sugarspice_bkk Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Hi! Have you ever been desperated in a relationship? What would you guys do when your partners make you feel inferior?... I'm a gal who is in a relationship with a WISE farang guy. He teaches me many things to make me improved. But, I think he doesn't know that his wisdom is killing me!! I now feel like I'm a dumb girl who needs urgent assistance about whatever I do. God, I'm gradually losing my confidence... Hope to hear your advice soonest Thank you, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbojangles Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 God, I'm gradually losing my confidence... Never heard a Thai use this term before? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neeranam Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Obviously trolled, but too much obvious, coming from the states of america. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Explorer Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 God, I'm gradually losing my confidence... Never heard a Thai use this term before? Well, she is with a WISE farang guy Explorer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
h90 Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 anyway that sounds like a troll. First post and the english does not sound like from a Thai (don't want to insult Thai people, also my english does not sound like that....) God, I'm gradually losing my confidence... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Never heard a Thai use this term before? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gazza Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 I now feel like I'm a dumb girl who needs urgent assistance about whatever I do. And now you want our assistance urgently on what to do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rio666uk Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 assuming youre not a Troll I would say its time to move on - what advice are hoping to get from a bunch of strangers who dont know the full story, its your life - if youre not happy with it - change it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 I like how the grammar and spelling are correct (except of course for "desperated" to make it sound like a non-native english speaker). And the use of "gal" from a supposed non-native English speaker is amazing! TROLL. But it certainly has caught the attention of TV members, hasn't it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eric Davis Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 What former TV member might it be? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sugarspice_bkk Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 Thank you so much rio666uk! It's my first post and you are right that I expected too much from strangers. Sorry that my English sounds strange for you, I already told you I'm Thai. Anyway, thank you very much for yr comment. P.S. Now I know I should study English course before posting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opothai Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 if she's thai and can post like that, then i would not expect her to be losing any confidence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eric Davis Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Start your engines folks,here we go again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thai Chi Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 What former TV member might it be? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hmmm, isnt American on a holiday at the moment Just a thought Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simbo Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 If he's got the bread, babe and you aint, grin and bear it or get out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sir Burr Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 She even uses apostrophes correctly. Wonder where her IP address is located? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thai Chi Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 What former TV member might it be? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hmmm, isnt American on a holiday at the moment Just a thought <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Oops, should have read "Americana" Sorry, getting Dyslexic in old age Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sugarspice_bkk Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 Ahaha...even your comments didn't help me out, you guys make me feel better.... Well, at least I haven't lost my confidence so much to speak out here... Getting bored sitting in the office, and wishing time passes faster... I want to go home :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BambinA Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 What would you guys do when your partners make you feel inferior?... I had that problem before..what i did to solve the prob, i went to see a plastic surgery and do breast implant ... (he has bigger boobies than me) i really feel desperate and pretty inferior Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simbo Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 What would you guys do when your partners make you feel inferior?... I had that problem before..what i did to solve the prob, i went to see a plastic surgery and do breast implant ... (he has bigger boobies than me) i really feel desperate and pretty inferior <{POST_SNAPBACK}> To whom? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RDN Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 She even uses apostrophes correctly.Wonder where her IP address is located? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ah! So you want to know? I couldn't say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandaparty Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Well, let's say you are not a troll. I do sometimes feel like that myself. Being raised closely with my parents (both of them worked at home when I was younger) and having two maids (sometimes more) at home, I found it easy to do things because I could have them help me. Therefore I never had to do anything by myself. I have never spent a day away from home until I moved out to live with my bf six months ago - the troubles begin. I feel totally hopeless when doing stuff (esp those that Thai girls should be able to like cooking, cleaning etc. which I never had to do it before) because he is much better than me. Plus it doesn't help when his ex (I know her as they are still friends) is absolutely unlike me. She seems perfect. When it comes to stuff that does not need much thinking (TV programmes, football etc) he talks to me. But when it comes to stuff like his work or money, he picks up the phone and calls her, so imagine how I feel sometimes? It makes me feel stupid (he always jokes I am thick which doesn't help.) However, It doesn't tire me though. My thought is that I will try harder to be less hopeless not for myself but for him (and it would be nice to shock my parents with how clean I am at the moment ). I just want to make our relationship work and to do that we need to work hard. I am having fun with life though despite being 'hopeless and thick' Ps. I am Thai as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OxfordWill Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 He is wiser than you - learn from him and learn to control your confidence levels independent of the advice he gives you. If you lose confidence because of the WAY he gives you advice, that is a separate problem and one you should be honest with him about. You should not lose confidence just because he is wiser and more experienced than you - you should be thankful for such a guide. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuestHouse Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 (edited) Thai girl loosing the plot - Makes a nice change. It's usually the Farang that winds up losing his compass and mush for brains. Edited November 1, 2005 by GuestHouse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monochaser Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 I've heard a Thai use the phrase "losing confidence" and the word "gal". I think this is not a troll. I know Thai girls who think like this "troll" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gburns57au Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Amazing guys......the OP's english is as good as Bambi's in some ways....cut the poster some slack and give the benefit of doubt, even if it is a troll, honest answers may help someone else out who is too quiet to post.....the timeline is consistant with Thailand.... I would say that you need to tell him that you need to work some things out for yourself sometimes....and in a nice way tell him that you will ask him if you need his help. try to find ways to show him that you can manage on your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zaz Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Hi!Have you ever been desperated in a relationship? What would you guys do when your partners make you feel inferior?... I'm a gal who is in a relationship with a WISE farang guy. He teaches me many things to make me improved. But, I think he doesn't know that his wisdom is killing me!! I now feel like I'm a dumb girl who needs urgent assistance about whatever I do. God, I'm gradually losing my confidence... Hope to hear your advice soonest Thank you, <{POST_SNAPBACK}> sugarspice, have you been in this relationship for a long time? Has he always been like this and steadily over time it has started to bother you? I think you just need to communicate with him and express your feelings about all this. In a relationship you should never have to keep little complaints like this inside you or they will grow and make you feel worse over time. Maybe he thinks he's doing a good thing but just not going about it the right way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BambinA Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 (edited) ok..if you are not a troll..indeed Hi!Have you ever been desperated in a relationship? What would you guys do when your partners make you feel inferior?... i had BFs be4 , they are smarter than me(in their skill and other guy stuff)..but i've never fell deperate nor inferior..people are vary..you have your own skill and that one you must know/have more than him. i dont think that he is so wise to know all on earth happend..so why you just dont present your strong point..the way that makes he respect you more ok..i will give u an example ....one of my ex is a civil engineer(master degree) ..he know how to build things ..(obviously i dont know that much) but come on, on my skill, as medicine.. he doesn't know either..u can make a crisis to be a chance..seem you are pretty smart,arent you? I'm a gal who is in a relationship with a WISE farang guy. He teaches me many things to make me improved. But, I think he doesn't know that his wisdom is killing me!! that's good ,isn't it? you'd proud to have a smart BF (if i was you,i'd not complain) could you give us some examples about which one he teach you ..and make you feel like a dumb girl,please? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> BTW ..i believe that READING makes people SMARTER .. so try to do it more, follow news (technology,econ,sport..etc..etc...) that one can make you feel proud with yourself..and when he talk with you, u can follow him every step (no need to be deep in info..just superficial is fine also) Edited November 1, 2005 by BambinA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
britmaveric Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 It's obvious you have no reason to lose confidence. Has your farang mastered everything thai? (somehow I doubt) So keep head-up and be a sponge - this is what your brain if used for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathe Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Does he try to tell you to do everything what he wants ? He knows everything better than you ? Are you only listening to him without any idea ? Have you ever told him your point of view or your will or what you want to do ? Did you accept his right all the time ? He nevers heard you when you wanted to describe him ? Is the language between you and him a big problem ? Your language is excellent, I am sure he cant speak thai like you speak his language. Give him the idea, dont wait till he ask you and you only said, ok. Give a plan and tell him , you want to do this and that ...dont wait till he plans for you. Tell him this weekend , you would like to make a picknick with him, or going shopping with him or making a short trip anywhere, or making things that you and him are happy. If you stay in your country, tell him you want to go to school or you want to apply for a job. Notice things that he has interested for. If he loves sport, ask him and watch with him. Going out and have your own friends, going out for a coffee with your girl friends sometimes. Able to going alone in the city or shoping alone. All these things shall collect you lots of confidences. Listen him but you should have your own point of view and your aim what you want to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sugarspice_bkk Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 Thank you very much for your kind attention and moral support. I'm still so happy to be with him that's why I have to take this advantage to improve myself. P.S. Where can I have lower price native English teacher. You know, when you don't speak or read English everyday, the B.A. degree doesn's help :-( Thks, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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