The benefits of living alone as an older man

[simon43]

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

[Nemises]

9 minutes ago, simon43 said:

A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

Agreed. Other options: have a nurse as your GF; reside in an apartment complex that has a live-in caretaker/manager and become good friends with them. 

[scubascuba3]

It's certainly great being single but when you get to the vulnerable stage you really need a live in "girlfriend" or carer.

 

Some guys have a wife/girlfriend and carer, not sure what happens when you are at the nursing home stage

Edited September 4 by scubascuba3

[Olmate]

24 minutes ago, simon43 said:

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

I spent my last 3 working yrs after being retrenched  from long gov job as a livein first.responder at big retirement village in large northern Australia cityHappiest oldies by far were the single residents,the usually nagging  marrieds were miserable! FWIW! 

[impulse]

10 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

It's certainly great being single but when you get to the vulnerable stage you really need a live in "girlfriend" or carer.

 

Some guys have a wife/girlfriend and carer, not sure what happens when you are at the nursing home stage

 

Better yet.  Get a male room mate to share expenses and chores, or live in a building with a good community of like minded old farts.

 

Bros before hoes!

 

[OneMoreFarang]

Living alone and going out and having friends is fine.

And then there are some people who live alone and almost never go out and almost never talk to anybody, etc.

I wouldn't want to be such a lonely person. 

[Captain Monday]

1 hour ago, simon43 said:

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

Years ago some of my older friends had a daily care/check in circle

Just a text or message OK status

Two died and  wife went back to her country

I thought that was a good idea. Nobody wanted to be found by odour,  rotted in a room.

[4MyEgo]

19 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Living alone and going out and having friends is fine.

And then there are some people who live alone and almost never go out and almost never talk to anybody, etc.

I wouldn't want to be such a lonely person. 

 

Being married and taken care of can't be beaten.

 

Having my cake and eating it to, I will let yawl work that one out.

[steven100]

8 minutes ago, Captain Monday said:

Just a text or message OK status

 

 

but if the ok text didn't come for a day or two they'd have to send the cleaner over to check.  

[Lacessit]

47 minutes ago, Olmate said:

I spent my last 3 working yrs after being retrenched  from long gov job as a livein first.responder at big retirement village in large northern Australia cityHappiest oldies by far were the single residents,the usually nagging  marrieds were miserable! FWIW! 

I am betting the nagging marrieds were in the same age bracket. Not much point to that, both are equally vulnerable.

 

My GF is 23 years younger than me.

 

I asked her once what she would do, if I started going poopy in my trousers. Her response was " No problem. I can do".

[phetphet]

1 hour ago, simon43 said:

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

Found that one out when I had a motorbike accident and stuck at home immobile for four months.

GF was a godsend. Working long hours at her job, driving me to hospital, taking care of both me and daughter, shopping, cooking, and doing all the chores that I normally did.

[impulse]

12 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

Being married and taken care of can't be beaten.

 

Having my cake and eating it to, I will let yawl work that one out.

 

Being a zillionaire is great, too.  But not all of us have the dosh, nor a wife that's worth the trade-off. 

 

I, too would rather be in a great marriage.  But I'd rather be single than still married to my ex.  She wasn't a bad woman.  Just not on the same page and consequently, never satisfied with life.  Turns out, 35 years after the divorce, she's still not married.  So it's not me that caused her unhappiness.  I was just there.

 

[Tropicalevo]

1 hour ago, Nemises said:

Agreed. Other options: have a nurse as your GF; reside in an apartment complex that has a live-in caretaker/manager and become good friends with them. 

Not sure if that helps. Older guy here has a young girlfriend  - a nurse.

He fell down the slope in his garden (very steep) and could not get up.

His GF called a neighbour. The neighbour contacted his wife. His wife contacted a friend who spoke Thai. The friend contacted Samui Rescue. Samui Rescue contacted us for details. (We provide security.)

Whilst the Chinese whispers were going on, the guy was in pain with a dislocated shoulder.

Rescue eventually got the guy onto the road and off to the hospital where they checked him for and operation.

Fail - he had a heart condition - the nurse girlfriend had never spotted anything.

They had to ship him to the mainland to have a pacemaker fitted before they could operate on the shoulder.

 

I was surprised about the heart condition.

I did not think that the miserable, tight-fisted git had one.

[steven100]

It's the best way to be,  you can do as you please ....no one under your feet or shifting things about,  you can have a friend over when you want and you can go out for a beer if you want a farang chat.

 

You have to be able to feel happy and comfortable with just yourself though .... and for some that's not easy.  

[impulse]

12 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I asked her once what she would do, if I started going poopy in my trousers. Her response was " No problem. I can do".

 

With all due respect, what else could she say?  She's outta there when things go sideways, so you'd better start looking now?

