4MyEgo

It all depends on how you look at things I suppose, for example, if both work, then yes, she should be entitled to half, or, if on has kids together, then yes, she should have half, maybe the whole house to shelter the kids. Naturally this would depend on the guy and how well off he is. The above said, is she hasn't worked, and the relationship is only starting out, it's definitely a no go zone, suffice to say, before we married in my home country, I sorted legal advice from a Family Law Specialist who handled my divorce with my X (western) wife swiftly, without having to go to court, it was a 50/50 split with one child on a shared care basis, i.e. I got the kid one day a week less than her overall in a year, and he advised me to get a Prenuptial Agreement signed up before we married, with my now wife agreeing with me that I should protect my assets against the law that favored women, and it was carried out within days, i.e. she said, what you have is yours, why should I be entitled to them. I ran that scenario by a few friends who were in relationships, not married, and wouldn't even think about going down that route in fear of pi$$ing off their girlfriends/future wives. You might say mine is a rare diamond, fact of the matter is if she arked up about signing a Prenuptial, then I would know she was after 50% of what I had, my opinion, she did the right thing, and a decade later I kept to my word, built her a nice big home, so she has 100% of it, plus a car in her name, even though I could have put it in my name (yellow book), we have kids together, so if things went south, she needs to raise the kids, drive them to school, etc, etc and of course I would make sure she is taken care of, she is the type of girl that isn't our typical money hungry "B", she's still a village girl and hates it when the locals at the market call her Madam, i.e. she doesn't hang her bag off her arm which would be outward if you know what I mean, she loves her bum bag. You might say why did my X only get 50% with one kid after 12 years of marriage, well the way I looked at it was as she only earned 30% of what I did, 50% was a good deal, and it was that or nothing, suffice to say she got enough to buy a house outright and if she wanted to go to court, I would have made sure it would have been chewed up in lawyers fees, that and her dad, told her it was fair and that I would looked after the kid, which I did. Dinner is served so got to jet. Never bothered me, she was there for months, checked, double checked and confirmed, and yes she could have been elsewhere, but her inexperience told me a lot, 16 customers to be exact, most drunk and not able to perform was the story and I believe it, that said, doesn't bother me, as I have been with scores of women in my life, should that bother her ? No disease to date LoL

25 I will add, she had parents you wouldn't dream of, a physically abusive ex partner and then won the lottery with me, so she counts her blessings everyday as she has stability and security in her life, as I do as well. I'd say I was and am pretty lucky, no doubting that, but that said, it's not the title people should be worried about, as it's the beast within the woman, putting down the Thai girls working to survive is easy, albeit it, everyone will sleep with them, but no mention of the X western wives taking 1/2 to 3/4 of the matrimonial house in the old country via the courts, just saying, you want a younger prettier babe for your ego's and to show them off on your arm to your friends, just make sure you have the brains to know what you actually have on your arm, regardless of ethnicity or career.

I have come to the conclusion after reading many posts on this topic that I shall gift a million baht to my wife annually. Once I gift her the money, I shall state, as she will, that I do not eat from the same plate, and if they want to suggest otherwise, then I will tell them to prove it, as the onus will be on them. I do not own a home, I do not own a car, we have separated as husband and wife and I live in the back of the house and remain for the kids, I eat Kellogg's all bran for breakfast, have a tuna sandwich for lunch, and a bowl of spag for dinner and support myself, in other words, Garn Get Fruit Loops.

Thanks, and yes, ALL women want security of some kind for the long haul. The above said, I have seen a lot of Thai women here, ending up with poor a$$ blokes here depending on their government handouts on a monthly basis to be left with nothing when he departs, suffice to say, I too consider myself an odd diamond too and of course, one has to set traps along to way to be sure to be sure as Paddy would say, and if the rat takes the cheese, then you know what you have on your hands. The fact that she spend a decade with me overseas, supporting me as a stay at home wife with me working long hours from home and me being a single dad on a shared care basis, was a HUGE help, that said, she put a lot of trust in me to deliver on what I promised, i.e. to retire to Thailand in a decade and to build us a nice house, in the end it all worked out, and as you say, character has a heck of a lot to do with relationships.

It all depends, if her mum was really sick and went to the hospital, it's basically free, however, hospitals have long ques if she is from the north, north-east of Thailand, the poorer side, some go to the clinic which costs, and ques are less. 450 baht is cheap and could go towards meds. What I don't understand is why she asked you for 8,000 baht ? Thai's are always borrowing, they see it different to how we farangs see it, e.g. a friend in need is a pain in the A$$, Thai help each other out and always borrow if the loaner is in a better position than the one asking, they mostly never get it back, it's part of the culture.

