Child's Reaction To "half Caste"

[Dakhar]

Right now there is a topic regarding the "touching" of half children/child & the parents reaction to such treatment/activity.

I would like to hear some input regarding your child's reaction.

My son is 4 years old, and honestly he ignores the attention and I can tell that he finds it anoying. He gets tired of hearing the same questions..

"Do you speak Thai?" etc

I kind of worry about the long term effect that this can have on him.

I ask him, "Do you want to talk to them..."

He just shakes his head "No"

[rakchaingmai]

my little girl is to young to know yet .

but im getting really bored with the thai's as she is sleeping and they still want to touch her skin after it has took me 2 hours to settle her .

now i know how famous people feel but they get lots of money for the privalige.

when we go to the shopping centre tho i don't mind .

[Heng]

I don't have a luk krung but have plenty of luk krung friends. Some balanced, some not. IMO those who will have issues are the ones who aren't able to identify with both or either cultural backgrounds that they have, almost existing in a limbo state. It's worse when there's a broken home type situation thrown in. YMMV.

[Sabum]

One of the things that surprises me about you guys with half children is you don't worry about the effect THAI SOCIALISATION will have on your child. You can do your best to raise the child after your ideals but they are going to be surrounded by Thainess day after day for their entire youth and it will effect them. I would never in a million years expose my child to that, if they had to grow up in Thailand I would literally segregate them from the rest of society lol.

This is what I am talking about: Thais tell a beautiful child they are beautiful, CONSTANTLY. Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

[qualtrough]

One of the things that surprises me about you guys with half children is you don't worry about the effect THAI SOCIALISATION will have on your child. You can do your best to raise the child after your ideals but they are going to be surrounded by Thainess day after day for their entire youth and it will effect them. I would never in a million years expose my child to that, if they had to grow up in Thailand I would literally segregate them from the rest of society lol.

This is what I am talking about: Thais tell a beautiful child they are beautiful, CONSTANTLY. Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

So you would segregate your children from Thai society, such is your dislike of 'Thainess', and you find the attractive Thai women you have dated less than human as they don't see things the way a 'regular' person would. Why in the world would you want to continue to expose yourself to such a dreadful place, even if only through a Web-based forum? The only answer I can think of is that misery loves company, since you are not the only Thai-phobic misanthrope to waste electrons here.

[Neeranam]

I don't have a luk krung but have plenty of luk krung friends. Some balanced, some not. IMO those who will have issues are the ones who aren't able to identify with both or either cultural backgrounds that they have, almost existing in a limbo state. It's worse when there's a broken home type situation thrown in. YMMV.

One reason I wouldn't put my kids to an International School.

[Texpat]

I find the term luk krung offensive.

I have two children that are of mixed race. Both born in Japan, where the locals always refered to them as "half," much like Thailand.

They have two languages, two cultures, two countries, two everything...

There's nothing half about them.

They're double.

Edited April 25, 2009 by Texpat

[TheWalkingMan]

I find the term luk krung offensive.

I have two children that are of mixed race. Both born in Japan, where the locals always refered to them as "half," much like Thailand.

They have two languages, two cultures, two countries, two everything...

There's nothing half about them.

They're double.

Yeah, sometimes mixed children in Japan are called "doubles".

[Sabum]

One of the things that surprises me about you guys with half children is you don't worry about the effect THAI SOCIALISATION will have on your child. You can do your best to raise the child after your ideals but they are going to be surrounded by Thainess day after day for their entire youth and it will effect them. I would never in a million years expose my child to that, if they had to grow up in Thailand I would literally segregate them from the rest of society lol.

This is what I am talking about: Thais tell a beautiful child they are beautiful, CONSTANTLY. Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

So you would segregate your children from Thai society, such is your dislike of 'Thainess', and you find the attractive Thai women you have dated less than human as they don't see things the way a 'regular' person would. Why in the world would you want to continue to expose yourself to such a dreadful place, even if only through a Web-based forum? The only answer I can think of is that misery loves company, since you are not the only Thai-phobic misanthrope to waste electrons here.

Yup, theres a lot of good things about Thailand but this particular Thai trait aint one of them, they ruin certain children and turn them into monsters with the nonstop special treatment. Oh good on you telling me basically "if you dont like it go home"... you apologists have only one tune.....

