crickets Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Ever since i came to stay in bangkok i feel i have become impatient. Now i dont wait behind people at the shop, i come in at the side waving money. I dont give an inch to anyone getting in or out of trains because i feel if they take it they think that they r beating u at something. Makes me angry thinking about it. Do thais think they r losing something if they dont take that minor opportunity to get in front. Driving is the same, if i leave a gap between me and the other car for safety some turd feels the need that they have to take it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fey Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (edited) when this happens to me i usually goto the park and relax for an hour or two and think about how lucky i am to have free time. of course, you may be a working stiff crock who's losing out by not getting that extra inch. can't help you there. i only know that rushing usually puts you further behind then you would be otherwise. Edited November 24, 2014 by fey 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipi Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Becoming impatient in Bangkok, or just becoming impatient? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Stradavarius37 Posted November 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 24, 2014 Your just old and crabby - same as most here in the TV forum 18 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timmyp Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I think there is definitely a degree of tension here in Bangkok, as in any metropolitan area. You may just be getting swept up by that. I don't find it particularly stressful living here, but I don't have conflicts with expecting things to work out a certain way, only to have them work out in a different way (or not work out at all). I guess I'm trying to say that my expectations are low, so not much disappointment! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Rumblecat Posted November 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 24, 2014 Yeah, you've just got to let it go. Getting wound up or impatient doesn't help you and doesn't make the situation better. Except when coming off the BTS train. If someone's trying to get on as people are getting off, they're fair game. Elbows, sticking a foot out, tackling them to the ground- all of it is not only socially acceptable but it's your duty as a human being. 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chicowoodduck Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (edited) Hang on, it will only get worse with high season and the warm temps.? Happy I don't feel your pain.....carry on soldier...? Edited November 24, 2014 by chicowoodduck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bkklocal Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 There is a good kick boxing class at 6pm and 7pm next to emporium - helps Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post carib102 Posted November 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 24, 2014 I am actually more patient since moving here, but I understand exactly what you're saying. And it isn't only Bangkok as I've experienced this type of behavior all over Thailand. My wife tells me that Thais are just self-centered in general and their own needs will always take precedence over the needs of others. Take that as you will... 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post David48 Posted November 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 24, 2014 crickets ... it's you ... not them. Bangkok is a sprawling metropolis ... a big city. Personal body space decreases as population density increases. You can read about Social distance here. No disrespect but ALL the things you mention speaks volumes about the fact that you haven't developed the tact or adopted social norms. In relative terms, Bangkok is a lot less 'aggressive' then other Capital Cities around the world. Try China ... now that's en eye opener ... 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATF Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Prescription Valium. They should put it in the water. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post CharlieH Posted November 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 24, 2014 Lets hope impatient doesnt turn to in -patient 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sitti Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I often get frustrated driving in Bangkok. Time to time I feel like I want to run over those motorcycles that dangerously cut me off when I change lane or make a turn I take a deep breath and tell myself don't lower myself to their level. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I think there is definitely a degree of tension here in Bangkok, as in any metropolitan area. You may just be getting swept up by that. I don't find it particularly stressful living here, but I don't have conflicts with expecting things to work out a certain way, only to have them work out in a different way (or not work out at all). I guess I'm trying to say that my expectations are low, so not much disappointment! Things are only stressful if you let them be, don't allow anyone to bully you, push in front of you in Tesco, or in their car if you leave a space in front of you. There's no better feeling than getting your own back on someone, but don't go looking for things to happen. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Time Traveller Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 This is what city life is all about. You''ll never feel like that in smaller towns and the country. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post SoiBiker Posted November 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 24, 2014 I've learnt to go the other way. When I lived in London I charged about the place like my arse was on fire. But doing that here just makes you angry and doesn't get you anywhere any faster. Better to slow down and go with the flow. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MisterTee Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 You're a farang, aren't you crickets? If so, just carry on acting that way. You won't disabuse Thais of their ingrained notions and stereotypes. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elgenon Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 If you think Thais are bad, wait until you are forced to deal w Chinese. Little old ladies will push you out of the way. It just happened again to me on a Baht Bus in Pattaya. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crickets Posted November 24, 2014 Author Share Posted November 24, 2014 I come from a big city in australia and am generaly polite and understand how a line works. But if i acted like some of the people here i would punched in the face. Seems like there is a tension in the air as soon as people have to start waiting for something. The person with money in hand seems to get priority followed by the person who speaks up then the person who just looks angry while the person waiting quietly can just go to hell and this happens especially when ordering food. I think i am just looking for the right moment for someone to get me on a bad day for a good excuse to knock the day lights out of him. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I come from a big city in australia and am generaly polite and understand how a line works. But if i acted like some of the people here i would punched in the face. Seems like there is a tension in the air as soon as people have to start waiting for something. The person with money in hand seems to get priority followed by the person who speaks up then the person who just looks angry while the person waiting quietly can just go to hell and this happens especially when ordering food. I think i am just looking for the right moment for someone to get me on a bad day for a good excuse to knock the day lights out of him. Lets hope impatient doesnt turn to in -patient Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rumblecat Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Well, when crickets finally snaps and throttles some old woman in 7-11 for cutting in line, at least we can all say we saw it coming... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tolsti Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> I come from a big city in australia and am generaly polite and understand how a line works. But if i acted like some of the people here i would punched in the face. Seems like there is a tension in the air as soon as people have to start waiting for something. The person with money in hand seems to get priority followed by the person who speaks up then the person who just looks angry while the person waiting quietly can just go to hell and this happens especially when ordering food. I think i am just looking for the right moment for someone to get me on a bad day for a good excuse to knock the day lights out of him. I gathered that from your lack of language and grammar shills. Please make sure your health insurance is current as I have a sneaky feeling you may need it soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henry15 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I don't understand why somebody should become impatient living in Bangkok. Its very rarely thay someone use the car claxon. I think tbe O.P. not yet adopt himself to the Bangkokian or even Thai lifestyle. He should realize that your in an Asian country. Other peoples behaviour is just a reflection of your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgabrahams Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 By comparison to the Chinese, Thai's by and large are quite placid. The thing that irks me the most is people on their mobile phones in public, especially walking, not watching where they are going...I simply walk into them now, why should you have to walk around them!?...alas I feel this is probably not unique to Bkk now.... the whole world is guilty of this nowadays Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattyc1957 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Hey Tolsti, nice grammar 'shills' yourself lol ! Better have a look in the mirror before you go being critical of someone else. And I do agree with Crickets. When you try to stand politely in line it's like you are invisible to SOME people. Can be frustrating at times (meaning before I've had my morning coffee ). 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToddinChonburi Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Time to get out of Bangkok, Head out and spend a few weeks in some small village. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timmyp Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I think there is definitely a degree of tension here in Bangkok, as in any metropolitan area. You may just be getting swept up by that. I don't find it particularly stressful living here, but I don't have conflicts with expecting things to work out a certain way, only to have them work out in a different way (or not work out at all). I guess I'm trying to say that my expectations are low, so not much disappointment! Things are only stressful if you let them be, don't allow anyone to bully you, push in front of you in Tesco, or in their car if you leave a space in front of you. There's no better feeling than getting your own back on someone, but don't go looking for things to happen. I take the opposite approach, I just let people cut in front. It doesn't happen that much, I just think, "aw, another jerk, go ahead"... I grew up in a big city with really aggressive driving, so maybe my concept of being passive is still being pretty aggressive. But generally if someone wants to push ahead, cut me off, or be a dick in traffic or wherever, I just let them because it isn't worth fighting over. Obviously we all have limits for being treated that way, but I don't feel like my limits get crossed that much in Bangkok. Er, I'm not saying that I'm a super-laid back guy, only that I don't find the norm in Bangkok to be bad or full of conflicts. I choose my battles, I guess. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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BradinAsia Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (edited) To the OP: You obviously brought all your problems with you. You would surely have the same stresses living in Japan or the Philippines, for example. I'd suggest you should make a habit to smile and bow slightly when folks jump in front of you. In my experience, Thai people often let me go in front of them, just for kindness. You create your own reality. I'd say your battle is within yourself. Good luck with that. Edited November 24, 2014 by BradinAsia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anselpixel Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Prescription Valium. They should put it in the water. He speaks the truth. Stress creeps up on you, and if you're not paying attention to yourself, you can get in big trouble. Maybe check in for some counseling, and remember what that old fraud Gudieff said long ago: "the wise man of the future will take a pill." 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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