Wow, that's a lot of "ifs", like I said, you have to set boundaries. My plan was to always leave my home country because it was going to and still is going to sh-t. The woman, as you say has to have good character, morals, ethics etc, the thing is most Thai women don't have a clue about farangs, and when mine came back with me for a decade, she saw how hard I worked and how expensive things were, so she appreciated that I had a plan in place to retire elsewhere, and it was good for her that it was Thailand, as I had been here once before and liked it, and it was close to my home country if I needed to return to visit family etc. I have always said on this forum, only invest as much as your prepared to lose, which is typically 10% of ones worth, the other 90% stays in the home country where you pay no tax for investing there as a non resident, won't go into the gist of it as most here live on their government pensions and have either piss-d up what they had, i.e. if they had it, or put too much of an investment into their Tiruks, or the "B" back home got most of it from the divorce because she had the kids to look after. Relationships can works, regardless if its a bargirl or other, for me personally, I don't judge people for the type of work they did, or had to do, as long as they are a good person, that said, I also know people can turn, and laws can be on their side, so there is a lot to research and plan, and if it all works to your advantage, then you roll the dice, well that's what I did and it's worked for me, maybe not for others, but not all women are the same, are they, and not all blokes think with their heads, do they.

Like any other women would, except Asians look younger, and it makes me wonder why you ask, are you thinking of marrying a bargirl ? If you are, let me know as there are many benefits to it Vs marrying a western woman, i.e. if your the marrying type....LoL

When I met my wife in a bar, in Phuket 2 decades ago, we spent 10 nights together, when I was leaving, I told her I was coming back in 6 weeks and said maybe we can catch up, she then asked if I wanted her to go back to the village to wait for me, I said sure, but if you need to make money, it was ok by me, for her to stay, she said, no, I don't like this work, I will go back to the village, if you promise to come back in 6 weeks, I said, promise and I did. When I left, I gave her 10k baht as she didn't ask me for any money, apart from me paying for her the first night that I met her, which was 2k + the bar fine of 300 baht. On top of that, I did pay the bar fine for every night to the bar owner, that way he couldn't complain, it was 300 baht a night of which she would get half of. Some nights we would go to the bar, have a couple of drinks, which she would get half of, and leave, therefore keeping her boss on side, i.e. she has a customer who is paying the bar fine and buying some drinks. We kept in touch when I went home, I discussed the situation about her coming back to my country for a few months for a holiday and to hang out with me if she felt comfortable with that, and she said that would be a whole new experience for her as she hasn't been out of Thailand before, so I sent her some money to get a passport organized while I looked into the visa side of things, I also sent her some money to catch a flight to Bangkok to meet me as that was were she had to apply for her visa do police checks. We spent a couple of nights there and then went to the village for a couple of nights to meet her family, then off to Phuket to holiday for a week, and wait for the call to pick up the visa, then fly out up to Bangkok, then to my home country. We married before her visa expired and she was given a bridging visa to stay for 2 years, until she was approved as a resident, then another 2 years a Citizen, we travelled back to Thailand once, twice a year for 4-8 weeks as I was a contractor and could take time off when I wanted to and was on a good wicket. I have now lived in Thailand for a decade, in a house I built her, no regrets when I rolled the dice with this one, as she is a keeper. My advice to you is, go with your guy and roll the dice, but do set boundaries and traps along the way, as you will soon find out what kind of creature you have met. Good luck, sometimes it does work out.

You obviously can't imagine things or read, but that's ok, you carry on and I don't drink red bull Charlie.

Seriously, what would I have accomplished smashing the face in of an old guy who was no match for me, besides, I can see the cops rocking up, he spat at me officer, oh really, where did his spit land on you, did anyone see him spit at you, yet here we are, ambulance carting off an old guy nearly beaten to death, turn around, your under arrest for assault, yeh, yeh, tell it to the judge in the morning. Walking away was the cleanest thing for me to do, as for others, well if they're weak, they will hit.

They are just words, hot air, and I would bet my left one that if the guy was built like a brick sh-t house wall covered in tatts, the Thai would have thought twice about picking on a 77 year old, seriously. I had an old guy cut in front of me a while back on a Friday night back in the home country, I beeped my horn and he kept brake checking me, until we came to the red lights, when I pounced out of the car, ran up to his window and ready to start throwing em, he wound his window down and spat at me saying F off, I swear, I could have knocked him out and done some serious damage, because I was so enraged, but I managed to calm down, walk back to my car and laugh in pity for the guy.

Was just sending the wind up the poster, my wife hasn't worked the bar for 18 years, my bad as I have had to support her for the past 18 years LoL

Smart man, that's equal 5,000 Baht a month over those 9 years, and she has secure tenure when you've gone to the other side.

