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[Ricksomchai]

ok let me see my gf is thai and we are engaged and she wants to come to the US to live how can i do this?

her family wants $15000 US or 500,000 tb this is way too much to marry her for. im only 28 so what can i do she says if we dont pay her family will never speak to her again.... well we cant have that... can we marry without them knowing? fill out the papers and return for the wedding? can we do this? also if there is any other way and you know please tell me. we cant wait for 10 years to pay her family to be together it just to long who can do that ???? i cant help please ???

[neverdie]

OP, shes either in on the deal or you are trolling

[Just1Voice]

You're being played, my friend. Sin Sot, the "price" for a wife, is usually around 100,000 baht (less than $3,000), but what they are asking is 5 times that. And you can bet the g/f is in on it as well. Like far to many Thai, they see a Farang, especially an American, and they see dollar signs and start making plans for a new, richer life. Tell them that 500,000 is way too much, and that you will only pay 100,00 at the most. If they balk at that, walk away. From them AND the g/f. Them saying that if you marry her and don't pay what they want, that they won't talk to her is all part of the game to make you feel guilty.

Too many times you see instances were a beautiful Thai girl is looking for her "green card", and doesn't really love the man she'll marry to get it. That's not true in every case, but from all the stats I've seen, as well as personal knowledge, it is the majority of cases.

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

[neverdie]

Before you post on this thread, you might want to read the rubbish from the other thread on this subject which was CLOSED.

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Girl-t282593...25&start=25

[venturalaw]

You're being played, my friend. Sin Sot, the "price" for a wife, is usually around 100,000 baht (less than $3,000), but what they are asking is 5 times that. And you can bet the g/f is in on it as well. Like far to many Thai, they see a Farang, especially an American, and they see dollar signs and start making plans for a new, richer life. Tell them that 500,000 is way too much, and that you will only pay 100,00 at the most. If they balk at that, walk away. From them AND the g/f. Them saying that if you marry her and don't pay what they want, that they won't talk to her is all part of the game to make you feel guilty.

Too many times you see instances were a beautiful Thai girl is looking for her "green card", and doesn't really love the man she'll marry to get it. That's not true in every case, but from all the stats I've seen, as well as personal knowledge, it is the majority of cases.

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

I can second what Just1Voice concludes - from all the stats and my own personal experience. So many Thais believe that America is Shangrila - they are clueless. Plus, to get to the US it doesn't matter who they hurt in the process. As Just1Voice said - they are not all this way - but, a clear indication is how determined she is to get out of Thailand. See how she responds to the proposition that instead of her immigrating to the US, you have decided to relocate to Thailand to live so that you and she can be close to her family.

[TheFiend]

Do the Amphur marriage first, go through the settlement visa application process and tell them you will do the Buddgist Wedding and sinsot thing in 1 or 2 years time. It might be a better way to play things.

[Ricksomchai]

You're being played, my friend. Sin Sot, the "price" for a wife, is usually around 100,000 baht (less than $3,000), but what they are asking is 5 times that. And you can bet the g/f is in on it as well. Like far to many Thai, they see a Farang, especially an American, and they see dollar signs and start making plans for a new, richer life. Tell them that 500,000 is way too much, and that you will only pay 100,00 at the most. If they balk at that, walk away. From them AND the g/f. Them saying that if you marry her and don't pay what they want, that they won't talk to her is all part of the game to make you feel guilty.

Too many times you see instances were a beautiful Thai girl is looking for her "green card", and doesn't really love the man she'll marry to get it. That's not true in every case, but from all the stats I've seen, as well as personal knowledge, it is the majority of cases.

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

yeah well it may not be 500,000tb. she taold me this is what her brother inlaw had to pay and he is thai...... so seeing im from USA why not ask for that or more? she wants a way to come to me here in the US without haveing this in our way, as do I if I must pay a

Sin sot in the days to come???... whatever right... but for now we are looking to bypass it all together without lies and upseting the family. some are saying the K-1 form is the best way to do this? its not a rush to marry the ruch is simple we just want to be together. saveing money as she sits in Thailand getting older is not something we want.

[Chung noi]

Dude,

The K-1 takes around 90 days to get if their are no problems. She will get a work permit stamp in her passport when she enters the USA.

Get online to order the immigration forms by mail.

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/men...00045f3d6a1RCRD.

