The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

It's wealth and living in a place with modern values - Bangkok- and if you have or you're family can accept modern ways.

If you have a half decent job and will inherit enough then you can afford to pick and choose.

Come from somewhere poor with nothing to fall back on then it's a different matter.

The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

Do the Western girls that you know wear clothes when going swimming?

Do the Western girls that you know have a book which gives them title to land and status as a citizen of the UK?

Do the Western girls that you know eat peppers as a food group or a condiment?

Do the Western girls that you know not wear shoes in their house?

Did the Western girls that you know wear little slit mini skirts every day in college?

I can think of about 100 more but I can't post them here

Blether I am never really sure what my wife thinks, I asked he after we were married a few years, why did you marry me, she said she didnt want to be alone she was 29 at the time i was 41, and later I asked her why she left Issan and she said because she didnt want to be poor. She worked for a chemical co. in BKK

So yes I kind of do think they look for a better future and the "love" aspect is not foremost as it might be for "us"

Having said that occasionally she grabs me in bed at night and says "love husband" so "who knows"

Ah to be able to read the mind of a lady.........I think that would be a curse to be honest

Yours has a mind too!!!!!

The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

Do the Western girls that you know wear clothes when going swimming?

Do the Western girls that you know have a book which gives them title to land and status as a citizen of the UK?

Do the Western girls that you know eat peppers as a food group or a condiment?

Do the Western girls that you know not wear shoes in their house?

Did the Western girls that you know wear little slit mini skirts every day in college?

I can think of about 100 more but I can't post them here

Don't be lazy, please tell us more...

So it all boils down to marrying for money not love.

Here we go again.

I read it as boiling down to the practicalities of life

Yes I agree but it still boils down to money. Take his wealth out of the equation and she wouldn't look at him.

Hmmmmm not necessarily the wealth ,how about his/her potential later i life, maybe if you see someone who is hard working and give them a "leg up" then they run with it and work even harder.

Thankfully I have no inlaws both are dead.................I got a bargain!!

The OP's observations are interesting, not just in what he tells us but in that the means by which he comes to such seemingly solid conclusions.

My own observation is that Thai women wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism - And I'm not of the opinion they got that from 'Hollywood'.

Though I accept the hypothesis within the OP's "Observation" will bring comfort to some and hence might be a point of view that fits nicely without disturbing the thoughts too much.

Blether I am never really sure what my wife thinks, I asked he after we were married a few years, why did you marry me, she said she didnt want to be alone she was 29 at the time i was 41, and later I asked her why she left Issan and she said because she didnt want to be poor. She worked for a chemical co. in BKK

So yes I kind of do think they look for a better future and the "love" aspect is not foremost as it might be for "us"

Having said that occasionally she grabs me in bed at night and says "love husband" so "who knows"

Thats an order right ?

Nahhhhhh

Thankfully I have no inlaws both are dead.................I got a bargain!!

Not sure your missus feels the same way

The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

Ill be in contact with you shortly with all my salient details

The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

You claim that the "mentality described by theblether is dying out fast" because of your experiences with a tiny handful of Thai girls that you know.

Oh god. This rubbish hurts my eyes.

What was it that the Thai politician said recently? Did he by any chance encourage local girls to marry farangs? And what was his reasoning?

The OP's observations are interesting, not just in what he tells us but in that the means by which he comes to such seemingly solid conclusions.

My own observation is that Thai women wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism - And I'm not of the opinion they got that from 'Hollywood'.

Though I accept the hypothesis within the OP's "Observation" will bring comfort to some and hence might be a point of view that fits nicely without disturbing the thoughts too much.

Did you read the OP?...........I wouldn't say it was highly opinionated.......I would say I suggested that there was a broader and deeper dynamic at work than many people realize but that I would pass it over to the experts for their opinion.

Methinks you've been on the red wine GuestHouse It's not like you to misread so badly.

Blether I am never really sure what my wife thinks, I asked he after we were married a few years, why did you marry me, she said she didnt want to be alone she was 29 at the time i was 41, and later I asked her why she left Issan and she said because she didnt want to be poor. She worked for a chemical co. in BKK

So yes I kind of do think they look for a better future and the "love" aspect is not foremost as it might be for "us"

Having said that occasionally she grabs me in bed at night and says "love husband" so "who knows"

Ah to be able to read the mind of a lady.........I think that would be a curse to be honest

Yours has a mind too!!!!!

I'm not sure but I sure as hell don't want to read........sometimes ignorance is bliss eh Tommo?

The OP's observations are interesting, not just in what he tells us but in that the means by which he comes to such seemingly solid conclusions.

My own observation is that Thai women wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism - And I'm not of the opinion they got that from 'Hollywood'.

Though I accept the hypothesis within the OP's "Observation" will bring comfort to some and hence might be a point of view that fits nicely without disturbing the thoughts too much.

ALL young women (certainly Thais and Western women) "wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism"!

The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

You claim that the "mentality described by theblether is dying out fast" because of your experiences with a tiny handful of Thai girls that you know.

