Problems With Wife

[austallia_1980]

Yesterday I was in a shopping mall and I saw this girl with a stunning body. She turned around and her face was not as lovely. She was walking a bit infront of me and it turned out that she was one of the girls who runs a cosmetic stand on the buttom floor. I go about my business and I am passing through again a few hours later, when I see a beautfiully stunning face. I then look at her body, low and behold it was the same girl I was oggling earlier with the ugly face.

There are plenty of very nice girls in Thailand. Find a good girl instead of the twenty year old bar girl, than take her to these cosmetic experts. What you will end up with is a very beautiful girl you can trust, instead of a hot bar girl who is going to rip out your heart and eat it for lunch.

[sriracha john]

Secret Agent Maxwell Smart With His Famous Shoe Phone

With the Thai concept that there is nothing much lower than the soles of shoes, it would explain why your Thai wife left you.

[Nam Kao]

I tell you one thing, if my marriage falls apart I will not get married again, i'll stay single

and play my game against theirs which is fun as long as you remember its a game and

dont fall in love with them.

I have been married 9 years and its been bliss, but boy if i knew then what i know now

i dont think i would have done it. Too risky. I really feel i dodged a bullet and lucked out

with what i got.

I am no expert but i would have to say 90% of the BKK/Tourist area girls are playing their

game fleecing farang$$$. From what i see upcountry maybe 30% will be gaming you.

Be VERY careful and dont let emotions take over.

Guys like i said before if you are in a relationship - check her and test her, tell her you lost

all your $$$ and act broke for a month or so. Still act the same put dont give them any $$$.

You will find out quickly if you are being scammed. If she sticks with you, you can feel safer.

These threads turn my stomach, i feel really sorry for the guys going thru this

-nam

PS, i also want to add the worse TG is better than any farang in my experience, just

to keep things in perspective

Edited November 9, 2006 by Nam Kao

[besth]

Money is really not an issue as I make plenty and this other guy can't possibly make close to what I do. Clearly she is much better off with me financially plus her claim that she loves me and not him.

I can see that you all are having a lot of fun with this but it is a serious situation. The way I see it is that I have one goal and that is to get her to break it off with the other guy. I know the whole thing sounds crazy but this is what I have been trying to get done unsuccessfully. Surely there is a way to get this done.

Keep paying her generously by the hour every time you "cave in". Give big tips. That should outdo the other guy(s).

[sting01]

The girl returned to work.

Basically what she is doing is simply professional (the other guy).

Only 2 solutions : Or you can handle to have a relationship with a working girl (hooker) with all the problems it imply, or you give up.

Mostly they never really stop, not because those girls can not love (I can believe she trully love you), nor even in your case for money (you give her enought), just aftr a while it's a way of life comparable to the way of life of the mid junky.

Tons of books exist on that subjects. But to make it simple : or you accept (because for her she is not cheating, but working), or you do not.

My 2 cents would be to NOT accept, because you seems to much sensible and to have a relationship with a whore will simply destroy you, you loose your job, and finish as beggar.

My gf came from a place like that, but she decided to stop.But she is the only one in her friends who dediced that kind of action and often iscaled crazed by her friends (how can she stop to have easy money, handsum guys every days, free shopping, disco every night ...) So if your girl did not stopped by herself, she will never, and it will destroy you, destroy your self estim, destroy your profesional life.

Thai people consider the face concept. If your girl hang out with another guy, you loose face big. It's why my girl stopped. She considered I was a good guy (not weathly at all thought at that time I was earning barely 15 000bht, but honest, hard working, and sincere). So to not make me loose face and in fact to also keep a serious rship, she stopped and made it official. Your girl maybe love you, but obviously do not care at all for you or your feeling, let say you are a 'best customer'.

[pap]

This is way to simple. She made a choice and you refuse to notice.

Always the way. We always seem to want the things we cant have. Duh!

[Donnyboy]

Yesterday I was in a shopping mall and I saw this girl with a stunning body. She turned around and her face was not as lovely. She was walking a bit infront of me and it turned out that she was one of the girls who runs a cosmetic stand on the buttom floor. I go about my business and I am passing through again a few hours later, when I see a beautfiully stunning face. I then look at her body, low and behold it was the same girl I was oggling earlier with the ugly face.There are plenty of very nice girls in Thailand. Find a good girl instead of the twenty year old bar girl, than take her to these cosmetic experts. What you will end up with is a very beautiful girl you can trust, instead of a hot bar girl who is going to rip out your heart and eat it for lunch.

