Did I -Tell- you * correction..

almost didn't recognize you there popcorn! Cute new avatar

Well, eek, I think that it is nice to keep that going in a relationship but in the long term is impossible. And, at least for me, I would find it a tad annoying to have to act with someone who is supposed to love me for me. Of course, I am coming up on my 19th wedding anniversary so take it all with a grain of salt.

almost didn't recognize you there popcorn! Cute new avatar

Well, eek, I think that it is nice to keep that going in a relationship but in the long term is impossible. And, at least for me, I would find it a tad annoying to have to act with someone who is supposed to love me for me. Of course, I am coming up on my 19th wedding anniversary so take it all with a grain of salt.

Time to move to a SBK/POPCORN/KAT forum ???

The ladies forum is a fairly tightly knit forum amongst us ladies, chaimai. Something to bear in mind when posting here

The ladies forum is a fairly tightly knit forum amongst us ladies, chaimai. Something to bear in mind when posting here

Yep. Fair comment - think I lost I lost my way. I shall retreat to the testosterone world of "The Don" and his like

If nothing else I am a man who knows my place - and, clearly, the Ladies Forum is not my place. Ladies, have a nice day.

guys are, of course, welcome to post, assuming they can keep it polite and reasonably well behaved

It's such a strange question and I don't know how to answer except to say that eye contact, as other posters have mentioned, is probably the most important thing. But recently I have been working with blind people and they have relationships so what does that mean then about eye contact? A feeling about a person, a natural instinct?

Personally I don't like the expression 'How do you make a move on a guy'

I'd prefer to flirt and the guy make a move on me

recently I have been working with blind people and they have relationships so what does that mean then about eye contact

that is interesting... you should ask them how they become interested in someone and how they indicate their interest! i wonder if their relationships tend to be more fulfilling since they are not based on outward appearance at all!

I am absolutely rubbish at accepting any attention from strangers. If someone chats me up and I have not had a crush on him first then he is just too keen. I am generally seen as rude when I go out as I cannot bear being bought drinks/chatted to etc by someone when I know they are just trying to get their leg over...even if they are not bad looking.

All of my relationships have come out of friendships. If someone is clever they will approach me as a friend, show absolutely no interest until we have established some chemistry and I start casting flirty glances...and then pounce. But if I do like someone who is a friend then I can be very flirty - eye contact mainly, but also laughing a lot, generally having a good time, showing a lot of interest in them when talking to them etc etc.