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The Dark Lord
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35 minutes ago, BEVUP said:Yes all with out husbands knowledge encouraged by the voice - They would know what husbands answer would be
They just don't know when their on a good wicket & just want more - For some crazy business or the banks about to seize the Aunts land
My wife wife lies straight in my face - as mentioned prior car loan was coming to end after BIL failed to pay (unknown to me ) , thought i might up date car so spent an hour at Toyota & told a friend who also helped by looking on the computer. Or I could of set that amount away every mth for my sons Uni
But no & always at the 11 th hour i find ou the car was refinanced from a loan shark to pay of the bank & give the remainder to the Aunt 400 km away on the promise of 10 Rai (no proof at all )
So yet another 3yrs on car making it worth double the purchase price from about 9 yrs ago to know being 12 yr old & depressiating
I share your pain there Bevup old chum.
my apologies to those fellow sufferers, who have had the strength of character to post their woes and experiences so brutally honestly on this thread, for my absence.
True ( how could any company in this country use that name when nobody here knows what it means or how to use it?) my ISP decided to stop the internet connection for just over 24 hours with the usual pre warning of ....oh yes sorry, no pre warning. So yesterday was not the best day for me.
To update the situation, from the poisonous vicious and nasty screaming fits telling me to leave "her" house because of some imagined infidelity or intent of infidelity have waned to be replaced by offerings of freshly cooked food outside the room as offerings ( which previously I would accept ) .
i have ignored them totally and I think this has totally confused her.
it follows my earlier prediction however that come bill time she would come a begging
still having that internal battle, pity Vs self protection.
more importantly than my and my perceived suffering is the trials and tribulations that my friend Odysseus is facing. Dear O, my prayers and good thoughts are with you.
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Long holiday or just getting used to what an inactive post is like?
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Serves them right. All of the Thais.
The management for being utterly and contemptuously inept and out of touch with those they claim to be representing and the people for lamely laying down and accepting coup after coup after coup allowing military clowns to run a country.
They have no one to blame but themselves.
No no doubt though in the spirit of thainess someone else will have to be punished
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4 hours ago, George FmplesdaCosteedback said:We are now a little off topic, and it's about good person in need of some support:
Interesting what you use as a "code of life". Of course the concept is in most religions but explained in different ways. Heaven and Hell, reincarnation as a cockroach, or forty virgins waiting for you for murdering innocent heathen swine in the name of allah (err sorry, maybe that one's the opposite).
Our friend has done his bit with this family time and again over years, he needs to look after himself before their self destruction obsession drags him into the abyss with them. I worry he seems to be teetering on the edge. It Is decision time, sink or swim.
Love is not about only giving, it is about respect. It seems his generosity has lost him any respect unfortunately.
They have had more than their pound of flesh, time to leave with no regret.
Get out while you still have the force with you Dark Lord.
Don't forget you bank books...
Hi GFC and welcome, if that is appropriate, to the thread.
You are right in so in so many ways here, firstly with the cartoon which made me smile but then with the astute observation about my state of mind. I continue to have that guilt trip that is so deeply embedded in my soul that I cannot get rid which keeps reminding me that when I leave she will spiral very quickly into abject poverty and suffering having squandered obscene amounts of money on clothes, shoes handbags and friends despite my multiple warnings that the "fountain of tang" was not endless.
Then on the other hand my brain tells me that to stay here is going to end in tears, possible injury and definite misery right up to the time when the old body finally checks out.
i certainly am beginning to understand what it must be like to have a dual personality.
I take your point about just geabbing the essentials however however how do you explain " going to the post office" with two treble and two bass guitars ( value about $2k each) in your hands?
what I have sorted so far is;
a) fully packed
4wd car hire at about Bht 1000 per day ( need the space)
what i I need to try and sort out now is somewhere to drop my cases and guitars, amps etc off for safe keeping whilst I bugger off back to civilisation for a quick break.
off on to the internet shortly.
thanks guys.
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I had a dreadful experience also with thaipost where information that could have been used for identity theft went missing in a registered mail letter ( delivered not signed for)
i have spent eight eight months seeking resolution but all I get is " the matter has been passed to the investigating officer and if he finds anything we will respond"
used to be brilliant service comparable to most westernservices but now.........
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1 hour ago, LannaGuy said:
That 'wife' again
Yup same one.........
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Just now, Maggusoil said:
Does she drive it? Can she be trusted?
No to both there. Last time she "drove it" she had donned the "the Issan crazy" about me fancying some mythical and unidentified or specified girl or katoi which was utter tripe. She then reversed it into a wall managing to bugger up the rear bumper for which she has yet to acknowledge responsibility for.
Instead of doing so so she prefers to invent some halfarsed story about a gik that I supposedly have in Pattaya.
fortunately it now lies in the bmw hospital with a very expensive head gasket problem that I have washed my hands of now.
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I had a so called thai friend drive past me in his pride and joy a Toyota pickup but he swerved at the last minute towards me in a clear road.
I had my back to my parked red car so no chance of moving.
As he he narrowly missed my croc infested feet I slapped hard on his pride and joy.
