farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 Where are you based? Where are the family from? Isaan Isaan Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
payak Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 do you wipe there asses to, this is your house or at least was, start acting like it. think about it, there in your house and you dont want them there, your house, man up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Where are you based?Where are the family from? Isaan Isaan Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Big place is Isaan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
payak Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Where are you based?Where are the family from? Isaan Isaan Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Big place is Isaan. big house to probably, until more and more people pile into it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 Where are you based?Where are the family from? Isaan Isaan Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Big place is Isaan. Yes it is. Not following the pertinance of the question. Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Where are you based?Where are the family from? Isaan Isaan Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Big place is Isaan. Yes it is. Not following the pertinance of the question. Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Some here are trying to help you , WHERE IN ISAAN are you, we don't want your address, just an idea. . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 Udon Thani Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
payak Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 so on paper its not your house right, its your wifes. and its her sister yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hssl Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 So a 2 bedroom town house or the like is about 4k THB a month - kick your SIL husband into touch 1 - make him rent a house 2 - put him on a plane back to where he can work 3 - make him send cash every month 4 - Enjoy your life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 so on paper its not your house right, its your wifes.and its her sister yes. Correct Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
payak Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 so on paper its not your house right, its your wifes.and its her sister yes. Correct Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App this is why i would never buy a house in another persons name. no offence. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) To the OP Go on holiday for a month (or two), only taking the car and your wallet with you. Everyone will soon get the hint, and your wife can phone you to let you know when they have all gone. Don't pay any bills, or hand over/leave any money for running costs when you are away. Edited November 8, 2012 by TommoPhysicist 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 so on paper its not your house right, its your wifes.and its her sister yes. Correct Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App this is why i would never buy a house in another persons name. no offence. None taken. Not worried in that regard. Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post uptheos Posted November 8, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted November 8, 2012 I would throw them all out if they are taking advantage and not appreciative. If the wife has a problem with it she can go with them. Absolutely agree, but I think it's up to the wife to show she cares (loves) her husband and his happiness is the most important thing to her. She should tell the sister that they HAVE TO leave by such and such date. If she doesn't do that then she is expecting the OP to take care of everyone, in which case I'd be out of there faster than a bat out of hell because there will be more. Let her have what's there and go live a life. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimera Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 My partner is a Thai. the advise is that your proplem is your wife, as she has brought this problem to your house and without doubt she needs to remove the problem, if not then she loves the sister more than you.. understand!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelaos Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Had a similar situation a few years back with the (now) ex wife. Made my feelings clear, the ex did the dirty work and they moved in with MIL. The BIL in my case was Lao but same situation. I think the OP's wife needs to tell her sister to get out. If I was the OP I would definitely make the Farang BIL feel uncomfortable and tell him the score. As for taking care of the kids....NO WAY! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 My partner is a Thai. the advise is that your proplem is your wife, as she has brought this problem to your house and without doubt she needs to remove the problem, if not then she loves the sister more than you.. understand!! They will ALWAYS love a family member more than you until SHE steps back and looks at HER future prospects. It takes time to work out but unless she is totally brain dead then the correct solution will prevail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mauGR1 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 My partner is a Thai. the advise is that your proplem is your wife, as she has brought this problem to your house and without doubt she needs to remove the problem, if not then she loves the sister more than you.. understand!! They will ALWAYS love a family member more than you until SHE steps back and looks at HER future prospects. It takes time to work out but unless she is totally brain dead then the correct solution will prevail. Yeah, the correct solution, but maybe one the OP doesn't like. I would change the topic title if i could :" Another sad story from Isaan " When will they learn ? .. Ah, well, another plane load is coming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trainman34014 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 As a Farang I would take the 'other Farang' to one side and give him the message in very plain and understandable terms with a cut off date for your 'help'. If they don't move out by the day specified remove all their kit out into the road. As previously stated, your wife will always put her family before you, the Alien Farang, who is merely tolerated because you are financing the whole tribe. Sorry, but you have to man up and take the bull by the horns as your wife is never going to throw her sister and kids out. Indeed, it's tough, but she would rather throw you out first. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
payak Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 and be aware, they can throw you out, you only payed for the house, that means nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sydneycraig Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 "it's been good having you around but me and the wife need our space. I know a guy who can give you some work and know of a cheap place to rent not too far from here ..." if no response ,.. "I tried to help but I can only do so much...we are going away for the weekend and need you to be out when we return".... Still there on return... " times up... I have a friend coming to move your stuff to a 2k p/m room that I got you but your on your own after that.... " or just leave and move to Hawaii Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mogandave Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 As cheap as it is to rent here it amazes me that people would buy anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mauGR1 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 As cheap as it is to rent here it amazes me that people would buy anything. ..And quite ironically the Thais are often blamed for their lack of foreplanning 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
payak Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 and told they cant handle money, does not matter when there handling your money. not only that, there getting other peoples money, houses and god knows what in the first place, the are financial wizards, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvy Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 you can take care of me really you have to be strong , you cannot keep doing this , they will take advantage as long as you let it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 My partner is a Thai. the advise is that your proplem is your wife, as she has brought this problem to your house and without doubt she needs to remove the problem, if not then she loves the sister more than you.. understand!! They will ALWAYS love a family member more than you until SHE steps back and looks at HER future prospects. It takes time to work out but unless she is totally brain dead then the correct solution will prevail. Yeah, the correct solution, but maybe one the OP doesn't like. I would change the topic title if i could :" Another sad story from Isaan " When will they learn ? .. Ah, well, another plane load is coming. Dude. Lame post. Great value add. Just move along Ol' Wise One. Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaggy1969 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Sounds like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place there fella. Is everyone in the household aware of how you are feeling or have you only discussed it with your wife? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farang000999 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 can't you get your SIL's farang husband a job teaching english for 15-20k a month and let them live off that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeverSure Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) “When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one's self; and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. ” — Oscar Wilde Edited November 8, 2012 by NeverSure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangme Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 Sounds like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place there fella. Is everyone in the household aware of how you are feeling or have you only discussed it with your wife? Have let everyone know. Since wife seems to want to put it up to me, I've just laid out to her the end goal of them getting their own place and transport. Period. Next is to decide on near term date. Sent from my PC36100 using Thaivisa Connect App Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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