Ricksomchai Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Hey all i have not been on in some time but wanted to ask? My gf and I want to get married sounds nice huh however for a Dowry her family ask for $15,000 USD .... hmmm I dont want to pay this will take a lifetime to get and she has not even finished school!!! Well she droped out really. so Im asking what is too much and what is right? what would you give out.....? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imapig Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 (edited) give us more info. meet in bar? how many kids w how many dads? up country or downcountry girl? pretty or the usuall kind? etc.... personally i dont think the family will want you if you think 15k$ is too mut! Edited September 17, 2009 by imapig Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john b good Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 (edited) Hey all i have not been on in some time but wanted to ask? My gf and I want to get married sounds nice huh however for a Dowry her family ask for $15,000 USD .... hmmm I dont want to pay this will take a lifetime to get and she has not even finished school!!! Well she droped out really. so Im asking what is too much and what is right? what would you give out.....? I don't like this dowry scam (unless it's like in India where they pay you to take her off their hands) but I know it's a face thing here. But half a million baht for what. Ask yourself a few questions first, how long have you known her, what was she working at when you met her, what is the social status of here parents, is she an only child, why did she drop out of school, has she already got a child, etc., etc. I would suggest 20% of what they are asking for as a max Edited September 17, 2009 by john b good Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mario2008 Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 You wil find more information in this pinned topic: http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Sin-Sod-Expl...ion-t85581.html You are required to negotiate and there is also the question if it is only for show and you will get it back after the ceremonie or that they willl give you something in return or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
britmaveric Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Under the circumstances you provide I think 1000bht should do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imapig Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 1k and a chicken.............. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassienie Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 These dowry/sin-sod threads seem to go, on and on. There are no set amounts to what should be paid, nor is it a strict code of must dos within Thai culture. It all depends on how gullible the girl and her family believes the mug is and how desperate is the guy that he is willing to pay to obtain a wife. My wife prior to marriage never asked me for any monies up front, either as a loan or a gift, and the same applied to my many friends back in the UK who have married Thai women. The short answer is: it’s up to the guy if he is willing to pay large amounts of money as requested by his future bride and her family or not. If a girl loves you, she will accept the guy for who and what he is and not for any financial gain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longstebe Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Half it, that should do.Don't give nothing else. Stand by your decision.This will set the tone for the rest of your marrige. Be firm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imapig Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 (edited) half is 7.5$ thousand. you give that and youll see one happy upcountry family who think they just hit the lotto! w this kind of logic the family will just request dubble what they want and get it. i gotta believe the avg farang is no match for country folk! Edited September 17, 2009 by imapig Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longstebe Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 half is 7.5$ thousand.you give that and youll see one happy upcountry family who think they just hit the lotto! w this kind of logic the family will just request dubble what they want and get it. i gotta believe the avg farang is no match for country folk! That depends on what type of guy he is. All I suggested is that he makes a decision and stands by it. Like Sassienie said,there is no set amount. What about that guy who paid 1 million to the Katoy . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samuibeachcomber Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 by pass sin sod by legal marriage at the local thai amphur. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john b good Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 These dowry/sin-sod threads seem to go, on and on.There are no set amounts to what should be paid, nor is it a strict code of must dos within Thai culture. It all depends on how gullible the girl and her family believes the mug is and how desperate is the guy that he is willing to pay to obtain a wife. My wife prior to marriage never asked me for any monies up front, either as a loan or a gift, and the same applied to my many friends back in the UK who have married Thai women. The short answer is: it’s up to the guy if he is willing to pay large amounts of money as requested by his future bride and her family or not. If a girl loves you, she will accept the guy for who and what he is and not for any financial gain. Now I am agreeing with you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Travelmate Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 The girl dropped out of school! How old is she? How old are you? As for the OP. Walk away. Do it now. Before it is too late. No Sinsot need paying. Judging from your OP. You don't have money. Also consider this. Family have put a high price on the girl. Mebbe they don't want you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LooseCannon Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Hey all i have not been on in some time but wanted to ask? My gf and I want to get married sounds nice huh however for a Dowry her family ask for $15,000 USD .... hmmm I dont want to pay this will take a lifetime to get and she has not even finished school!!! Well she droped out really. so Im asking what is too much and what is right? what would you give out.....? US$15,000 ? Using mean average wage & GDP figures between Thailand & US we can conservatively reach a multiplying factor of 6. US$15,000 x 6 = US$90,000 Would you pay US$90,000 to marry a high school drop out in the US? If not, why not? Fast forward to Thailand - Just say 'No' & watch their reaction very closely. You will now have your answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