He he was furious. Not speaking English he did not follow my reprimand for driving like a dick . My wife refused to translate as I was obviously wrong as I am not thai even though she was close to being a RTA statistic as well.
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14 minutes ago, oldhippy said:Yes about time that we farangs start to teach Thais some basic buddhist principles 555.
PS. I'm only joking, or maybe I am not.
Inspite of all her thainess, my wife recently said: "buddha is in the heart, not in the wat" and - "I believe what I see".
She seldom goes to the wat, yet spent 160.000 + 70.000 (envelopes) on our son's funeral (a large part of it went to the monks of course).
There is hope, but still a loooooooooong way to go.
For Europeans too, it was a struggle to leave the 19th century behind...
Old hippy dude,
So sorry to hear about the loss of your son. It is not right that a parent buries their child, ever
my current wife lost her eldest just before I met her, her then husband did not even come to the funeral, she was in such a state that all the donations ( envelopes) and insurance payouts were stolen by an aunt and it was estimated to be several millions. But they are thai so she was forgiven.....
i believe you, Trans and the wise Owl to name but a few have got not only the patience of a Job ( some biblical reference) but have a special gift.
I struggled to leave the 20th century but that was purely due to me hitting 40!
I was often highlighted at my apparent patience in explaining matters with my staff who were mostly non English speakers as a first language. I am pretty sure I got the message across eventually but all that legendary patience faded rapidly in the face of "the Issan crazy"
Try as hard as I can to ignore it, my guilt at what lies ahead for her is trying very hard to overwhelm me. If it wins then I am back in this cycle again and that thought spurs me on to grow a backbone.
BTW the expression Issan Crazy is not referring to the current Mrs DL but to a condition prevalent in Issan women.
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1 hour ago, humqdpf said:
And just for a moment I thought that this story was about art ( Constable, Old Master). Hmmmm
I went the other way focusing on the old master along the Bruce Lee line.......
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1 hour ago, hansnl said:
Rich, arrogant and some more words that may not be printed here.
How is it possible a constable owns a timber yard, or drive a Mercedes.
OK, I know it is an overrated, overpriced "face" car, but how can he, maybe, own one?
Hear, hear, Mercedes & BMW drivers, anywhere in the world, can't be trusted.
Woah there old boy I have a bmw....... just a minute ........
no no I don't, it is in the wife's name.
you are right
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Maybe BREXIT was exactly what Europe or the EU needed to wake up.
.you have the new French leader stating he will try and tackle the beaurocracy in the eu, Countries starting to close borders to "refugees" just the things that those who voted for Brexit voted on
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11 minutes ago, owl sees all said:
A couple of years ago we were in the pick-up driving near Phon Phasai. Not a busy road but concreted and with electricity. A guy on a motorbike was towing a blue cart full of pineapples. I was about 50 metres behind him when the cart got into a wobble, turned over, and sent the pineapples flying. I stopped the pick-up and went to help him sort out his wares.
After a minute or so a lady - who I guess was working in the field - also came to help.
Five minutes later he was back on his way. I didn't ask for anything. I just wanted to help the guy.
When I got back into the pick-up the wife went absolutely bananas.
Why did you do that? He was drunk!? You saw the lady and you were butterfly eye?
We got home and I still kept up my stance of not responding. I just couldn't understand the problem. Anyway that night I slept at the farm in the pick up just to get away from the agro'.
Hi Wise Owl, I read your anecdote and am sorry I let out an involuntary chuckle.
Why do they do it?
I have discussed numerous times with the soon to be former mrs DL the stupidity if using terror to obtain compliance.
We have discussed sensibly and calmly the ch 3 "girl fancies other girls boyfriend, creates temper tantrum and fails scenario" several times but it did not go in and stay in.
It seems the thai man who beats his wife then, in utter frustration buggers off leaving her with spawn and no money may just be as much a victim of the "Issan crazy" as we are.
Obviously the beatings don't work but by the same token neither do the kind ways.
They seem to be be hell bent on self destruction and very slowly I am adjusting to a position of acceptance that she can go ahead and self destruct and I will do my utmost not to feel in anyway guilty or sorry.
I am appalled that I just wrote that but let's face facts we are actually suffering from abuse by them ..
yes i I said the word!
teansfer the behaviour when "the Issan crazy" takes over and apply it to a kid, another woman, an animal and most posters would state ABUSE!
Why not here?
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2 minutes ago, oldhippy said:
Feeling guilty for the suffering that others bring on to themselves is possibly the result of our christian upbringing.
I am 100% atheist, (raised in a christian country), but feel the same towards my wife.
Hey old hippy dude, this religion crapola really is a downer eh?
why should I feel so much potential guilt even though I am the victim and she brought this on herself? I mean it is not as if I had not told her repeatedly in the past and it is her making the somewhat less than polite requests for me to vacate the premesis.
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Is that a Harold from "Person of Interest" in the picture?
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4 minutes ago, oldhippy said:
It illustrates that The Black One is not a loser who ows all his misfortunes to himself.
Thanks old hippy dude, nanliew was not being manevolent it is his writing style which is fantastic but can occasionally be misread.
Certainly no meanness intended i am sure.
