is there such a thing as friends in pattaya?

[Rangsitreppin]

I spent alot of time by myself in pattaya and recently an really great ozzie bloke who was on his yearly two week millionaire trip handed me 400 baht and sayed lets go get pissed in soi 7.

I handed it back and sayed ill pay for me and you pay for you then we got hammered.

would taking that 400 baht make me like a prostitute friend ??

[BoonToong]

Don't think too much :-)

[LennyW]

[jackvale]

I'm starting to think the same thing.

I have met people at one of the expat clubs who have been close mutually dependent friends for over 20 years. Through thick and thin.

I've been in town over 10 years although I have been ripped off financially for small amounts by people I was close with.

I recently had a close friend throw me under the bus by revealing some very confidential details about me to a lady I was courting. Women come and go here but from seeing their chat transcript (thanks to her), it was apparent he was making a move for her.

There are many musicians in Pattaya who work together on a very regular basis. One was recently hospitalized and the others who play with the sick player all rallied behind him with frequent visits and whatever help he needed.

I'm at a frustrated point now of feeling somewhat abandoned by people I thought were friends. Maybe best to just keep to myself and everyone as acquaintances.

[KittenKong]

Pattaya has plenty of shallow people of all nationalities who are much more interested in your wallet than in you.

I would never look for any sort of sincerity or honesty here, nor would I expect to find any real friendship.

Once that basic precept has been accepted it is a very easy place to live in.

[ttthailand]

I have had a number of so called friends or mates in Thailand who have done me wrong in one way or another. I noticed when I first met these people that something appeared strange about them and they should not be trusted. After a few meetings however you kind of overlook things and accept them. In hindsight, all I can say is to Trust your first impressions as they are normally correct.

[Turkleton]

Pattaya is Asians largest whorehouse since decades.

Places like this attract always the same kind of people, with some few exceptions.

So if your looking for "real" friends, Pattaya may not be your first choice.

I know just two or three people which I would call friends after some years of living here.

But two of them, I knew before from my home country and the third one was a friend of my good friend.

Beware of strangers and only trust things you can touch and smell, especially when it comes to financial things!

[luudee]

Being a crazy and diversified place Pattaya is, I think it is easy to make "acquaintances".

Whether those acquaintances become real friends I trust, only time will tell. I wouldn't

trust or do business with an acquaintances just like I wouldn't with a stranger. Once I

have know somebody for some time, may be many years, only than can I say if that

person has become a real friend or is still just an acquaintance.

I don't think it is to different in other countries/places, except perhaps the time period

when an acquaintance is considered a friend.

luudee

Edited December 16, 2014 by luudee

[i claudius]

My main and best friend here is the same one I had in the U.K. my wife

[Neeranam]

Will 400 baht get you a good time on soi 7?

[boldface]

400 baht? insulting. Should have held out for 4000 to actually have a real good night.

[giddyup]

i think the older you get, the harder it is to make real friends. All the close friends I had were made when I was in my 30's, now at 72 I don't expect to be making any more.

[transam]

i think the older you get, the harder it is to make real friends. All the close friends I had were made when I was in my 30's, now at 72 I don't expect to be making any more.

Don't give up mon ami, they are out there, for sure, difficult "I know", but they are out there .............

[davethailand]

400 baht? insulting. Should have held out for 4000 to actually have a real good night.

+1

(still wouldn't have taken 4000 personally)

Edited December 16, 2014 by davethailand

[paddyjenkins]

If you want a friend then get a dog

[rgs2001uk]

Not restricted to Pattaya, but to the whole of Thailand as a whole.

My attitude, everyone is out to rip me off until proven otherwise.

I have ONE real friend in Thailand, a German who lives upcountry with his own business, we have known each other for over 10 years, think the same way.

Have been offered all sorts here, even been offered deals in a hotel in Pattaya that no longer exists.

I have, drinking buddies, fellow golfers, fellow snooker players, wouldnt trust any of them as far as I could throw them, mainly chancers and spivs.

[emilymat]

The secret is to be at ease with yourself. I live alone but don't feel lonely - there are lots of things to do.

I suppose it's what you define as friends. I have a number of 'mates' I meet at the golf course in the week but their evening social life patterns are not mine - if you follow.

I do know that if I was living in a flat in the UK during the miserable winters I would go gaga. whereas here, nice walks by the lake in the sunshine and reading a good book on the veranda - great.

