famagusta Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 hello i just join the site now i have never been to thailand before so i do not know what to expect i have met a girl now on the thaifriendly site and we are liking each other and she has said that i have know worries and that she will take care of me when i do visit. i dont criticise but i do not want a bar girl , this girl works in customer service centre so i am happy. now i dont want this to sound bad BUT being western , bf and gf sleep together and the rest from the start of relationships , i am 47 and she is 31 so we are not kids but i am shy to ask if she will be sharing my bed with me , because i dont want to offend her. what is the attitude normally of thai girls about this situation god it would of been easier to just meet girl from bar haha, but i dont want that advice please all you experienced guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mstribling Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Don't even mention it. Just take her to your room and get freaky with it. That passive meek shit will cost you here. Watch a few episodes of Mad Men to get your act rewired. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mstribling Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 (edited) If she doesn't want sex but you still like her. Just get a woman on the side. She will expect your doing that anyways. BTW: I need to get back to the city. I didn't know they started calling Nana a customer service centre? OP: That was a joke. Don't get rolled up. Edited March 27, 2011 by mstribling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Don't even mention it. Just take her to your room and get freaky with it. That passive meek shit will cost you here. Watch a few episodes of Mad Men to get your act rewired. All the info you need to take on board is here on the forum, Looooooooooooooads to look out for, spend many hours reading. PS. Good Luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slapout Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 To satisfy your curious nature, fama, You need to be subtle, during the course of dinner and a drink or two. Ask her if she likes to sleep nude under a quilt with the air con on, share the pillow, and does she smoke? If she answers yes to all three, you well on your way to heaven in Thailand or what seems to be associated with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 If this is not a troll you then are going to get a lot of odd replies to this subject. It comes up so frequently that eveyone has a go at the poster. Read some of the old stories and you will know what I mean. I've always had success leaving it up to the women to make the decision about intimacy. If you can read body language at all then you will know what I mean. Proper Thai women are actually quite modest and shy. If they are not then that is when your signals better be on high alert. Proper Thai women do not jump into bed with strangers until they get to know each other better. Part time hookers also use the dating sites to meet men who they MIGHT want to have a relationship with. They usually start asking for things after the first night of sex. I suggest taking it slow at first so you don't get into an uncomfortable situation. Sometimes the woman you meet on line is not the same person in real life. Language might also be a bit of a problem. One of the many self help books written in both languages is a good start. Years ago I purchased a book called "In the bed and out of trouble" by Bud Knackstedt and Oly Ford. It covered a LOT of topics including very intimate ones. I found it invaluable when dealing with Thai women, and where trying to convey your feelings is sometimes a problem. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 (edited) Very common on these dating websites are Thai women that are escorts who describe themselves as tour guides or as a companion for the duration of a foreigner's visit to Thailand, for an agreed price of course or the visitor will be expected to pay for all expenses including himself, the girl and her services. These are not always ladies of ill repute, but can be those that are seeking to earn additional income apart from working at they’re regular jobs. Could be described as a sort of higher market escort service. As a matter of fact, the servicing of businessmen and single tourist visitors to Thailand has proven to be a lucrative business for many educated Thai women. There are no concerns regarding any sleeping arrangements as this is included in the service or with how kind and generous the girl is expecting the visitor to be for her company during the trip. Edited March 27, 2011 by Beetlejuice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 "it would of been easier to just meet girl from bar haha, but i dont want that" OP, I think that's what you did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjclark1 Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 what is the attitude normally of thai girls about this situation If she doesn't share your bed on the first night, forget to get her phone number, don't call hers. At 31 she is unlikely to be a virgin. There are plenty around that will be happy to bed you on the first date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Very common on these dating websites are Thai women that are escorts who describe themselves as tour guides or as a companion for the duration of a foreigner's visit to Thailand, for an agreed price of course or the visitor will be expected to pay for all expenses including himself, the girl and her services. These are not always ladies of ill repute, but can be those that are seeking to earn additional income apart from working at they’re regular jobs. Could be described as a sort of higher market escort service. As a matter of fact, the servicing of businessmen and single tourist visitors to Thailand has proven to be a lucrative business for many educated Thai women. There are no concerns regarding any sleeping arrangements as this is included or as an extra with how much the girl is expecting you to pay for her company during the trip. Good point, Beetlejuice and they are an excellent service if you want someone to travel with. It sure beats having to learn all the jargon when traveling around Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 (edited) At 31 she is unlikely to be a virgin. I