For My 1000 Post I'll Ask A Question

[a2396]

I would find it very hard to stay completely in love with one person if there was no sex involved

Kissing, cuddling, whatever... is also showing love. The actual "deed" also.

Mine does great sex, but won't kiss & cuddle. Nedless to say, there is something missing in the relationship. I have found a fair number of Thai women who won't kiss & foreplay is unknown to them. Thai style is apparently to jump 'em & bang like rabbits & disconnect just as quickly.

[ozzieovaseas]

Ian, Just noticed in another post you mention your 69 years Old !

5 Ladies on the Go and two potentials ! What happened to the Pipe and Slippers Scenario ?

Good on yer

AHHH!!

so you're the magical number 69 Ian??

Even more cause to celebrate with two women

hehe

[Latindancer]

The word Love is a dangerous and create a lot of misunderstoods...like between thai people & farangs the sentence

"I miss you".

Could someone please explain this misunderstanding ( of the sentence : "I miss you" ), for those of us who are relatively new here ? ?

[ozzieovaseas]

The word Love is a dangerous and create a lot of misunderstoods...like between thai people & farangs the sentence

"I miss you".

Could someone please explain this misunderstanding ( of the sentence : "I miss you" ), for those of us who are relatively new here ? ?

maybe "i miss you" for a thai might be referring to "i missed seeing you" eg. if you'd made arrangements to meet but didnt show up,

as opposed to what "i miss you" means in typical english circumstances.

maybe??

[a2396]

The word Love is a dangerous and create a lot of misunderstoods...like between thai people & farangs the sentence

"I miss you".

Could someone please explain this misunderstanding ( of the sentence : "I miss you" ), for those of us who are relatively new here ? ?

I think some, if not many, Thais construe the meaning of "I miss U" to mean "I love you". Of course, taken literally the meanings are NOT the same. But, to Thais and their "fuzzy-wuzzy" language and vague ways of communicating, it is not hard to see how the phrase "I miss U" can get stretched. ...and wishfull thinking Farangs will also hope for the best --- she really loves me.

[ozzieovaseas]

The word Love is a dangerous and create a lot of misunderstoods...like between thai people & farangs the sentence

"I miss you".

Could someone please explain this misunderstanding ( of the sentence : "I miss you" ), for those of us who are relatively new here ? ?

I think some, if not many, Thais construe the meaning of "I miss U" to mean "I love you". Of course, taken literally the meanings are NOT the same. But, to Thais and their "fuzzy-wuzzy" language and vague ways of communicating, it is not hard to see how the phrase "I miss U" can get stretched. ...and wishfull thinking Farangs will also hope for the best --- she really loves me.

notwithstanding the fact that you can hear "I LUV YOO" shouted at you several times by as many women when walking a 500 metre stretch of Sukhumvhit.

I have even had guys yell it at me from motorbikes..YIKES!

I suspect its because their command of English may not be the best and they dont know the true meaning of the word as we understand it.

gotta luv em though!

[Datsun240Z]

I would find it very hard to stay completely in love with one person if there was no sex involved

Kissing, cuddling, whatever... is also showing love. The actual "deed" also.

Mine does great sex, but won't kiss & cuddle. Nedless to say, there is something missing in the relationship. I have found a fair number of Thai women who won't kiss & foreplay is unknown to them. Thai style is apparently to jump 'em & bang like rabbits & disconnect just as quickly.

Not really

[Birdman]

I would find it very hard to stay completely in love with one person if there was no sex involved

Kissing, cuddling, whatever... is also showing love. The actual "deed" also.

Mine does great sex, but won't kiss & cuddle. Nedless to say, there is something missing in the relationship. I have found a fair number of Thai women who won't kiss & foreplay is unknown to them. Thai style is apparently to jump 'em & bang like rabbits & disconnect just as quickly.

cxl

[WaiWai]

Latest copy of City Life (a free English language magazine available around Chiang Mai) is just out & has an article with a good overview of Thai attitudes, both male and female, on this topic.

The article is called "Perfect Women" and was written by James Austin Farrell.

You can read it online at chiangmainews.com/ecmn/viewfa.php?id=2586/

I am not an sponsor/friend/relative/gik or anything else of the author or the editor or the publisher of this magazine but I do recommend it as it usually has at least a few good feature articles -- worth a look.

[bungy007]

Our Catholic priest once said that love is infinite. There is no limit to your love. You may love your wife with all your heart, and love your son with all your heart. You may love your loyal pooch with all your heart and still have love left over of other people. This could include a second woman.