[Thai at Heart]

One of the things that surprises me about you guys with half children is you don't worry about the effect THAI SOCIALISATION will have on your child. You can do your best to raise the child after your ideals but they are going to be surrounded by Thainess day after day for their entire youth and it will effect them. I would never in a million years expose my child to that, if they had to grow up in Thailand I would literally segregate them from the rest of society lol.

This is what I am talking about: Thais tell a beautiful child they are beautiful, CONSTANTLY. Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

Surely the aim is for them to learn the best of both Thainess and relevant farangness. They can't deny that they are half thai can they? I for one, have never heard friends or family constantly saying my kids are beautiful or handsome, even though it is obvious to me that they will probably grow up the be good looking kids. They have to find a way to belong, and I would hope that my kids will grow a sense of self worth and belonging here that goes beyond the body beautiful. I would suggest that dating models in Thailand or any country of the world may not give you a true perspective of humanity. I wouldn't go to Naomi Campbell to find out the price of eggs; would you? There is an awful lot more to Thailand than cocktails with a model on your arm in Scirocco.

If you want I can pair you up with a couple of my wife's aunts. I am sure they would love to show you around a bit and give you a true Thai experience in every way.

Edited April 25, 2009 by Thai at Heart

[Sabum]

There is an awful lot more to Thailand than cocktails with a model on your arm in Scirocco.

If you want I can pair you up with a couple of my wife's aunts. I am sure they would love to show you around a bit and give you a true Thai experience in every way.

Hehehehe well you don't often hear that in reference to Thailand lol. Normally it's "there's more to Thailand than beers with an Isaan hooker on your arm."

Beautiful ( and I mean real beautiful not farm face beautiful to some falang that just got off the boat) women here simply have horrible personalities, and I'm pretty sure it comes from all of Thai society constantly fawning over them. Alot of half Thai kids are obviously beautiful (not their daddy can tell that one day his little precious is going to be beautiful lol) and they get the kind of constant attention and preferential treatment that is going to make them completely self absorbed and clueless about real life. I didnt say this was my opinion of Thailand, just my opinion of (Thai perspective) beautiful women that grow up here. I don't need to meet your wifes aunts....

[Texpat]

I just finished watching three hours of Thai soaps with my wife.

The hiso glamor dolls constantly smack the Issan slaves and lie to their boyfriends and husbands.

Must be true.

[Thai at Heart]

There is an awful lot more to Thailand than cocktails with a model on your arm in Scirocco.

If you want I can pair you up with a couple of my wife's aunts. I am sure they would love to show you around a bit and give you a true Thai experience in every way.

Hehehehe well you don't often hear that in reference to Thailand lol. Normally it's "there's more to Thailand than beers with an Isaan hooker on your arm."

Beautiful ( and I mean real beautiful not farm face beautiful to some falang that just got off the boat) women here simply have horrible personalities, and I'm pretty sure it comes from all of Thai society constantly fawning over them. Alot of half Thai kids are obviously beautiful (not their daddy can tell that one day his little precious is going to be beautiful lol) and they get the kind of constant attention and preferential treatment that is going to make them completely self absorbed and clueless about real life. I didnt say this was my opinion of Thailand, just my opinion of (Thai perspective) beautiful women that grow up here. I don't need to meet your wifes aunts....

Well I think we will agree to disagree, but models the world over aren't a very good reference point for evaluating normal behaviour. Good looking girls the world can wield a power over men that is universal and this can lead to some quite bizarre behaviour and attitudes. I have been in a couple of restaurants in Ekaamai when a few look kreung pop stars have popped in and I have to say they were pretty normally behaved. But then what does Ekaamai have to do with Thailand per se anyway? I was fortunate enough to go to school with a couple of enormously wealthy Thai kids in the UK and to see them being put in their place and knowing where they are today was the making of them (and they admit it too).

I think it is important for kids to understand where they come from, and parents need to keep them grounded. I have seen some teenagers chided beyond belief by expats when they come to play club sports in Bangkok and the driver carries their bag. I think the worst policy of all would be to lock my kids away from friends and family. Far better to let them swim than be carried above the water like little angels and that wouldn't be different anywhere in the world. If they are obnoxious it will be largely my fault, and hopefully someone will bop them on the nose one day and deflate their little bubble if it comes to that.

