girlfriend hunting on the net part 2

[williamta20012]

so ive had it with bars and my wallet has butterflys in it just like me.

I find this website site.

im like <deleted> I give it a try.

I find three nice girls. I go to meet one girl at a restaurant. She looks nice in the photos. but she keeps saying to me that she is ugly and has a scar on her lip. I tell her not to worry, I look older than my age.

she tells me she met two other farang who it went real bad with. they like pretty girls. I said there bad and I dont care what she looks like.

I tell her im going to laos soon and she flips out and wants to know who with.

warning bells r ringing but I ignore them.

I tell her it for a visa and arrange to meet her thay night.

I meet her and of course her friends there who looks at me like Im a sleezy low life off the net.

the girl........ she looks...... um...... like shes had her face bashed in with a wooden plank............

Im not tom cruise either but no way.... I decide ill still date her cause I like her and we can talk well... just friendly dates

so I win them both over with my humor

the next day she starts to pressure me to tell her what I think of her... Ill copy paste the convo

XXXX I deleted it...

but I said she looks like a baby and I forget thats she is an adult lol

she says

sadly
you dont talk to me again

at this point I really cbf and snatch the opportunity, shes blocked

life is so horrible for some people especially if u dont accept your self

Edited December 20, 2013 by metisdead
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[BlackArtemis]

This sounds 95% exactly the same as one story of mine. PM sent as we're not allowed to talk about names here.

But I have met quite a few girls off of TF and it's all gone fine so far. I just have not clicked with any of them.

But hell, my reading ability has sky rocketed as I am chatting with most of them in Thai, so it's a win win.

[HeavyDrinker]

Personally if she's flipped out on you once already it's hardly the most auspicious of starts, I'd steer well clear and head back to the bars. At least then you can see the goods and establish a rapport (of sorts) before you move on with things.

I can't understand this internet dating thing. At least in a bar you can have a good drink and a laugh; the end result always seems to be the same.The internet thing seems to be popular with blokes who would rather say they met their hooker I mean girlfriend anywhere but in a bar....you know the type who will spend several hours convincing anyone who listens their lass is ''different'' before she skins him to the bone as they're so wrapped up in the fact she's not a bar girl, they develop a false sense of security and their guard is down.

From what I can gather, this internet dating caper is as fraught with exactly the same risks as pulling a dolly from a bar as most of these lasses seem 'too good to be true'' until the poor sap, finds out they're not what they seem or the "nice sweet "educated" lass (no kids) he's been carousing with online for the last few weeks has had more cock than Bernard Matthews (if you'll pardon the coarse turn of phrase) and has popped out more offspring than the average soi dog....usually when it's way too late and they wind up with egg all over their face....

The dating game can be fun, why not go for it in the real world?

[williamta20012]

Personally if she's flipped out on you once already it's hardly the most auspicious of starts, I'd steer well clear and head back to the bars. At least then you can see the goods and establish a rapport (of sorts) before you move on with things.

I can't understand this internet dating thing. At least in a bar you can have a good drink and a laugh; the end result always seems to be the same.The internet thing seems to be popular with blokes who would rather say they met their hooker I mean girlfriend anywhere but in a bar....you know the type who will spend several hours convincing anyone who listens their lass is ''different'' before she skins him to the bone as they're so wrapped up in the fact she's not a bar girl, they develop a false sense of security and their guard is down.

From what I can gather, this internet dating caper is as fraught with exactly the same risks as pulling a dolly from a bar as most of these lasses seem 'too good to be true'' until the poor sap, finds out they're not what they seem or the "nice sweet "educated" lass (no kids) he's been carousing with online for the last few weeks has had more cock than Bernard Matthews (if you'll pardon the coarse turn of phrase) and has popped out more offspring than the average soi dog....usually when it's way too late and they wind up with egg all over their face....

The dating game can be fun, why not go for it in the real world?

