Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Are you drunk?

I don't know if the OP is drunk or not ... but I am a little confused.

Bacause back in March of this year the OP asked " I'm happily married since ten years and would like to adopt our son, who'd never seen his biological father." in the thread Adoption of Our Son in LOS.

So the answers can be better tailored to suit your question, does your wife now have the HIV Virus?

Your Girlfriend?

Your new partner?

Your Mia Noi?

Other person not considered above?

Or did you fall in love with one of the Dancers you mention back in February of this year in Where Are The Coyote Dancers In Ubon Ratchathani?

Where you write "Where is a good place to go to in Ubon Ratchathani to have fullest satisfaction? I mean beside some real good "one stop service" massage parlous and Karaoke places."

Whatever! the history is immaterial to me..

OP you said the words "You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl."

Why would ones feelings change because your lady had HIV?

What would I do? Obtain the best specialist care I could afford for her.

The OP may be asking it for someone else in 1 of his posts or for reference in case such happens, am I right, OP ?

In this thread, do you mean that you think she:

1)cheated on you after the 2 of you are thing; or

2)lied to you that she was CLEAN before ?

Test us what you think exactly now and we can help you better.

What would I do??..... get the hiv test for myself for starters.

You always get HIV tests for both of you, before you move in together.

It doesn't cost much (250-500bht per person depending on hospital).

Get checked out yourself then if you love her provide her with the best medical care available...THE BEST.....money nothwithstanding.

Getting checked aside, leave her - I mean she may be the perfect woman for you but she won't be for long. Unless you have some sort of messiah complex...

Very sad true but why would you involve yourself in such a drama in a foreign land with immigration laws and attitudes as they are?

It would unfortunately be a deal-breaker and one would find some reason to disengage,

Anyone saying they would not isn't being realistic.

Edited June 30, 201214 yr by cobra

well he dosnt state how long he,s been with her, we have all seen men come here fall in love after 2 weeks,,

i would go, no chance i would want anything like HIV near me,

ive worked in africa and seen all this when its bad,, not a chance, you wouldnt see my ass for the dust

You always get HIV tests for both of you, before you move in together.

It doesn't cost much (250-500bht per person depending on hospital).

What do you mean always? How many have you had?

You always get HIV tests for both of you, before you move in together.

It doesn't cost much (250-500bht per person depending on hospital).

Yes, it's a baseline and if clear no unprotected sex for another (3 months?) for the follow up test. Not sure of the current technology timeline for identifying HIV virus after exposure.

COUGH ... has anyone noticed that since the OP started this conversation, the member has not come back and replied.

See my posts #3 and $4.

COUGH ... has anyone noticed that since the OP started this conversation, the member has not come back and replied.

See my posts #3 and $4.

maybe we are all barking up the wrong tree,there is another hiv virus which is rife in los,HIS INVESTMENT VANISHES

Would it kill the love that my heart feels? No

Would it kill the love that my brain feels? Absolutely

COUGH ... has anyone noticed that since the OP started this conversation, the member has not come back and replied.

See my posts #3 and $4.

Yes, this has the makings of a typical wind-up thread. And all the TV sheeps are responding as if it were all fact.

Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Not sure what I would do but nice Thai ladies don't carry hiv so I hope the first thing you would do is apologise for infecting her.

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Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Not sure what I would do but nice Thai ladies don't carry hiv so I hope the first thing you would do is apologise for infecting her.

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HIV can be passed on to the new born baby through the Mother.

HIV have be transmitted through infected blood.

There are a variety of ways that "nice Thai/others" can be infected, such a shame it carries such a stigma!

Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Not sure what I would do but nice Thai ladies don't carry hiv so I hope the first thing you would do is apologise for infecting her.

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HIV can be passed on to the new born baby through the Mother.

HIV have be transmitted through infected blood.

There are a variety of ways that "nice Thai/others" can be infected, such a shame it carries such a stigma!

Thanks for your input. I can’t believe some posters ‘words though.

Fact is that I’m married to a fantastic woman who’s got this virus. She’d never worked in a bar, got this from her last Thai relationship, where her guy died, without even knowing why he died.

I couldn’t speak Thai when I first met her, she couldn’t speak English, but there was and is something we can call love. I do and I don’t really care what others think.

Okay, we’re 10 years together, married and her CD 4 are still good, no reason to take medicine yet. I know it could/will come one day.

When I had realized that I really love her, and a blood test was showing a positive result, I wanted to run away.

Back to my European country, but I stayed.

I then moved to Thailand, had enough financial background to settle down and we moved to her village.

We've lived there for a year and then moved to the provincial city where we still reside. Everybody likes her. No gossip, what she says makes sense.

