Do thai ladies stand by their man in tough times?

[hellohello123]

Assuming your girl is nit a bar girl and doesn't see you as a walking atm

Say you are married/long term, and say you got sick, or lost your job, or get health problems, or get depression or become disabled, or you become poor

Is It Thai culture to stand by their man or do they cut you loose, compared to what is typical in the western world?

Genuine curiosity question

[edwinchester]

Most of what I see in the village the couples stay together good or bad.

Couple of exceptions to that just like anywhere else in the world too.

[wprime]

Yes, they are far more loyal than their western counterparts.

[uptheos]

TBH it varies, I don't think anyone can speak for another individual's wife and family.

In my time here I have witnessed both.

[Payboy]

I can say definitely yes. Many Thai ladies have stood by me during hard times.

[hellohello123]

Part of the reason I ask is I see and hear many ladies when their dad is sick or something happens, they quit their jobs, even dump their current bf and look for a local husband and go back home to look after them.

And was wondering if their husband (faring or not) would get the same treatment

The latest example I heard was a friends sister, she is middle to upper class girl who,s father had a stroke , dumped her fairly rich Thai bf, quit her job, and went and married a local Thai man who is apparently poor, all in a period of 6 months and moved back home town to look after him (mother is still alive and healthy too!)

I was mighty impressed but was surprised how quickly she got married,

Edited May 18, 2014 by hellohello123

[uptheos]

Part of the reason I ask is I see and hear many ladies when their dad is sick or something happens, they quit their jobs, even dump their current bf and look for a local husband and go back home to look after them.

And was wondering if their husband (faring or not) would get the same treatment

The latest example I heard was a friends sister, she is middle to upper class girl who,s father had a stroke , dumped her fairly rich Thai bf, and went and married a local Thai man who is apparently poor, all in a period of 6 months and moved back home town.

I was mighty impressed but was surprised how quickly she got married,

If it meant losing the cash flow, all stops would be pulled out.

[David48]

I understand the thrust of your OP but ...

What is "typical in the western world"

and why do you think that it is 'Thai Culture' and not based on the chosen partner?

[David48]

Part of the reason I ask is I see and hear many ladies when their dad is sick or something happens, they quit their jobs, even dump their current bf and look for a local husband and go back home to look after them.

AH ... don't make the logic leap that you as a husband rank higher then your wife's parents, or even her siblings.

Everyone's relationships are different.

But the concept of the 'Family Unit' in the West is often different then that which is accepted in Thailand.

[kimbathewhitelion]

It's not Thai culture to see the white man as a walking ATM, it's all of Asia. Well educated Thai men tend to pay a much higher dowry for their educated 'to be' or "arranged" wifes. Dumb white people tend to misunderstand real culture vs hearsay.

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[kimbathewhitelion]

I understand the thrust of your OP but ...

What is "typical in the western world"

and why do you think that it is 'Thai Culture' and not based on the chosen partner?

Who cares about the western world...it's in self destruct mode now & absolutely useless in real time.

People leave their "declining" countries to come to Thailand - freedom, quality healthcare, no taxes, very safe & as long as u stick to Isaan or the smaller villages wherever, very few ignorant tourists.

The country is a paradise if u want it to be.

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[Emilp]

depend on person.

[trainman34014]

I had a friend who lived not far away from me who was never rich to start with but his Thai wife never complained. He then got health complications and most of his savings went on Hospital treatment, he ended up having both his legs removed from the knees down. His wife pushed him everywhere in a wheelchair and generally cared for him alone at home with virtually no help until he died last year. In my eyes she was a real hero and i am very happy that she is now involved with a much better off Farang that will hopefully look after her well.

[CharlieH]

In my opinion, my Thai wife is the most loving attentive individual I have ever encountered. Western women I have been married to wouldnt even come close to her in so many ways.

Thats why I came here and married her.

She has a totally different concept of what being a wife is and should be, and how her husband should be cared for and what family means, thats precisely why I love her so much.

[cgphuket]

Likely depends on how you treated her before the hard times. Most get what they deserve.

[kirstymelb101]

No man should marry a woman if he thinks along the line their maybe a possible chance that she'll leave in circumstances like the OP. Too many Farang men get married early that are still in the 'glamour' stage of the relationship.
stay together with your significant other 5 yrs prior to marriage, and you will know if she will stick around until 'death do us part'.

