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I have been to Thailand a number of times and have always loved the food, architecture, art, and many other things about the culture. Last year I decided to try and learn to speak Thai. Someone told me that the local temple had classes in Thai culture and that language classes were offered so I decided to take a look. The teacher was a very pretty Thai woman and all of our classes were one on one. She would teach me about her culture and I would teach her about America a few times a week. After about a month we began talking on the phone until she left to go back to university and finish her last year. I visited Thailand last November and we spent much of my time there together. She's wonderful. Inquisitive like a child, always joking around, attractive, educated, modest, respectful, and I'm happy to have met her. I feel sometimes like knowing me isn't good for her. I don't think it possible for me to move to Thailand though I do not dislike the idea of doing so. I just don't know that I could find a job. Her moving to America isn't a good idea because I want her to be close to her family. I want her mother to know her children. I think she would move, but I don't think she really wants to because she is very close to her family. I can't take that away from her. I've been planning another trip in the next few months, but again I'll have to leave. I'm not sure what to do about it. What I want for her most is happiness and it breaks my heart a little each time she says she misses me and asks when I am coming back to see her. I wish I could be there for her, but it seems so impossible.

If you trust her and you love her and you're serious about her, try inviting her over. She could make more money since I presume she is a pretty good english speaker, she is educated (you said she finished her uni) and you both shall have time to visit Thailand, think that there will be 2 bread makers. Of course there are more factors that are influencing this thing, but these are some of them that you should consider. Just follow your heart man, let her follow her's, think and then you guys can decide.

Is this specific to the Ladies forum? Or is the original poster assuming this forum is about women?

Give me a reason to keep it here, or it will be moved. This forum is for women, not about women.

Is this specific to the Ladies forum? Or is the original poster assuming this forum is about women?

Give me a reason to keep it here, or it will be moved. This forum is for women, not about women.

He probably needs advice from women? Seems like a nice guy, you can either leave it here or move, although I'm afraid this topic would go nowhere in the general forum.

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what better place to post than a forum for women. i care a great deal for this woman and think a thai woman's perspective would be helpful in my decision making process. perhaps they have been in the same position and can give some insight. that's why i posted it here.

Is this specific to the Ladies forum? Or is the original poster assuming this forum is about women?

Give me a reason to keep it here, or it will be moved. This forum is for women, not about women.

It's like a ladies club. Watch out.

care to explain that comment jimjim?

care to explain that comment jimjim?

I guess (hope) it was just a joke :o

Now, can u ladies help the guy out?

what better place to post than a forum for women. i care a great deal for this woman and think a thai woman's perspective would be helpful in my decision making process. perhaps they have been in the same position and can give some insight. that's why i posted it here.
Is this specific to the Ladies forum? Or is the original poster assuming this forum is about women?

Give me a reason to keep it here, or it will be moved. This forum is for women, not about women.

Fair enough, that was not made clear in your original post.

Have you expressed these concerns to her? That should be the first step.

A "respectable" Thai woman -- which she certainly sounds like -- in this situation will be thinking about marriage. She needs to know that you are not likely to move to Thailand, and the two of you need to discuss the issue of her coming to your country, being apart from her family etc. But before you do that, you need to be clear in your own mind about how serious you are in your feelings, and whether you are ready to get married if she feels ready to move away from her family. Because marriage is what she would be wanting and expecting.

If you love her and are ready to make a commitment to her, then I would leave it to her to decide if she is willing to be separated from her family....just make sure she has a realistic understanding of your circumstances and life style back home, I know many cases where Thai women married foreigners expecting to have if not a life of luxury, at least a very comfortable life, servants, etc (because of the sterotype that farangs are wealthy...plus the assumption that someone who can afford to travel abroad must be unusually well off in money and status)...only to get a very rude shock. ....I don't mean that she is interested in you for the money, just that she needs to have a realistic idea of what her life would be like if she moved abroad to be with you.

Good luck to you both

Have you expressed these concerns to her? That should be the first step.

A "respectable" Thai woman -- which she certainly sounds like -- in this situation will be thinking about marriage. She needs to know that you are not likely to move to Thailand, and the two of you need to discuss the issue of her coming to your country, being apart from her family etc. But before you do that, you need to be clear in your own mind about how serious you are in your feelings, and whether you are ready to get married if she feels ready to move away from her family. Because marriage is what she would be wanting and expecting.

If you love her and are ready to make a commitment to her, then I would leave it to her to decide if she is willing to be separated from her family....just make sure she has a realistic understanding of your circumstances and life style back home, I know many cases where Thai women married foreigners expecting to have if not a life of luxury, at least a very comfortable life, servants, etc (because of the sterotype that farangs are wealthy...plus the assumption that someone who can afford to travel abroad must be unusually well off in money and status)...only to get a very rude shock. ....I don't mean that she is interested in you for the money, just that she needs to have a realistic idea of what her life would be like if she moved abroad to be with you.

Good luck to you both

My compliments , Sheryl , for vindicating the OP's choice of forum by posting such a

lucid and helpful response.

:o

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