Just Wondering

[kannot]

Every guy should be married at all times. Why have a life where he could make his own decisions and do what he wants to do? Oh wait...

Hey...................I can

[Rhys]

SSHHHH the very lucky have their Thai wives...do it right..

[NeverSure]

Seriously. I'm single and I'd love to have a wife. Someone else's wife though... LOL.

[Tonto21]

I give her bugger all, she gives me everything, last thing was my new Bike 2 days ago vrooooooooooooooooom!!

Wow aren't you the man

Well it seems most folk give their Wives money for me its the total opposite, this has been mentioned before and I got more or less called a liar, I mentioned she earned over 300k every month in that thread, well shes exceeded that last month with 500 k and I dont reallly care if anyone does or doesnt believe it.

I started her off in a small business with an investment of about 4 million baht 8.5 years ago ( which I have since had back) and which she has worked hard on to get where she is now. retired a few years back in my mid 40's. She loves her job ( more than me),

Me, I just have some fun and take care of the land she has, married 9 years. Heres the bike anyway

Yes, I think you did, more or less get called a liar........ Some think you are, (those that hate women, especially Thai) because all Thai women are evil, apparently...... others want to believe your lying..... and the rest are saying, (under there breath, "jammy Git") I would like to think I fall in the "You jammy Git" club.....with a tinge of "he got to be kidding"?

My wife is not rich, but I recently found out she owns a big sway of land near were we live,,,,,, Maybe she'll let me build an Enduro track on it.

[JLCrab]

SSHHHH the very lucky have their Thai wives...do it right..

A bank is a place that will lend you money if you can prove that you don't need it.

-- Bob Hope

[elgordo38]

I am not married but if I were to get married now I wouldn't allow the wife to have direct access to any of the money that it took me decades to save. There is just no way. That money could never be replaced.

Careful now Goldbear your on TV giving your opinion that makes to much sense and in some ways making sense on TV is hated. Your right on the money but some here will tell you about the successes they have had with their Thai spouses in handling the finances. They are in the minority. I would like to know what the marriage success rate is here. In my home country (Boo Boo go back we do not want you here) the marriage success rate is about 45% and that is why marriage contracts are a must in any country. As retirees we are more vulnerable than first timers (we fall in love fast with the beautiful young girls here)but we have graduated from the school of life and now if we do not protect what we have worked hard for and accumulated maybe we deserve to suffer.

[swissbie]

I am not married but if I were to get married now I wouldn't allow the wife to have direct access to any of the money that it took me decades to save. There is just no way. That money could never be replaced.

Careful now Goldbear your on TV giving your opinion that makes to much sense and in some ways making sense on TV is hated. Your right on the money but some here will tell you about the successes they have had with their Thai spouses in handling the finances. They are in the minority. I would like to know what the marriage success rate is here. In my home country (Boo Boo go back we do not want you here) the marriage success rate is about 45% and that is why marriage contracts are a must in any country. As retirees we are more vulnerable than first timers (we fall in love fast with the beautiful young girls here)but we have graduated from the school of life and now if we do not protect what we have worked hard for and accumulated maybe we deserve to suffer.

I fully agree with this and don't understand why so many on TV just say, if you don't give your wife full access on all of your money, you don't trust her, or even some more insulting stuff. As I mentioned earlier in this thread, my wife can't deal with money, so I do it. We are together since 30 years and she can do whatever she likes to do, but the money is controlled. And don't think she has nothing at all, the houses are on her name. As a fact, there's a high percentage of women and man here in LOS who aren't capable do deal with money reasonably and I have seen too many (farang and thais) having lost it all (but maybe these folks don't comment here..).

[MaeJoMTB]

Seriously. I'm single and I'd love to have a wife. Someone else's wife though... LOL.

I've had plenty of other guys wives ....... some of them post on TV about how loyal and faithful their wives are.

One guy can and sat with me in a bar in CM and told me how loyal and faithful she was ..... I shagged her the previous night.

