How To Socialize ?

[boredinbangkok]

Hi,

im in my twenties and living in bangkok for about a year now. I have my business in europe which basically runs on autopilot and doesnt require more work then a few emails and phone calls per month.

When im not working (2 hours a week, max) im actually doing nothing. I live in a nice condo in the centre of bangkok but im getting bored to death. Im kinda living the retired lifestyle. I wake up, go to the gym, swim in the pool, order lunch, watch tv, surf the web, order dinner, watch a movie or get a hooker. Rinse and repeat, day in day out..

When i first came here i did all the tourist attractions, went shopping and so on, but everything gets boring after a while.

I wish to find a normal girlfriend from a middle class family, get to know her friends and have a normal life in bangkok, but its crazy hard to make contact with normal thai people. If you are young and have some money its almost twice as hard, course you always attract the wrong kind of girls.. (gold diggers...)

I really love bangkok, but im getting so bored of my life that i dont know if i should stay and try to get my act together or if i should just pack my bags and go back to europe.

Anyone have the same problem? Or am i just homesick after a year ?

/end rant

[robblok]

Just go home you don't seem to have the stamina for staying here and i really pity you for being young and successful. You will do much better in the old country. I just don't take you seriously because its easy to get in contact with good girls.

[boredinbangkok]

Just go home you don't seem to have the stamina for staying here and i really pity you for being young and successful. You will do much better in the old country. I just don't take you seriously because its easy to get in contact with good girls.

I hear ya but not everyone is a social monster and great with girls, people etc..

[bkkjames]

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[akirasan]

How good are you at speaking Thai?

Also, are you a member of any sports clubs (apart from the gym you go to).

Maybe you do need a holiday back to your home country to remind you of all the reasons you left?

[stander]

Yep, pack your bags and head back home.

[boredinbangkok]

How good are you at speaking Thai?

Also, are you a member of any sports clubs (apart from the gym you go to).

Maybe you do need a holiday back to your home country to remind you of all the reasons you left?

Enough thai for a smalltalk.

Gym is in my condo - thinking about joining a tennis club.

[lazygourmet]

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[whybother]

There are quite a few "Young Professionals" type functions in Bangkok:

- Bangkok Traders

- Bangkok Young Professionals

- European YP

- AmCham YP

or various country Chambers of Commerce.

or, as mentioned above, sporting groups.

or sports bars - at least you're going in there for more than the girls

- all where you can get to know some other people here, and maybe do some more business to keep you entertained.

[HarrydePotter]

Just go home for a month and you will realise what a good time you had in BKK.... and return.

[Travel2003]

I will paste on the same reply I gave in the BKK Forum.

More or less the same question from the OP.

People in general, are so friendly in this country.

Yes, some approach you only because you are a foreigner with money.

But the vast majority approach you only because you are a foreigner (curiosity).

If you go to a Thai bar in BKK, there will guarantied be some that speak English.

Raise your glass to the people by the next table you sit at, and say cheers, and smile.

You will see the positive responds immediately.

Nomatter if they are guys or gals.

After all, it is friends first of all you look for, right?

You will soon find out how amazingly easy it is to befriend Thais, men and women.

As soon as you have a few friends, they will bring you everywhere.

Try it.

[IanForbes]

As you are still young I suggest becoming fluent in Thai. And, by fluent I mean more than just bar talk. That will open more doors than anything else. If you get bored easily in Thailand then you will get bored wherever you choose to live. Learn a hobby or new trade... possibly something creative. You are probably too young to get married or have a serious relationship anyway.

[boredinbangkok]

As you are still young I suggest becoming fluent in Thai. And, by fluent I mean more than just bar talk. That will open more doors than anything else. If you get bored easily in Thailand then you will get bored wherever you choose to live. Learn a hobby or new trade... possibly something creative. You are probably too young to get married or have a serious relationship anyway.

I agree. Learning proper thai is probably the way to go.

Just to clarify... i know it is pretty easy to get into contact with a certain part of thai society, but im kinda sick and tired of uneducated brown skinned people looking for a better live with a foreigner.

Going to a thai nightclub and trying to hook up / chat with middle class girls is a whole different thing..

[Travel2003]

As you are still young I suggest becoming fluent in Thai. And, by fluent I mean more than just bar talk. That will open more doors than anything else. If you get bored easily in Thailand then you will get bored wherever you choose to live. Learn a hobby or new trade... possibly something creative. You are probably too young to get married or have a serious relationship anyway.

I agree. Learning proper thai is probably the way to go.

Just to clarify... i know it is pretty easy to get into contact with a certain part of thai society, but im kinda sick and tired of uneducated brown skinned people looking for a better live with a foreigner.

Going to a thai nightclub and trying to hook up / chat with middle class girls is a whole different thing..

uneducated brown skinned people????????????

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I guess the Troll issue is solved.

[spud1]

As you are still young I suggest becoming fluent in Thai. And, by fluent I mean more than just bar talk. That will open more doors than anything else. If you get bored easily in Thailand then you will get bored wherever you choose to live. Learn a hobby or new trade... possibly something creative. You are probably too young to get married or have a serious relationship anyway.

I agree. Learning proper thai is probably the way to go.

Just to clarify... i know it is pretty easy to get into contact with a certain part of thai society, but im kinda sick and tired of uneducated brown skinned people looking for a better live with a foreigner.

Going to a thai nightclub and trying to hook up / chat with middle class girls is a whole different thing..

uneducated brown skinned people????????????

<deleted>??????

I guess the Troll issue is solved.

Or could be his issue with socializing.