TRUE faithfulness - loyalty - Love are characteristics only few possess

[wprime]

No man should marry a woman if he thinks along the line their maybe a possible chance that she'll leave in circumstances like the OP. Too many Farang men get married early that are still in the 'glamour' stage of the relationship.

stay together with your significant other 5 yrs prior to marriage, and you will know if she will stick around until 'death do us part'.

TRUE faithfulness - loyalty - Love are characteristics only few possess

If that's your missus in the photo then I wouldn't blame you for marrying in the glamour stage.

[robblok]

People seem to assume Thai girls are not human, they will stand with their man if they love and care for him. It is quite normal for a girl to lover her man.

If the girl was out for money from the start.. usually to be recognized by big age discrepancy or looks discrepancy + sin sod and having to pay her a salary every month then there is a big chance your on your own (there are also exceptions here)

People seem to think that Thais are totally different, they are not.. you got smart people here loyal people here and scumbags.. just like everywhere else on this planet.

[robblok]

No man should marry a woman if he thinks along the line their maybe a possible chance that she'll leave in circumstances like the OP. Too many Farang men get married early that are still in the 'glamour' stage of the relationship.

stay together with your significant other 5 yrs prior to marriage, and you will know if she will stick around until 'death do us part'.

TRUE faithfulness - loyalty - Love are characteristics only few possess

Ah in the West there is an almost 50% faillure too. Besides everyone is bad to some extent I know I am.

[JLCrab]

I can say definitely yes. Many Thai ladies have stood by me during hard times.

All at the same time?

[wow64]

I can say definitely yes. Many Thai ladies have stood by me during hard times.

Payboy is correct not only that but during hard times many thai ladies are willing to help.

Sent from my c64

[benalibina]

People seem to assume Thai girls are not human, they will stand with their man if they love and care for him. It is quite normal for a girl to lover her man.

If the girl was out for money from the start.. usually to be recognized by big age discrepancy or looks discrepancy + sin sod and having to pay her a salary every month then there is a big chance your on your own (there are also exceptions here)

People seem to think that Thais are totally different, they are not.. you got smart people here loyal people here and scumbags.. just like everywhere else on this planet.

One thing in the west is of way lesser significance than in Thailand. The influence of the family on your partner. In the west, in general, it is partner 1st (own choice) and then family. Here it is, in general, family 1st, blood, then partner.

[Berkshire]

Part of the reason I ask is I see and hear many ladies when their dad is sick or something happens, they quit their jobs, even dump their current bf and look for a local husband and go back home to look after them.

And was wondering if their husband (faring or not) would get the same treatment

The latest example I heard was a friends sister, she is middle to upper class girl who,s father had a stroke , dumped her fairly rich Thai bf, quit her job, and went and married a local Thai man who is apparently poor, all in a period of 6 months and moved back home town to look after him (mother is still alive and healthy too!)

I was mighty impressed but was surprised how quickly she got married,

I think I get the point of your question and it's more about whether a Thai woman would stand by her farang in tough times. The answer would be mixed, of course. In general, I find Thai women do stand by their men if they love them. This seems to be more true if she were married to a Thai guy. I'm not sure if this is a reflection of the sort of Thai women some farang guys choose to shack up with, or just the type of Thai women who date farangs. It's rather old and tired to say that many Thai women choose a farang for financial reasons, but there's a lot of truth to that...with exceptions of course. Which would mean that the loyalty would diminish in direct correlation with the finances.

[geronimo]

This question cannot be answered as you are generalising about something that is unique ... the human psyche.

[kirstymelb101]

No man should marry a woman if he thinks along the line their maybe a possible chance that she'll leave in circumstances like the OP. Too many Farang men get married early that are still in the 'glamour' stage of the relationship.

stay together with your significant other 5 yrs prior to marriage, and you will know if she will stick around until 'death do us part'.

TRUE faithfulness - loyalty - Love are characteristics only few possess

If that's your missus in the photo then I wouldn't blame you for marrying in the glamour stage.

Ummm.. I'm the girl in the photo, unless you know a man name Kirsty?

But thanks for the compliment. I feel flattered. 555+

[uhhh ohhh]

I've had mixed experiences with a couple of different Thai girlfriends. One thing that sticks in my mind, however, is the following. A couple of years ago my girlfriend had a friend who owned a beauty shop. She stopped by often to chat and I also got to know her girlfriend and her Farang boyfriend and they always seemed nice to me. One day her girlfriend was telling her friends in the shop that a woman she knows.......HAD VERY GOOD LUCK.........HER FARANG HUSBAND DIED SUDDENLY.....HE LEFT HER OVER 15 MILLION BAHT!!! This is good luck? Your husband dies? I still shake my head. To my surprise every woman in the shop agreed....THIS WAS GOOD LUCK!!! Not one word of how the poor guy passed away or sadness about his sudden demise!

