Getting In Contact With Someone In Bkk

[johnsuksoi4]

Hello good people,

I would like to make contact with someone whom I met in a bar in bkk last night. First off, let me state - I am not a love sick farang looking for "my girlfriend" or anything of the sort, and there is nothing of a "sexual" nature involved here. I know my motives will be questioned, hence by way of a brief explanation it is simply this. I got chatting to a girl in a bar - seeing as she "served" me - on suk soi 4 (shouldn't take too much to guess which one) - we had a really good chat and were quite friendly etc. and having had a few drinks too many I made some promises (nothing serious - finanacial or otherwise). I promised to return to make good on those promises, and between "this and that" I was not able to return.

Lets just say I felt compelled to offer her some "career" advice. In my past I have been a patron of such bars, but I have reformed my ways and now have a wife and 3 children. But this girl was just nice and genuine, pretty and smart, quite sincere, and did not seem to "belong" there..... I made a few suggestions of how she might "break free" of the chains, as it were, and offered to advise & help her as to how she might do that (which doesn't include the sick buffaloe routine, etc.). I now feel compelled to at least offer to fulfill some of that promise, and in order to do I need to call her / email her / whatever........ odds are I'm wasting my time, but over the years I've seen many a genuinely nice girl "hardened" by their line of work - I've helped a couple of others, and would like to do the same here, if I could. We parted platonically, near closing time - and I lost her details...... she is now thinking "muppet farang - full of sh!t kust like the rest that pass through" - and aside from a desire to keep my word, this will just be another blow to her fiath in humanity, and only drive her further down the path shes already on.......

Now - mellowdramitcs and the like aside - I would simply like to contact this person. I know her first name (nickname of course) and where she is from, and the bar she works in. I don't need "stickman PI" to track her down and take photo's and "catch" her with other men etc. etc. I'd just like her number OR email. If anyone should know a "convenient" way of doing this I would be much obliged if you could advise by PM or otherwise. If anyone "frequents" the bars on suk soi 4, and felt inclined to just ask at the bar for this girl and get her number, that would be even more appreciated.

Many thanks,

John (and yes, John is my name).

Edited September 21, 2008 by johnsuksoi4

[RakJungTorlae]

Hello good people,

I would like to make contact with someone whom I met in a bar in bkk last night. First off, let me state - I am not a love sick farang looking for "my girlfriend" or anything of the sort, and there is nothing of a "sexual" nature involved here. I know my motives will be questioned, hence by way of a brief explanation it is simply this. I got chatting to a girl in a bar - seeing as she "served" me - on suk soi 4 (shouldn't take too much to guess which one) - we had a really good chat and were quite friendly etc. and having had a few drinks too many I made some promises (nothing serious - finanacial or otherwise). I promised to return to make good on those promises, and between "this and that" I was not able to return.

Lets just say I felt compelled to offer her some "career" advice. In my past I have been a patron of such bars, but I have reformed my ways and now have a wife and 3 children. But this girl was just nice and genuine, pretty and smart, quite sincere, and did not seem to "belong" there..... I made a few suggestions of how she might "break free" of the chains, as it were, and offered to advise & help her as to how she might do that (which doesn't include the sick buffaloe routine, etc.). I now feel compelled to at least offer to fulfill some of that promise, and in order to do I need to call her / email her / whatever........ odds are I'm wasting my time, but over the years I've seen many a genuinely nice girl "hardened" by their line of work - I've helped a couple of others, and would like to do the same here, if I could. We parted platonically, near closing time - and I lost her details...... she is now thinking "muppet farang - full of sh!t kust like the rest that pass through" - and aside from a desire to keep my word, this will just be another blow to her fiath in humanity, and only drive her further down the path shes already on.......

Now - mellowdramitcs and the like aside - I would simply like to contact this person. I know her first name (nickname of course) and where she is from, and the bar she works in. I don't need "stickman PI" to track her down and take photo's and "catch" her with other men etc. etc. I'd just like her number OR email. If anyone should know a "convenient" way of doing this I would be much obliged if you could advise by PM or otherwise. If anyone "frequents" the bars on suk soi 4, and felt inclined to just ask at the bar for this girl and get her number, that would be even more appreciated.

Many thanks,

John (and yes, John is my name).

Grow some balls and do it your self Freak.

[johnsuksoi4]

Hello good people,

I would like to make contact with someone whom I met in a bar in bkk last night. First off, let me state - I am not a love sick farang looking for "my girlfriend" or anything of the sort, and there is nothing of a "sexual" nature involved here. I know my motives will be questioned, hence by way of a brief explanation it is simply this. I got chatting to a girl in a bar - seeing as she "served" me - on suk soi 4 (shouldn't take too much to guess which one) - we had a really good chat and were quite friendly etc. and having had a few drinks too many I made some promises (nothing serious - finanacial or otherwise). I promised to return to make good on those promises, and between "this and that" I was not able to return.