One guy bought me a drink in a bar in CM and told me how his wife had betrayed him with other men ........... I already knew.

Another guy in a coffee shop bet me 1M baht his wife was completely trustworthy ..... she had been on her knees behind the counter with the guy sitting next to us earlier that morning.

And these girls were all giving it away.

And I'm betting many of the long term posters from CM would have met these three guys.

Each relationship ended with a loss of about 10M baht.

[beachproperty]

Seriously. I'm single and I'd love to have a wife. Someone else's wife though... LOL.

I've had plenty of other guys wives ....... some of them post on TV about how loyal and faithful their wives are.

One guy can and sat with me in a bar in CM and told me how loyal and faithful she was ..... I shagged her the previous night.

One guy bought me a drink in a bar in CM and told me how his wife had betrayed him with other men ........... I already knew.

Another guy in a coffee shop bet me 1M baht his wife was completely trustworthy ..... she had been on her knees behind the counter with the guy sitting next to us earlier that morning.

And these girls were all giving it away.

And I'm betting many of the long term posters from CM would have met these three guys.

Each relationship ended with a loss of about 10M baht.

Sounds like your proud of your exploits (or should I say lack of morals) ....and gossip!

[MaeJoMTB]

Seriously. I'm single and I'd love to have a wife. Someone else's wife though... LOL.

I've had plenty of other guys wives ....... some of them post on TV about how loyal and faithful their wives are.

One guy can and sat with me in a bar in CM and told me how loyal and faithful she was ..... I shagged her the previous night.

One guy bought me a drink in a bar in CM and told me how his wife had betrayed him with other men ........... I already knew.

Another guy in a coffee shop bet me 1M baht his wife was completely trustworthy ..... she had been on her knees behind the counter with the guy sitting next to us earlier that morning.

And these girls were all giving it away.

And I'm betting many of the long term posters from CM would have met these three guys.

Each relationship ended with a loss of about 10M baht.

Sounds like your proud of your exploits (or should I say lack of morals) ....and gossip!

I'm a very moral person, only found out about the husbands after I had them.

Not sure it counts as gossip if I did it, or saw it.

[Linzz]

I am not married but if I were to get married now I wouldn't allow the wife to have direct access to any of the money that it took me decades to save. There is just no way. That money could never be replaced.

Careful now Goldbear your on TV giving your opinion that makes to much sense and in some ways making sense on TV is hated. Your right on the money but some here will tell you about the successes they have had with their Thai spouses in handling the finances. They are in the minority. I would like to know what the marriage success rate is here. In my home country (Boo Boo go back we do not want you here) the marriage success rate is about 45% and that is why marriage contracts are a must in any country. As retirees we are more vulnerable than first timers (we fall in love fast with the beautiful young girls here)but we have graduated from the school of life and now if we do not protect what we have worked hard for and accumulated maybe we deserve to suffer.

I fully agree with this and don't understand why so many on TV just say, if you don't give your wife full access on all of your money, you don't trust her, or even some more insulting stuff. As I mentioned earlier in this thread, my wife can't deal with money, so I do it. We are together since 30 years and she can do whatever she likes to do, but the money is controlled. And don't think she has nothing at all, the houses are on her name. As a fact, there's a high percentage of women and man here in LOS who aren't capable do deal with money reasonably and I have seen too many (farang and thais) having lost it all (but maybe these folks don't comment here..).

The recipe should be: Trust, verify, love, share, with a shot of caution, a pinch of common sense and don't let temptation stand in the way. Each to his/her own amounts according to insight and circumstances. Life can be full of surprises.

We have to consider that getting to know our Thai wives is going to take longer than someone of your own culture/language and she may/may not be more trustworthy than from your own culture. Getting to know her depends also if she is open and gregarious or closed, private and quiet personality. The variations are enormous, the language gap huge, the risks are large but the rewards can be great

[smotherb]

Some wives actually love their husbands and do not abuse the husband's trust in them.

