Seeking Advice...

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

I am an american man, age 27. I was in Thailand for 2 weeks (vacation) and the first night there I have met a Thai girl. I approached her and was surprised to hear an american accent coming out of her mouth. Came to find out that she is 25 and has been living in the US for almost 20 years and was on vacation also. I was pleasently surprised how much we had in common and really enjoyed her company, wit, and charm. She's incredibly beautiful, smart, and educated (Masters in education). I really liked her and didn't want the night to end so I asked if I could see her again the following day or so but she said she would be in Phuket with her friends the next day up until the day before she leaves to go back to the states. I was quite surprised to feel like I have fallen for her after having met her for only a couple of hours but I gave her my number and we parted - I left feeling like I had let the greatest girl I've ever met walk right out of my life. Some of you might roll your eyes but hey, that's how I felt...

So came the next day morning, I received a call from her asking if I'd like to come along. I said yes and she said "Great, meet me at the airport at 2 pm and I'll take care of the tickets for you." I met her there and she handed me a round trip business class ticket. I told her to let me stop by the ATM right quick so I could give her back the money, she laughed and said "Don't worry about it, it's on me." Again, wow.. So I told her that I would take the ticket only if she'd allow me to take care of all other expenses She smiled and agreed..

We spent close to 2 weeks together doing everything we could in Phuket from bar hopping, drag shows, bungee jumping, elephant trekking, whitewater rafting, to fishing.. During these time I have come to find out how much I really like this girl who has so much plans, ambition, lives life on the edge, and to the fullest. We spent almost every waking moments together and if we weren't out doing things, we would be at our hotel rooms - talking and just hanging out. The most we did was kissed but that was more than fine for me. I was happy just to be spending time with her.

The day before she was to go back (2 days before I was leaving) we came back to bkk and spent more time together. We exchanged e-mail addresses and phone numbers. I live in Boston and she lives in Chicago so we weren't going to be that far apart.. So I asked if she'd consider starting a relationship with me, she looked surprised and just said "Wow.." then asked if she could think about it and let me know when she gets back home. She told me that she had a great time with me and felt the attraction between us but has had a not so great experiences with long-distance relationship. Strangely I could see myself marrying this girl and be the happiest guy on earth from just barely 2 weeks of knowing and hanging out together. I dropped her off at the airport and off she went.. And I have not been able to get her out of my mind since.

Anyway it's been about a month now since I'd gotten back and we've talked and e-mailed each other but "the issue" never came up. Should I ask her again or let her mention it on her own? What do you think I should do? I'm kind of confused because from my point of view I thought we had a great time together so other than the distance issue, what else could it be? Thanks everyone for reading and sorry it's so long. Any comment or advice would be appreciated.

[george]

"Great, meet me at the airport at 2 pm and I'll take care of the tickets for you."  I met her there and she handed me a round trip business class ticket.

Great story.

"Handed me"... How did she know your full name? In order to travel domestic the name on the ticket need to be exactly spelled.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

I gave her my name, of course..

[Sandy]

Wow, u ran into a Chicago chick. Im from Chicago, maybe i would know her. LOL u never know.

Anyway, i suggest u mention it. Do u really expect to have the girl ask "so are we dating or what?" I dont think so. Well, go for it, ask, and let us know how she took it. Trust me, it wouldnt be the end of the world. Unless u are some psycho who gets really depress if a girl rejects u. If not, then you're all good. If she rejects, im pretty sure she has her reasons why. Keep us updated.

[SoCal]

New Kid,

Wow, she sounds like a man. Not that a woman is entitled to a meaningless fling, but seems more like male nature.

Close to the end I thought she had someone at home, thus not wanting something more permanent. Then you say you are talking, but that doesn't preclude someone else entirely. You should know the signs on this, and be able to judge.

Listen 4th of July is comming up in a couple of weeks. Why don't you plan something with her then? If she goes, then ask her then. If she does not, then find out why?

Good Luck,

SoCal

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Ain't love grand ? I admit that I haven't heard of too many chicks sporting a round trip business class airticket to someone she just met. With that amount of luck. you should buy a lottery ticket.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Ain't love grand ? I admit that I haven't heard of too many chicks sporting a round trip business class airticket to someone she just met. With that amount of luck. you should buy a lottery ticket.

She bought a business class ticket for me because she and her friends already had their seats in business and as she puts it, "Don't worry about it, just a couple hundred bucks ... no big deal!" But that's beside the point, isn't it??

[Up2U]

Ain't love grand ? I admit that I haven't heard of too many chicks sporting a round trip business class airticket to someone she just met. With that amount of luck. you should buy a lottery ticket.

Dr PP

Thats roughly 8 1/2 thousand posts in eighteen months - 15 or 16 a day, every day.

I may have very little to do in the office, but you seem to have even less to occupy yourself.

But is there really any need to respond to this troll?

[ProThaiExpat]

Allowing for incredible differences in people and the great number of years since I was in my twenties dating girls and allowing for the generation gap, any girl I knew who was college educated, and most of them were, would have concluded this guy was gay or had a serious testosterone problem after a week and chalked him off as a good friend, certainly not dating material

My vote is troll.

[Tornado]

Ask her out then, yes again and again if need be........... if she doesnt want you, get another!

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

For those of you who'd rather call me a troll than post anything useful here, just because something like that didn't happen to you doesn't mean it did not happen... What can I say, if you don't like the post - don't reply.

Thanks Sandy and SoCal for the advice. I will definitely try to get together with her next weekend and bring it up then..

[dr_Pat_Pong]

FOR THE 4TH JULY I'VE ALREADY BOOKED HER, SORRY

Join the queue. She's taking three of us to Florida ( Business class ) for a week.

[daveh]

Anyway it's been about a month now since I'd gotten back and we've talked and e-mailed each other but "the issue" never came up. Should I ask her again or let her mention it on her own? What do you think I should do? I'm kind of confused because from my point of view I thought we had a great time together so other than the distance issue, what else could it be? Thanks everyone for reading and sorry it's so long. Any comment or advice would be appreciated.

I don't think you should talk about it. You should go visit her. She already told you that she does not feel that a LDR would work out. So you have to prove it can work out. Do this by visiting her. Don't wait for an invitation, just tell her you'd like to go see her and go for it.

[TRIPxCORE]

Wow, u ran into a Chicago chick. Im from Chicago, maybe i would know her. LOL u never know.

Wow, I didnt know so many fellow Chicago people were on here. Right on.......

GO CUBBIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!