Popular Post CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 24, 2014 Popular Post Posted February 24, 2014 People say that if we stop for a moment to take stock of the positive things we witness in our lives we will be happier than otherwise. I think I aggree with this sentiment, and so I wanted to share my latest experience with someone who mattered to me. I was just walking along this evening on the same route as is my wont when I heard a beautiful slightly lilting voice coming from the back of a small restaurant. I walked closer to the side of the road and through the trees I saw just a young man who had a beautiful voice standing there washing a stack of plastic dishes piled high. The restaurant was busy and I guess he would need to wash quite a few, but he seemed happy enough just to stand there washing and singing. You can judge for yourself whether you feel that people are happier in Thailand than in some other coutnries you have been to. I believe they are happier here, but this is not the point. I just think that if we were smart we would take a lesson here and enjoy ourselves more with what we have. Maybe it is just a matter of adjusting our approach to life, or deciding to sing instead of cry. I like criers sometimes, too. But if I had my choise, I would spend more time around singers. Has anyone else been empressed with something they have seen in Thailand involving people who choose to be happy? I don't like Karaeoke, with a passion, but happy singing I am please to hear anytime. 4
wym Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Very nice! Who was the person you experienced with that mattered to you? Seems they didn't enter into your story. Unless it was the dishwasher, have you gotten to know each other better? 1
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Very nice! Who was the person you experienced with that mattered to you? Seems they didn't enter into your story. Unless it was the dishwasher, have you gotten to know each other better? I just noticed upon rereading how full of mispellings this submission is. Oh well, what else is new. But no, the persons that mattered are those on ThaiVisa, and I thought that was obvious. I do think that most of us could benefit from commenting on the rare good things we see. 1
wym Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I find good things all around me every day, not rare at all in my life. But thanks for sharing, and glad to know I'm important to you 8-) 1
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I find good things all around me every day, not rare at all in my life. But thanks for sharing, and glad to know I'm important to you 8-) If you are on TV, then you are both important and important to me. Yes. I, too, every day find good things all around me, but it is a rare occassion that I find singing dishwashers, at least in any country I have been to before. This man was not singing for anyone but himself, and maybe singing to be lucky enough to have a job, who knows. There are many who might not feel as lucky as he in his diswashing, and that is the rare thing.
wym Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I've had heart-breakingly beautiful songs sung to me by sex workers after the deed is done. Don't necessarily think it was because they were expressing happiness with their lot in life. But it certainly didn't detract from the experience for either of us, and did make me more inclined to come back and visit them again. In one case I almost tried to take her home the singing was so wonderful. But that wasn't an option in that particular setting.
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I've had heart-breakingly beautiful songs sung to me by sex workers after the deed is done. Don't necessarily think it was because they were expressing happiness with their lot in life. But it certainly didn't detract from the experience for either of us, and did make me more inclined to come back and visit them again. In one case I almost tried to take her home the singing was so wonderful. But that wasn't an option in that particular setting. Well, I was obviously not talking about sex workers, but if I had been, or if I were one, I can pretty much guess that you are no dish yourself. I am surprised there was any singing to be done, actually.
wym Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Yes, it was a very pleasant surprise, exactly my point. And no, I've always been honest that I'm old fat bald wear glasses. But I do enjoy a nice song too!
aveabeeror2 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Yes, it was a very pleasant surprise, exactly my point. And no, I've always been honest that I'm old fat bald wear glasses. But I do enjoy a nice song too! Very informative.
seajae Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 when I first came over here the guy that was driving us around had pretty good english skills and loved western music, he burnt all his own music from the net and would sing along to the songs, bloody good ones too. We cracked up laughing one day when he was singing along to one song then stopped singing half way through and asked us what an "albino car larda" was 1
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 I have just discovered that our night watchman, our Yam, may have a habit of singing, but not with such a remarkable voice. I think he may have some sort of Karaoke program on his phone, and with ear buds screwed in, he is beginning to put forth off-key sounds. I am trying to be tolerant at this very moment I type this comment. Now I am asking some of you people: Does anyone have a creative way to get this Yam to tone down his loud yammering? A way that will not hurt the Yam's feelings, but will keep him from yammering at 12:30 am? Now, this is becoming sort of an urgent request. When i said it was nice to hear someone sing with joy, I forgot to say you must take out the ear buds before taking my advice. Thank you.
wym Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Why would you be so sensitive to his feelings? You are senior to him, as long as you are polite and respectful, even gentle with him in how you approach the topic, should be no problem. If your Thai isn't up to the subtleties required, perhaps get another employee, low-end perhaps like a maid to help you. Buying a few containers of his favorite beverage will definitely cushion the blow, but from then on only buy further if he's NOT singing or you're just encouraging the problem.