[Travel2003]

As you are still young I suggest becoming fluent in Thai. And, by fluent I mean more than just bar talk. That will open more doors than anything else. If you get bored easily in Thailand then you will get bored wherever you choose to live. Learn a hobby or new trade... possibly something creative. You are probably too young to get married or have a serious relationship anyway.

I agree. Learning proper thai is probably the way to go.

Just to clarify... i know it is pretty easy to get into contact with a certain part of thai society, but im kinda sick and tired of uneducated brown skinned people looking for a better live with a foreigner.

Going to a thai nightclub and trying to hook up / chat with middle class girls is a whole different thing..

uneducated brown skinned people????????????

<deleted>??????

I guess the Troll issue is solved.

Or could be his issue with socializing.

OP claims to have been here almost a year.

Still does nothing.

Well, he relax, swim, gym, rent a movie, order food, watch movies and get a hooker sometimes.

You are right, probably a serious issue with socializing.

OP, it is easy to get in contact with almost any part of the Thai society.

[boredinbangkok]

Sorry, uneducated brown skinned people = bargirls imho

You all know what im talking about...

[mizzi39]

As you are still young I suggest becoming fluent in Thai. And, by fluent I mean more than just bar talk. That will open more doors than anything else. If you get bored easily in Thailand then you will get bored wherever you choose to live. Learn a hobby or new trade... possibly something creative. You are probably too young to get married or have a serious relationship anyway.

I agree. Learning proper thai is probably the way to go.

Just to clarify... i know it is pretty easy to get into contact with a certain part of thai society, but im kinda sick and tired of uneducated brown skinned people looking for a better live with a foreigner.

Going to a thai nightclub and trying to hook up / chat with middle class girls is a whole different thing..

uneducated brown skinned people????????????

<deleted>??????

I guess the Troll issue is solved.

Yep the troll issue is solved. Please stop feeding him!

It is so clear why you have a problem with your social life her in LOS. First you need to develop social grace.:jerk:

[inthepink]

Sorry, uneducated brown skinned people = bargirls imho

You all know what im talking about...

You need to change the venues that you are visiting. I'm about 15 years older than you and if I go somewhere like a Thai disco in Ngam Wong Warn (as an example) I often end up getting invited to drink with a group of ordinary Thais on a night out. They are very friendly. You won't meet middle class Thai girls in the same places you are picking up bar girls though.

As another example, going to basic concrete floor karaoke bars (not that I'm suggesting you go to those places) it is easy to make friends.

It's actually harder not to make friends if you go to places that cater mainly to Thais. Given your age I think you would find it even easier than me. I already have a gf but from my experiences when I'm out alone it would not be very hard to find another one. That might be partially because I am extremely good looking but you have age on your side.

Regarding homesickness: You could well be after a year but your boredom is going to make you feel that way a bit anyway. I solved that by returning to the UK for six months and then coming back here. Apart from short holidays I haven't wanted to go back since and that was six years ago.

[Loz]

Son, if you don' know how to reach out and find the woman you want, you are probably not ready for her.

Every once in a while I go to club (to check out the talent as I don't drink or dance) and often have people offering me a drink or to say cheers or just hello. THese are regular working stiffs. Nice folk mixture of blue and whie collar.

When I started playing golf here I met some great people and some real bores! leave the caddies alone unless you feel they are your social equal. I made some good friends here (thais) and met some lovely lady friends (just friends) who I might see at social funuctions.

When I started my graduate studies I met many many middle aged boring working wives of modest to middle income and they exhibited the same social graces as the night club people mentioned above. Nice but nothing interesting to talk about.

If you are approachable and tolerant you will meet people, but don't expect them to be like you just cos the dress like you.

[TheLaughingMan]

I recently overcame the EXACT same problem of not knowing how to connect with the right kind of girl. In the off chance you are serious I am pm'ing you and can tell you all about what you can do to fix your problem.

[boredinbangkok]

I recently overcame the EXACT same problem of not knowing how to connect with the right kind of girl. In the off chance you are serious I am pm'ing you and can tell you all about what you can do to fix your problem.

Id appreciate that PM

[akirasan]

I'd also suggest you're going about things in the wrong order. Make a lot of friends first, then look for a nice girl. If you're a good guy you won't even have to look, your friends will set you up with someone. You could also do some volunteer work to fill in your day and make new contacts. Good luck with it anyway.

[smedly]

the word is socialise

[mark45y]

I had the same problem but found a way out of my dilemma. I gave up my chauffer driven Mercedes limo and started taking the bus.

That alone worked wonders.

Then I turned to Thai Visa to find out what a hi so Thai Chinese lady looks like. Did you know there are no Thai Chinese prostitutes in Bangkok?

So if you get a Thai Chinese lady you have no worries about her being in the game.

After you find out what your new girl looks like it is easy to find her on the bus.

Then look on another Thai Visa thread and learn how to raise your eyebrows.

That’s all it takes.

You will be rolling in good girls in a week or so.

Try it and get back to me.

ThaiVisa, the answer to all your Thai related problems.

[prometheus]

In terms of women, follow this advice : don't go to where most expats go, those kind of women will be there. Go to where the current 20s in Bangkok go to then you might meet different sort of people.

It is hard when you are bored in a city, when you go to all its entertainment and it no longer is satisfying. I suggest, get a hobby, like mountain bike or something, thailand has a lot of places to go around and do these sort of activities.

[Chunky1]

It sounds like OP must be hideously ugly or something. I am twenty something and practically have to carry around a stick to beat educated, attractive Thai women off of me. Even many of our members who are course old and ugly claim to have a hot, educated girl.

[StreetCowboy]

the word is socialise

I think 'pompous' is the word you're looking for.

I have provided some inverted commas for your future use.

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