I agree bro

[BlackArtemis]

Personally if she's flipped out on you once already it's hardly the most auspicious of starts, I'd steer well clear and head back to the bars. At least then you can see the goods and establish a rapport (of sorts) before you move on with things.

I can't understand this internet dating thing. At least in a bar you can have a good drink and a laugh; the end result always seems to be the same.The internet thing seems to be popular with blokes who would rather say they met their hooker I mean girlfriend anywhere but in a bar....you know the type who will spend several hours convincing anyone who listens their lass is ''different'' before she skins him to the bone as they're so wrapped up in the fact she's not a bar girl, they develop a false sense of security and their guard is down.

From what I can gather, this internet dating caper is as fraught with exactly the same risks as pulling a dolly from a bar as most of these lasses seem 'too good to be true'' until the poor sap, finds out they're not what they seem or the "nice sweet "educated" lass (no kids) he's been carousing with online for the last few weeks has had more cock than Bernard Matthews (if you'll pardon the coarse turn of phrase) and has popped out more offspring than the average soi dog....usually when it's way too late and they wind up with egg all over their face....

The dating game can be fun, why not go for it in the real world?

I have met with and dated girls I meet in real life too. Hell, I just got two numbers from a pair of girls running the counter at a big bike shop yesterday.

I signed up for the dating website for the hell of it, and while I have not found a girl there I really want to date, I have made a few friends out of the ordeal and thus met their other cute friends.

It's quite easy to spot the bullshit games as well.

I have also met girls in bars like Warm Up and Riverside, a bar is a fine place to meet a girl in my opinion, as I like going to bars, drinking with friends, and listening to live rock bands, it would be nice to share this with a girlfriend. I met my last girlfriend at a salsa bar, but distance killed it for me. Personally I wouldn't want to pick up a "working" girl, but I could care less if others do.

Back to the OP

It IS the same girl, and I have a date with her tomorrow night with her and her friends. I shall report back.

I like to say "I don't make poor life decisions, I make stories" and I am still young enough to be playing these games until I am ready to settle down again.

[HeavyDrinker]

Personally I wouldn't want to pick up a "working" girl, but I could care less if others do.

My point is that many of the girls on these sites are exactly that ....

[Beet]

I've met up with a few off dating sites here. I've always had them send saucy and semi-nude photos first.

Unfortunately the dates have all been horrific as I'm not the female lesbian I happened to say I am.

[williamta20012]

the internet rocks, more power to u, I think some people r way to judgemental, my sister was crying about books going digital before it happened, and I love bars toooo

[BlackArtemis]

Personally I wouldn't want to pick up a "working" girl, but I could care less if others do.

My point is that many of the girls on these sites are exactly that ....

And if you have been in country long enough, you can easily work it out on your own.

The smarter ones dress more conservative, but they start right in for the whole marriage thing and are quick to talk about taking care of you etc. They are also quick to ditch you if they think you won't pan out as a sugar daddy / sia.

There is a mix of working girls, girls looking for an easy life, girls who genuinely like foreigners, girls just looking to improve their English, and some like us, who joined for the fun of it.

[David48]

at this point I really cbf and snatch the opportunity, shes blocked

Humm ... "I really cbf and snatch the opportunity" ... anyone up for a translation?

[williamta20012]

at this point I really cbf and snatch the opportunity, shes blocked

Humm ... "I really cbf and snatch the opportunity" ... anyone up for a translation?

sry im on my mobile and am tired,

"I really cbf putting up with the bs, so I snatched the opportunity she presented me by not talking to her any more. like she asked. I blocked her.

[Beet]

cbf, couldn't be frogged.

[HardenedSoul]

I used to think that internet dating was good for those who, perhaps, don't operate well in bars, clubs or other normal social situations but since even the fattest, baldest and most socially inept jokers can land a hottie in this country, I'm inclined to believe that more than a few men simply use internet dating as a way to obtain the validation they imagine comes from having sex with many different women.

