cheapskatesam Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 I was watching this video of this Aussie guy and his ladyboy friends.. If you watch to the end.. he pays the bill and says it is Thai etiquette for the Farang to pay for everyone.. Being a stingy farang with only £700 a month to live this makes me nervous of future situation.. I am not cheap enough not to pay for my lady-friend.. but ladyfriend +all her mates is too much for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickJ Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Used to be that the oldest person pays. Not anymore. But the shoe will be tried on. Same with buying a wife that has been married before has kids and worked in a bar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsensam Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 a few years ago i was buying a ticket at a nearby travel agent, the girl working there was attractive and a little flirty so i remembered her. i then stated to see her around the local restaurants with foreigners and various friends. i later found out that she liked to get customers to take her out for dinner, when the guy turned up for the dinner date, full of anticipation, he found out she had invited a few friends along. and yes, he ended up paying for the lot and yes, when the meal was over so was the date. she really enjoyed dining out for free and treating her friends. and then heading home alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheapskatesam Posted December 2, 2016 Author Share Posted December 2, 2016 I've had a mix of various experiences with Thai women.. but only once i've had a third-party join us (mum) One girl. (Fai) i met her and the first date we went to Japanese restaurant in Terminal 21.. the bill was well over 1000baht and when the bill came i went to pay for it but she got her purse out and paid for it all.. i insisted that i pay but she didn't let me... i ended up staying at her place for a few days and i paid for dinner every night naturally because i was saving money on hotels anyway so why not.. We met her mum one day and we went to the sushi buffet place.. i paid for us all and i felt comfortable doing it because her mum was really pleasant to me.. but that's my limit.. GF+significant family member NOT GF + table of friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarenBravo Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 When this happens and you realise you are being used by a woman and her mates, start ordering the most expensive items on the menu. Once you have finished your tender, Wagyu steak, excuse yourself to either go to the toilet, or have a cigarette in the parking lot. Then, do a runner leaving all the people that played you for a fool with a massive bill. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheapskatesam Posted December 2, 2016 Author Share Posted December 2, 2016 (edited) 18 minutes ago, KarenBravo said: When this happens and you realise you are being used by a woman and her mates, start ordering the most expensive items on the menu. Once you have finished your tender, Wagyu steak, excuse yourself to either go to the toilet, or have a cigarette in the parking lot. Then, do a runner leaving all the people that played you for a fool with a massive bill. Haha nice one.. I've never done it but i've bailed out before getting stung majorly.. I once arranged to meet a girl .. i waited outside the BTS station for ages (she was late) and she turned up unexpectedly with a friend.. She also looked worse than she did in the photos.. Anyway i was pissed off and she suggested "we go kho san road for party".. i couldn't bring myself to tell them to bugger off so i just went with the flow. We got into a taxi and drove to Khoa San road in silence.. i had my suspicions that they were just playing me for a night of free drinks and they were confirmed when the taxi man came to a stop and the were no hand motions from the two girls to reach into their bags and pay the fare.. So i paid.. We were walking through a busy outdoors night market area full of people so i hung back and waited until they were both in front of me and i just casually changed direction and jogged off Edited December 2, 2016 by cheapskatesam Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lamkyong Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 3 minutes ago, cheapskatesam said: Haha nice one.. I've never done it but i've bailed out before getting stung majorly.. I once arranged to meet a girl .. i waited outside the BTS station for ages (she was late) and she turned up unexpectedly with a friend.. She also looked worse than she did in the photos.. Anyway i was pissed off and she suggested "we go kho san road for party".. i couldn't bring myself to tell them to bugger off so i just went with the flow. We got into a taxi and drove to Khoa San road in silence.. i had my suspicions that they were just playing me for a night of free drinks and they were confirmed when the taxi man came to a stop and the were no hand motions from the two girls to reach into their bags and pay the fare.. So i paid.. We were walking through a busy outdoors night market area full of people so i hung back and waited until they were both in front of me and i just casually changed direction and jogged off now that's more like it discrete etiquette Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djayz Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 (edited) Couldn't be bothered watching the video to the end, but from my experience it seems to be the person who is deemed to have the higher status and or more money foots the tab - irrespective of whether it's a farang or Thai. I have been out to a few really good dinners where a Thai paid the bill. I suppose it depends a lot on WHO you go out to dinner with... Edited December 2, 2016 by djayz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lamkyong Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 surprised no one has elaborated on the ladyboy aspect yet god they were uggs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezzra Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Rule of thumb in Thailand when going out with Thais family members to eat and drink, ( her family members, and a number of them too, smelling a free grub ) is to be fully prepared to fork for the bill, and leave a handsome tip so not to embarrass the GF/wify and save face, of you be labeled a major Ki Ni Yao Farang.