Order a K-1 package or two. Then send the form to her or take it to her to sign. Then send the package in. However you must prove you can support her from your tax returns and both of you must have a clean background check. Once she gets it you'll have 90 days to get married once she enters the USA. It's really not that hard but you must have your ducks in a row. If the family wants a wedding, do it for show, no paperwork. From what I understand Thai-Farang divorces can really be costly to a Farang in Thailand. If the wedding is just for show with no paperwork you can still file the K-1. If you get paper you are in another boat that will take a lest 1 or 2 years maybe even 3 before she can get a Visa. Do your research, and pick what best for you.

Try to get the faimly to take a one or two Baht gold chain for Sin Sod. I really never heard of $15,000 up front but maybe things have changed. However, you should also be prepared for all sorts of family emergencies after marriage that only your money will solve. Better get things stright from the get go or your 15k will only be a drop in the bucket compared to what you will pay. You may even get hit up for a new house or a new pickup someday. Good luck man and happy trails.

*j*

[norwayeagle]

OP, shes either in on the deal or you are trolling

I Think you need a Looong "Holiday "

[mazimus]

I got married 2 years ago,i didnt have to give my wifes family anything,in fact her dad gave us a house near to his,This is common my friend,they are taking you for a ride.Tell them that you have no money.

[Lite Beer]

As this is not really Visa related I have moved it to general.

This is your third post on the same subject. Please do not make multiple posts.

I have left your other question in the Visa forum as it is strictly Visa related.

[jackr]

It's not because of being a yank you're getting reamed; a farang is a farang to the general masses here.

My advice, RUN. They are money-hungry and it probably won't stop at dowry, plus it sounds as your other half doesn't have your best interests at heart.

[F1fanatic]

You're being played, my friend. Sin Sot, the "price" for a wife, is usually around 100,000 baht (less than $3,000), but what they are asking is 5 times that. And you can bet the g/f is in on it as well. Like far to many Thai, they see a Farang, especially an American, and they see dollar signs and start making plans for a new, richer life. Tell them that 500,000 is way too much, and that you will only pay 100,00 at the most. If they balk at that, walk away. From them AND the g/f. Them saying that if you marry her and don't pay what they want, that they won't talk to her is all part of the game to make you feel guilty.

Too many times you see instances were a beautiful Thai girl is looking for her "green card", and doesn't really love the man she'll marry to get it. That's not true in every case, but from all the stats I've seen, as well as personal knowledge, it is the majority of cases.

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

yeah well it may not be 500,000tb. she taold me this is what her brother inlaw had to pay and he is thai...... so seeing im from USA why not ask for that or more? she wants a way to come to me here in the US without haveing this in our way, as do I if I must pay a

Sin sot in the days to come???... whatever right... but for now we are looking to bypass it all together without lies and upseting the family. some are saying the K-1 form is the best way to do this? its not a rush to marry the ruch is simple we just want to be together. saveing money as she sits in Thailand getting older is not something we want.

You've clearly not been here long enough to have any idea of the dynamics between female Thai and male farang relationships - otherwise you would not be posting this question!

As other posters have said 500,000 baht is very high, and you should expect it to be returned to you.

How wealthy are the parents - or are they poor, Isaan farmers?

Far better that you live here for a few years and get some understanding of 'thai culture'. You will then be able to answer your own question!!

[EvilDrSomkid]

You're being played, my friend. Sin Sot, the "price" for a wife, is usually around 100,000 baht (less than $3,000), but what they are asking is 5 times that. And you can bet the g/f is in on it as well. Like far to many Thai, they see a Farang, especially an American, and they see dollar signs and start making plans for a new, richer life. Tell them that 500,000 is way too much, and that you will only pay 100,00 at the most. If they balk at that, walk away. From them AND the g/f. Them saying that if you marry her and don't pay what they want, that they won't talk to her is all part of the game to make you feel guilty.

Too many times you see instances were a beautiful Thai girl is looking for her "green card", and doesn't really love the man she'll marry to get it. That's not true in every case, but from all the stats I've seen, as well as personal knowledge, it is the majority of cases.

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

yeah well it may not be 500,000tb. she taold me this is what her brother inlaw had to pay and he is thai...... so seeing im from USA why not ask for that or more? she wants a way to come to me here in the US without haveing this in our way, as do I if I must pay a

Sin sot in the days to come???... whatever right... but for now we are looking to bypass it all together without lies and upseting the family. some are saying the K-1 form is the best way to do this? its not a rush to marry the ruch is simple we just want to be together. saveing money as she sits in Thailand getting older is not something we want.

Dude, you have to provide some more info on your situation.

-How old is she?

-Where did you meet?

-How long have you been together?

-Does she work, if yes, WHAT?

-Do you speak ANY Thai?

-Do you have a job in the US?