I had many relationships in Europe, didn’t come to Thailand because I couldn’t find the right girl back home.

But I never met such a good women like my wife.

My country was just too cold for me and that’s not just the weather. People are unhappy because they already have everything money can buy?

My question “what would you do if?” is herewith answered from my side and I would never do it a different way.

If anybody on this forum knows what love is all about they’ll understand me. Those who don’t shouldn’t write BS.

This virus could and will never kill my love to my wife.-

Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Not sure what I would do but nice Thai ladies don't carry hiv so I hope the first thing you would do is apologise for infecting her.

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Have you ever seen a virus that's not infecting "nice" people how you call it? Please read my post. . But thanks for your thoughts.

Please see Albert Einstein's quotation : human stupidity and the universe................

Edited July 10, 201213 yr by Sheryl
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sirchai, what European country do you originate from? (wondering about the "cold" part)

Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Not sure what I would do but nice Thai ladies don't carry hiv so I hope the first thing you would do is apologise for infecting her.

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HIV can be passed on to the new born baby through the Mother.

HIV have be transmitted through infected blood.

There are a variety of ways that "nice Thai/others" can be infected, such a shame it carries such a stigma!

I deeply appreciate people like you with a brain. Thanks!

sirchai, what European country do you originate from? (wondering about the "cold" part)

Does that really matter? Cold winters for most of the time and cold blooded people. I grew up in the middle of our planet when you look on a world map....

sirchai, what European country do you originate from? (wondering about the "cold" part)

Does that really matter? Cold winters for most of the time and cold blooded people. I grew up in the middle of our planet when you look on a world map....

Ummmm, ok. I'll just assume Sweden then

Edited July 10, 201213 yr by IsaanUSA

There are to my knowledge at least several other TV members whose wives have HIV, and AFAIK they are happy together and have long bene together. I also know of cases where the farang husband has it and the Thai wife does not. Viruses are blind to nationality, ethnicity and social class.

Obviously, OP needs to get tested and also start regularly using condoms with his wife. (That applies even if you turn out to be positive yourself -- you'll amplify each other's viral loads if you don't.)

The only issue I can see that might raise a "stay or leave" question is if it is suspected that she was infected through infidelity. only the OP and his wife know the details. I should advise though that a good CD4 count suggests an infection acquired within the past 10, and probably the past 5, years. not an iron clad rule, but generally the case.

Beyond that issue, this is no different from finding out your wife has any other chronic disease. You learn about the disease and live with it. Fortunately this is what modern treatments have done -- changed HIV from a hideous death sentence to a manageable, albeit complicated, chronic condition.

The following is an excellent resource for learning about HIV and its treatment, from A to Z. It is maintained by people who are themselves HIV positive and is highly accurate.

www.thebody.com

Thanks a lot for your nice words, Sheryl.

I've seen an old friend dying a long time ago back in Europe and I couldn't' stop crying while holding her hand in her last minutes.

More people in my city followed, some transmitted through sex, some were drug addicts. Many had no idea where the virus came from.

There was only the killer medicine in times when people thought they had found a treatment.

But then it turned out that the "medicine ' and not the virus had killed the patients. All about money. Okay, that was a long time ago.

I'm always in touch with two good friends in Europe who are good doctors treating HIV patients.

I hope that more people, especially in Thailand will "learn' that diseases will always exist and are mostly treatable........

Please just imagine: You'd fall in love with a nice Thai lady, not a bar girl.

You fall in love and you figure out that this is the one you were looking for your whole life.

After a few months, she gets sick and a blood test shows that she's got the HIV virus.

What would you do?

Thanks for any honest input!-

Not sure what I would do but nice Thai ladies don't carry hiv so I hope the first thing you would do is apologise for infecting her.

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Have you ever seen a virus that's not infecting "nice" people how you call it? Please read my post. . But thanks for your thoughts.

Please see Albert Einstein's quotation : human stupidity and the universe................

I read your previous topic on adoption and my post here was a lighthearted dig at what I and a few others took to be a troll post.

If everything is as you say, you and your wife have my sympathies and I hope things go as well as they can for the pair of you.

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COUGH ... has anyone noticed that since the OP started this conversation, the member has not come back and replied.

See my posts #3 and $4.

Yes, this has the makings of a typical wind-up thread. And all the TV sheeps are responding as if it were all fact.

Even had I thought that the OP was trolling/winding up, I would have responded exactly the same way! I would rather be "a sheep" than someone pig ignorant/ arrogant as a few portray themselves on here. Had it been a troll, the post could have been invaluable for someone else.

OP I wish you and your good lady all the best, and a good quality of life!