Why Are Asian Girls Interested In Western Boys?

[zaza]

Strange every time I read this thread's title; I imagine a white hunk with a halo "head" and a dozen asian beauties on their knees; worshiping the new god

[dseawarrior]

It has nothing to do with asian girls liking western boys heh. If you're a good looking guy with a lick of personality you can do well anywhere. I know a good looking black guy who bangs dozens of hot white women everynight in various countries in Europe while travelling. He's a hot commodity because a U.S. born and bred black male is a rarity there. By your metric then you could come to the conclusion that white women really love black boys.

Later that year I spent new years with his family and it was nice. They clearly tried to set me up with his wife's younger sister (she was about 22 and I was about 27). I dated her for about a month then I broke up. She looked ok, but she was far too arrogant and superficial for my taste. She could also kick dogs and cats if they came close to her

Maybe the reason why they were so eager to set her up with you was because she had the personality and charm of Osama Bin Laden and long since alienated the local guys.

Maybe the reason why they were so eager to set her up with you was because she had the personality and charm of Osama Bin Laden and long since alienated the local guys.

:D

[JimmyFoxx]

Thai women after your money. Hmmm.

Here's a simple solution. Early on in the dating process, make it clear that you are not rich, and, if anything, you have a less than average savings. If she walks, she can keep on walking.

That's your first round of elimination.

Once you get past that, move on to the next stage. On various occasions following dinner or drinks, don't pull out your wallet the moment the checkbin arrives. Some women pay for some things, or part of the bill, sometimes. Those women demonstrate that they don't just see you as a cash cow. I don't care how "poor" she is. Don't be a sucker.

Another great sign is when she buys YOU a present once in a while. It shows that she is willing to part with cash to make YOU feel better.

Now, you may suspect that even though she knows you're not rich, she is still with you because of your "earning potential". That's not so much of a big deal - that's an important factor for ALL women. But it has to go along with other, more important things. Like she has genuine feelings for you. That she has YOUR best interests at heart, as well as her own.

Finally, you may ask "maybe she just wants me so that she can get a passport/visa to my country?". Well, if you reached the stage in your relationship when you're considering taking her to your home country, you should really have no doubts whatsoever about. She would have proven herself to be geniune and trustworthy. If you ARE having doubts, address the issue or end the relationship. You should leave no questions unanswered.

[junki3korean]

shes after the paper!! or the visa, she aint care what you do cause the visa and paper is her main feature

her number 1 treasure!

Edited August 17, 2008 by junki3korean

[gonzobrains]

what kind of jobs did these chicks have?  hel_l, send them my way!

would you rather your girls worry about crop failures and sick buffalo?

jeff

Given that the OP has worked in Singapore I'm surprised he's not aware that this phenomenon is referred to at Singapore as 'The Pinkerton Syndrome' - Puccini anyone?! - It's a myth (but the Opera is wonderful).

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Money and power no doubt does play a part - as do personal circumstances and of course Charm, Looks and all the other armory love.

But come on be realistic - If you are a professional expat assigned in the Asian offices of a multinational you are probably earning 5~10 times the average salary back home and maybe 20+ times the average salary in your host country. You no doubt have more leave, more time off work, better accommodation, a better car and much of your life is expensed.

While it is without doubt many women will see you as a good catch on that basis - I think the bigger draw is your income lets you live a more 'attractive life' - doing more, opens more doors gives you more choices.

With all the opportunities this life style brings I'm in agreement with your Indonesian Boss - Why do guys living this life style and with all the doors open choose to go looking for women at the complete opposite end of the social spectrum?

My own theory on why this is so often the case is that middle class, well educated, well travelled Asian woman demands as much - if not more - of her boyfriend/husband as do their western sisters.

That a man is well educated, highly paid and in a powerful job is no indication that he can handle women on, or even near, his own level.

