Isaan translation/Issues to think of...

[HYENA]

We were due visit LOS in 2 months, but my wife went on a shopping spree & funneling $ abroad even after promising to check w/me first. Been harming our family, given I'm no Dr., supporting 5 on my meager salary. 2 kids-mine, 3yr old ours. She feels it's her duty to funnel $ abroad, (not even to mother, but nieces and remote relatives). I recently saw receipts & posts about sunglasses, cash, hats, watches. I intercepted some amphetamine "weight loss pills" last year, keeping them to turn in just in case. "Everyone's doing it" doesn't cut it when diverting prescription amphetamines is illegal both countries, selling to friends here. I told her 1 more and I'm turning her in (but she continued, I suspect; just can't translate). I've got a bad egg; "we can't afford it" doesn't register (my own fault, I thought it would be of mutual benefit in life, but I've never figured on Buddhist principles of ego, status, wealth appearance, etc.) We used to be a nice match, but the $ issue won't die. Ever.

We invited 2 extra family members to go, but given many requests to take our daughter & keep her in LOS is making me decide it's not a good idea. I trusted her enough to try (with family) in June, but I've got pages of posts I can't translate.

Since after cutting off the ATM ability on the debit, I think she's been funneling groceries & fuel for $. She hasn't seen her family in 5yrs, I thought it would be nice, but I'm unable to trust she won't abduct. I'd saved up, borrowing to get there, telling her now's the time to be careful about money (I'll be in school the next 3yrs), but she destroyed what trust I had. LOS has it backwards. Birthday & wedding, guest of honor treats everyone else, buying presents & handing out $. She figures we're going all the way there, let's buy everyone a nice watch, glasses and hats to screw the family budget as much as possible (initiating conversations, taking orders for 9 from what I saw; one box was sent unbeknownst to me). They're dirt poor, but luxury items has me upset (not even rice money).

I don't know for sure. The Thai to English translations I pick up words like money pit, eggagerate, slow incriments (funneling)? pond, village, Lao, Huckabee and other interesting translations. I just wish I could find some kid who wanted a few extra baht to help each other out. She won't admit to anything while looking right at me (not aware I can read some posts), changing stories by the minute. I cut up the ATM card, now she wants a divorce (I guess I was good for two things; daughter and $ for ego feeding status, opposite of the nice Buddhist influence I had hoped). I'm sure I'll get flamed for making a bad decision, sleep in the bed I made for myself, etc. I'm just realizing a divorce would be a horrible mess and even a therapist had us agreeing to check before sending $ abroad, but thai lies always get around any agreements, don't they?

Edited April 6, 2015 by HYENA

[CharlieH]

MOVED to Family & Children

[Neeranam]

Sounds like you be much better off without her. Good luck and learn from the experience.

[Aussieroaming]

It sounds difficult, good luck

[HYENA]

Thanks, I really do appreciate it...I wish I had better solutions, but I must sleep in the bed I made for myself.

Know any kids looking for a little extra B? Seems like I'm not the only one, given I saw a similar concern posted recently. Too bad there's no accurate Isaan programs out there!

(Hey, thanks mods for moving this to the appropriate forum!)