givenall Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Hey all i have not been on in some time but wanted to ask? My gf and I want to get married sounds nice huh however for a Dowry her family ask for $15,000 USD .... hmmm I dont want to pay this will take a lifetime to get and she has not even finished school!!! Well she droped out really. so Im asking what is too much and what is right? what would you give out.....? I don’t recommend giving any dowry since you probably end up taking care of the family for a long time. Tell wife to be this and talk her to tell family no Dowry from Farang husband. Is not proper Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LooseCannon Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I don’t recommend giving any dowry since you probably end up taking care of the family for a long time. Tell wife to be this and talk her to tell family no Dowry from Farang husband. Is not proper Exactly right. Farangs are not required to pay sin sod. The opportunities that become available when marrying a farang far out weigh any requirement to pay 'up front'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goo Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 It is not required nowadays. Don't pay anything if you don't want to. The alternative is to pay whatever they ask and ensure that you get it all back after the ceremony. I get the whole face thing and have a certain tolerance for it, so I would have paid the money up front if I got it back after the ceremony, but my wife's parents didn't ask for it and they put the money in the pot themselves. Marrying a 'good' girl from a good family should negate the need for any sin sot. Don't play the 'whitey pays game', it ain't so and isn't a tradition. Those that pay it and don't get the money back are just mugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coventry Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Hey all i have not been on in some time but wanted to ask? My gf and I want to get married sounds nice huh however for a Dowry her family ask for $15,000 USD .... hmmm I dont want to pay this will take a lifetime to get and she has not even finished school!!! Well she droped out really. so Im asking what is too much and what is right? what would you give out.....? "My gfand I want to get married sounds nice huh". No not really. "her family ask for $15,000". Why in US Dollars and not Thai Baht. Are they Cambodian ? "I dont want to pay this". You've already decided on what you want to do, so why ask ? "What is too much".Anything that is being asked of, in my opinion. "What is right". That is a tough one. That one you can decide on. "What would you give out". Nothing. As someone stated, she and her family, stand to gain by just being married to you, in one way or the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nisakiman Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I paid 100,000 baht, but it was only so that it was seen to be paid. A couple of days after the ceremony, my wife's mother quietly gave the money back to her. As I understand it, that is a fairly normal scenario. $15,000 seems extortionate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somluck Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 One question - Do people from different regions of Thailand has different practices regarding sin sod? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr_Pat_Pong Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 One question -Do people from different regions of Thailand has different practices regarding sin sod? Nope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G54 Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 1k and a chicken.............. I'll up the bid on that to 1K, 1 chicken and a sick buffalo. I have to agree that 100K does sound more like it and that includes the party and everything. $15K is way too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Travel2003 Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 give us more info.meet in bar? how many kids w how many dads? up country or downcountry girl? pretty or the usuall kind? etc.... personally i dont think the family will want you if you think 15k$ is too mut! She works in a bank. And they met on internet 3 years ago. He has been here to see her 3 times. One of them was for 3 months. And he wants to bring her to USA. At least this is what he says in other threads in July 2009. And the OP has started 2-3 thread with more or less the same topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coventry Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 (edited) One question -Do people from different regions of Thailand has different practices regarding sin sod? Nope. In some regions parents will accept bovine as Sin Sot, or as part payment. I don't think it applies to people living in BKK Edited September 17, 2009 by coventry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coventry Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 She works in a bank.Hard to believe that someone who dropped out of school can get a job in a bank, unless she's the cleaner ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Travel2003 Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 She works in a bank.Hard to believe that someone who dropped out of school can get a job in a bank, unless she's the cleaner ? Agree. Its a bit like, Im a CIA operative. I operate the garbage disposal unit outside the building. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassienie Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 One question -Do people from different regions of Thailand has different practices regarding sin sod? Nope. In some regions parents will accept bovine as Sin Sot, or as part payment. I don't think it applies to people living in BKK Sounds like a load of bullocks to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mahtin Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I heifer feeling this whole fred is bovine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tavarich Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 It's not just a white guy thing. My wifes nephew is getting soaked by the brides parents. It is a real soap opera in the village. She has her hooks in real deep, he has already bought stuff that she demands of him. I feel sorry for him, the guy is hard working and doesn't drink,real good people. If my Thai was better I would tell him to run from this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dakhar Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Why not start an "Auction" web site for Thai brides? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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