those of us that have been married to our thai wives for a long time and have been very happy with everything[thats me].

i now find time is going so quick and i am not getting any younger i have started to think about how much time i have left to enjoy with my wife and my beloved dog.i cant believe its over 26yrs.since we met and the last 3yrs.since we have had our loyal freind it is getting better every day.what has made me think about this was talking to my mate in the uk.i asked him when is he coming over again and his answer was for your --th.birthday.ge shit i am not that old am i[afraid so].

so how can i make it more more more better than what it is now.

idea's on a postage stamp please.

ps.i dont want another wife or another dog.

one very happy T.I.T. taff in thailand.

Hey congratulations.....Nice to hear a good farang-Thai marriage ...story....

Me..I'm only on ten years in ...but just as happy as day one if not more!

Makro sell leeks.

You gonna get weird advice on ur question....interested to read this thread the coming days. Good luck to you.

Congrats - same here and couldn't be happier.

I've still got a few miles left on the engine and I'm looking forward to the ride.

Our experiences used to be chapters in our life story, now they're short sentences but every now and then we do something off beat like the Ferris wheel at asiatique over the holidays - Thank god they are insulated.

I like the quote "Life isn't measured by the breaths we take, but rather the moments that take our breath away"

I'd say keep discussion about your marriage, wife, family off ThaiVisa, it won't make your marriage any better but it will at least avoid you having to put up with abuse from the bitter and twisted keyboard warriors stalking this forum.

Can't help but agree with you MB, time flies and seems to go faster the longer you are here and the older you become. I am having difficulty remembering, not so much as to what has happened, but more to when it happened, ie, how many years ago...............

Have known my wife for 23 years, been married for 14, seen the kids fly the nest and have two Siberian huskies as substitute kids now. Everything good with life. However, I have the added bonus (?) of still working and being able to keep the brain cells amused, so boredom isn't currently an option.

As to how to change/extend the experience? Truthfully, if you are happy now, come to terms with it and don't try to change it. Short of using valium (or equivalent), you aren't going to slow nature.................

I would say, don't even think about improving life if you think you have perfection.

Remember one day it will end, when we meet our maker and nobody knows when that will be.

Enjoy, as you seem to be one of the lucky ones. .

I'd say keep discussion about your marriage, wife, family off ThaiVisa, it won't make your marriage any better but it will at least avoid you having to put up with abuse from the bitter and twisted keyboard warriors stalking this forum.

that wont bother me we taffs have skin as thick as 2 short planks.

mate, sounds like you already have the perfect life, just learn to sit back and enjoy it and stop worrying, that will just shorten it. Way to go

I'd say keep discussion about your marriage, wife, family off ThaiVisa, it won't make your marriage any better but it will at least avoid you having to put up with abuse from the bitter and twisted keyboard warriors stalking this forum.

that wont bother me we taffs have skin as thick as 2 short planks.

we cant read or write, but we can drive a dumper

If it isn't broken, don't try to fix it.

Stay happy

Some one's got to much time on their hands

Congratulations, why change a good thing, keep on doing what you have been doing and make sure you tell her often, how much she means to you!

Wishing you a few more decades of happiness.

Cheers

Makro sell leeks.

I have one in my roof-any use to you sir

You are living my worst nightmare.

25 years with only one woman.

It works for you good luck.

Getting a nice gik on the side would definitely liven things up. But don't try it unless you're willing to go back to being single, may be very unlikely but. . .

First, congratulations for having mastered the culture gap and adapted succesfully to life in Thailand. It is not always easy to transfer all your life, your habits, your way of thinking, your values, experiences etc. and adapt to life in Thailand, to adapt to your wife, her values and culture. And don't foget, she had to adapt to you too...

So far I have survived (only) 15 years of marriage to a Thai wife and 7 years of living here. Not always pure sugar, we had our ups and downs, but we are still going strong. Regrets? I had a few but then again too few... OK OK. I stop.

Jacques Brel: Of course, we had our storms... a thousand times you packed your luggage, a thousand times I thought of calling it off... sure you took some lovers, you had to kill the time somehow...but finally it took us some talent to get old without getting adult...oh my sweet, my tender, my marvelous love... I love you so much...

(La chanson des vieux amants)

Makro sell leeks.

You're as cold as ice.

Edited January 3, 201412 yr by MilesofSmiles

A genuine hearty congratulations Meatboy. 25 years is an outstanding acheivement. May you have many more years together.

You are living my worst nightmare.

25 years with only one woman.

It works for you good luck.

I spent 30 with my last wife, and it certainly didn't get better as time went on. I think we were very happy for 10 years, moderately so for another ten, and drifted apart for the last ten, culminating in divorce, and worst of all, a property settlement.

I think the 'marriage contract' should be just that, a contract, say for five years with options to renew for both sides. I just can't comprehend how people can stay together for very long terms.

We weren't throwing punches at each other, but she found a lot to criticize in me, even though nothing had changed significantly over those years. That was the cue for me, bail out, stop being criticized, and enjoy life more. Finding a woman to fulfill my needs isn't difficult, even at my age, over 60, and I'm not afraid of being alone, so I'll take it as it comes. I have a longish term gf (maybe lf (= lady friend, is more appropriate when she's almost 50??) currently, 4 years, but I'm about to move on, and I see the reconnaissance run to SE Asia coming up in the next few months. Looking forward to that.