beg to differ. In Thailand, she could quite easily still be a virgin at 31 except it's just been pushed back a bit further. But I digress. If after meeting her, she is what the OP dreams of but her modesty and the OP's decency prevails, he can always get an out-call massage after the date. Saves him buggering about in the bars trying to get laid that would make him just another punter as well as preventing blue balls. Edited March 27, 2011 by NanLaew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirineou Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 (edited) This forum can be a great source of Information, and some entertainment, and some times it is difficult to tell the difference between the two. I will always be grateful to the members and administration, of this forum for the very valuable assistance that have provided to me in the past, but as far as your question is concerned, If I was you, I would stay away from this forum and any other forums. Meet your girl, spend time with her, and let nature take it's course. If I had listen to this and other forums, I would have never come to Thailand, and I would have missed out on the best thing in my life, my now wonderful wife, and love of my life . I have a friend who, after reading all the "stories" became paranoid, and alter his behavior, to the point where he destroyed his relationship with a , what I know to be a wonderful ,good girl.. This does not mean that you should not be cautious, as you would in any other situation. But be careful of “The paralysis of analysis” If sex is what you desire, you will have no problem finding it in Thailand, but If what you desire, is a long term relationship with this girl… as the term “a long term relationship” implies. Take it easy. You will find out that Thai women, are less inhibited about sex as their Western counterparts pretend to be. And if it is meant to be , it will happen in due course. Good Luck Edited March 27, 2011 by sirineou Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mstribling Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Meeting a Thai woman on the Internet is like bringing sand to the beach. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 This forum can be a great source of Information, and some entertainment, and some times it is difficult to tell the difference between the two. I will always be grateful to the members and administration, of this forum for the very valuable assistance that have provided to me in the past, but as far as your question is concerned, If I was you, I would stay away from this forum and any other forums. Meet your girl, spend time with her, and let nature take it's course. If I had listen to this and other forums, I would have never come to Thailand, and I would have missed out on the best thing in my life, my now wonderful wife, and love of my life . I have a friend who, after reading all the "stories" became paranoid, and alter his behavior, to the point where he destroyed his relationship with a , what I know to be a wonderful ,good girl.. This does not mean that you should not be cautious, as you would in any other situation. But be careful of “The paralysis of analysis” If sex is what you desire, you will have no problem finding it in Thailand, but If what you desire, is a long term relationship with this girl… as the term “a long term relationship” implies. Take it easy. You will find out that Thai women, are less inhibited about sex as their Western counterparts pretend to be. And if it is meant to be , it will happen in due course. Good Luck Well said, sirineou. You basically gave the same advice I did. If it is meant to happen then it will. Trying to force the issue won't work. And, in the event that things don't work out there is all of Thailand to enjoy. Like someone already stated, bringing your own girl to Thailand is like bringing sand to a beach. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F1fanatic Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 This forum can be a great source of Information, and some entertainment, and some times it is difficult to tell the difference between the two. I will always be grateful to the members and administration, of this forum for the very valuable assistance that have provided to me in the past, but as far as your question is concerned, If I was you, I would stay away from this forum and any other forums. Meet your girl, spend time with her, and let nature take it's course. If I had listen to this and other forums, I would have never come to Thailand, and I would have missed out on the best thing in my life, my now wonderful wife, and love of my life . I have a friend who, after reading all the "stories" became paranoid, and alter his behavior, to the point where he destroyed his relationship with a , what I know to be a wonderful ,good girl.. This does not mean that you should not be cautious, as you would in any other situation. But be careful of "The paralysis of analysis" If sex is what you desire, you will have no problem finding it in Thailand, but If what you desire, is a long term relationship with this girl… as the term "a long term relationship" implies. Take it easy. You will find out that Thai women, are less inhibited about sex as their Western counterparts pretend to be. And if it is meant to be , it will happen in due course. Good Luck Well said, sirineou. You basically gave the same advice I did. If it is meant to happen then it will. Trying to force the issue won't work. And, in the event that things don't work out there is all of Thailand to enjoy. Like someone already stated, bringing your own girl to Thailand is like bringing sand to a beach. Well said Ian. Women are just frivolous 'extras' - not a living person that is (or should be) part of your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Why on earth atre you planning tp sleep with her?? I me tmy wife online 6 years ago, married now for 5 years, there are many honest Thais and an equal amount of dishonest. You take your time big boy is my advice and sleep with no one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 This forum can be a great source of Information, and some entertainment, and some times it is difficult to tell the difference between the two. I will always be grateful to the members and administration, of this forum for the very valuable assistance that have provided to me in the past, but as far as your