Why farang like to find friends from internet when they travel in Asia

[Sierra1991]

Hi I just wonder why farang like to find friends when they travel to Asia, especially in Thailand or Cambodia

my ex and I was broke up ( we met each other from Dating website and been together for almost 2 years )

but now we broke up .. So I just wonder if you met people from internet does it means they just looking for girl to have fun with (like holiday gf?)

Ps,My ex like to read this website but I don't know which forums hope he can see this one and just wanna say I miss you

[celso]

Time to move on!

[vtjforyou]

Better than youporn ?

[newatthis]

Sierra1991, sorry it didn't work out for you.

I don't think all farangs go on websites just to meet "holiday girlfriends." A mate met his wife through a website and they have been happily married for 7 years.

People are different and many find websites easier to start a relationship.

But as Celso said "Time to move on"

[Anders W Ferslev]

i meet my wife on a website, we are married now, and have a beautiful son now.. so good luck

[Sierra1991]

Thanks everyone yeah you guys said right time to move on

Happy New Year ka

[bushwacker]

Such a complicated and difficult question to answer ... i will spend the day thinking about it ... and get back to you .... Happy New Year

[Shancloudy]

Yes that's true moving on is the best thing to do. Remember sometimes the match that felt so right just isn't. Don't do more damage to your heart by trying to fix something that has past its expiration date. Sometimes heart ache came just to give us opportunity to learn lessons and to grow from it. You'll find love again and next time it will feel better. Have hope it will happen for you and you're in the best place for when it does.

[BarnicaleBob]

Sorry about your bad luck Sierra. I met my wife on a website in 2009 and later in that year came over here to meet her in person. We got married a couple of months later and have been having a very happy life together every since.

The single ladies in our moo baan saw how well we did and a number of them joined the dating websites as well. When they met a man they would always bring him by our house to introduce us to him. I guess was to show the man that there are other farangs living near her home. Because of this I have learned a little bit about these men.

It seems there are seven kinds of men that use the on-line dating serviced:

1. Those that want to have a lady to be there tour guide and sex partner while they have a vacation in Thailand. They seldom are heard from again.
2. Those that come to Thailand looking for a free place to stay with a lady to have fun with. They will live in her house or apartment with her and when his two weeks or month’s vacation is up, they leave and are seldom heard from again. They are all about having a good time with a minimum output of cash.
3. Men who already live in Thailand that are looking for free sex. They date you a little until they find someone else to move on to. In some cases they are already living with a Thai lady and may think about moving on to someone new. But if he will do it to the one he has now sooner or later he will to the same to you.
4. Men who are looking to retire to Thailand because it is cheaper to live here and it is a little bit adventurous for them. They sometime want to find a middle aged lady who already owns a home and a car so they don’t have to make a major investment.
5. Men who want to retire to Thailand because they can’t find a nice lady that is easy to get along with in their home country. This kind of man may be OK for you as they will provide for you and in most cases be faithful to you.
6. Men who are socially inept, ugly, fat or just tired of ladies from where they come from and just don’t know how to find a lady that will accept them in their home country. This may be OK for you if you can find love for his type, at least he will be true to you.
7. Men who just like the look and manners of a Thai lady and want to spend their life with one. This would be a good choice but they are hard to find.

I would suggest you read the profiles of the men who talk to you on line very carefully and look for signs that don’t add up. Pay attention to if they are willing to relocate to Thailand or if they are willing to go through all the mountains of paperwork and expense to move you to their country. Many men would like to have a Thai lady come to their country to live with them but they have no idea how expensive it is or how much time and paperwork it will take. So unless you can tell if they are financially well off, you need to address this issue in the beginning before you waste too much time and energy on them.

Good luck in your search.

[tingtongteesood]

Why not ?

[SantiSuk]

To answer the OPs (a Thai lady or a troll?) direct question, nobody knows: even if the dating sites ask when new clients register, many people are not honest. The full range I would guess - I know guys who have had long relationships from dating sites both Asian and UK and I have known single and married men use it to find casual sex, though I have not used dating sites myself. Some of the apparently single men over 45 years old that I have chatted to in falang bars in Bangkok and Pattaya seem quite lonely and some are clearly looking for someone special, not just sex; less so for the younger ones but that is no scientific answer and not universally true

Give some thought about how you are going to find out a man's intentions without looking like you are desperate for a relationship. You probably would not like a man who is desperately seeking (anyone) for a relationship.

The same goes with men. Stay loose have fun and don't have sex until you feel comfortable with it - that tends to turn away the sex-only seekers.

[aveabeeror2]

Would you care to elaborate Barnical Bill!