Question is - will that be alright with the missis?

Men it seems tend to be polygamous. It is my Catholic upbringing that makes demands on my remaining monogamous.

Arrrh , yes. Catholic priests. They may well demand that you be monongamous but they play by different rules when it comes to giving out their well known brand of 'love'

[Birdman]

I would find it very hard to stay completely in love with one person if there was no sex involved

Kissing, cuddling, whatever... is also showing love. The actual "deed" also.

Mine does great sex, but won't kiss & cuddle. Nedless to say, there is something missing in the relationship. I have found a fair number of Thai women who won't kiss & foreplay is unknown to them. Thai style is apparently to jump 'em & bang like rabbits & disconnect just as quickly.

No, only the ones who don't love their partners want to get over with it as quick as possible with as less touching as possible. Totally contrary to the ones who love and respect their partners.

[chuang]

Love thy neighbors as you love thy wife..

[Amir]

I don't think it is uncommon for Thai men to have a wife and a couple gf on the side. The wife usually knows it but for some reason accepts it. Hard to say if he really loves all of them, or just likes a change of pace.

Could you pleaaaassseee explain this to my wife...

[IanForbes]

Love thy neighbors as you love thy wife..

I know you are only joking... but.

Romance a little too close to home can be dangerous. That is why most "experts" recommend to NEVER get involved in an office romance. The chances are that most relationships have a limited life span and you certainly don't want to be around a pissed off neighbour or work mate who was a former lover.

[easethesqueeze]

cool post.

I would say the answer would be a definite YES as it happened to me before.

I fell in love with one lovely lady and then during an extended period of time that i was away from her on business i met another incredible lady and fell in love with her too!

It was really tricky to know what to do.

I was a victim of circumstance. If i hadn't had to leave the first lady behind i'm sure i would never have been in the situation where i would have become so intimate with another.

In the end i had to choose between them even though i didn't want to lose either one of them.

I figured love (if it's more than just a chemical reaction), is about trust, respect and honesty amongst other things and however strong i felt for them both "lying" to them or "withholding the truth" to someone i loved didn't seem like the right thing to do.

In the end i chose the one with the biggest tits. - just kidding.

I guess the question in this situation would have to be something like this...

If you GENUINELY love someone would you withhold information about yourself and your feelings that they really have a right to know about?

You should never lie to a loved one to protect their feelings, people deserve the truth however messed up it is. It's got to better than living a lie!

[Chaimai]

Great 1,000th post - congrats Ian.

Yes. Is, of course, the answer.

But, as 'easethesqueeze' (and others) have pointed out, at some point you have to make a decision/choice on who gets (all of) your heart.

This response is based entirely on standard Western thinking - if you can play it the Thai way then you will have absolutely no sense of responsibility and can play to your heart's content without any thought for the females involved

[suzy59]

I don't think having many wives equals loving many women. I think it's possible to have a genuine affection for many women/men, but you can only have the kind of love that lasts forever with one.

[MSingh]

It depends on what your interpretation of Love is because it varies massively between Western Culture & Thai Culture..

[easethesqueeze]

It depends on what your interpretation of Love is because it varies massively between Western Culture & Thai Culture..

would you care to elaborate?

[robblok]

A man can have as many relationships with women as he wishes, providing he has the funds to accommodate that sort of lifestyle.

Each lady is going expect 100% dedication to her and will not understand why the guy is unable to spend on her what she expects, because the guy has to spread his money between all his lovers.

My wife is middleaged now and has told me that she has no objections to me having a minor wife, or bits on the side, so to speak, on condition that I still support her and it doesn`t breakup the family.

So the answer is yes, a man can be in love with more than 1 woman, but the question is: does he have enough money for having the luxury of several women in his life?

If your old and ugly then its about money.. but when your in your prime and looking good its not all about money.

[tartempion]

Is it possible to love more than one woman at same time? Or, for that matter, is it possible for a woman to love more than one man at the same time?

Yes, I don't possibly see what could be wrong with that

I guess the bigots here disagree?

[MSingh]

It depends on what your interpretation of Love is because it varies massively between Western Culture & Thai Culture..

would you care to elaborate?

I think it's clear enough as it is & not Rocket Science...

[easethesqueeze]

It depends on what your interpretation of Love is because it varies massively between Western Culture & Thai Culture..

would you care to elaborate?

I think it's clear enough as it is & not Rocket Science...

it's not clear for me.