question is concerned, If I was you, I would stay away from this forum and any other forums. Meet your girl, spend time with her, and let nature take it's course. If I had listen to this and other forums, I would have never come to Thailand, and I would have missed out on the best thing in my life, my now wonderful wife, and love of my life . I have a friend who, after reading all the "stories" became paranoid, and alter his behavior, to the point where he destroyed his relationship with a , what I know to be a wonderful ,good girl.. This does not mean that you should not be cautious, as you would in any other situation. But be careful of "The paralysis of analysis" If sex is what you desire, you will have no problem finding it in Thailand, but If what you desire, is a long term relationship with this girl… as the term "a long term relationship" implies. Take it easy. You will find out that Thai women, are less inhibited about sex as their Western counterparts pretend to be. And if it is meant to be , it will happen in due course. Good Luck Well said, sirineou. You basically gave the same advice I did. If it is meant to happen then it will. Trying to force the issue won't work. And, in the event that things don't work out there is all of Thailand to enjoy. Like someone already stated, bringing your own girl to Thailand is like bringing sand to a beach. Well said Ian. Women are just frivolous 'extras' - not a living person that is (or should be) part of your life. You are walking on thin ice now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Meeting a Thai woman on the Internet is like bringing sand to the beach. Nah it aint it saves wasting hours of time buying drinks for mingers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F1fanatic Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Meeting a Thai woman on the Internet is like bringing sand to the beach. Nah it aint it saves wasting hours of time buying drinks for mingers Why on earth would anyone spend hours buying drinks for someone they consider a "minger"? How desperate do you have to be to do that?? Thankfully living here reverses the roles - even if its dependent on money.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjclark1 Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Nah it aint it saves wasting hours of time buying drinks for mingers Why on earth would anyone spend hours buying drinks for someone they consider a "minger"? How desperate do you have to be to do that?? Thankfully living here reverses the roles - even if its dependent on money.... I have to agree with F1 here. As my previous gf said, buying a girl a drink in a bar is the start of negotiations for a bar fine. If you have no interest in buying, don't start negotiations (or maybe you like mingers .... whatever they are). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inmysights Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Don't even mention it. Just take her to your room and get freaky with it. That passive meek shit will cost you here. Watch a few episodes of Mad Men to get your act rewired. <deleted> has a tv series set in the 50s/60s got to do with this? Oh yeah. I geddit. Western women not prepared to put out for cashed up (relatively) old fart and so come to Asia. And don't give me 'Asian women more amenable to advances from aging lotharios crap' No Western woman of any age would touch you with a bargepole. As evidenced just this pm, sister of barkeep, just down from the sticks, speaking NO English immediately set upon by one of the only two old groping farangs patronising this particular establishment on a daily basis looking for new 'meat' (as was described to me by second in command). He told her she didn't have 'to go with him' if she didn't want to, by co-worker. And she didn't. He told me she's afraid (not the first time I've heard this about a girl fresh from the sticks looking to better her lot). She's lovely, and quite possibly the offer of 1000 baht short time might get to her some day. I hope not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inmysights Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 what is the attitude normally of thai girls about this situation If she doesn't share your bed on the first night, forget to get her phone number, don't call hers. At 31 she is unlikely to be a virgin. There are plenty around that will be happy to bed you on the first date. I agree. If she hasn't sussed out what a consummate prick you are on that oh so romantic 'first date', she will be so very happy you have 'forgotten' her telephone number. That way, she won't have to go along with her polite Thai cultural upbringing and 'be nice to you' through gritted teeth if you ever call. At 31 she is very likely to be a virgin if not married with children. How do you know? Find out with whatever brain you have. Ie: Where did you meet her? bar/restaurant worker/massage palour et al? And yes, their are still many (mainly in tourist areas) willing to haha 'bed' you (how quaint) on 'the first date' here. They're called ho's. If you want a TRULY decent Thai woman, EARN her. Respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Meeting a Thai woman on the Internet is like bringing sand to the beach. Nah it aint it saves wasting hours of time buying drinks for mingers Why on earth would anyone spend hours buying drinks for someone they consider a "minger"? How desperate do you have to be to do that?? Thankfully living here reverses the roles - even if its dependent on money.... Oh my god! You have just confirmed that I am one of the desperate ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inmysights Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Meeting a Thai woman on the Internet is like bringing sand to the beach. Nah it aint it saves wasting hours of time buying drinks for mingers Why on earth would anyone spend hours buying drinks for someone they consider a "minger"? How desperate do you have to be to do that?? Thankfully living here reverses the roles - even if its dependent on money.... Oh my god! You have just confirmed that I am one of the desperate ones. From your previous posts, I would have to agree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mstribling Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Don't even mention it. Just take her to your room and get freaky with it. That passive meek shit will cost you here. Watch a few episodes