Lets just say I felt compelled to offer her some "career" advice. In my past I have been a patron of such bars, but I have reformed my ways and now have a wife and 3 children. But this girl was just nice and genuine, pretty and smart, quite sincere, and did not seem to "belong" there..... I made a few suggestions of how she might "break free" of the chains, as it were, and offered to advise & help her as to how she might do that (which doesn't include the sick buffaloe routine, etc.). I now feel compelled to at least offer to fulfill some of that promise, and in order to do I need to call her / email her / whatever........ odds are I'm wasting my time, but over the years I've seen many a genuinely nice girl "hardened" by their line of work - I've helped a couple of others, and would like to do the same here, if I could. We parted platonically, near closing time - and I lost her details...... she is now thinking "muppet farang - full of sh!t kust like the rest that pass through" - and aside from a desire to keep my word, this will just be another blow to her fiath in humanity, and only drive her further down the path shes already on.......

Now - mellowdramitcs and the like aside - I would simply like to contact this person. I know her first name (nickname of course) and where she is from, and the bar she works in. I don't need "stickman PI" to track her down and take photo's and "catch" her with other men etc. etc. I'd just like her number OR email. If anyone should know a "convenient" way of doing this I would be much obliged if you could advise by PM or otherwise. If anyone "frequents" the bars on suk soi 4, and felt inclined to just ask at the bar for this girl and get her number, that would be even more appreciated.

Many thanks,

John (and yes, John is my name).

Grow some balls and do it your self Freak.

Ok RakJungTorlae -

I neglected to mention in my original post that I am now about 10,000km away. I do not live in Bkk and it will be 2 months before I am there again - I would otherwise just call over there and get the girls number....... its no big deal, really.....

I hope that is why you believe I've got "no balls" and I am hoping that with that you will change your attitude, retract your statement, and just see that I am simply looking for a break here in order to help another human being for whom I feel a little sympathy and understanding.

I mean no offence to anyone here, and I would otherwise thank everyone not to be chastised for trying to be nice. I am under no illussions and if nothing else I would just like to make one phone call to let her know that she does matter, and that some people do make good on their promises..... how she receives that is her choice.

[Wrong Turn]

I neglected to mention in my original post that I am now about 10,000km away. I do not live in Bkk and it will be 2 months before I am there again - I would otherwise just call over there and get the girls number....... its no big deal, really.....

Here is what I do.

I do this for making new friends with interesting people I meet, and also networking.

I always have a few of my personal (not business) cards in my wallet with my name, telephone number, and most importantly, email address.

I politely offer to give someone my card (knowing hat 99% accept, and many will toss it, or never look me up.) But some some.

I ask some people on rare occasional for their email address.

Bars are bars, and people in bars are people in bars.

(However.....I did get a job from meeting guy in a bar once. And they job turned out to be very good.)

[Wrong Turn]

I neglected to mention in my original post that I am now about 10,000km away. I do not live in Bkk and it will be 2 months before I am there again - I would otherwise just call over there and get the girls number....... its no big deal, really.....

Here is what I do.

I do this for making new friends with interesting people I meet, and also networking.

I always have a few of my personal (not business) cards in my wallet with my name, telephone number, and most importantly, email address.

I politely offer to give someone my card (knowing hat 99% accept, and many will toss it, or never look me up.) But some some.

I ask some people on rare occasional for their email address.

Bars are bars, and people in bars are people in bars.

(However.....I did get a job from meeting guy in a bar once. And they job turned out to be very good.)

[johnsuksoi4]

I neglected to mention in my original post that I am now about 10,000km away. I do not live in Bkk and it will be 2 months before I am there again - I would otherwise just call over there and get the girls number....... its no big deal, really.....

Here is what I do.

I do this for making new friends with interesting people I meet, and also networking.

I always have a few of my personal (not business) cards in my wallet with my name, telephone number, and most importantly, email address.

I politely offer to give someone my card (knowing hat 99% accept, and many will toss it, or never look me up.) But some some.

I ask some people on rare occasional for their email address.

Bars are bars, and people in bars are people in bars.

(However.....I did get a job from meeting guy in a bar once. And they job turned out to be very good.)

That makes alot of sense - although I must be honest, I am not inclined to give people my details - I rather take theirs........ rarely, I would offer mine.... but very rarely....... In this case it was the reciprocal of sorts - I the name & number etc. on a piece of paper..... peice of paper ended up on the desk in hotel room..... along with 7-eleven receipts and the like...... in my haste checking out (a few things came up last minute), everything on the desk got thrown in the bin...... I only realised later - just before boarding the plane......

I tried to look up the number of the bar - but unless you speak good thai, it is sort of difficult......

Yes, I agree..... bars are bars, and people in bars are in people in bars...... and girls in bars - quite often are bar-girls.......

Anyway - it's not the end of the world - I'll probably be back in Bkk again in a few weeks - certainly before xmas, and I'll just pop in then if I have time (well I'll make time).