Another string to the bow, I guess

[donniereadit]

Approachable single Thai gals in bars I have found to almost always be whores. The great thing about a dating site is you get regular girls who you don't have to worry about getting through a group of Thai guys or friends to approach. That's mst of the battle right there.

There does seem to be that over sensitivity of doing or saying the slightest thing wrong and never to speak again the poster is referring to. Then not discuss why. I think Thais are much more sensitive to these types of nuances then what you may be used to. Kind of like high school where things are blown out of proportion.

[HeavyDrinker]

you don't have to worry about getting through a group of Thai guys or friends to approach.

That's a very fair point. One of my locals has a load of dollies (some absolute belters too) there every weekend (all looking for a "sugar daddy"), but they tend to be utterly crowded out by the local bloods looking for a roll so I'd not fancy the chances or safety of any non-Thai trying his luck in that atmosphere,

[HardenedSoul]

Approachable single Thai gals in bars I have found to almost always be whores.

Don't you mean girls that YOU, personally, find approachable?

Plenty of women that other men find approachable, are most certainly NOT hookers

Edited December 20, 2013 by HardenedSoul

[Showbags]

cbf, couldn't be frogged.

I thought there was an N missing.

Never heard that saying before.....would never have guessed.

[donniereadit]

Approachable single Thai gals in bars I have found to almost always be whores.

Don't you mean girls that YOU, personally, find approachable?

Plenty of women that other men find approachable, are most certainly NOT hookers

Good Thai girls don't allow themselves to be approachable or sit alone in bars. It's a loss of face.

Sometimes you can be introduced by a friend in her group, likely a male one, but it seems to be an exceptional situation in my experience.

So maybe you got a lemon.

The normal action is at the corner store or local market.

Edited December 20, 2013 by donniereadit

[HardenedSoul]

Good Thai girls don't allow themselves to be approachable or sit alone in bars. It's a loss of face.

Sometimes you can be introduced by a friend in her group, likely a male one, but it seems to be an exceptional situation in my experience.

So maybe you got a lemon.

The normal action is at the corner store or local market.

Mate, this is 2013, not 1913. The majority of today's non-hooking Thai women aren't constrained by archaic rules and taboos.

Most of these "rules of engagement" for dealing with so-called "good girls" are myths created by blokes who are very comfortable and confident mixing it up with the hookers but are intimidated by the thought of approaching an ordinary, non-hooking woman - pretty much the situation they were in back home, really.

The one you've just mentioned - being introduced by a friend, likely a male one - is pure <deleted>.

One can be introduced to a "good girl" - whatever that means - by a male or a female friend, she can be approached at the bar, on a dance floor or at a party.

[khunpa]

Good Thai girls don't allow themselves to be approachable or sit alone in bars. It's a loss of face.

Sometimes you can be introduced by a friend in her group, likely a male one, but it seems to be an exceptional situation in my experience.

So maybe you got a lemon.

The normal action is at the corner store or local market.

Mate, this is 2013, not 1913. The majority of today's non-hooking Thai women aren't constrained by archaic rules and taboos.

Most of these "rules of engagement" for dealing with so-called "good girls" are myths created by blokes who are very comfortable and confident mixing it up with the hookers but are intimidated by the thought of approaching an ordinary, non-hooking woman - pretty much the situation they were in back home, really.

The one you've just mentioned - being introduced by a friend, likely a male one - is pure <deleted>.

One can be introduced to a "good girl" - whatever that means - by a male or a female friend, she can be approached at the bar, on a dance floor or at a party.

100% true! Good post!

And regarding the "good girl" and "bad girl" thing... I also never understood the meaning of that... Is there also "good guys" and "bad guys"?

Edited December 20, 2013 by khunpa

[IsaanUSA]

Internet dating is played out. The fad has passed. It was fun 10 years ago when it was new and exciting.