I would suggest treat em mean and keep them keen as a better policy when it comes to models.

Edited April 25, 2009 by Thai at Heart

[Maigo6]

I don't have a luk krung but have plenty of luk krung friends. Some balanced, some not. IMO those who will have issues are the ones who aren't able to identify with both or either cultural backgrounds that they have, almost existing in a limbo state. It's worse when there's a broken home type situation thrown in. YMMV.

One reason I wouldn't put my kids to an International School.

Yet the main reason is you couldn't afford it even if you wanted to, right ?

You can't keep exotic Japanese sports cars and give your kids a chance of a decent education on a teachers salary .

Edited April 25, 2009 by Maigo6

[Crushdepth]

Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

a) I think they treat children very well regardless of what they look like and maybe they didn't like you Mr Model Dater. If anyone is an alien around here, chances are that it is you.

[Maigo6]

Yup, theres a lot of good things about Thailand but this particular Thai trait aint one of them, they ruin certain children and turn them into monsters with the nonstop special treatment. Oh good on you telling me basically "if you dont like it go home"... you apologists have only one tune.....

I'll tell ya something mate, you should go home actually.

All you do is whine about how fawkin hard you life is in the country you CHOOSE to be in. So, are you that stupid you don't realise there is an airport and hundreds of other places to go ?

You have a passport I assume, so pizz off to greener pastures, it ain't rocket science is it !!!!

Or do you need a 3rd world country to try to make your owm miserable self look better when you compare yourself with the natives, if you return to your own country you are exactly the same as when you left, NOTHING!!!!

I actually feel sorry for you, yet you certainly don't deserve it.

[Sabum]

Yup, theres a lot of good things about Thailand but this particular Thai trait aint one of them, they ruin certain children and turn them into monsters with the nonstop special treatment. Oh good on you telling me basically "if you dont like it go home"... you apologists have only one tune.....

I'll tell ya something mate, you should go home actually.

All you do is whine about how fawkin hard you life is in the country you CHOOSE to be in. So, are you that stupid you don't realise there is an airport and hundreds of other places to go ?

You have a passport I assume, so pizz off to greener pastures, it ain't rocket science is it !!!!

Or do you need a 3rd world country to try to make your owm miserable self look better when you compare yourself with the natives, if you return to your own country you are exactly the same as when you left, NOTHING!!!!

I actually feel sorry for you, yet you certainly don't deserve it.

Hey Maigo hows it going. I aint on vacation Maigo, nor am I standing around all old and fugly wearing a stretched out wife beater and sandals waiting to go to the bars every night. I work and my commitments to my work are pretty solid, yes, guess I could CHOOSE to quit but that would be stupid. When I leave Thailand I wouldn't be going home, I'd be relocating for work. My life is not hard. Never said that. I like all your insults lol, you say the same thing to everybody. My own miserable life? I'm nothing? At least insult me on stuff you know, not what makes you feel better about your own drab little life... hehe back at ya buddy!

[Maizefarmer]

Right now there is a topic regarding the "touching" of half children/child & the parents reaction to such treatment/activity.

I would like to hear some input regarding your child's reaction.

My son is 4 years old, and honestly he ignores the attention and I can tell that he finds it anoying. He gets tired of hearing the same questions..

"Do you speak Thai?" etc

I kind of worry about the long term effect that this can have on him.

I ask him, "Do you want to talk to them..."

He just shakes his head "No"

I'm sorry to hear that this has been your experiance.

Its perceived by many parents to be more of an issue than it actually is - for my kids - and for their friends - its being a non-issue.

But kids will be kids, and yes they can be cruel with the things they say - but thats nothing unique to Thai children.

How kids respond to comments about their racial mix, or situations in which their ability and identity is highlighted (however subtle it is), is about how they have been brought up to understand and relate to the subject, and their charcter/personality.

It was something the wife and I were very worried about when our son was born (and agin when our daughter was born) - we went to great length to instill in both of them a strong sense of self confidence. That seems to have worked - it was something I don't think they have been concious of - but if it was, it was postive in the sense that it was a motivation for them to strive to be one up on the Thai kids: for my son it was easy - his size gave him the upper hand (almost all Thai kids his age were a lot smaller than him - so they kept their mouths shut), for my daughter it's about doing her dam_n best in class to beat her peers.