Some good thoughts. You could be right. Personally, I didn't feel as if I couldn't 'handle' the girls that I have dated that were definitely from more upper class families than me or in higher paid jobs than me. In those relationships it was me ending the relationships except for one. The stories from each relationship is different, but a common tread may be that I did find that life and those girls a bit too superficial and money mattered too much. When I say money meant too much, it wasn't that there was pressure on me. I, in general, felt welcome and a few times I was being aligned to have a great future in the family company. However, the topic of many conversations revolved around status and how 'we' were high status and so on.

[fearandhope]

hi ,

i was reading our message. i am also going to jakarta soon. now i live in singapore.

can u please give me some advises ? my email: [email protected]

regards.

sedat

[patklang]

handsome men may get the second look, but if they are jerks, then thats the last look they will get.

if a man is funny and a good conversationalist, then he will definitely get the third look from me, and most women i know. the more you know and like a man, the more handsome he becomes.

if a man is handsome, but doesnt have the manners/personality to go with it, then his looks quickly go downhill in my opinion.

as always donna you speak sense.some of these guys on here are so pompous its a miracle thye ever keep a woman.others think that probably 90% of the population cannot get women because they are not handsome,beggars belief sometimes of the nature of some men.no wonder ladies havent got a lot of respect for the male animal.

[patklang]

Thai women after your money. Hmmm.

Here's a simple solution. Early on in the dating process, make it clear that you are not rich, and, if anything, you have a less than average savings. If she walks, she can keep on walking.

That's your first round of elimination.

Once you get past that, move on to the next stage. On various occasions following dinner or drinks, don't pull out your wallet the moment the checkbin arrives. Some women pay for some things, or part of the bill, sometimes. Those women demonstrate that they don't just see you as a cash cow. I don't care how "poor" she is. Don't be a sucker.

Another great sign is when she buys YOU a present once in a while. It shows that she is willing to part with cash to make YOU feel better.

Now, you may suspect that even though she knows you're not rich, she is still with you because of your "earning potential". That's not so much of a big deal - that's an important factor for ALL women. But it has to go along with other, more important things. Like she has genuine feelings for you. That she has YOUR best interests at heart, as well as her own.

Finally, you may ask "maybe she just wants me so that she can get a passport/visa to my country?". Well, if you reached the stage in your relationship when you're considering taking her to your home country, you should really have no doubts whatsoever about. She would have proven herself to be geniune and trustworthy. If you ARE having doubts, address the issue or end the relationship. You should leave no questions unanswered.

wowwwwwwwwwww,you are such an expert on asian/any women,i am in awe of you.you must have had years of experience to teach us lol.

[benjamat]

handsome men may get the second look, but if they are jerks, then thats the last look they will get.

if a man is funny and a good conversationalist, then he will definitely get the third look from me, and most women i know. the more you know and like a man, the more handsome he becomes.

if a man is handsome, but doesnt have the manners/personality to go with it, then his looks quickly go downhill in my opinion.

Exactly. Looks, personality etc.

Some men in here (and they may have had so many negative experiences that they really feel Asian women are only after $, but I sometimes wonder wheter some posters trying to come of as westerners are in reality jaloux Thai guys ....) think that (based on their own experiences with Thai women that Thai women don't like western guy for anything but $. In other words looks, personality etc etc. does not matter.

Maybe this is their experience - in which case I am sorry - or maybe it is their excuse to not do any wortout and have a lacking personality etc.? Either way it is wrong, Asian women are not that different to other women in the world and will appreciate a goodlooking guy with a great personality. And there is even a plus for being caucasian, exotic and different. But as we already discussed, IF you are in fact unattractive - yes, then the women you can get may well be there for the money. And in that case those are the experiences you will get.

Im not sure why there is surprise at many of the negative responses here. When I am with the missus I rarely spend much time on the net and I am sure it is the same with others. So if you spend much time here either you are single for some reason or have a sad idea about what life should be. If you have found the right woman it is far less likely you will be here.