fredwiggy

Not if you dismiss God as a fantasy. I like possessions, just like most others, knowing full well I can't take anything with me when I go to heaven but memories. My family will get my possessions, to enjoy them if they like. I love music, movies, fishing and hunting, and for those things you need possessions.

Girls want a future, are more willing to put in the schooling than boys here, and less likely to play video games, less likely to use drugs and get drunk,and more likely to put their partner first in a relationship.

No, I think you can't understand you're still assuming.

And then there are supposed adults, going on an online forum and assuming thery know anything about people they've never met, who are likely much better off mentally and physically than they are, and who have taken care of their families and not let them fall by the wayside. I'm betting what I knew 30 years ago you'll never understand.

I do own my home, and did in the states. And when I go back, I'll own another. You come in and make ignorant statements all the time, going by assumptions. I would think you would know better at early 70's. What do you own now? I have a cd and fishing tackle collection that's likely worth more than your home.

It's still mostly environment that teaches a person how to relate to others.

No, a 15 year old CAN have more knowledge than 15 year olds of the past, because of the internet. People aren't any smarter now than back then. There are many, many young people that know very little about anything because of their personal desire not to expand their on knowledge. Knowledge mainly comes from reading and teachers, and many stop reading after high school because their teachers stay in school, and then they just go by what other's say on the outside without evidence, believing what they say because they "sound right" You can see this when people go around asking the young crowd basic questions about the world. Most can't answer easy questions, and these are western kids. Many go into school not liking school, and only pass courses because they don't want to be left behind. Then they're learning slows or stops. Some go to college and learn more, especially specific courses for a career, and still stop leaning after they pass, unless they're learning from on the job training. School only teaches you the basics, most of which, unless you're passionate about a certain subject, you forget. besides how to read and write your language.

Attraction isn't a choice, and if there are an equal amount of foreigners and locals in an area, it will amount to personal attraction. Thais have a mindset about foreigners, and also go by word of mouth. If foreigners and locals all had the same amount of money, most Thai women would still prefer their own, mainly because of how they relate to each other. This is in Thailand. If we were talking about the US, where everyone was independent and all spoke English, then it would go by attraction, and that again is personal. Foreigners are "more exciting and more interesting" because of media and word of mouth. People are all the same if they're all making the same amount of money. Yes, I love brown skin and many Thais like white skin. That's going by just looks, which is young thinking. Some red haired girls are attracted to black men. This is fantasy thinking. Not normal attraction. Many like Latinos, thinking they're "Latin lovers", which means nothing, as being a lover has nothing to do with nationality. Immature thinking has many women going with the wrong men, until they learn their thinking was off, and based on media, fantasy, word of mouth or greed. You won't see many western women with Thai men in the US, as they already know of their habits and way of thinking. The older a Thai women gets, especially if they haven't been treated bad in their lives, the more likely they'll end up with other locals. A lot of matches occur because of poverty and bad treatment.

Another guess unless you read them.

Think what you will but you're wrong. People are what their environment taught them, along with some genetic predisposition. No one has superior or inferior genes. Hitler had a very screwed up childhood. It wasn't genes but how his parents treated him. Some can be genetically predisposed to have certain ailments or learning disabilities. People that grow up close can take on characteristics of others, especially if they look up to them. Bad actions mostly come from being taught bad actions. Very few are born sociopathic. Environmental Influence: It's important to remember that genes don't operate in a vacuum. Environmental factors like diet, lifestyle, exposure to toxins, and even social circumstances can influence how genes are expressed.

People say a lot of things all the time. History has proven many are wrong.

No, character comes from your first environment, wit genetics adding a little. The most important things you learn in life are from ages 0-5, with the same added on until you leave the house. No one is born selfish. It's a learned behavior like narcissism, which goes together.

I've read hundreds of books on exercise and they were my only teachers, and I was in great shape from age 17-62. Only moving here slowed that down because of the lack of a decent gym close by and age. Supplements aren't necessary until you get older and your body doesn't produce as much on it's own as before. Diet can supply most of them unless you are deficient for some reason. Listening to one's opinions on others doesn't tell the truth. You need many, who learned by evidence gathering, saying the same things to know what the truth is.

Beauty comes from genetics. Character comes from environment , mostly from ages 0-5. Entitlement has some thinking they deserve more. You only deserve what you work for, and how you treat others. A large percentage of men don't deserve sex from anyone, but they get it because women are greedy and have unrealistic expectations or fantasy thinking.