I think a strong sense of self confidence will go along way to helping him deal with the issue

[Maigo6]

Hey Maigo hows it going.

Fine thanks mate, how are you ?

[Heng]

Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does.

I don't know a lot of actresses and models, at least none in the top or even middle tiers, but IMO that's about par for anyone whose spent much of life removed from general society. As even those who've done a handful of shows or have been in just a few commercials are kinda the same. Nothing strange about it. I'd bet your average pro-athlete approached in a supermarket probably expects that you're asking for an autograph and not asking what the best fabric softener is.

The 'normal' kids at my fairly upper end of Austin public school in Texas were pretty much the same. No one goes to the bad part of town, which relatively speaking is the rest of town other than our school district, downtown, and the sporting facilities of the other schools in our area. Being "regular" is way overrated.

Edited April 25, 2009 by Heng

[WinnieTheKhwai]

Summary: Yet another attempt to pick a translation of a Thai word/term and try to find it offensive, triggering a political correctness campaign or further fuel the idea that Thais are racist or slander Thailand otherwise.

Clue: 'Krueng' might as well be translated as 'shared', '50-50', 'in equal parts', or an abbreviation for 'half Thai', but no, we pick 'half person' or even the outrageous 'half-caste' (where does that suddenly come from?!) and then decide we want to be offended. The perennial 'Farang' word discussion is another excellent example.

Jesus F. C.

Sorry but I have very little patience for people wanting to start political correctness campaigns on a language they don't even fully master.

( Note: I'm NOT a person who would say 'well you know where the airport is' at people who voice sometimes very valid criticism of certain things in Thailand; when you have an investment either personal or business in Thailand then you have the right to speak out and address issues.

However if I personally ever reach the stage where I'd want to 'shield and segregate my family' from the culture I chose to live in, then I hope I will have the presence of mind to realize that I'm in the wrong place. )

Edited April 26, 2009 by WinnieTheKhwai

[ernest1966]

bitchfight or what, maybe some of the 'males' on here are really lady boys ?

just a thought

[WinnieTheKhwai]

Note: My previous post was a rant at some of the replies in this topic, not per se to the original poster who voiced a valid concern to him.

My son is 4 years old, and honestly he ignores the attention and I can tell that he finds it anoying. He gets tired of hearing the same questions..

"Do you speak Thai?" etc

I kind of worry about the long term effect that this can have on him.

I ask him, "Do you want to talk to them..."

He just shakes his head "No"

My daughter is sometimes like that, though I recognize it as a slight shyness problem with strangers. Which is good up to a part, but in all honesty to function in a society you need to learn to take things in stride and respond in a sociable manner. If you actively or subconsciously discourage interaction with people who have no other agenda than to have a friendly chat / banter with your kid then that will further fuel his mindset to shut himself out.

Realistically, here we have a society that by and large ADORES half-Western children/people, and still we find a way to turn it into a bad thing. Like I said in the other topic, every situation is different and there is such a thing as inappropriate attention. But by and large, EVERY person / child has things that make him unique in a positive and sometimes in a negative sense. Growing up is the process of learning to deal with those things and use strengths to our advantage and mitigate or eliminate the weaknesses.

Also, a big part of Thai culture is giving compliments, being nice, and praising people also for insignificant things. This is a place where you can tell a (near) total stranger she's beautiful and have it be appreciated! Please don't try to change that.

Edited April 26, 2009 by WinnieTheKhwai

[CHINWA]

One of the things that surprises me about you guys with half children is you don't worry about the effect THAI SOCIALISATION will have on your child. You can do your best to raise the child after your ideals but they are going to be surrounded by Thainess day after day for their entire youth and it will effect them. I would never in a million years expose my child to that, if they had to grow up in Thailand I would literally segregate them from the rest of society lol.

