Love, "made in Thailand"

[swissie]

This "Love-Issue" between a Farang and a Thai has surfaced quite a few times here and in other places. Not only in "Forums", Books have been written about it. Mostly with an Academic Bias.

A more down to earth "explanation" may be derived from a conversation I had a long time ago with a Fellow-Farang, married to his Thai-Wife of 15 years.

One fine day he asked his wife: "Do you love me"?

Her answer: " Of couse I love you. You provide for me and my family. You pay for hospital-bills of my father. The children can go to a good school. Why on earth should I not love you?"

= "Love made in Thailand".

But: A 100 years ago, a "Farang" would have gotten the same answer from his "Farang" wife in Europe.

So, Farangs understanding and ACCEPTING the concept of "Love made in Thailand" are well served as long as they can financially support the concept.
Others, harbouring and importing notions of "true Romance, twosomeness" (excuding the Thai-Family), may find out that such liberal-minded european "Inventions" have not reached the shores of Thailand yet.
Cheers.    

[samsensam]

 

far too a generalisation, it depends on the upbringing and socio-economic background of the lady or man involved. whether in my home country or abroad i dont date girls who are poor, uneducated or low class, and have never been in a relationship where money was an issue or a reason for someone being with me.

 

there are an awful lot of thai women and men who do not expect financial gain from their foreign partner.

 

as the thai's love to say; up to you, if you want to pay to have a gf/bf then you can and good luck to you but dont complain when it all goes pear shaped, if you dont want to pay someone to be with you then dont and avoid many of the pitfalls and much of the unhappiness that many people express on this forum.

[473geo]

You are correct swisse but have elongated the time gap some 30 years

 

Google "how-to-be-a-good-wife-according-to-a-1950s-home-ec-book" - many Thai women fit the bill for the 1950s perfect wife

and of course the husband was the breadwinner and provided money for his wife (the home maker)

 

But of course frowned upon by the western men who feel there is no longer a place for the "home maker" in society, and therefore no such thing as a provider or 'breadwinner'. In the minds of the nouveaux western men "home maker" wives are incapable of 'loving' their husband!! and, are, of course, only in it for the money  

 

So in the past did "Love made in the west" never really exist?  Has modern western man been suckered by the stories of 'true romance' and 'true love'? is reality something brought on for them only by a visit to Thailand?

 

 

[sirineou]

2 hours ago, swissie said:

Her answer: " Of couse I love you. You provide for me and my family. You pay for hospital-bills of my father. The children can go to a good school. Why on earth should I not love you?"

 

Perhaps that's how she can verbalise it

But two people that spend time together, enjoy each others company , have fun with each other, and have developed an intimacy that they don't have with others,  cant help but develop an emotional bond

I don't need to ask my wife if she loves me, I can see it in the way she can't wait for me to come home, how we always spend all our off time together,  the things she does for me even when she don't have to, all the little things.

You can see it in the same things too, no need to ask.