Hey Aussie,

sure you didnt go down to the pubs to sink a few Fosters after you saw her the first time round?

Would be cheaper to get some beer goggles than some cosmetics. More fun too!!

[Mighty Mouse]

I can see that you all are having a lot of fun with this but it is a serious situation...........

No No Maxwell, YOU are having a lot of fun at (some of) our expense.....

.......but I'll tell you this much, you are hilarious.

I thought Benny Hill, Jack Benny and Bill Crosby were funny, but they ain't half as good as you.

How long did it take you to come up with such a great story line.....look out....here comes another one.....

[pap]

Yesterday I was in a shopping mall and I saw this girl with a stunning body. She turned around and her face was not as lovely. She was walking a bit infront of me and it turned out that she was one of the girls who runs a cosmetic stand on the buttom floor. I go about my business and I am passing through again a few hours later, when I see a beautfiully stunning face. I then look at her body, low and behold it was the same girl I was oggling earlier with the ugly face.

There are plenty of very nice girls in Thailand. Find a good girl instead of the twenty year old bar girl, than take her to these cosmetic experts. What you will end up with is a very beautiful girl you can trust, instead of a hot bar girl who is going to rip out your heart and eat it for lunch.

There are a lot of very beautiful women you can trust in Thailand. I would imagine he is just looking in the wrong places. I would ask him this. Would you go to these type of places where you come from to find a long term mate. Doubtful. That doesn't mean all of them are the same and I am sure that some would make perfectly good mates for some guys. It is just something he should be cognizant of.

[Donz]

Come on man? whats wrong?

Look at your situation and you can decide what to do. Its not really that hard and please dont tell me she has these trusting eyes

[sriracha john]

Yesterday I was in a shopping mall and I saw this girl with a stunning body. She turned around and her face was not as lovely. She was walking a bit infront of me and it turned out that she was one of the girls who runs a cosmetic stand on the buttom floor. I go about my business and I am passing through again a few hours later, when I see a beautfiully stunning face. I then look at her body, low and behold it was the same girl I was oggling earlier with the ugly face.There are plenty of very nice girls in Thailand. Find a good girl instead of the twenty year old bar girl, than take her to these cosmetic experts. What you will end up with is a very beautiful girl you can trust, instead of a hot bar girl who is going to rip out your heart and eat it for lunch.

Hey Aussie,

sure you didnt go down to the pubs to sink a few Fosters after you saw her the first time round?

Would be cheaper to get some beer goggles than some cosmetics. More fun too!!

I trust my Aussie brethren will correct me if I'm wrong, but I think you'll find precious few, if any, self-respecting Australian citizen that consumes Fosters.

[The Dan Sai Kid]

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Edited November 10, 2006 by The Dan Sai Kid

[ThaiPauly]

I cannot understand what possesed me to plough through these seven pages of hogwash

I must be very bored and I really need to get out more

[The Dan Sai Kid]

I cannot understand what possesed me to plough through these seven pages of hogwash

I must be very bored and I really need to get out more

They are surely 7 pages of drivel...

[Rumourz]

Yesterday I was in a shopping mall and I saw this girl with a stunning body. She turned around and her face was not as lovely. She was walking a bit infront of me and it turned out that she was one of the girls who runs a cosmetic stand on the buttom floor. I go about my business and I am passing through again a few hours later, when I see a beautfiully stunning face. I then look at her body, low and behold it was the same girl I was oggling earlier with the ugly face.

There are plenty of very nice girls in Thailand. Find a good girl instead of the twenty year old bar girl, than take her to these cosmetic experts.What you will end up with is a very beautiful girl you can trust, instead of a hot bar girl who is going to rip out your heart and eat it for lunch.

Do you guys know that the cosmetic over the counter are expensive? To have a beautiful girl, you guys have to folk up more money.