[MrWorldwide]

khunpa, good guys loan you money and only become bad guys when they want it back. And good girls go to Heaven, but bad girls go everywhere. Next question ?

[khunpa]

khunpa, good guys loan you money and only become bad guys when they want it back. And good girls go to Heaven, but bad girls go everywhere. Next question ?

Thanks, I was starting to think that "good girls" only were the ones dating/living with Farang TV-members... (Found in 7-eleven, outside the university or online)

Edited December 20, 2013 by khunpa

[addy77]

My goal is to minimize the steps from email to bed. It's not even about the sex, it's the challenge to see how fast and easy I can get it. There's some things in life I don't want to work or pay for...

[khunpa]

I never understood this online dating thing... especially here in Thailand...

When I was single here, my phone was filled with numbers to plenty of hot women, who where always ready for a good time... (dinner, drinks, dancing, movies... whatever). And we are talking about women in normal jobs (or students) just wanting a good time.

It all makes things easier, if you have Thai friends, you work here, you do not look like a bag of shit, know a bit of Thai and dress well. At least much easier and quicker that anything online.

Edited December 20, 2013 by khunpa

[Colabamumbai]

Myy experience from all these websites is negative the last two girls that I have dated called me because they did not have the money for their car payments, it all came out in the wash after knowing them a short time.

The last one it lasted 45 days, she was told not to come without calling first after arriving 2x in the middle of the night without calling so what did she do? She came a 3rd time, probably trying to catch me with a woman. I threw her out. No car payments there.

[mrowe1973]

Personally if she's flipped out on you once already it's hardly the most auspicious of starts, I'd steer well clear and head back to the bars. At least then you can see the goods and establish a rapport (of sorts) before you move on with things.

I can't understand this internet dating thing. At least in a bar you can have a good drink and a laugh; the end result always seems to be the same.The internet thing seems to be popular with blokes who would rather say they met their hooker I mean girlfriend anywhere but in a bar....you know the type who will spend several hours convincing anyone who listens their lass is ''different'' before she skins him to the bone as they're so wrapped up in the fact she's not a bar girl, they develop a false sense of security and their guard is down.

From what I can gather, this internet dating caper is as fraught with exactly the same risks as pulling a dolly from a bar as most of these lasses seem 'too good to be true'' until the poor sap, finds out they're not what they seem or the "nice sweet "educated" lass (no kids) he's been carousing with online for the last few weeks has had more cock than Bernard Matthews (if you'll pardon the coarse turn of phrase) and has popped out more offspring than the average soi dog....usually when it's way too late and they wind up with egg all over their face....

The dating game can be fun, why not go for it in the real world?

I meet a nice girl whom owned a salon and she was basically hooking out of it! Funny, how convincing they can be with the stories and lies. I'm really messed up in the head now because I don't believe one thing a Thai girl tells me... Just go to the bar spend your cash and end it afterwards it's a hell of a lot cheaper and no need for anything emotional. It's a win win!

[Floater 7]

I say use all resources available. I find some luck on more social sites like "Tagged". You can make friends first then see if they want to meet for coffee. More regular Thai ladies there. After a short while you can tell the scammers from real. I used while still in America and had several quality friends here when I arrived. Use still for new friends.

[Dararasmi]

Meeting Thai females online is great fun and amazingly...umm...rewarding. But then again...I'm intelligent, good looking, entertaining, and have money.

[watso63]

I was coming to live in Thailand no matter what, so started looking on an asian dating website. I found "an honest, well to do" woman. Booked a holiday with my brother and his Thai wife. Met the "honest...good heart woman" waited for an opportunity, got access to her laptop...only to find she had a husband in OZ. Binned her, went back to UK, sold up and found another. 18 months later we are very happy, live together and life is great.

So, it is luck of the draw....some good some bad. As for Thai women being expensive...nowhere near as expensive as those western gold diggers it has been my misfortune to have been in relationships with.

Good luck to all, but keep your wits about you.