[Gaccha]

The right question the OP should have asked:

"

Hi I just wonder why farang like to find friends when they travel to Asia, especially in Thailand or Cambodia

my ex and I was broke up ( we met each other from Dating website and been together for almost 2 years )

but now we broke up .. So I just wonder if you by meeting people from internet does it mean you are looking for a girl to have fun with (like holiday gf?) or is it just to find somebody to marry?

Ps,My ex likes to read this website but I don't know which forums hope he can see this one and just wanna say I miss you

"

[Aussie Paul]

yes farang are all alike - like Thais are all alike. Don't generalise based on ethnicity.

[Ulic]

I have not met anyone on line yet, but I'm sure I will get around to it some year.

[ozyjon]

I love it, looking on line is so easy, the ladies also play the game, they have various guys hanging on, if it doesn't work out with one they have another to take his place and you know what,, so do i, come on girls i'm waiting for you.

[tetleythedog]

Thanks everyone yeah you guys said right time to move on

Happy New Year ka

I suppose the net is easier, as unless you speak a few Asian languages you have more chance of finding someone who can speak a bit of English.

[how241]

Sierra1991, sorry it didn't work out for you.

I don't think all farangs go on websites just to meet "holiday girlfriends." A mate met his wife through a website and they have been happily married for 7 years.

People are different and many find websites easier to start a relationship.

But as Celso said "Time to move on"

+1

[tomyumchai]

i sometimes try to find a playmate online as it saves on trawling the bars to find a fun compannion for motorcycle trips. ive also tried to prearrange girls in the various stop overs but sometimes theyre not the girl that appears in the photo profile and the last 1 wasnt a girl at all........hmmmmmm. back to the bar search then...

[Nemesis7]

Seara, it's hard to explain, some genuinely looking to fill up the empty space in their heart, some looking for holiday GF , some looming for a company and some for creepy ideas.

I believe in destiny.....a lot of things happens in our lives for which we were not ready but it just happened....

Many great people out there to meet ......it's your destiny that will take you there...

[josephinebloggs]

Obviously you can't label around a billion or so people with a certain way to attract a mate IE Internet dating but I'm sure there is a point with the OP's post somewhere.

Thing is, sooooo many men that come to SE Asia, and especially Thailand, to find a " Partner " with how I see it, lack a hell of a lot of social skills, can be extremely insecure of their own appearance, their weight and hair loss for example and the Internet gives them the security that with the click of a butting, they do or don't interact with someone.

Many of these men feel intimidated too, even though they'll generally encounter prostitutes, they'll still feel intimidated which is obscene to anyone who doesn't have these types of insecurities of course, but it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

The Internet takes away the intimidation.

That's what I think anyway.

[ellabbs]

i met my wife on a web site and we been married 7 years now ..so its worked for me ... completely

[laobali]

Would you care to elaborate Barnical Bill!

I thought he did pretty well. I'd also like to see something similar written from the opposite perspective: what Thai women are looking for online.

[Sierra1991]

Ok guys I thanks for all suggested

I went to my bf house 2 times last year and was stayed with his family

He was helped me a lot about paper works to get visa. Coz I'm still a uni student so I don't have much money in my bank account.

but I think my bf still young he's 24 years old and I'm 23 years old. So maybe we didn't meet in the right time.

He was my first farang boyfriend so I never know about guys put profile on internet to meet girls for some reason not just love.

sounds silly right hahaha how embarrassing ! I was just believed about love too much.

so even know it's hard to find truth love on the internet but I still got my profile on dating website again Lol.

Thanks everyone

[Cuban]

The internet is a tool to spread your net wider than your existing social circle and for those that lack confidence to establish first contact face to face from a standing start.

Certainly IMHO women like a certain amount of self-confidence in a man, so it would suggest that many that are using dating-sites purely to counter that aspect are on a back-foot already.

If you want to date a librarian, go to a library.

[AdamRich]

Find a new girl dude. It's not only foreigners who travel to Asia who meet people online. People worldwide meet people online. This is 2014.

[lakecross]

When going to a new country by yourself it's good to have some internet girls lined up to use as a tour guide =]. It's much easier to find good places and nice food when you have a thai girl with you, especially if you don't speak thai, it makes your holiday better. So that's the initial reason for me. After then it might turn into bf/gf or more, just depends.

In general I think most guys on dating websites are more after commitment than just sex. But there will be some guys who just see them as hubs full of desperate women; easy pickings.

From a guy's point of view it's easy to pull in Thailand without using a dating website, but the girls that you are likely to meet in bars maybe aren't going to be girlfriend material. So guys might think dating websites are a better place to get a good quality gf.

[mesquite]

First case of public cyberstalking I've ever seen.

[mesquite]

Find a new girl dude. It's not only foreigners who travel to Asia who meet people online. People worldwide meet people online. This is 2014.

The OP is a girl and apparently interested in men.

[maccaroni man]

Just remember there are plenty more where he came from try again and you may upgrade