Lifer Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Why are there so many ridiculous posts in the form of questions to get people commenting? A very few are reasonable, but many are fluff. I guess it builds up the poster counts. It comes across as fishing to remove the bordom of having too much time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beb Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I think it's safe to say that Thai Visa is probably the worst place on the planet to ask a question like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WtFugarwe Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Advice 1. Go slow. Don't search for Ms. Right until you learn some Thai and learn some of the Thai way. 2. Every Thai woman has friends and relatives that want to meet a falang man. Find the wife of a friend you trust and get introduced through the friend. 3. Chill, dude. Thailand is a man's world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinnieTheKhwai Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) I think it's safe to say that Thai Visa is probably the worst place on the planet to ask a question like this. No it isn't. Pattaya Addicts is worse. Actually as far as forums go, there may not be a better one. Edited August 4, 2012 by WinnieTheKhwai 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyecatcher Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Why are there so many ridiculous posts in the form of questions to get people commenting? A very few are reasonable, but many are fluff. I guess it builds up the poster counts. It comes across as fishing to remove the bordom of having too much time. You just added 1 to your count....and you came to read (bored? or want relationship advice?) and the content was "fluff" Yes there is a lot of dribble written, and admittedly 50% of mine is nonsense but I would say on every thread there is a gem of information or advice that a TV member offers that is of use or help to someone. for me this is my morning newspaper, trivial as it is, I read, I laugh,i learn something about Chiang Mai and I learn that my morals and my opinions are not shared by everyone. so with your 500 posts, all of which I am sure are extremely sensible, you have found the need to be here also. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tolstoy Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Eyecatcher care to take back your previous slam at me. "Every Thai woman has friends and relatives that want to meet a falang man. Find the wife of a friend you trust and get introduced through the friend. 3. Chill, dude. Thailand is a man's world. " If this is indicitive of what I was talking about, I don't know what is. racist and sexist in the same post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticky Rice Balls Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 OP should read that yellow book, the one with the Farang Man telling how these mixed relationships go from our Western perspective, and the Thai Lady telling how things go for her from the Thai perspective. And insights into each others cultures likewise, from the other side. It helped me understand myself as a Farang and how we get weird about money and control and independence more than any book I've read in a long time. I only remember thinking it was terrible they had a dumb title and then the picture on the book made it look like it would be about marrying hookers, when in fact it's an intelligent, well-thought-out book. What's it called again ? UG will know. I'm sure he's got it too. Probably a few used copies around town too, though my copy was lent out, and was originally lent to me.... it's the kind of book you pass on for its instructiveness. StickyRice, you ought to find this book too. It's good stuff. i know what ur talking about i actually thumbed thru it on a summer camp bus to rayong from cm to do teaching years ago...ugh....but a older classmate had it..i dont think he applied the advice within..tnx for the tip Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dionys Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 LawrenceChee #1 “Anyone has dated woman professionals in CM at the senior management level and has advice culturally what they are like?” There are about 3.5 billion women on this planet, managers, scientists, workers, and homemakers, from Chain Mai to Timbuktu. The first man, or woman, having valid answer to your question should immediately and without hesitation receive a Nobel Price. Reversed gender in your question only reinforces this statement. Have any easier questions? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nocturn Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 So where does one go to find these self supporting ones?....lord knows after 3 yrs living here i have only come across the "u take care of me?" ones...i just got thru a long investment with one yest that swore she was a good one and wasnt after my $$--(blood from a turnip)..then came the bomb-"you take care of me?".she works-i dont..why not pay me?.i'll cook and clean-make boom boom-word! Im a nice guy with lots to offer--all except $$--that is my only rule as it seems once money comes into play it is a matter of time before it corrupts things--hence no money--its never a topic-issue but i'll be damned if the gals are always amazed when i say im single--of course they dont believe me! But again maybe this is a post for the ladies..are