Oh god. This rubbish hurts my eyes.

What was it that the Thai politician said recently? Did he by any chance encourage local girls to marry farangs? And what was his reasoning?

I have no idea what you are talking about, nor how it could be relevant to this thread. Please enlighten me.

The OP's observations are interesting, not just in what he tells us but in that the means by which he comes to such seemingly solid conclusions.

My own observation is that Thai women wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism - And I'm not of the opinion they got that from 'Hollywood'.

Though I accept the hypothesis within the OP's "Observation" will bring comfort to some and hence might be a point of view that fits nicely without disturbing the thoughts too much.

ALL young women (certainly Thais and Western women) "wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism"!

How old is young?

CMK - You've got a point there ! I should have said "ALL women".

Edit - Although Western women (and I assume Thai women are the same) tend to get over the 'hopeless' bit around 45 or so...

CMK - You've got a point there ! I should have said "ALL women".

Edit - Although Western women (and I assume Thai women are the same) tend to get over the 'hopeless' bit around 45 or so...

I would have said 35 but ....

CMK - You've got a point there ! I should have said "ALL women".

Edit - Although Western women (and I assume Thai women are the same) tend to get over the 'hopeless' bit around 45 or so...

I would have said 35 but ....

Obviously I was a late developer .

The mentality described by theblether is dying out fast.

I spend most of my time surrounded by Thai girls and none of them would marry someone they didn't love just for the sake of keeping their family happy, in fact the ones that are single are generally single because they are waiting for "Mr Right" (despite having many potential suitors pushed towards them by their family).

The Thai girls I know are no different in general than the Western girls I know, except for being shorter with tighter bums and smaller breasts.

also true, however mine has quite ample charms therefore she is different, no fried eggs here pls

I don't know... That story sounded like a similar story played out around the world everyday...

Woman in a relationship which is not really going anywhere... She feels that time is running out and maybe her parents have been getting on her about not being married and not having any kids. Up walks Ok Joe who, importantly, has some cash and she gets married and settles down. Things like this happen all the time.

thai girls,, thai girls,,thai girls,,\

listen it happens all over the world, very beautiful models marrying ugly but very rich footballers,

but does everbody that comes to england call them,, no,

yet you can come to thailand, just an ordinery bloke and most people say she married you for your money,

it happens,

bruce forsyth married miss world, now bruce is no oil painting but i bet hes a good craic, and they are still together,

i just wish some of you would get of your high horse, there is some very happy people here, and now matter what you call it, they are happy,

if some want to go with a differant girl everynite of there life to try and prove they can pull, that up to them,

marry for money or not, some will be happy with what they have together, if some men want to give to there partners family a little to help them , that too is up to them,,

yes i helped do my inlaws house up cost me 2 grand, i earn more then that a week, so its not the money its me wanting to help them,

my rant over jake

Respect? What respect brit??

Because not everyone -- Mr Brit 1984 included -- is a little schoolboy as lacking in manners and common courtesy as you are.

didnt you no you cant mention love in thailand without being shot to bits,

love dosnt happen in thailand, we who are in love just live in a dream

jake

The Blether posts many threads and has built up his reputation as a good guy. This makes it easier for such a poster to drop in the odd troll post.

Just sayin.

Anyway if this girl is a lesbian then she will have zero physical attraction to this guy. Or are we back to talking about Thailand can make you bisexual?. Would any straight man or woman spend the rest of their lives with a person of the same sex?

Seems ridiculous.

Hate to break it to you but the OP's story isn't especially 'Thai'. Women in their 30s back home get desperate too and often take a guy that don't really like that much in order to have something. Everyone's expectations change and that teenage and early 20 something idea of love begins to lose importance for many next to the idea of stability and kids and a nice house and a manicured lawn.

didnt you no you cant mention love in thailand without being shot to bits,

love dosnt happen in thailand, we who are in love just live in a dream

jake

We do Jake, and as long as this lasts we will accept the enjoyment cast our way

All the while watching others take time out to inform us of the poor decision we made....

I did the same thing, gave up everything for a better life. She has me now, the sacrifices I have made.

Some of us have given more then we will ever realise.

ALL young women (certainly Thais and Western women) "wander around with their heads filled with hopeless romanticism"!

And all over the world, reality will force them, to look for the 'right agreement', instead!

Do all of you know, how the end of 'Pretty woman' was originally planed and filmed? Instead of wedding,....?

It only didn't pass the test audience, so they filmed the 'tears off happiness' ending

Two things that are really annoying that we have warned about in the past:

Calling troll. If you think someone is a troll, report them or ignore them. Calling them out and starting a fight will just get you in trouble.

The tired old "Hiso Chinese girlfriend/wife" comments. There are a lot of members here with Chinese spouses that don't appreciate the derogatory comments, and we don't take insults against members' spouses lightly. It doesn't matter the race, nationality, or region of Thailand they come from, derogatory or demeaning comments will be dealt with harshly.