Sole Custody Rules Question

[2013goose]

I asked a previous question asking about how sole custody effects bringing my step child over to the UK I needed advice on.

My step son is living in Thailand with his grandmother and I am intending to bring him to the uk to join us in the uk

I have been informed that this requires both moral and financial support records for over 6 months and we require to have sole responsibility I'm unsure whether this counts as I got mixed signals from what I read , I saw one saying if the responsibility lies with the mothers mother it was ok and a diffrent one that says we have to of had input which we have.

My main question is we have to of had sole responsibility of my step son for six month or more and other than sending frequent money over to fund him we ring him most days.

If I brought him on a visitor visa could I make an application for him to settle with us while he is here in order to get him living with us.

Any replies are welcomed need as much advice as I can get

[2013goose]

what i am trying to say is that if i was to bring my step son to the UK we can better provide for him because sending money over to Thailand costs with western union where as if he was in the UK we could be spending the money on him for the important things clothes and food i would like to add that my mother in law is nearly 65 and i have been looking into the idea of bringing her over on a adult dependent visa as the other family members in the house do not pay money to assist my mother in law in the house they only think about theirself's as we fund my mother in laws portion of the rent as well as step son.

i need someone to make it clear to me how i would go about getting my son over here , whether its a case of getting a holiday visa and just leaving the country or if there is a lot more to it.

I'm new to actually putting visas into place but we have been processing the idea of getting him over for around 2 and half years when we first got together as her ex stopped her from bringing him over to the country as my step son is not his son insisting that if she was to come to England bare in mind she was forced as he was very abusive that her son was to stay with the grandma and they would come and get them at a later date.

if someone would help me with this it would help me so much ive become very confused with reading rules and then them changing.

[ThaiVisaExpress]

Does the father have any involvement in the child's life.

[Jay Sata]

what i am trying to say is that if i was to bring my step son to the UK we can better provide for him because sending money over to Thailand costs with western union where as if he was in the UK we could be spending the money on him for the important things clothes and food i would like to add that my mother in law is nearly 65 and i have been looking into the idea of bringing her over on a adult dependent visa as the other family members in the house do not pay money to assist my mother in law in the house they only think about theirself's as we fund my mother in laws portion of the rent as well as step son.

i need someone to make it clear to me how i would go about getting my son over here , whether its a case of getting a holiday visa and just leaving the country or if there is a lot more to it.

I'm new to actually putting visas into place but we have been processing the idea of getting him over for around 2 and half years when we first got together as her ex stopped her from bringing him over to the country as my step son is not his son insisting that if she was to come to England bare in mind she was forced as he was very abusive that her son was to stay with the grandma and they would come and get them at a later date.

if someone would help me with this it would help me so much ive become very confused with reading rules and then them changing.

As I said in my other reply you cannot just bring the boy over on a holiday visa and

then apply for settlement.

You are now talking about trying to bring his elderly grandmother over as a dependant.

Does she speak english? I'd say the chances of getting her to the UK are remote.

You are facing costs running to thousands and an uphill battle.

Edited March 22, 2013 by Jay Sata

[7by7]

There is no minimum nor maximum time the UK based parent needs to have been exercising sole responsibility over a child.

SET7.8 What is sole responsibility?

A sponsoring parent (see SET7.2) must be able to show that he/she has been solely responsible for exercising parental care over the child for a substantial period............

(My emphasis)

Where did you get this 6 months idea from?

Whilst the ECO has to be sure that issuing the child a settlement visa wont breach any custody order, sole custody alone is not enough; you, or rather your wife, must show that she meets the sole responsibility requirement.

An adult dependent visa is difficult to get, and expensive. Assuming she is over 65 she wont have to satisfy the language requirement, though.

SET08 - Parents, grandparents and other dependants

This is at least the third topic you have asked this and similar questions in.

May I ask you to keep it all in one topic?

Cross posting the same questions in different topics leads to confusion for you as you don't see all the answers in one place, and annoyance for the rest of us as we answer in one topic only to find you've been given the answer already in another one!

Edited March 22, 2013 by 7by7

[Jay Sata]

There is also the question of whether your wife's mother could cope with the UK climate and life.

I've known a few Thai's who have brought elderly parents over on a six month holiday only for them to get cold and homesick

after a few weeks and return to Thailand.

To be honest I've just arrived back in the UK from winter in Thailand and I'm asking myself why?

The weather over the last year has been terrible.

[2013goose]

Ill stick to one thread now sorry guys I'm just eager to sort things out

So someone said I would be better getting a thai visa lawyer to deal with the process is this something you would advise as I won't be over in Thailand till November and what prices would I be looking at paying for my stepson are there any lawyers that would be reccomended

The mother coming over wasnt to settle she would be coming over in a short stay visitor visa in order to see if she likes it and then we were intending on bringing her over in the future.

I realise its not just as easy as submitting an application and getting him here.

His father never had any involvement he left soon after finding out that my partner was pregnant.

He's been with his grandmother for 6 years now with the intent of bringing him over as soon as we are financially stable. Which we are now.

Sorry for any annoyance caused guys

Thanks again

2013goose

[JLCrab]

Just to clarify (?) issues, in a previous post the OP has stated: Me and my partner are not married only engaged.