atyclb said:

 

seems a small % are duped. chinese men that travel as tourists have more money then the avg chinamen so they get the "pick of the litter" in china and likely r not interested in thai gals plus light complexion is important to them.

Most Chinese tourists cannot speak english. The only common foreign language the bargirls know. Moreover the older Chinese generation would rather go visit soapies than go go clubs. More bangs for the bucks. It is the younger Chinese crowd that were more proficient in English, more open minded and adventurous that darken the doors. 

[jsflynn603]

14 hours ago, nev said:

Bit hard to believe the Korean can read Thai, Never in all my years here have I known Thais to send a message to another Thai in English maybe he used Google translate to decipher ????

Though I attended Thai language class in Chiang mai I really never could grasp the language verbally.  I always thought it odd, but I met another fellow American in Chiang mai,  from California, and he two could not master the Thai language verbally.  The odd part is both of us could read and write fairly well, even though the intonation (hi/med/low, rising, ect) was wrong.  I was pretty adept at typing Thai.  But could not follow when someone talked to me.  Or, maybe he used translate.