What do you think when she remove her make up...? you'd definately get to see her without make-up when you get up the next day next to her. Her face might be the last thing you want to see first thing in the morning

[Douggie Style]

Max, a lot of posters (and I am ashamed to say including myself) have doubted your story, so to make amends I have located the other guy who is willing and able to have a mature, rational discussion, here he is:

We can also arrange a secure, private, conversation:

Edited November 10, 2006 by Douggie Style

[roguegirl]

Why do I get the impression that the dumbest guy is also among the most educated and well travelled ones?

I just don't get it... Why is it so hard for him to actually see that the girl is shitting on him and "shaving" him clean? Or, he likes being clean shaven?

Nah... he must be one rich guy. He can afford to be "shaved" off his money...

Edited November 10, 2006 by roguegirl

[JacknDanny]

Why do I get the impression that the dumbest guy is also among the most educated and well travelled ones?

I just don't get it... Why is it so hard for him to actually see that the girl is shitting on him and "shaving" him clean? Or, he likes being clean shaven?

Nah... he must be one rich guy. He can afford to be "shaved" off his money...

I think its the ones who are inexperienced in relationships. Possibly got married young, divorced, insecure, liquid. Come over here and before they can catch their breath are surrounded by girls telling him how wonderful and handsome they are. You know what our male ego is like!!!!!!

[Rumourz]

Why do I get the impression that the dumbest guy is also among the most educated and well travelled ones?

I just don't get it... Why is it so hard for him to actually see that the girl is shitting on him and "shaving" him clean? Or, he likes being clean shaven?

Nah... he must be one rich guy. He can afford to be "shaved" off his money...

Well, Rogue, all I can say is, there are 2 kind of smart guys 1. Street Smart and 2. Book Smart. Unfortunately Book Smart guys' brains are "Square"... not rounded...

hahahaha, I guess lots of guys nowadays know that they are too hairy and therefore they shave/wax like women do!

[roguegirl]

Why do I get the impression that the dumbest guy is also among the most educated and well travelled ones?

I just don't get it... Why is it so hard for him to actually see that the girl is shitting on him and "shaving" him clean? Or, he likes being clean shaven?

Nah... he must be one rich guy. He can afford to be "shaved" off his money...

I think its the ones who are inexperienced in relationships. Possibly got married young, divorced, insecure, liquid. Come over here and before they can catch their breath are surrounded by girls telling him how wonderful and handsome they are. You know what our male ego is like!!!!!!

Knowing how manipulative women can be and you just allow it to happen just for the sake of your ego...?

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[suiging]

Perhaps this topic can be combined with the one on red ant infestation. The replies seem very similar in content ?

[terry57]

your an absolute nut case mate.

end of story.

BTW. can you lend me 5 million baht please.

[In the Rai!]

Maxwell,

dont listen to them mate. I can help you. It just so happens that I am the MD and co founder of "Marrage Savers" A thai based company that specialises in saving F**ked up relationships. I have seen it before and understand where you are coming from. This sort of thing happens to simple people all the time. It is a common problem but if you can trust me than I can help you get it back on the right track.

It takes 3 easy steps.

1/ give me her mobile number so I can contact her or address/email.

2/ deposit 10million baht into the below Thai bank account ( i will see that it gets to her)

KrungThai Bank

Name of account: Mr Rubble, Barney MR

BSB: 25673 account 3799763

*Please note that my services are a 30% cut

3/ Wait for her to contact you.( It will happen) After reading everything you have said I can gather that she really does love you and your very lucky she is not using you like she is that "other guy"

Remember Maxwell you dont need good luck you just need a little help mate..

Hang in there big fella

[roguegirl]

Maxwell,

dont listen to them mate. I can help you. It just so happens that I am the MD and co founder of "Marrage Savers" A thai based company that specialises in saving F**ked up relationships. I have seen it before and understand where you are coming from. This sort of thing happens to simple people all the time. It is a common problem but if you can trust me than I can help you get it back on the right track.

It takes 3 easy steps.

1/ give me her mobile number so I can contact her or address/email.

2/ deposit 10million baht into the below Thai bank account ( i will see that it gets to her)

KrungThai Bank

Name of account: Mr Rubble, Barney MR

BSB: 25673 account 3799763

*Please note that my services are a 30% cut

3/ Wait for her to contact you.( It will happen) After reading everything you have said I can gather that she really does love you and your very lucky she is not using you like she is that "other guy"

Remember Maxwell you dont need good luck you just need a little help mate..