If you are sincere about this problem, then you should answer thse questions.

Or are you just a clueless farmboy?

Please prove me wrong.

[dondraper]

why would she put her family before you? mine doesn't.

[mrtoad]

OP, shes either in on the deal or you are trolling

I Think you need a Looong "Holiday "

I'm sure that if you are paying ND will take you up on the offer.

[geriatrickid]

They should be paying you for a chance to go to America and relive the decline of the Roman Empire.

Let me guess, you actually met her on a recent visit to a bar and fell in love, since she was only working in the bar a short time...................and so the story goes.

You can't afford the purchase fee for a Thai bride oops the sin sod, but you expect to be able to care for her in the USA? ummmmmm, maybe you need to start saving your money and then consider bringing her over, if she really wants to go. (Most of them don't.)

I used to think these types of threads were troll posts, but there are really people out there that think and behave like the OP. Thankfully, there will always be jobs at warehouses and Thai schools to give them the income to work towards making their dreams come true.

Or better yet, take some of that money you are sending her each month and put it towards your own work skill and educational improvement. I guarantee that in 5 years, you will be able to return to Thailand and find a lady that won't ask for 500K.

[Maizefarmer]

ok let me see my gf is thai and we are engaged and she wants to come to the US to live how can i do this?

her family wants $15000 US or 500,000 tb this is way too much to marry her for. im only 28 so what can i do she says if we dont pay her family will never speak to her again.... well we cant have that... can we marry without them knowing? fill out the papers and return for the wedding? can we do this? also if there is any other way and you know please tell me. we cant wait for 10 years to pay her family to be together it just to long who can do that ???? i cant help please ???

... and you are asking forum members???

Its a no-brainer buddy - if she ain't on your side 100%, she ain't on your side - PERIOD, that means ... guess what: you'd be a mug if you didn't turn your back and walk away now.

[Ricksomchai]

You're being played, my friend. Sin Sot, the "price" for a wife, is usually around 100,000 baht (less than $3,000), but what they are asking is 5 times that. And you can bet the g/f is in on it as well. Like far to many Thai, they see a Farang, especially an American, and they see dollar signs and start making plans for a new, richer life. Tell them that 500,000 is way too much, and that you will only pay 100,00 at the most. If they balk at that, walk away. From them AND the g/f. Them saying that if you marry her and don't pay what they want, that they won't talk to her is all part of the game to make you feel guilty.

Too many times you see instances were a beautiful Thai girl is looking for her "green card", and doesn't really love the man she'll marry to get it. That's not true in every case, but from all the stats I've seen, as well as personal knowledge, it is the majority of cases.

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

yeah well it may not be 500,000tb. she taold me this is what her brother inlaw had to pay and he is thai...... so seeing im from USA why not ask for that or more? she wants a way to come to me here in the US without haveing this in our way, as do I if I must pay a

Sin sot in the days to come???... whatever right... but for now we are looking to bypass it all together without lies and upseting the family. some are saying the K-1 form is the best way to do this? its not a rush to marry the ruch is simple we just want to be together. saveing money as she sits in Thailand getting older is not something we want.

Dude, you have to provide some more info on your situation.

-How old is she?

-Where did you meet?

-How long have you been together?

-Does she work, if yes, WHAT?

-Do you speak ANY Thai?

-Do you have a job in the US?

If you are sincere about this problem, then you should answer thse questions.

Or are you just a clueless farmboy?

Please prove me wrong.

She is 25

i met her on the internet 3 years ago and yes i have been to see her 3 times once for 3 months and again for 1 month and another 27 days

the first thing and reason i went to thai was muay thai and i met her as a friend well a good friend she was going to help me and show me around bkk well that did not last long and here we are with no muay thai and well us together lol funny how a woman can change a man...

she works in a bank

yes i do speak some but very little

and yes i work in the US

the thing is this she wants to come bad yes but it seems

she is afraid to stand up to her parents she feels she will bring

shame to the family if she runs off she is very hard on herself about this

she is abit shy and innocent putting all others first if you understand

what i mean she can be easy to push over..... seems her family know this

if she makes mistakes she beats herself up over it so how can i feel good about pushing her

yes 500,000 is bull shit if you ask me 100,000 i can say ok to but 500,000????

came on...

and when you really love a person you dont just turn it off even if there is others...

this is not about a green card or money so much its about the time we will have lost.

she is not in on it at all

[smokie36]

You should first look into a tourist visa for her to visit you in the states. Let her meet your family and friends. Listen to their advice on your relationship.

Take it slowly and don't be rushed into a decision on marriage.