Far fewer than most guys would like to believe.

It appears too many men don't think very thoroughly about the women they choose to marry. I have had three wives--American, Vietnamese and Filipina--none of them abused the trust between us. Was it luck of the draw?

[elgordo38]

Some wives actually love their husbands and do not abuse the husband's trust in them.

Far fewer than most guys would like to believe.

It appears too many men don't think very thoroughly about the women they choose to marry. I have had three wives--American, Vietnamese and Filipina--none of them abused the trust between us. Was it luck of the draw?

Is it presently a menagerie quad or did the wheels fall of the the marriage wagon? I have had 3 and well in humble opinion they all betrayed my trust. If it is a menagerie quad yes definitely the luck of the draw.

[kannot]

and that bloody great Ham Ariel

[i claudius]

I have two good friends here and i would never ever sleep with their wives even if they offered it to me they are both fat and ugly (thank god i am anonymous on here )

[smotherb]

smotherb said, “Sounds more like hired help than a relationship.”

jacko45k said, “No, it is rather different than a hired help. I can't afford to lose everything I have.”

smotherb said, “Sorry, can't follow your logic. How does your fear of losing everything make it any different than hired help?”

jacko45k said, “We share a bedroom, she gets to drive my truck and bike, I buy her gifts and visit her relatives and let her use the pool. Even her relatives get to come visit and stay over. Although I am of course unfamiliar with how you treat your hired help.”

I've had maids I treated like that; although, I did not allow the relatives to visit.

If you think she will steal/spend/waste everything, there is little trust. Why do you think it is more than a monetary arrangement; no matter the warm and fuzzy feeling you get from it?

Some monetary relationships are more honest and up-front than some supposed loving relationships. If it works for you, relax and enjoy.

[smotherb]

Some wives actually love their husbands and do not abuse the husband's trust in them.

Far fewer than most guys would like to believe.

It appears too many men don't think very thoroughly about the women they choose to marry. I have had three wives--American, Vietnamese and Filipina--none of them abused the trust between us. Was it luck of the draw?

Is it presently a menagerie quad or did the wheels fall of the the marriage wagon? I have had 3 and well in humble opinion they all betrayed my trust. If it is a menagerie quad yes definitely the luck of the draw.

A menagerie quad? No, they were not a collection of wild or unusual animals kept in a rectangular space. Although their type of woman may be unusual to many TV posters.

Did the wheels fall off the marriage wagon? No, the first marriage was for sex; which is not a good reason for marriage. We decided to end it amicably. The second was the woman I most admired; admiration is also not a good reason for marriage. We also decided it best we part. The third seems to have hit the mark, we are actually still in love; the only reason for marriage--unless you have an agenda which needs that civil union to reach fruition.

Do you mean menage a quatre? If so, no, the four of us never had sex together. The first two were far too old when I married the third.

[smotherb]

I am not married but if I were to get married now I wouldn't allow the wife to have direct access to any of the money that it took me decades to save. There is just no way. That money could never be replaced.

Careful now Goldbear your on TV giving your opinion that makes to much sense and in some ways making sense on TV is hated. Your right on the money but some here will tell you about the successes they have had with their Thai spouses in handling the finances. They are in the minority. I would like to know what the marriage success rate is here. In my home country (Boo Boo go back we do not want you here) the marriage success rate is about 45% and that is why marriage contracts are a must in any country. As retirees we are more vulnerable than first timers (we fall in love fast with the beautiful young girls here)but we have graduated from the school of life and now if we do not protect what we have worked hard for and accumulated maybe we deserve to suffer.

It certainly makes sense to keep your finances private until trust is established--and that may never happen. If you are starting a new relationship, caution is always best. The problem is, too many guys think with their little heads. If she keeps that happy, she gets what she wants. Fortunately, many guys don't mind that piece-meal orientation and simply rationalize cost per unit. It's those who are looking for a relationship when their partner is not who get hurt.