Regardless if he got lippy or not, you don't hit the elderly, unless your a savage, and there I will leave it. The Thai's could have walked away from the situation, as could the have the UK couple and sorted it through the Owners Corporation as I believe it was a villa, and if the law here regarding property in a strata is similar to back home, there would be a plan outlining who owns what. In my opinion, this just goes to show, some Thai's, especially the younger ones, think they can hit elderly people without having regard to the outcome, if it were me, I would be counter suing for damages, on top of the assalt charges.

I don't pay her an allowance, she works in a bar and gives me all her money, and I pay the expenses with that. What a STUPID post.

Some complaints are acknowledged as genuine, but the majority in my opinion are not. I suppose you can put that down to the non genuine complainers as being those that complain about the life in general and of course go on attacking others on the forum if they don't see things their way. For me personally nothing is hard here, it's actually easier if you adjust your mentality as to the way you were taught to think back home and let go of "principals", because mostly they do not exist here, you have to adjust or you don't enjoy it. Sure the 90 days can be a pain for some, but the sooner they face it, and go on line and get it over with (2 minutes tops), it's over, the annual extension for me, is my biggest gripe, as it takes a whole day to print off docs, check everything is in order, then go to the bank, the Amphur to get a doc saying we are still married, even though no one saw me, as I was at the photo shop getting my photo taken, so one has to question, how would they know I am still married, then drive 90 kilometres to the immigration office and then go back in a couple of months to get the stamp in the Passport. Total waste of time and petrol, but hey, you want to stay another 12 months, you got to adjust your mind set, even though I could think of and I would imagine others could too, of an easier way to do things, like bank statement and photo, while your at it, do away with the 90 days....LOL. I have found in the decade that I have lived here, if you allow things to get under your skin, you will return to where you came from, almost did it twice in my earlier years, and then you have to ask yourself, is the grass greener over there, hell yeh, but the cost of living there vs here means life wouldn't be as relaxed as it is here. Guess what I am trying to convey here is those that don't stop complaining or tone it down and adjust, will just be miserable sods unloading here on AN, so to speak, just my opinion of course.

I'd love to know if his Passports had any of those "under the counter" extension stamps in them, or did he just not even bother ? Guess I'll never know.

The hoops we have to jump through are a fricken joke, e.g. 90 day reporting, annual extensions, and if that's not enough, like you said, report to immigration within 24 hours of arrival. The part is the best part I look forward to, i.e. drive 90km to these bozos to say, hey, I'm back, then drive 90 kilometres back, thanks for nothing.

We all would like to believe that, i.e. an older innocent women not knowing that someone packed her bags for her, but one has to question, was that person who packed her bags on an earlier flight out to meet her at the airport or elsewhere. Things don't always appear how they seem, age doesn't always hide innocence, that or there is still a huge low life out there.

All puns aside, Big Joke was onto something.

I love it as I have already travel the world twice, raised our kids, now it's just us and as I said to her this morning over coffee, dang life is so stressful, we are always in a hurry to get to work (not) and the high taxes are killing me (not). I said we should take a trip down to Ko Samui for a week, she said why not two, I said let's see ho the $'s got because you know how expensive things are here, her nearly choking on her coffee. Yes, boring for some, not for others. I hope you find what your looking for, because I truly have, and I am as content as a dog licking his #$%^, so to speak, as I look over towards my dog. That's it for me, off to bed, nite nite

I don't need the nightlife, been there, done that, very empty. Happily married 18 years, she's a great cook, "she take good care me & love me long time" true to her word. I do go out to a local pub couple of nights a week, community style where everyone knows everyone and we watch each other drop off of the perch every now and again. I have a couple of drinks, listen to the usual BS, and shoot some stick then I'm home. We travel domestically couple of times a year, and internationally every 3 years. Nice big comfortable house in a village, retired and making money, cost of living here is cheap, no mortgage, no overheads, 20 years younger wife who's my bestie, what more could a bloke ask for ?

Nothing to do with Robbie, although I do like his music. I'm surprised your still here, oh well, whatever cupcake.

Hey, I have a great idea, why don't you go back where you came from and leave this sponge cake to all of us happy chaps. You sound like a lot of fun, mud cakes and all.

Money brought into Thailand by Xpat's is taxable income under the current administration. So if I was thinking of buying an investment property under say 5 million baht, I would have to pay tax on that money brought into the country, and then whenever I sold that investment property, pay Capital Gains Tax. That is a no brainer, no investment property, investment overseas remain tax free for me, suffice to say I will continue to bring in the money I require to exist here, and if ever they want me to pay tax on it, around 60k, that will be 60k less a year that I will contribute to their economy. They are as blind as bats as far as I can see, e.g. Epats bring money into the country which goes into their economy, try and tax us on our money, then you will end up with egg on your face. I'd be surprised if a fair few Xpats haven't already left to be honest.