Hang in there big fella

Should it be "Massage Savers"?

[Rumourz]

I can't help it .. but...

[Scott]

I hope you received some help and insight from the numerous posts. Despite the unnecessary commentary, it's always difficult when it's your own situation and you have a lot invested, both financially as well as emotionally.

Best of luck to you.

[mpdkorat]

I work in high tech industry and transferred to BKK 5 years ago. Shortly after my arrival I met a beautiful girl of 24 in a pool bar, I was 34. I dated her and became very attached immediately. Shortly after that, I asked her to move in with me and quit work. She was making 3 or 4K/mo plus tips in the bar so I gave her 20K monthly to compensate. She lived with me so all her living costs were covered plus I took her shopping anytime she wanted for clothes, jewelery or whatever. I make a lot of money so it's no problem for me. We lived together for a year and would go out every night and play pool so we were living well and I was complacent with her. After the year was up, I was transferred abroad and had to leave her behind. Little did I know but living without her would be unbearable. So I moved to a nearby country and she stayed behind and went back to work. I left her with about 70K be4 I left but did not send any cash in the next month.

After a month working abroad I realized that I could not live without this girl. I called her all the time and finally got her to come visit for a few days but this was not enough. I had met and been with some girls in my new country but it was not the same. I loved the Thai girl and could not live without her. I came back to visit after a year of working and spent a few weeks with her. During this time I asked her to Marry to which she said yes. In the meantime I was transferred yet again to a 3rd world country half way around the world. I arranged to Marry 6 months after my transfer and came back to Thailand at that time and we married. She came with me to my new country but she became very bored quickly and went back to Thailand. I got her to come back again but after a few weeks the same thing happened and she went back again. During this visit to me, I decided to have a look in her phone and noticed that she was talking to someone overseas. I didn't think too much about it but it did stick in my head. In the meantime, I gave her 5 million baht to build a house in her village.

I kept in touch with a few BKK friends by email and got one from a guy who said that he had seen my wife exiting a disco with a man. I asked the friend if he was sure it was her and he said absolutely. So basically I figured out that she was with the European man whose phone number was in her phone. I probed her on this but she said it was the bf of her friend who was at bar with her that night.

I came to bkk to visit her the next month and things were not well cause I suspected she was lying and told her so. She was furious at the friend who tipped me off and continued to deny. I decided to run more phone checks but found nothing. Then I hacked into her email by guessing her secret question to get her password. This is where I found out the story about the Euro man. I found that she planned to marry him even though she was married to me already! I made her come clean and she said that she met the guy in the bar after I left the 1st time and that he was good with her and gave her money without her asking. She also said that she loved me and did not love him but that I did not offer to give her money she needed to complete her house but that this man did.

Bottom line is that she did marry the man but says she does not love him. She loves me she says. I do still love her. I told her to make her choice, me or him cause I cant go on like this. Thus far she has not made her choice. She seems to be trying to hold onto both of us and do a juggling act. She has been to this man's country a few times I have discovered. He also visits her here. What should I do?

I see there are corrently 115 repies to this post why?

[pumpkin_pie]

I see there are corrently 115 repies to this post why?

someone who has the common sense can straight away decide what to do..... like u said 115 post......still cant make decision........

u know what........ for those that is kind enough and simpatic enough for him...... he is taking u all for a joy ride........

sorry mate...... that's how a common sense person can see......through and through.....

[geronimo]

5 million baht for the house in the village?

crickey! 500,000 would have been plenty. I guess the 4.5 million left would have been for the house warming party! chok dee!!

I have not seen this house but I do know that it is a very nice one. I requested to go there with her on my last bkk visit but she would not bring me. I have not been to her village since she married the other guy. I am not pleased about not even being able to go see what I paid for. Her mom is living in the house at this time whilst she lives in the BKK condo. BTW, I have not given her any money in over 6 months. closer to 9 months or so. She has recently started her own business

I got a what if!!! Why don't you just give all your money to her and be done with it!!!!!!!!

[helicoptor]

tragic comedy