This is what I am talking about: Thais tell a beautiful child they are beautiful, CONSTANTLY. Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

SABUN,

Just read your post and could't desagree more with your comments.... Who ever you dated and how beautiful they were the question remains; did they had the right education at home or the first priority of the parents was to introduce them to the model agencies in a way to support their parents habits? It is a fact that all half caste children are adored by the Thai people but it is not for their beauty only but for their brains and education... This is not a concern to me, also father, as I am sure that both me and my wife give our child the right education and more important, to let them know that beauty is not only on their faces but on their minds and this is the reason their treated as VERY SPECIAL CHILDREN. Woud it be better to bring them to your country? I, personally don't agree. Believe me, children have the right to be happy and proud of being called special but the in the end it is the obligation of the parents to guide them through success. In Thailand there are many of failure among the haf caste children but you should probably pay a visit to the model agencies analyse the behaviour of their parents; these people pray for their children to get a job as a model in a simple commercial. For the above, I wouldn't blaim the Thai society but the parents and the only ones worried about their chindren's future are those who's parental guindenseis less thab expected.

Thanks

[CHINWA]

One of the things that surprises me about you guys with half children is you don't worry about the effect THAI SOCIALISATION will have on your child. You can do your best to raise the child after your ideals but they are going to be surrounded by Thainess day after day for their entire youth and it will effect them. I would never in a million years expose my child to that, if they had to grow up in Thailand I would literally segregate them from the rest of society lol.

This is what I am talking about: Thais tell a beautiful child they are beautiful, CONSTANTLY. Everyone will always say the same thing, and then theres the touching and fawning and treating your daughter/son like a like god and always reasuring him/her that they are special and better than everyone else. Let me tell you, I've dated beautiful women in this country (actresses. models) they are NOT human. Their personality is akin to an alien, they just don't see reality the way a regular person does. All their life people treated them like they were better than everyone else, they turned out lousy.

SABUN,

Just read your post and could't desagree more with your comments.... Who ever you dated and how beautiful they were the question remains; did they had the right education at home or the first priority of the parents was to introduce them to the model agencies in a way to support their parents habits? It is a fact that all half caste children are adored by the Thai people but it is not for their beauty only but for their brains and education... This is not a concern to me, also father, as I am sure that both me and my wife give our child the right education and more important, to let them know that beauty is not only on their faces but on their minds and this is the reason their treated as VERY SPECIAL CHILDREN. Woud it be better to bring them to your country? I, personally don't agree. Believe me, children have the right to be happy and proud of being called special but the in the end it is the obligation of the parents to guide them through success. In Thailand there are many of failure among the haf caste children but you should probably pay a visit to the model agencies analyse the behaviour of their parents; these people pray for their children to get a job as a model in a simple commercial. For the above, I wouldn't blaim the Thai society but the parents and the only ones worried about their chindren's future are those who's parental guindenseis less thab expected.

Thanks

[CHINWA]

Summary: Yet another attempt to pick a translation of a Thai word/term and try to find it offensive, triggering a political correctness campaign or further fuel the idea that Thais are racist or slander Thailand otherwise.

Clue: 'Krueng' might as well be translated as 'shared', '50-50', 'in equal parts', or an abbreviation for 'half Thai', but no, we pick 'half person' or even the outrageous 'half-caste' (where does that suddenly come from?!) and then decide we want to be offended. The perennial 'Farang' word discussion is another excellent example.

Jesus F. C.

Sorry but I have very little patience for people wanting to start political correctness campaigns on a language they don't even fully master.

( Note: I'm NOT a person who would say 'well you know where the airport is' at people who voice sometimes very valid criticism of certain things in Thailand; when you have an investment either personal or business in Thailand then you have the right to speak out and address

EXCELLENT COMMENT/REPLY... could express myself better

Edited April 26, 2009 by CHINWA

[Westerner]

Note: My previous post was a rant at some of the replies in this topic, not per se to the original poster who voiced a valid concern to him.

My son is 4 years old, and honestly he ignores the attention and I can tell that he finds it anoying. He gets tired of hearing the same questions..

"Do you speak Thai?" etc

I kind of worry about the long term effect that this can have on him.

I ask him, "Do you want to talk to them..."

He just shakes his head "No"

My daughter is sometimes like that, though I recognize it as a slight shyness problem with strangers. Which is good up to a part, but in all honesty to function in a society you need to learn to take things in stride and respond in a sociable manner. If you actively or subconsciously discourage interaction with people who have no other agenda than to have a friendly chat / banter with your kid then that will further fuel his mindset to shut himself out.