 

[Lacessit]

2 hours ago, impulse said:

 

With all due respect, what else could she say?  She's outta there when things go sideways, so you'd better start looking now?

 

When I spent a night in the local hospital, she slept on the floor next to my bed to look after me- fetching me edible food etc.

 

IMO that's a reasonable indicator of her commitment to my well-being.

[maesariang]

3 hours ago, simon43 said:

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

I've lived alone for maybe 3 weeks in 15 years. Prefer to be with people. 

[maesariang]

2 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I am betting the nagging marrieds were in the same age bracket. Not much point to that, both are equally vulnerable.

 

My GF is 23 years younger than me.

 

I asked her once what she would do, if I started going poopy in my trousers. Her response was " No problem. I can do".

Buy nappies.

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

Being married and taken care of can't be beaten.

 

Having my cake and eating it to, I will let yawl work that one out.

 

It depends who else would take care of you. 😉 

 

[maesariang]

2 hours ago, impulse said:

 

Being a zillionaire is great, too.  But not all of us have the dosh, nor a wife that's worth the trade-off. 

 

I, too would rather be in a great marriage.  But I'd rather be single than still married to my ex.  She wasn't a bad woman.  Just not on the same page and consequently, never satisfied with life.  Turns out, 35 years after the divorce, she's still not married.  So it's not me that caused her unhappiness.  I was just there.

 

Key to a good marriage is good food, oral sex and money. 

[simon43]

3 hours ago, impulse said:

 

Better yet.  Get a male room mate to share expenses and chores, or live in a building with a good community of like minded old farts.

 

Bros before hoes!

 

Hmm, so in my dotage I combine doing some outdoor gardening with some uphill gardening 🙂.

[cooked]

Living alone was an excellent period for me. After 27 years of marriage and three years with a girlfriend, I decided no more women in my life, and lived alone for another four years. So I learnt how to cook, fill out my tax returns, do my accounts, generally to look after myself. When I did finally decide to find a partner, I was apparently much more capable of living with another person. Been with her for 12 years now and it works. Maybe I was triggered when I received news that an aunt had been found upside down on her stairs, where she had been for 36 hours with a broken hip. 

[impulse]

34 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

When I spent a night in the local hospital, she slept on the floor next to my bed to look after me- fetching me edible food etc.

 

IMO that's a reasonable indicator of her commitment to my well-being.

 

You've got a good 'un then. 

 

My remark wasn't meant to be specific to yours.  Just that, male or female, you never know what people will be like in a pinch, until the pinch.  Like poor health (and the bills that come with that), or running out of money, or... or...  Regardless of what they promise when it's all rosy.

 

[scubascuba3]

3 hours ago, impulse said:

 

Better yet.  Get a male room mate to share expenses and chores, or live in a building with a good community of like minded old farts.

 

Bros before hoes!

 

no that doesn't sound good at all, maybe does to you

[scubascuba3]

39 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

When I spent a night in the local hospital, she slept on the floor next to my bed to look after me- fetching me edible food etc.

 

IMO that's a reasonable indicator of her commitment to my well-being.

i hope you have taken care of her when you pass on, some dodgy farang do nothing, lady only finds out after death

[Lacessit]

Just now, impulse said:

 

You've got a good 'un then. 

 

My remark wasn't meant to be specific to yours.  Just that, male or female, you never know what people will be like in a pinch, until the pinch.  Like poor health (and the bills that come with that), or running out of money, or... or...  Regardless of what they promise when it's all rosy.

 

Yes I have. She has come up with the goods on several other occasions as well.

 

I'm not disagreeing with you. As you say, the true test of character is a crisis.

[Olmate]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I am betting the nagging marrieds were in the same age bracket. Not much point to that, both are equally vulnerable.

 

My GF is 23 years younger than me.

 

I asked her once what she would do, if I started going poopy in my trousers. Her response was " No problem. I can do".

Same age bracket? how many 70/80 yr old ozzies in  retirment living do u.know of having 50/60 yr.old  partners? Odd comment but! 

[Lacessit]

2 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

i hope you have taken care of her when you pass on, some dodgy farang do nothing, lady only finds out after death

I have. She will inherit enough to ensure she can live comfortably for the rest of her life.

[Lacessit]

2 minutes ago, Olmate said:

Same age bracket? how many 70/80 yr old ozzies in  retirment living do u.know of having 50/60 yr.old  partners? Odd comment but! 

Perhaps you don't understand my situation. My GF is Thai. Relationships between old Westerners and younger Thais are as common as traffic cones.

 

You're right, it would be impossible in Oz except for some very rich people with trophy wives.

[retarius]

31 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

It depends who else would take care of you. 😉 

 

This girl looks underage and that's a nasty looking syringe she has there.