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Thai "culture" as defined by my wife always involved me paying for everything. I went along with it for the first years of our life together, as she worked long hours for sod all ( like most Thais ) and it was just us, but when it started to encompass paying for her family, I made it clear that wasn't going to happen, and the end came suddenly, in every way, for our marriage. I still don't know if she just got tired of being married to me or if it was a long con, but same result either way. I'm just really happy we didn't have an atm anchor ( baby ). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
impulse Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 32 minutes ago, djayz said: Couldn't be bothered watching the video to the end, but from my experience it seems to be the person who is deemed to have the higher status and or more money foots the tab - irrespective of whether it's a farang or Thai. I have been out to a few really good dinners where a Thai paid the bill. I suppose it depends a lot on WHO you go out to dinner with... True. I work with a bunch of professional Thai people in BKK and Songkhla and I can rarely pay the tab unless I get up in the middle of the meal and sneak off to the cashier under the guise of hitting the head. Same thing in China where the income inequality is similar. The Thais I work with enjoy taking long lunches which drive me crazy, so I often leave a wad of cash with one of them to pay the check, and head back to the office. More often than not, I get back the entire wad. I always get back at least enough to indicate I paid only my share. Full disclosure: I don't have any experiences with non-working Thais or any extended families. These are all colleagues on better than average Thai salaries. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluebluewater Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 I knew on gal who loved to see how much she could get away with. I was invited to lunch one time but I made sure I arrived late and you can be sure that there was full table of family and friends waiting for me and my money. But of course being Thai they had all ready got their hands on the menu and ordered no telling how much food. I said hello to everyone and made introductions to those I did not and then without so much as a sip of water I begged off that I had to leave. The gal followed me out to me motorcycle, begging me to stay, and complaining that there was going to be a big bill. "Big sorry! Gots to go!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colinneil Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 One time when i arrived back in Thailand after a few months working in the UK, my ex-wife said tonight we eat in a restaurant ok i said,. When we arrived there were 11 other Thais already eating, drinking Jonnie Walker black label. Who are these people i asked ohh they are friends here to welcome you back to Thailand. I do not know any of them, and who is picking up the bill?? You are the farang you pay, ha ha ha says i, no bloody way, bye bye i went home left them to sort it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 1 hour ago, cheapskatesam said: is Thai etiquette for the Farang to pay for everyone.. Never given it any thought and not something that l know of, l pay only when l think it's appropriate, paid for girlfriends in my company in the past, paid for Thai family when out somewhere when married, now a few of my family treat me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YeahSiam Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 I've not been in the pay for dinner situation but I have been in variations on the theme. A little while back, I ran into a gik who was drinking with a group of friends and, before you know it, the friends were ordering more drinks/shots/cigarettes etc and the mouthiest of them presented me with the bill when the waitress came back. I'm like "are you on f****** drugs? Pay for your shit yourself" Mouthy bird's jaw hit the table, gik almost collapsed in a heap on the floor laughing. Turns out, her friends figured she didn't know me and, consequently, I ought to pay for the "privilege" of her and their company. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannot Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 2 hours ago, Lamkyong said: surprised no one has elaborated on the ladyboy aspect yet god they were uggs who cares he seems happy with the situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitkof Island Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 (edited) The easy answer is NO! The first word you need to use in Thailand is NO, NO , and NO! This is the oldest trick in the book and you are a sucker if you fall for it. Always make sure you are taking her out alone. Alone means alone not her girlfriend or the entire family. Learn to say alone in Thai. If you show up at the restaurant and suddenly everyone starts showing up leave or make an excuse you have to use the toilet and disappear. Afterwards just avoid the bitch. Then repeat after me. I am not a human ATM. I am not a human ATM. The guy in the video is an idiot. "I don,t understand anything their saying" Likely "We just found another falang sucker" Edited December 2, 2016 by Mitkof Island Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitkof Island Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 (edited) 3 hours ago, ezzra said: Rule of thumb in Thailand when going out with Thais family members to eat and drink, ( her family members, and a number of them too, smelling a free grub ) is to be fully prepared to fork for the bill, and leave a handsome tip so not to embarrass the GF/wify and save face, of you be labeled a major Ki Ni Yao Farang.... A big D ? Edited December 2, 2016 by Mitkof Island Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