From one Taff to another," dont try to fix it if aint broke" , you got this far yiu obviously have done and are doing it right !

Good on yer boyo !

Be happy with what u got mate.

Wow! The most positive post and replies I have ever seen on TV.

Congratulations on your happy life in LOS.

Mine is good too, but only 11 years with the wife so far.....

It's so refreshing to see such positive replies as well...you are blessed dude!

Warning to negative bashers...noting for you here!

Thanks for the post.

and may your future be as good as you past!

Choke Dee!

I have been married to my Thai wife for over 30 years, met her in the States and just in case anyone wonders or asks, no, she wasn’t working in a massage parlour or a bar. Anyway, so what if she was. She was a rep for a well-known cosmetic company.

My wife and I are almost the same age and still happily married and although our love life is not dead, the heat and passion went out of the marriage some time ago. which I think is normal for most long standing married couples. I was 60 a couple of months ago, which sucks, but I’m stuck with it, our children have all grown up and our beloved cats and dogs are getting on in years. I can still pull young and attractive women that is an advantage of living in Thailand, only problem is the price goes up as I get older each year. One disadvantage of being retired and living over here is that sometimes if we do not keep ourselves occupied, than having all this free time gives us too much time to think and can find ourselves stuck in a sort of twilight zone in semi isolation, so I try to keep myself busy and enjoy each day as they come.

Over the years, old haunts disappear, situations change, people change or die, many of my close family members and old friends from my younger days have now departed and this we have to accept, that nothing stays the same and these changes are not always for the better. I think it`s all a matter of excepting our ages and being able to adapt to how we are today and not dwell too much on the past. My old cockney yiddisher gran used to say, what has been has gone and what will be, will be. Old Nanna beetlejuice was right.

Just make the most of everyday and savour every happy moments and in answer to the OP`s query, enjoy and make the most of today, don`t think about what’s going to happen in the next 10 years, because here I quote the Thai philosophy; it hasn’t happened yet, so why worry about it now?

Edited January 3, 201412 yr by Beetlejuice

Congrats meatboy, we married in 1982, no problems kids grown up and we have 10 rai of land, we are self sufficient the only thing we buy is pork and rice, we raise chickens, fish and all the fruit and vegs we need, I make damper when the mood takes me and I really have no wish to be anywhere else, we are totally happy with our mundane lives.

I have finally discovered (almost) how to live in the now.....once heard it put this way....It is presumptuous and anyone to assume there will be a tomorrow for them. So, bearing that in mind, ....if I am very happy now, i am very happy for eternity.

Congratulations, I'm really happy for you. ...my ideas of happiness is peace of mind and contentment. Thank God I have both today.

I'd say keep discussion about your marriage, wife, family off ThaiVisa, it won't make your marriage any better but it will at least avoid you having to put up with abuse from the bitter and twisted keyboard warriors stalking this forum.

I'm sure those who are happy far outnumber "the bitter and twisted" warriors, but it's always the malcontents who make the most noise. They also will insist they alone see things as they really are & that if you are happy/content you must be a Thai apologist and/or seeing things through rose colored glasses or otherwise deficient.

They will not rest until everyone is as miserable as they are.

Congratulations to ALL those who have found happiness. Don't be afraid to keep reminding everyone about your happiness and don't let the losers try to drown you out.

Edited January 3, 201412 yr by Suradit69

Congratulations, why change a good thing, keep on doing what you have been doing and make sure you tell her often, how much she means to you!

Wishing you a few more decades of happiness.

Cheers

Here's some great advise...hard to go wrong with the recipe of success.

It's certainly worked for me,

for the past 13 years, though compared to you and some of the lengths of these other relationships mentioned,

we are still teenagers.

Lol,

I can only pray it will for the rest of you,

who are traveling on this awesome avenue called: Soi Happiness.

Cheers to great relationships with beautiful Thai Women...

Edited January 3, 201412 yr by ajarnmarc

You are living my worst nightmare.

25 years with only one woman.

It works for you good luck.

I spent 30 with my last wife, and it certainly didn't get better as time went on. I think we were very happy for 10 years, moderately so for another ten, and drifted apart for the last ten, culminating in divorce, and worst of all, a property settlement.

I think the 'marriage contract' should be just that, a contract, say for five years with options to renew for both sides. I just can't comprehend how people can stay together for very long terms.

We weren't throwing punches at each other, but she found a lot to criticize in me, even though nothing had changed significantly over those years. That was the cue for me, bail out, stop being criticized, and enjoy life more. Finding a woman to fulfill my needs isn't difficult, even at my age, over 60, and I'm not afraid of being alone, so I'll take it as it comes. I have a longish term gf (maybe lf (= lady friend, is more appropriate when she's almost 50??) currently, 4 years, but I'm about to move on, and I see the reconnaissance run to SE Asia coming up in the next few months. Looking forward to that.

Happened to me too.

Just happy to be having sex with a much younger woman now.

I guess staying married to the same woman for 30 years is OK if you can't "do it" any more.