Hopes and Dreams ...

[David48]

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I asked my Thai Partner, in an email (we are in different countries ATM) ...

 

To share her dreams and aspirations with me.

 

What were the big things she wanted to achieve, for herself, for her (Thai) Family, with me.

 

Sure ... I would have liked to have done it in person ... but it's a way of staying connected, despite the distance.

 

I would hate to be in a dead-end relationship, going no-where with no plans or aspirations.

 

Two songs came to mind when I was thinking about this ...

 

At the age of 37
She realized she'd never ride
Through Paris in a sports car
With the warm wind in her hair

 

and ...

 

Every year is getting shorter never seem to find the time.
Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled lines
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way

 

I believe that the relationship becomes stronger if you grow together ... support each others hopes and dreams ... but maybe that's just me.

 

 

Hopes and Dreams ... Do you ever talk to your Thai Partner about them?

 

Does she tell you hers?

 

BTW - TGIF

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[villagefarang]

Sure, but then we have been together for 17 years and have had plenty of time to talk about such things.  Don't feel inclined to go into detail here, however.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

So what did she say?

[Bulldozer Dawn]

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation

- Henry David Thoreau

[SeaVisionBurma]

Moving this topic to Pub, you can share your hopes and dreams there

[pgrahmm]

Thais live better "in the moment" than just about anyone I've ever seen....they view things in a transitionary way with no real "ownership" of life - just kind off bumping along - taking and/or accepting the good/bad of life.....they might ask for much somewhere along the way but don't really "expect" it......much better with their lot in life than most of their western counterparts = witness the amount of drugs for anxiety dispensed in the euro/western cultures - in Russia it's vodka I guess....

 

To apply our western mores or expect them to comprehend them to our understanding can be folly.......

 

I think you need to be here 100% to help her "build" a dream together - then you might help each other to see what is really important to/for the two of you as you build your future together......

[mania]

pgrahmm has it right IMO

 

Your situation is different than asking someone in another country like Thailand that question.

 

Of course the wife & I discuss such things here & back when we first moved to Thailand

I was actually curious about the same question.

 

But.... I use to like to ask my Thai friends teenage kids not adults as the kids lives were in front of

them & still wide open. Some had good answers that they had put lots of thought into but, of course

many, same as in any country had no idea of "what they wanted to be when they grew up"

 

But like pgrahmm said Thai adults live more in the here & now than westerners

They are not really afforded the luxury of contemplating the future as they struggle with the day.

 

I was drinking coffee here at a roadside stand & a small truck loaded with mattresses drove by

yelling in Thai at the Thai lady who ran the coffee stand...asking if she wanted to buy one.

Lady yelled back..."I have to work, have no time to sleep"

 

You never said what your "Thai Partners" answer was but I can guess

it might have been just that you could live together.

Hard to grow together as you say when you live apart.

 

 

 

Edited August 15, 2014 by mania

[HeijoshinCool]

Country cottage with fresh air and deep well. Garden and small orchard. Chickens, ducks and piglets.

 

And, no, it does not matter here, or there. 

[gringo99]

U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last

[In Search of Space]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQtfwiUG4UM

 

happy music day

[Costas2008]

David, When I was young and started a family, as you have now, we had our dreams and aspirations with my ex-wife.

We went through life, and some of those came through, some didn't.

But we both, gave everything for our children, so to grow up and be proud of them.

At this moment, being an old fart, our dreams and aspirations with my new wife are based more on the subject of which holiday we will go next, or more basic, what foods are we going to have this week.

You see, life changes and priorities change.

My advice to you, make time shorter being in Australia and be with your wife and your adorable twins .

Don't let time go, life is short, be near your family and enjoy life with them.

Emails, will never replace the personal touch.

You are a nice person and you have a beautiful family.

Enjoy life with them.

[mrtoad]

U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last

Wow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book

[benalibina]

U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last

Wow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book

Go fund me ?

[mrtoad]

U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last

Wow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book

Go fund me ?

i have given 37k to that Dutch bloke that married the old bird

[benalibina]

U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last

Wow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book

Go fund me ?

i have given 37k to that Dutch bloke that married the old bird

It seems that you are a good man. You can do double dutch !