If she is genuine she will appreciate this opportunity, if not walk away.

[Patsycat]

Can you adopt me too? I don't take up much space.

[zzaa09]

My advice is get out of that situation as fast as you can and find someone else. Trust me, there are plenty of them out there.

Probably sound. Actually, he should make extend the more logical proposal to her first. Let them think about it.....and if they renig, drop her immediately. As I would be suspiscious to begin with if she hasn't challenged her parents - if she really wants you . Thai folk have been known to price themselves right out of a good thing. Greed......

[Soutpeel]

she taold me this is what her brother inlaw had to pay and he is thai....

i met her on the internet 3 years ago and yes i have been to see her 3 times once for 3 months and again for 1 month and another 27 days

the thing is this she wants to come bad yes

she is abit shy and innocent putting all others first if you understand

what i mean she can be easy to push over

this is not about a green card or money so much its about the time we will have lost.

she is not in on it at all

Just to quote some of the statements you have made...

1. Her brother may well have had to pay sin-sot, but I can assure you it wasnt THB 500k, and even if it was, 9 times out of 10 the couple get the money back in some form...

2. You have spent absolutely no time in this realtionship, so you dont even know this girl...

3. I will bet she wants to get out of Thailand really bad...

4. she is shy and innocent....Ill bet...this is the persona she is putting on for you..."Good Thai girls" dont go trolling on the internet looking for farangs to have realtionships with....

5. Its not about a Green card or money...oh yes it is...everything in Thai culture is money driven

6. She is not in on it all......Ill bet she is.....

Ding Ding Ding...alarm bells ringing on this one for me...Run rabbit, Run rabbit...run run run

[henryalleman]

ok let me see my gf is thai and we are engaged and she wants to come to the US to live how can i do this?

her family wants $15000 US or 500,000 tb this is way too much to marry her for. im only 28 so what can i do she says if we dont pay her family will never speak to her again.... well we cant have that... can we marry without them knowing? fill out the papers and return for the wedding? can we do this? also if there is any other way and you know please tell me. we cant wait for 10 years to pay her family to be together it just to long who can do that ???? i cant help please ???

you just troll number number 555555555555555555555555555555555555555555

or an idiot who will not listen to solid advise. I do wonder why people still answer to stupidities like this, I gave up long time ago

[neverdie]

OP, shes either in on the deal or you are trolling

I Think you need a Looong "Holiday "

I'm sure that if you are paying ND will take you up on the offer.

Too right I would.

[Patsycat]

Get in the queue, I asked first...

[hhgz]

Oh, how boring our lives would be without the occasional troll or simple farang!

"my gf is thai and we are engaged and she wants to come to the US to live how can i do this?"

Easy as pie, friend. All you have to do is don a turban, fold your arms in front of you, and nod your head smartly.

"her family wants $15000 US or 500,000 tb this is way too much to marry her for"

That's the retail price for a bargirl. You have to learn to negotiate.

"so what can i do she says if we dont pay her family will never speak to her again...."

Thank God.

"can we marry without them knowing?

Yes, but she can't keep a secret.

"fill out the papers and return for the wedding?

Return where?

[Soutpeel]

Easy as pie, friend. All you have to do is don a turban, fold your arms in front of you, and nod your head smartly.

[Beardog]

I think the folks are fishing for dollars. I come from the U.S. & an internet deal sounds like a hideous answer. with so many to chose from why do it over the internet & experience all types of women to see what is really for you. Remember Thailand is a buy now weep later. I am not saying that an internet connection is for losers but you would probably do as well falling in love with a seasoned bar girl. Once you commit that's it. the folks are definitely gold diggers . If they had any class they would leave the sinsod up to you in old Thai custom it was customary for the family to give back the money as it was just for show. Seems like the IT connection once again revolves around money.

And I tried getting my girl from Thailand to the U.S. & found out you have to prove a lot of support & she has to be rich to meet the requirements, That & the borders are fairly closed to immigration due to years of back logs of would be immigrants still Waitin & Thailand is the lowest wrung on the ladder & they are seen as freeloaders that hide when the party is over. That to & the joy of a Thai babe is living here in Thailand & you gotta wait till 50 for an OA visa.

Just like in America once you sign on the dotted line if you get a divorce later she gets 1/2 . At least in Thailand 50%of a minor portion is unlike 50% of your pay check in the U.S. I wouldn't touch an internet marriage scheme with a 10' pole or buy a bar in this country either. Your 25 whats the hurry. Up to you

[britmaveric]

5mo out of 3yrs? Hmmmmm think you need your head examined, not marriage.