Strange really, I only ended up there by chance..... I got a cab from soi 55, and just asked for soi nana (a little bit under the influence).... he turned left onto soi 4, instead of right onto soi 3 where my hotel was (well you can't turn right onto nana nua - but you can take another soi that cuts back onto it half way down)..... rather than trying to explain between my crappy thai and his poor english I just got out and decided to walk - not long after the heavens opened and the rain poured down - so I poped into one of the "beer bars" to shelter, and had a beer..... and ended up having a few ....... it was also the same bar that I first went to the very first time I was in Bkk - about 8 or 9yrs ago..... so it sort of brought a smile to my face...... the irony and all that.......

[benjamat]

Hello good people,

I would like to make contact with someone whom I met in a bar in bkk last night. First off, let me state - I am not a love sick farang looking for "my girlfriend" or anything of the sort, and there is nothing of a "sexual" nature involved here. I know my motives will be questioned, hence by way of a brief explanation it is simply this. I got chatting to a girl in a bar - seeing as she "served" me - on suk soi 4 (shouldn't take too much to guess which one) - we had a really good chat and were quite friendly etc. and having had a few drinks too many I made some promises (nothing serious - finanacial or otherwise). I promised to return to make good on those promises, and between "this and that" I was not able to return.

Lets just say I felt compelled to offer her some "career" advice. In my past I have been a patron of such bars, but I have reformed my ways and now have a wife and 3 children. But this girl was just nice and genuine, pretty and smart, quite sincere, and did not seem to "belong" there..... I made a few suggestions of how she might "break free" of the chains, as it were, and offered to advise & help her as to how she might do that (which doesn't include the sick buffaloe routine, etc.). I now feel compelled to at least offer to fulfill some of that promise, and in order to do I need to call her / email her / whatever........ odds are I'm wasting my time, but over the years I've seen many a genuinely nice girl "hardened" by their line of work - I've helped a couple of others, and would like to do the same here, if I could. We parted platonically, near closing time - and I lost her details...... she is now thinking "muppet farang - full of sh!t kust like the rest that pass through" - and aside from a desire to keep my word, this will just be another blow to her fiath in humanity, and only drive her further down the path shes already on.......

Now - mellowdramitcs and the like aside - I would simply like to contact this person. I know her first name (nickname of course) and where she is from, and the bar she works in. I don't need "stickman PI" to track her down and take photo's and "catch" her with other men etc. etc. I'd just like her number OR email. If anyone should know a "convenient" way of doing this I would be much obliged if you could advise by PM or otherwise. If anyone "frequents" the bars on suk soi 4, and felt inclined to just ask at the bar for this girl and get her number, that would be even more appreciated.

Many thanks,

John (and yes, John is my name).

Grow some balls and do it your self Freak.

Rather than grow some I would suggest you grow up. I wonder why you are allowed to stay here with this angry and aggressive attitude.

Edited September 23, 2008 by benjamat

[Robski]

this girl was just nice and genuine, pretty and smart, quite sincere, and did not seem to "belong" there.....

Just give it a couple of months, she'll soon settle in.

[MrPot]

Mate are you some kind of dumb troll; don't you belong on Ajarn.com?; give the yourself a break and go find another girl. I found my love on Asoke road soi 23. Get down there and find another women who won't play the sweet games with you

Edited September 25, 2008 by MrPot

[johnsuksoi4]

Mate are you some kind of dumb troll; don't you belong on Ajarn.com?; give the yourself a break and go find another girl. I found my love on Asoke road soi 23. Get down there and find another women who won't play the sweet games with you

Genuinely, thank you for your concern - but honestly, its not needed....... I am married to a Thai woman, have been for a number of years > this is not a "sex" thing or anything daft like that........ I just had an honest good laugh with this girl, which believe it or not is possible...... obviously yes, if I wanted it to go the other way it would have - lets be brutal and honest about it - thats why she is there, to make money.......

As Robski said - "she'll soon settle in"....... which in is a shame..... once in a while certian things pluck a heart string through my otherwise frosty outer facade....... but there's no "notions of love" here - it ain't gonna happen mate - I love my wife and kids and I'm happy with them, and thats that..... I told this person all about my family, showed her the pics on my phone..... etc etc. and bluntly told out her straight that I would not be "going home" with her..... she was happy to sit there, chat away, buzzing around (sipping drinks on my tab mind you)..... we discussed lots - including her "job", which surprisingly she does not like....... I wonder why that is??? From there, without going into details, all I suggested to this girl was that there are safer, nicer, better paid ways of turning a few quid without mixing it up with the forked tounge pro's that she shares the bar with...... I didn't say that in so many ways but rather implied it..... and I do not care to go into it any further than that........

Anyway - I know lots of people probably post on TV every day, speaking about "their friend" or some other third party ghost when they really mean to say "I have fell in love with a prostitute"...... poor bastards - dump trolls - which ever - not me

At this stage the original point of the post has been lost, however it is an interesting dialog which is why I'm perpetuating it