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Why would you be so sensitive to his feelings? You are senior to him, as long as you are polite and respectful, even gentle with him in how you approach the topic, should be no problem. If your Thai isn't up to the subtleties required, perhaps get another employee, low-end perhaps like a maid to help you. Buying a few containers of his favorite beverage will definitely cushion the blow, but from then on only buy further if he's NOT singing or you're just encouraging the problem. Obviously words from an experimental behavioral practitioner. But I would prefer to take a more subtle approach, once I can think of one. I just would not feel comfortable drawing attention to something the Yam probably thought was not so apparent to anyone. Anyway, he has stopped for now, and maybe he will not again get the singing urge while listening to his phone. Also, it would be just too hypocritical for me to put the kibosh on his taking pleasure in his vocalizations. I should be happy he is singing, happy, and not drinking or asleep. He is very good at his job, does not drink that I have noticed, and never sleeps while working. Good man, and a fairly happy man. (Thanks for letting me see the error of my criticism and to find patience while I thought through the unharmonious but happy noise. I find it so easy to think and be tolerant once again, now that the noise has ceased.)
wym Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Since you're so happy with him, why not purchase him a few containers of his favorite beverage anyway? Just to be a nice guy if nothing else. But also then if anything comes up in the future, you've laid the groundwork and your first kind gesture hasn't been made immediately after his doing something you'd like to prevent. . .
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Since you're so happy with him, why not purchase him a few containers of his favorite beverage anyway? Just to be a nice guy if nothing else. But also then if anything comes up in the future, you've laid the groundwork and your first kind gesture hasn't been made immediately after his doing something you'd like to prevent. . . Sorry, too Machiavellian for me, and especially cannot be suggested on this topic. This topic is supposed to be about discovering happy people going about their normal daily lives. Or about singling out happy things, and reporting on happy things we see, in order to increase our own feelings of well-being. I think Machiavelli may not have been such a happy guy, most of the time.
HooHaa Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I've had heart-breakingly beautiful songs sung to me by sex workers after the deed is done. Don't necessarily think it was because they were expressing happiness with their lot in life. But it certainly didn't detract from the experience for either of us, and did make me more inclined to come back and visit them again. In one case I almost tried to take her home the singing was so wonderful. But that wasn't an option in that particular setting. mention of sex workers in very good time, now how about a spirited discussion of polyamory? you know you want to.
wym Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Makes me happy to help bring happiness to those who serve me. To point out that's also practical is far from Machiavellian. Now you made me sad 8-(
meatboy Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I find good things all around me every day, not rare at all in my life. But thanks for sharing, and glad to know I'm important to you 8-) If you are on TV, then you are both important and important to me. Yes. I, too, every day find good things all around me, but it is a rare occassion that I find singing dishwashers, at least in any country I have been to before. This man was not singing for anyone but himself, and maybe singing to be lucky enough to have a job, who knows. There are many who might not feel as lucky as he in his diswashing, and that is the rare thing. come and stand outside my house and you will hear a singing dishwasher every day but its not me that's working in that restaurant
CzarThustraThusSpake Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 I find good things all around me every day, not rare at all in my life. But thanks for sharing, and glad to know I'm important to you 8-) If you are on TV, then you are both important and important to me. Yes. I, too, every day find good things all around me, but it is a rare occassion that I find singing dishwashers, at least in any country I have been to before. This man was not singing for anyone but himself, and maybe singing to be lucky enough to have a job, who knows. There are many who might not feel as lucky as he in his diswashing, and that is the rare thing. come and stand outside my house and you will hear a singing dishwasher every day but its not me that's working in that restaurant Does your wife know you are commenting here when you should actually be in the kitchen washing dishes, song or no?
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