[wprime]

No man should marry a woman if he thinks along the line their maybe a possible chance that she'll leave in circumstances like the OP. Too many Farang men get married early that are still in the 'glamour' stage of the relationship.

stay together with your significant other 5 yrs prior to marriage, and you will know if she will stick around until 'death do us part'.

TRUE faithfulness - loyalty - Love are characteristics only few possess

If that's your missus in the photo then I wouldn't blame you for marrying in the glamour stage.

Ummm.. I'm the girl in the photo, unless you know a man name Kirsty?

But thanks for the compliment. I feel flattered. 555+

Oh my bad, was I wrong about you being married too?

[hellohello123]

Part of the reason I ask is I see and hear many ladies when their dad is sick or something happens, they quit their jobs, even dump their current bf and look for a local husband and go back home to look after them.

And was wondering if their husband (faring or not) would get the same treatment

The latest example I heard was a friends sister, she is middle to upper class girl who,s father had a stroke , dumped her fairly rich Thai bf, quit her job, and went and married a local Thai man who is apparently poor, all in a period of 6 months and moved back home town to look after him (mother is still alive and healthy too!)

I was mighty impressed but was surprised how quickly she got married,

I think I get the point of your question and it's more about whether a Thai woman would stand by her farang in tough times. The answer would be mixed, of course. In general, I find Thai women do stand by their men if they love them. This seems to be more true if she were married to a Thai guy. I'm not sure if this is a reflection of the sort of Thai women some farang guys choose to shack up with, or just the type of Thai women who date farangs. It's rather old and tired to say that many Thai women choose a farang for financial reasons, but there's a lot of truth to that...with exceptions of course. Which would mean that the loyalty would diminish in direct correlation with the finances.

Yes you are almost spot on, As per other posts on TV, I would never expect a partner (farang or not)to be put above family etc.

I was more curious as to my western mentality of sticking by your partner in the tough times, whether its the same mentality in Thailand,

its good to hear that the majority of the responses do indicate that you wont be dumped the second you get a health problem, or you lose your job ,or you get a pay cut or you get some sort of disability

I would never do that to my partner, and would sincerely hope that it wouldnt happen to me,

thats my moral standpoint

[hellohello123]

I've had mixed experiences with a couple of different Thai girlfriends. One thing that sticks in my mind, however, is the following. A couple of years ago my girlfriend had a friend who owned a beauty shop. She stopped by often to chat and I also got to know her girlfriend and her Farang boyfriend and they always seemed nice to me. One day her girlfriend was telling her friends in the shop that a woman she knows.......HAD VERY GOOD LUCK.........HER FARANG HUSBAND DIED SUDDENLY.....HE LEFT HER OVER 15 MILLION BAHT!!! This is good luck? Your husband dies? I still shake my head. To my surprise every woman in the shop agreed....THIS WAS GOOD LUCK!!! Not one word of how the poor guy passed away or sadness about his sudden demise!

it sounds like she is a bar girl or no different to a common hooker who married some farang for money, so this behaviour doesnt surprise me,

however, if this is the mentality of the normal thai girl, I would be very disappointed!

[benalibina]

I've had mixed experiences with a couple of different Thai girlfriends. One thing that sticks in my mind, however, is the following. A couple of years ago my girlfriend had a friend who owned a beauty shop. She stopped by often to chat and I also got to know her girlfriend and her Farang boyfriend and they always seemed nice to me. One day her girlfriend was telling her friends in the shop that a woman she knows.......HAD VERY GOOD LUCK.........HER FARANG HUSBAND DIED SUDDENLY.....HE LEFT HER OVER 15 MILLION BAHT!!! This is good luck? Your husband dies? I still shake my head. To my surprise every woman in the shop agreed....THIS WAS GOOD LUCK!!! Not one word of how the poor guy passed away or sadness about his sudden demise!

it sounds like she is a bar girl or no different to a common hooker who married some farang for money, so this behaviour doesnt surprise me,

however, if this is the mentality of the normal thai girl, I would be very disappointed!

Dont make the mistake to emphasize too much on bargirl or hooker in example as given above.....thats were your thinking is wrong.IMHO ofcourse.