we even allowed to go in there--the ladies "room"? id say unless you are working here in one capacity or another, you aren't going to meet them. it also helps if you have something to bring to the table. just like in the real world. "long investment with one yest" -- what does that even mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 .In this day and age, it is advisable not to become involved with Thai women or treat with extreme caution. Why? There are a million reasons. Thailand has become extremely commercialised, and the society as a whole much more affluent than it used to be and the women can be a lot more independent in liberal minded Thailand. Thai attitudes towards relationships have changed dramatically over the years; relationships according to the women are based more on business and what’s in it for them rather than love and passion. No longer are Thai women the loyal, subservient little Thai princesses as most often they are portrayed in the West and the Western guys are led to believe. A higher status Thai woman is inclined to be a social climber and will be seeking more affluent men, expecting to be kept in the lifestyle she is accustomed and on the up and up. The Thai wife can become a tied wife; meaning that if the guy fails to live up to her expectations, than she will move on to where she believes the grass is greener. Many middle to upper class Thai women have no desires to have life long male partners. Their main ambitions are, to have a least one child, gain material and financial wealth before the age of 45 when they become less desirable and be completely independent in they’re later years , plus for many Thai women of status, a farang will be they’re last choice, if given the choice and this is why so many farangs intend to aim for the poorer Thai women from the underclass’s of Thai society. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinnieTheKhwai Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 (edited) ^ LOL. (I Like'd your post because it's the funniest thing I read today, not because I agree with a word of it. ) And then the matrix image... wow, someone actually typed that all up; not sure if that's sad or hilarious or both. Edited August 5, 2012 by WinnieTheKhwai 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloudhopper Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 (edited) Well from my perspective it (edit - i.e. the table) was a pretty fair summary. Edited August 5, 2012 by cloudhopper Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LawrenceChee Posted August 5, 2012 Author Share Posted August 5, 2012 Table is hilarious and true in soapy ways ! Whoever did it obviously enjoyed the experiences and experiments ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uptoyoumyfriend Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 any woman looking for a man is looking for a man-I found that true in many societies and levels therein-they will generally expect some form of pampering, protection and initiative from you combined with the finesse endemic to their class.thai professionals are no exception other than the pros on loi kroh who just expect money. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticky Rice Balls Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 So where does one go to find these self supporting ones?....lord knows after 3 yrs living here i have only come across the "u take care of me?" ones...i just got thru a long investment with one yest that swore she was a good one and wasnt after my $$--(blood from a turnip)..then came the bomb-"you take care of me?".she works-i dont..why not pay me?.i'll cook and clean-make boom boom-word! Im a nice guy with lots to offer--all except $$--that is my only rule as it seems once money comes into play it is a matter of time before it corrupts things--hence no money--its never a topic-issue but i'll be damned if the gals are always amazed when i say im single--of course they dont believe me! But again maybe this is a post for the ladies..are we even allowed to go in there--the ladies "room"? id say unless you are working here in one capacity or another, you aren't going to meet them. it also helps if you have something to bring to the table. just like in the real world. "long investment with one yest" -- what does that even mean? sorry hard to type on my netbook--short hand--yesterday,,,,,chatted up a gal for a long time.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyecatcher Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 So where does one go to find these self supporting ones?....lord knows after 3 yrs living here i have only come across the "u take care of me?" ones...i just got thru a long investment with one yest that swore she was a good one and wasnt after my $$--(blood from a turnip)..then came the bomb-"you take care of me?".she works-i dont..why not pay me?.i'll cook and clean-make boom boom-word! Im a nice guy with lots to offer--all except $$--that is my only rule as it seems once money comes into play it is a matter of time before it corrupts things--hence no money--its never a topic-issue but i'll be damned if the gals are always amazed when i say im single--of course they dont believe me! But again maybe this is a post for the ladies..are we even allowed to go in there--the ladies "room"? id say unless you are working here in one capacity or another, you aren't going to meet them. it also helps if you have something to bring to the table. just like in the real world. "long investment with one yest" -- what does that even mean? it sounds like he did...he put all his cards on the table, and allowed her take...thats learning the hard way; on a positive note, if you have nothing left you cant lose anymore. and for the record I have never ever heard "u take care of me" from any one in Thailand, so rethink your strategy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amexpat Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 "and for the record I have never ever heard "u take care of me" from any one in Thailand, so rethink your strategy. " Don't get out much, do you? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticky Rice Balls Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 well due to my manly hands on this tiny netbook and the breakdown of english language due to texting--sms...i replaced you with U---you take care of me...never heard that here?..REALLY?...wow..when i talk to a girl im just waiting to see how far it goes before she says it--i knd of make a game out of it now as i know its coming but just how long will she hold out pretending she really likes me for me--charming and handsome! but that is shocking to me, even in SE Asia..as i talk to alot of asian girls from other countries and they admit it too...so..i suppose if you are happily in a relationship and she never asked you..do tell---DO TELL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticky Rice Balls Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 "and for the record I have never ever heard "u take care of me" from any one in Thailand, so rethink your strategy. " Don't get out much, do you? lol agreed --funny had to comment--see below Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyecatcher Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 "and for the record I have never ever heard "u take care of me" from any one in Thailand, so rethink your strategy. " Don't get out much, do you? you can say what you like about deaf people. The happiest relationship has to be a deaf man to a blind woman............ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinnieTheKhwai Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) Well from my perspective it (edit - i.e. the table) was a pretty fair summary. No, the fair summary version is: "If you find an educated and finanically independent person as a spouse then you can be somewhat more confident that he/she wants you for who you are, has shared interests, capabilities and aspirations, and does not merely need you as an atm-card-that-has-bodily-functions." Turning it into a rainbow colored infographic with an Excel column per 'women_type' is the sad part. Edited August 6, 2012 by WinnieTheKhwai 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LawrenceChee Posted August 6, 2012 Author Share Posted August 6, 2012 Thanks for all the feedback and thoughts ...dating an auditor, an engineer and a bank director will let all know how it goes ...not at the same time so hold the comments :-) Stay well and have a great night..Japanese food tonight ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticky Rice Balls Posted August 8, 2012 Share Posted August 8, 2012 if u need a wingman im free!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
expatmakmak Posted August 8, 2012 Share Posted August 8, 2012 IMHO I wouldn't bother, vote with your feet! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LawrenceChee Posted August 19, 2012 Author Share Posted August 19, 2012 Just some thoughts .. The engineer was great lady, professional and for house planning I have never met someone with quite this amount of knowledge probably scared the builders too...too much on the money planning side for my liking as I prefer to invest at the moment The bank director in BBK was everything an alpha male was except she looks so good in black nightie at night ...smarts and great for bedside conversations if u want to discuss heavy duty stuff besides the usual ;-p well traveled and wants a future planned and mapped like a military diction The auditor was smart sassy but had a horrid family ...all were corporate gee whizz and expect a perfect son in law All in all the experience was good and enriching to see the cultural side of dating professional Thais Dating a bank employee now ...maybe it is just good to go back to basics ...I feel more comfortable showing her the nicer places in CM without the need to fly her out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmbe Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 Just some thoughts .. The engineer was great lady, professional and for house planning I have never met someone with quite this amount of knowledge probably scared the builders too...too much on the money planning side for my liking as I prefer to invest at the moment The bank director in BBK was everything an alpha male was except she looks so good in black nightie at night ...smarts and great for bedside conversations if u want to discuss heavy duty stuff besides the usual ;-p well traveled and wants a future planned and mapped like a military diction The auditor was smart sassy but had a horrid family ...all were corporate gee whizz and expect a perfect son in law All in all the experience was good and enriching to see the cultural side of dating professional Thais Dating a bank employee now ...maybe it is just good to go back to basics ...I