[Rangsitreppin]

Will 400 baht get you a good time on soi 7?

No but during happy hour which is all hours you can drink 8 sam miguel lights for 400 baht if you look hard enough and im that confident after 8 im speaking thai and the staff are getting a laugh usually ill get a freebie .....i got them looks nah mean;-)

Edited December 17, 2014 by Rangsitreppin

[ToddinChonburi]

Try your favorite church, maybe some more real types of people there. Really when you think about it even in your home country, how many real and yes I mean real good friends did you have ?

[ToddinChonburi]

Try not drinking and see how many real friends you have.

[Rangsitreppin]

Try not drinking and see how many real friends you have.

I got plenty of mates theres jim,jack,leo,chang,san miguel and singha .

[infinity11]

to OP title, answer: anything is possible?

wait until you NEED something, you'll find out quickly who IS your friend

[harrry]

Not all that unreasonable. You feel like a beer and a chat and you have enough in your pocket to have one. You consider it a bit rude to ask someone who you are talking to to go somewhere and spend money which he may not have in his pocket, who cares whether he has. If he wants to go and spend his own money he can or you have shown upfront you do not expect him to get into that horrible Australian invention the shout where you have to pay money you would not have to buy drinks for someone drinking twice as fast as you want to.

Without knowing the circumstances it is hard to know whether this is something you should take up or not.

[guzzi850m2]

Some of the expats in my village are pretty close friends I think and I have been partying with them a few times but find it uncomfortable they live so close by so I started to keep my distance and only have a friendly chat with them when we meet out on the soi and don't join their parties anymore.

The best buddies I have in funtown are work mates from our company in Singapore, we work off-shore all over the world and meet up for lunch and sometimes a barbie at my house or theirs when we are home on leave at the same time.

With a wife a young son this is plenty for me.

Yes lots of shabby expats here so be carefull before you even think about inviting them to your home and I learned over the years not to trust anybody you just meet no matter how nice they seems.

[ryro88]

Hammered on 400B on soi 7? Please tell me how you achieved this.

[Rangsitreppin]

Hammered on 400B on soi 7? Please tell me how you achieved this.

MInny bar 50 baht beers

[WhamBam]

YES!! You can have friends here in Pattaya.

I have a group of friends.

One looked after 2 boxes of my belongings for 9 months while I was away. Nothing tampered with. No cost involved. Hell, he was even grateful and offered to pay me for English tea bags and some other small items I brought over for him.

Another helped me find a cheap condo within 24 hours of my arrival. He also helped me move my gear from the above friends place to the condo I am now in.

^^^ Two simple examples.

We help each other out with all sorts of little things.

One takes a few others to Macro in his truck once a month for their big shop.

I take one friend to Jomtien to do his visa.

These friends tipped me off about what my now ex was doing when I was away - that is why she is staying my ex.

If we have a problem we help each other where we can.

YES, proper friends.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

i think the older you get, the harder it is to make real friends. All the close friends I had were made when I was in my 30's, now at 72 I don't expect to be making any more.

Don't give up mon ami, they are out there, for sure, difficult "I know", but they are out there .............

You gotta go out and mingle.

Sitting at home watching TV, won't find you any friends.

[giddyup]

i think the older you get, the harder it is to make real friends. All the close friends I had were made when I was in my 30's, now at 72 I don't expect to be making any more.

Don't give up mon ami, they are out there, for sure, difficult "I know", but they are out there .............

You gotta go out and mingle.

Sitting at home watching TV, won't find you any friends.

Yeah, ring the bell every night, you'll have more friends than you can handle. To be quite honest I can't be stuffed now, as long as I have my good lady, my dog and a good book to read, I'm content.

[Kaoboi Bebobp]

All my "real" friends live in Bangkok, guys I've known for almost 10 years and they're still there. Why? Because they live and work in Thailand, have pretty much normal lives. While we argue (politely) and disagree on some things, they're solid friends and we do many things together, including travel. We also care about each other and help out in anyway. But I don't like to live in BKK so I live in the Pattaya area. In terms of friends, Pattaya has been a complete blank in 4-5 years of living here. I don't trust anyone -- for the reasons listed by a poster above that Pattaya draws pretty much people with a single agenda. It's an agenda I do not share.