Tutsi's Dilemma

[tutsiwarrior]

I can't stand it...loads of beautiful 12-13 y.o. country girls and they don't want to study...

tutsi: for as long as I am alive and that the family has funds you shall be able to study and to become the next PM of Thailand...

the gurls: ho hum...

tutsi: Whaaat???...you wanna get married at 15 and waste the precious resource that this family has??? Get real godammit...you got to grow up now!!!

oh...boo hoo, what am I to do?...I have two girls sharp as two tacks, beautiful as well and don't give a <deleted> about carrying on to mayathom...

the wife's family is poor and agricultural and the kids don't get no encouragement when it comes to schoolin'. As a highly educated falang I barge in and say 'get off yer furkin' asses and use your god givin' talent for the benefit of youselves and for the glory of the family'...

the wife says 'relax tuts...let me handle this...' I say NO godammit because your family don't place no value on education...I have to threaten, cajole and otherwise mangle a fatal disinterest...what the fcks wrong with these people?

puff, puff....I want at least one Nobel laureate in the family

[Thaiboxer]

tutsi, I used to teach teenagers and MANY of them don't care too much about studying English (or any subject for that matter) although the girls tended to be better students than the boys. This is compounded by a weak educational system with the exception of the international schools and some bilingual schools. Many of these lazy students come for well-to-do families and are probably set for life financially so they'll never need to work for anything but who knows? With the way business is these days, some of these families may lose their business ventures and little Lek or Noi will need to work in the real world which will be even more of a shock than it was when we left our parents' homes since they've never had to work for anything before. I used to look around at some of these teens I was teaching and think of what they may end up being in the future (go-go dancer, call girl, garbagman, etc).

If you have teens in your family like this, perhaps you can show them some pics of the slums in Bangkok or other places and explain to them that this is what they will end up like if they don't knuckle under in their studies. Good luck!

[Beavis and Butthead]

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[tutsiwarrior]

tutsi, I used to teach teenagers and MANY of them don't care too much about studying English (or any subject for that matter) although the girls tended to be better students than the boys. This is compounded by a weak educational system with the exception of the international schools and some bilingual schools. Many of these lazy students come for well-to-do families and are probably set for life financially so they'll never need to work for anything but who knows? With the way business is these days, some of these families may lose their business ventures and little Lek or Noi will need to work in the real world which will be even more of a shock than it was when we left our parents' homes since they've never had to work for anything before. I used to look around at some of these teens I was teaching and think of what they may end up being in the future (go-go dancer, call girl, garbagman, etc).

If you have teens in your family like this, perhaps you can show them some pics of the slums in Bangkok or other places and explain to them that this is what they will end up like if they don't knuckle under in their studies. Good luck!

I'm gonna show 'em fotos of what's gonna happen if they don't study ( a rampaging tutsi,...etc, etc...)

but seriously, I have been thinking of what to do with the best and the brightest...two years at international school in BKK to learn english so that maybe she can get work in a hotel or some other tourist venue. Trouble is she would have to be supervised by one of the adults and nobody likes the Big Smoke. This affects other issues...do we expand the Suphan property or buy a BKK condo to expand the educational infrastructure?

I hate having money and a conscience...maybe I shoud give it up and camp outside of Lolitas instead...

[tutsiwarrior]

Tutsi rules

thanx...tell that to the mods....

[kayo]

send em to a boarding school.

[tutsiwarrior]

send em to a boarding school.

nah...if I did that, they'd get 'bored' (bored as in boarding? yuk, yuk...isn't tutsi clever?) pretty quickly...this is an enterprise that the whole family has to get involved in. Plus keeping in mind that these are adolescent children...someone has to supervise the hormones...

[Thaiboxer]

tutsi...stick them in an all girls' boarding school; that will keep them away from the boys:)

[sbk]

tutsi, you are now encountering one of the many reasons why my husband and I hesitated to have kids.

Peer pressure in adolescence is enormous and if all their friends think their main goal in life is to get married and have a kid, then it would take a strong girl to fight against that. Combine that with a culture and a family that doesn't emphasise education for girls and you have even more difficulty over coming this issue.

My feeling, if you are serious about educating these girls and giving them the opportunity to choose whatever they want to do, is to get them out of that climate. Put them in a school that emphasizes education and career paths. You may find that the new peers have different goals and they, in turn, could adopt those goals.

[tutsiwarrior]

tutsi, you are now encountering one of the many reasons why my husband and I hesitated to have kids.

Peer pressure in adolescence is enormous and if all their friends think their main goal in life is to get married and have a kid, then it would take a strong girl to fight against that. Combine that with a culture and a family that doesn't emphasise education for girls and you have even more difficulty over coming this issue.

My feeling, if you are serious about educating these girls and giving them the opportunity to choose whatever they want to do, is to get them out of that climate. Put them in a school that emphasizes education and career paths. You may find that the new peers have different goals and they, in turn, could adopt those goals.

yeah...it ain't enough to offer to assist if the desire to continue in school is there, the kids have to be actively encouraged. My wife is at home now supervising the construction of a third shophouse and she knows how important this issue is to me. I'm hoping that she offers encouragement whenever there is an opportunity. The girls' parents don't appear to care much. The family of one of the girls will be moving into the new shophouse and this will allow her to attend the main school in town and to get away from the wat school...something of an improvement.