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Just now, NanLaew said:
No. This discourse is obviously therapeutic for yourself and others similarly challenged. Sorry if it came across any other way.
No no nanliew old chum, it was entirely my bad. Probably being a little bit sensitive right now. Pride taken a hit, emotions all at cross purposes. It is like what was said a little earlier on this thread, still love the woman but basically cannot live with her. I know she will suffer badly once I withdraw my support but should I feel guilty?
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4 minutes ago, rhodie said:
Just get out of there mate. A downward spiral if ever I saw one. You will soon smell the roses and realise that there is a life. Good luck and it would be good if you could start your own thread on "The road to recovery". :)
You know rhode old son I might just do that once I escape the poisonous web I am entrapped in.
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1 minute ago, NanLaew said:How has this anything at all to do with your current situation?
Just trying to show that my former stressed up high pressure life and its demise was happier than the anticipated but never achieved stress free hasstle free drift along the river of peace to the end life existence I planned for out here.
Was my post not clear or are you just you just trying to piss me off?
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24 minutes ago, zoza said:Funny the way things go with the ladies from isarn I have been with my wife about 14 years now and I have had a few highs and lows
in that time and out of the twelve Farang/Thai couples who attended our wedding only us and one other are still together so the odds do not seem great, my wife is going through the menopause and life can get a bit tricky with her new found rage
and my need for the truth, I have got over the spoilt son syndrome and the family must be involved in any thing that involves me spending money. I am still not sure if we will still be together until one or the other dies.
but her three kids are not kids any more the youngest ends her schooling next year so that is one thing that should ease the pressure that their desire for money for nothing appears to pile on.
they are not bad kids but Thai tv and other media present most Farangs as multi-millionaires and they foolishly try and claim their share.
We hit a large bump in the road about a year ago, again over me not bending to a claim that it seemed the youngest had come out with.
it boiled down to me sending extra money that they tried to say I had agreed to which I had not agreed to and the ranting went on , and the constant phone calls kept coming (from family members since I had foolishly sold property in the UK and told the wife).
so similar to DL I bought a ticket on line and made sure my wife knew about it, the chatter calmed down the phone calls offering to sell me land eased off and after a week or so my wife just said ok, yes it was a mistake 90% of the rows have stopped.
I have changed the date on the ticket we are practically back to where we where.
it was like roulette as I was honestly going to go and I will go in two months, and I might stay for a long time in the UK, nothing is
written in stone, and even though I love my wife she knows and I know that they will never bully me into giving in.
I hope all the TV members who have been in the main very helpful can gain from all our stories how best to get through the problems thrown up by our Thai/Farang relationships. cheers.
Dear Zoza, welcome to the discussion ( if welcome is appropriate), I read your eloquent post twice thinking initially that you were describing my fun filled life here.
I see you are contemplating the sensory retreat option similar to Our intrepid warrior and traveller friend Odysseus and the Dark one (me)
i am pretty certain i will come back if not only for the uk tax break, but I can see no sensible way I can come back and continue to be treated like a dog, trash talked about in my face in front of or with strangers, walking on eggshells so as not to incur the sizeable wrath or the onset of another "the crazy" .
i mean that is not a life is it?
Back in the real world I was a senior manager for a huge international company. I was given complete regional authority for Asia, Mid East, Med and Europe ( one by one not all together) and I managed somehow to negotiate some pretty neat deals or union agreements or whatever was required without the histrionics I face today.
I was happy then.
Sadly due to global economic reasons the company started taking serious losses and whilst the owners were loaded, even they eventually called it a day and allowed themselves to be bought out and laying us all off as a result.
why can I not be happy now with zero stress, zero ling hour days, zero UK staff ( the worst i ever had) .........
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10 minutes ago, transam said:
Your morning has broken like a first day....
Yup Trans it certainly has.
Managed to slip past the sleeping dragon and secure vital vital food supplies to allow me to hold out during this fracas.
The real sunrise of joy of joy will be the first day of freedom......
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12 minutes ago, Odysseus123 said:
Okay, Darkometrius-a very wise decision.
Stick with it tho' otherwise you will get stuck between Scylla and Charybdis.
Best of luck.
Darkometrius - man I am slow today...... when that finally dawned on me,I cracked a smile.
Outstanding, young man
i presume being stuck between Scylla and Charybdis is akin to a rock and a hard place but with considerably more dire consequences. ( I was always of the opinion it was Hydra but I stand suitably reeducated)
my word Odysseus you are making me use brain cells that have remained dormant since the mid 70's
i admit to looking up the the latter two as well as a futile attempt to search for darkometrius! Yes I shall suffer the slings and arrows of derision ( sorry Shakespeare) for my lack of awareness ce matain.
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1 minute ago, transam said:
Good Luck....
Hi Trans my old chum
i am only trying to move on, notchange my religion............
love his Cats in the Cradle.
The poisonous Brother in Law
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Hey O my friend,
Appreciate it is a bit early but in case I miss you due to my personal "Olympus" before you fly, promise you will drop us all a line from Oz ( a wonderful country but one that I failed to visit) to let us know how you are getting on?