of Mad Men to get your act rewired. <deleted> has a tv series set in the 50s/60s got to do with this? Oh yeah. I geddit. Western women not prepared to put out for cashed up (relatively) old fart and so come to Asia. And don't give me 'Asian women more amenable to advances from aging lotharios crap' No Western woman of any age would touch you with a bargepole. As evidenced just this pm, sister of barkeep, just down from the sticks, speaking NO English immediately set upon by one of the only two old groping farangs patronising this particular establishment on a daily basis looking for new 'meat' (as was described to me by second in command). He told her she didn't have 'to go with him' if she didn't want to, by co-worker. And she didn't. He told me she's afraid (not the first time I've heard this about a girl fresh from the sticks looking to better her lot). She's lovely, and quite possibly the offer of 1000 baht short time might get to her some day. I hope not. Hate much? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mark45y Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 what is the attitude normally of thai girls about this situation If she doesn't share your bed on the first night, forget to get her phone number, don't call hers. At 31 she is unlikely to be a virgin. There are plenty around that will be happy to bed you on the first date. I agree. If she hasn't sussed out what a consummate prick you are on that oh so romantic 'first date', she will be so very happy you have 'forgotten' her telephone number. That way, she won't have to go along with her polite Thai cultural upbringing and 'be nice to you' through gritted teeth if you ever call. At 31 she is very likely to be a virgin if not married with children. How do you know? Find out with whatever brain you have. Ie: Where did you meet her? bar/restaurant worker/massage palour et al? And yes, their are still many (mainly in tourist areas) willing to haha 'bed' you (how quaint) on 'the first date' here. They're called ho's. If you want a TRULY decent Thai woman, EARN her. Respect. Even if you don't want a TRULY decent woman you have to earn her respect. It is surprising how many indecent women want respect too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F1fanatic Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 what is the attitude normally of thai girls about this situation If she doesn't share your bed on the first night, forget to get her phone number, don't call hers. At 31 she is unlikely to be a virgin. There are plenty around that will be happy to bed you on the first date. I agree. If she hasn't sussed out what a consummate prick you are on that oh so romantic 'first date', she will be so very happy you have 'forgotten' her telephone number. That way, she won't have to go along with her polite Thai cultural upbringing and 'be nice to you' through gritted teeth if you ever call. At 31 she is very likely to be a virgin if not married with children. How do you know? Find out with whatever brain you have. Ie: Where did you meet her? bar/restaurant worker/massage palour et al? And yes, their are still many (mainly in tourist areas) willing to haha 'bed' you (how quaint) on 'the first date' here. They're called ho's. If you want a TRULY decent Thai woman, EARN her. Respect. Even if you don't want a TRULY decent woman you have to earn her respect. It is surprising how many indecent women want respect too. Respect or not, they nearly always look to you for MONEY first. But there are a few that are different. They may not marry for love, but once married will stick with you through thick and thin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Well said Ian. Women are just frivolous 'extras' - not a living person that is (or should be) part of your life. Women are NEVER frivolous "extras" in my life, but they might be in some people's lives. I like to treat people better than I get treated myself. That way my concience is clear. However, meeting women in Thailand is not hard to do. But, meeting the RIGHT woman anywhere takes a bit of time... and luck. If it is just sex you want then stick to the women for hire. They are cheaper in the long run. But, like sirineou and I both said, if you want something special then take your time and let it progress from there. Mark45 said basically the same thing, but in different words. The term "respect" was the key word. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F1fanatic Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 what is the attitude normally of thai girls about this situation If she doesn't share your bed on the first night, forget to get her phone number, don't call hers. At 31 she is unlikely to be a virgin. There are plenty around that will be happy to bed you on the first date. I agree. If she hasn't sussed out what a consummate prick you are on that oh so romantic 'first date', she will be so very happy you have 'forgotten' her telephone number. That way, she won't have to go along with her polite Thai cultural upbringing and 'be nice to you' through gritted teeth if you ever call. At 31 she is very likely to be a virgin if not married with children. How do you know? Find out with whatever brain you have. Ie: Where did you meet her? bar/restaurant worker/massage palour et al? And yes, their are still many (mainly in tourist areas) willing to haha 'bed' you (how quaint) on 'the first date' here. They're called ho's. If you want a TRULY decent Thai woman, EARN her. Respect. Even if you don't want a TRULY decent woman you have to earn her respect. It is surprising how many indecent women want respect too. EVERYONE wants respect. The difference is that whilst everyone demands it, only a few people deserve it. We all know that and only show respect where it is deserved and earned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 Meeting a Thai woman on the Internet is like bringing sand to the beach. Nah it aint it saves wasting hours of time buying drinks for mingers Why on earth would anyone spend hours buying drinks for someone they consider a "minger"? How desperate do you have to be to do that?? Thankfully living here reverses the roles - even if its dependent on money.... What I consider a minger and you could be very different, but some blokes I see chatting with women in bars well?????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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