Realistically, here we have a society that by and large ADORES half-Western children/people, and still we find a way to turn it into a bad thing. Like I said in the other topic, every situation is different and there is such a thing as inappropriate attention. But by and large, EVERY person / child has things that make him unique in a positive and sometimes in a negative sense. Growing up is the process of learning to deal with those things and use strengths to our advantage and mitigate or eliminate the weaknesses.

Also, a big part of Thai culture is giving compliments, being nice, and praising people also for insignificant things. This is a place where you can tell a (near) total stranger she's beautiful and have it be appreciated! Please don't try to change that.

I absolutely disagree. In schools I find the Thai teachers pay far more attention to full Thai children than they do to Luk Krueng children. Also, I never see any Luk Krueng people working anywhere (hotels, hospitals, banks, supermarkets etc.) which leads me to believe that full Thai people get the jobs and not people of mixed race.

[CHINWA]

Right now there is a topic regarding the "touching" of half children/child & the parents reaction to such treatment/activity.

I would like to hear some input regarding your child's reaction.

My son is 4 years old, and honestly he ignores the attention and I can tell that he finds it anoying. He gets tired of hearing the same questions..

"Do you speak Thai?" etc

I kind of worry about the long term effect that this can have on him.

I ask him, "Do you want to talk to them..."

He just shakes his head "No"

Was your child born here??? if so I am sorry to say but I don't think he has a problem with that but you do and if you plan to live here I am sure you want your child to speak the local language... is the last that can be asked to someone who was born or raised in a foreign country... Does the father speak????

I am sorry to say but, there are comments in this blog that are ridiculous as this one and this blog could be used for other more important matters different than looking for suggestions on how to raise a child. As a father one must be ready to face all challenges and it seems that you are not.

Edited April 26, 2009 by CHINWA

[CHINWA]

I find the term luk krung offensive.

I have two children that are of mixed race. Both born in Japan, where the locals always refered to them as "half," much like Thailand.

They have two languages, two cultures, two countries, two everything...

There's nothing half about them.

They're double.

why don't you go back???? why suffer here were they call them luk krung? are them children of a Japanese or Thai couple? if not, your problem is solved, they really are mixed race and don't you worry the term luk krung is not offensive....

[CHINWA]

Note: My previous post was a rant at some of the replies in this topic, not per se to the original poster who voiced a valid concern to him.

My son is 4 years old, and honestly he ignores the attention and I can tell that he finds it anoying. He gets tired of hearing the same questions..

"Do you speak Thai?" etc

I kind of worry about the long term effect that this can have on him.

I ask him, "Do you want to talk to them..."

He just shakes his head "No"

My daughter is sometimes like that, though I recognize it as a slight shyness problem with strangers. Which is good up to a part, but in all honesty to function in a society you need to learn to take things in stride and respond in a sociable manner. If you actively or subconsciously discourage interaction with people who have no other agenda than to have a friendly chat / banter with your kid then that will further fuel his mindset to shut himself out.

Realistically, here we have a society that by and large ADORES half-Western children/people, and still we find a way to turn it into a bad thing. Like I said in the other topic, every situation is different and there is such a thing as inappropriate attention. But by and large, EVERY person / child has things that make him unique in a positive and sometimes in a negative sense. Growing up is the process of learning to deal with those things and use strengths to our advantage and mitigate or eliminate the weaknesses.

Also, a big part of Thai culture is giving compliments, being nice, and praising people also for insignificant things. This is a place where you can tell a (near) total stranger she's beautiful and have it be appreciated! Please don't try to change that.

I absolutely disagree. In schools I find the Thai teachers pay far more attention to full Thai children than they do to Luk Krueng children. Also, I never see any Luk Krueng people working anywhere (hotels, hospitals, banks, supermarkets etc.) which leads me to believe that full Thai people get the jobs and not people of mixed race.

You should go to the model agencies and find out where the parents spend their miserable days... praying for their kids to be accepted as a model or participant in some stupid TV commercial which will grant them at least 1 year survival. Of course they are not working in decent places like hotels hospitals banks or supermarkets because instead of being in school their parents decided to investe on the easy way; running all day beetwin model agencies to grant a larger amount of money in the shortest period of time. The future of the child??? who cares!!!!!!!!!!!!