overherebc Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 3 hours ago, KarenBravo said: When this happens and you realise you are being used by a woman and her mates, start ordering the most expensive items on the menu. Once you have finished your tender, Wagyu steak, excuse yourself to either go to the toilet, or have a cigarette in the parking lot. Then, do a runner leaving all the people that played you for a fool with a massive bill. many years ago 6 'friends' ( 3 couples) just happened to turn up at the restaurant. At the end of the meal the bill was put in front of me. I divided by 4 put that on the table and walked off to the car. End of short relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannot Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 (edited) 2 hours ago, impulse said: True. I work with a bunch of professional Thai people in BKK and Songkhla and I can rarely pay the tab unless I get up in the middle of the meal and sneak off to the cashier under the guise of hitting the head. Same thing in China where the income inequality is similar. The Thais I work with enjoy taking long lunches which drive me crazy, so I often leave a wad of cash with one of them to pay the check, and head back to the office. More often than not, I get back the entire wad. I always get back at least enough to indicate I paid only my share. Full disclosure: I don't have any experiences with non-working Thais or any extended families. These are all colleagues on better than average Thai salaries. Whats "better than average"....just interested, no other motive Edited December 2, 2016 by kannot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wump Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Depends on the kind of people you hang out with. I once had lunch with some Thai friend and her nurse friend and a doctor. The doctor insisted on paying for all. So I guess this is more of a status thing than a Thai/farang thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bridge2bridge Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 NO it is just another way Thai's rip off a FARANG. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al007 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 ABSOLUTELY of course everyone thinks the foreigner is going to pay Preferably at the beginning of the meal get out a big wad of 1000 batt notes, let everyone see OR despatch one of the ladies to the ATM with your card and PIN, and tell her to bring back 20,000batt Everyone will love you they will order food and waste it and when they go you can be assured they will return for more What rubbish many will say, well only equal to the original post is the foreigner expected to pay A fool and his/her money are easily parted and soon become broke TRY AND LIVE IN THE REAL WORLD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YeahSiam Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 1 minute ago, bridge2bridge said: NO it is just another way Thai's rip off a FARANG. Sweeping generalisation. It depends very much on the class of Thai you're hanging out with. If you're cheek by jowl with peasants, you'll encounter this type of behaviour far more regularly than if you rub shoulders with better-off Thais. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whatproblem Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Don't be a pussy ,if your date brings friends tell them to go ,when it's bed time she won't let her friends in ,I'm talking girls . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nemesis7 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 When will you people learn! Here no money no honey mostly. Hardly exceptions and that's the truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jolive Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Free meal con.. I had the same experience as you guys here.. a date with a gal turn out to be a date with a bunch of people that I dun even know.. those so call (friends) accompanied my date have no problem ordering dishes that they will never order when having dinner amongst themselves.. To me I'm ok as this will be the last time out with this gal as she really gave me bad impression.. few days after that dinner, she call me out for dinner again and I told her that I dun have a printer at home that print money and I'm not a walking ATM so good bye..Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bark Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 If you have money, always good to Pay. If not don't go out. But the choice is yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rijb Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 4 minutes ago, jolive said: Free meal con.. I had the same experience as you guys here.. a date with a gal turn out to be a date with a bunch of people that I dun even know.. those so call (friends) accompanied my date have no problem ordering dishes that they will never order when having dinner amongst themselves.. To me I'm ok as this will be the last time out with this gal as she really gave me bad impression.. few days after that dinner, she call me out for dinner again and I told her that I dun have a printer at home that print money and I'm not a walking ATM so good bye.. Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect You missed your chance. You should have asked her to spend the night. And then invite all your friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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