feel more comfortable showing her the nicer places in CM without the need to fly her out. Haven't you any country side low-middle class (accually I never want to give a class to any peoples but just let you understand easier what I mean) women in your candidate list, or only professional women ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elektrified Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 Just some thoughts .. The engineer was great lady, professional and for house planning I have never met someone with quite this amount of knowledge probably scared the builders too...too much on the money planning side for my liking as I prefer to invest at the moment The bank director in BBK was everything an alpha male was except she looks so good in black nightie at night ...smarts and great for bedside conversations if u want to discuss heavy duty stuff besides the usual ;-p well traveled and wants a future planned and mapped like a military diction The auditor was smart sassy but had a horrid family ...all were corporate gee whizz and expect a perfect son in law All in all the experience was good and enriching to see the cultural side of dating professional Thais Dating a bank employee now ...maybe it is just good to go back to basics ...I feel more comfortable showing her the nicer places in CM without the need to fly her out. Haven't you any country side low-middle class (accually I never want to give a class to any peoples but just let you understand easier what I mean) women in your candidate list, or only professional women ? Chances are, these "country side low-middle class" you refer to may not have any assets or income and may even be insolvent. Perhaps he doesn't want that? I know I wouldn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmbe Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 Just some thoughts .. The engineer was great lady, professional and for house planning I have never met someone with quite this amount of knowledge probably scared the builders too...too much on the money planning side for my liking as I prefer to invest at the moment The bank director in BBK was everything an alpha male was except she looks so good in black nightie at night ...smarts and great for bedside conversations if u want to discuss heavy duty stuff besides the usual ;-p well traveled and wants a future planned and mapped like a military diction The auditor was smart sassy but had a horrid family ...all were corporate gee whizz and expect a perfect son in law All in all the experience was good and enriching to see the cultural side of dating professional Thais Dating a bank employee now ...maybe it is just good to go back to basics ...I feel more comfortable showing her the nicer places in CM without the need to fly her out. Haven't you any country side low-middle class (accually I never want to give a class to any peoples but just let you understand easier what I mean) women in your candidate list, or only professional women ? Chances are, these "country side low-middle class" you refer to may not have any assets or income and may even be insolvent. Perhaps he doesn't want that? I know I wouldn't. I already understand about this rule that many peoples(Thai and foreigner) are still following this rule , but I just hope to see how more peoples that really do not care or interested what the job their date partner do, how much salary she/he earn per month, does she/he has some asset before,... but may be that way is good for prevent problem in the future and let you feel more safe and trust your partner,..I am not sure if I have same idea...myself, I never ask or want to know my partner/my future partner about job,asset,money,education,family,... whatever if my partner do not want to tell me in begin, just let the time pass and learn each other day by day and see how far we can go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokie36 Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 Well my girlfriend is in the Senior Manager bracket so I will reply. I met her in a bar in Bangkok, we clicked as it were and started dating. While she is professional at work I wouldn't say our relationship has any reflection of the vastly different jobs we do....perhaps the nature of them being so different means we rarely discuss them in any detail. Obviously she is intelligent, which is one of the things I love about her, also being able to converse properly and argue her corner effectively lol.... Other than that our relationship is fairly normal I think....there is no hiso attitude anyway....surprising from such a beautiful lassie....but perhaps I am just lucky. Some of the things she tells me about her colleagues and friends raises the eyebrows though....lots of girls out there with big attitudes I think. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LawrenceChee Posted August 22, 2012 Author Share Posted August 22, 2012 Good on you smokie36 ...when u find a keeper it's always great ! I agree it's the bedside conversations the professionals bring that is so needed at time ..the balance is the holy grail ...for those that found a simple lass who speaks and communicates at your heart ...that's a great plus ! Don't know why people keep talking about money and assets ...never was in my original post and should never be the only consideration for a relationship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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