Read all his books back when they came out. What you feel you can heal, and on to Men Are From mars, Women Are From Venus, along with the others about children.

Imagination is good, as is knowledge. Knowledge gives you more valid data. Feelings change like the weather, just as a person with depression can fall out of love and get angry in a minutes time, and do things they normally wouldn't do otherwise. Everyone thinks they're way of thinking is right, even though some of that thinking leads to wars, murder, theft, addictions, unsafe behavior, suicide, and everything else that has gone wrong since time began. Nothing replaces hard evidence, and that comes from reading books written by people who have done the learning and studies, along with personal lessons from the same, added to personal experience.

It all boils down to how they were treated by locals and what kind of future they dream about having. Besides hi-so's, locals are mostly poor, and foreigners still have more in the financials than the average local, so that's the attraction. A Thai girl that says she only wants a farang has either been hurt by locals and or is again looking for a likely better future. Otherwise it's attraction, and that can be anyone because it isn't a choice. You and I aren't any more attractive to local women than Thai men are. I personally think Thai women are among the most beautiful on earth, but I also see Blacks, Latinas, Europeans, Japanese, Hawaiians and Muslims as very appealing, and wouldn't have any problem being with any of them as a partner. That means American girls also, as all are from all nationalities. People relate best to their own kind, no matter the situation. A bad history with your nationality can turn you away, but if you had a good history with them, you would still go by attraction first.

Fiction doesn't count, They only enrich your enjoyment level, along with possible vocabulary. We aren't talking about all books but reading books to learn a certain subject, and again, reading is one of the best teachers.

Because it's common sense. All humans are equal. Their actions and words are what makes them worse as individuals. Some of the worst acting humans have proven to be those with a lot of money and power. Some people are smarter than others because of genetics or desire to learn. That doesn't mean they are better humans. Some are better in sports because of genetics and desire to learn, along with practice. Media is what has looking better. People are all the same as humans. No matter if you're a CEO, wearing a Rolex and driving a Lamborghini, wearing Armani suits, living in a NYC penthouse and eating Lobster Thermidor, or are scrounging for food in a dumpster, wearing tattered rags, smelling like roadkill and have an IQ of 70, you still have as much worth as a hum as the former.

You guess at many of your replies. You have absolutely no information of any chefs and how they learned, and seeing there are millions of chefs, there's no telling how they learned. Again, anything you can learn from a person can be learned from a book. Personal lessons in a physical area, meaning sports, are better learned from a teacher, but can be bolstered by reading. mental lessons can be learned by books and teachers, none being any better than the other. Books are written by teachers. Your personal opinions about books shows only that you don't like reading, don't believe in it, or are limited in what it takes to learn anything.

Packing heat isn't as important as knowing how to please a woman. That bargirls have had many men inside them makes them jaded, looking at men as Johns and not a partner. Most men understand finding a virgin isn't easy, especially the older you get and looking in the wrong places. No one knows how many men a woman might have had. They could be honest and had 2, and liars and had 30. Time will always tell a smart man if a woman was promiscuous before him. Catching your children "rubbing one out" is only going to embarrass them for a short while, as long as the parent doesn't shame them themselves. Everyone not damaged by parents can have a normal relationship with the opposite gender just by personal learning. No one is superior to anyone on earth. Some just act better or worse. Thinking you are comes from learning that behavior from your parents. Western morality is still morality, although all don't have it there, and there's nothing wrong with being moral, but there is something wrong with being immoral. There is an argument for not wanting a bargirl. That thinking is already skewed, and most of it comes from being abused and neglected in childhood, or by being forced into the trade by scumbags for profit, through addiction or fear. Entering the trade by either method hurts them emotionally, and in their thinking or men in general,and being a victim or an abuser in a marriage from this thinking isn't going to help matters. Yes, most marriages fail, but in a bargirl relationship, you're already starting out in the red. Some have made it work, but it all depends on how long they've been in the trade, whether they were forced by parents for greed, or went there because their parents abused or molested them. If you catch one who hasn't been there long, then your problems aren't going to be huge later, whereas if you find one that's been involved for longer, or much longer, you're already working uphill from the beginning and might always be looked at as a John.

No, you read for a reason, to better yourself no matter how decent a man you might already be. Some don't understand how to relate to women, and reading teaches you that, even if you were raised in a close family. There's always a need for improvement, and how people learn things is based on a few methods. Reading, being taught personally and experience. All together is the best method. Knowledge is the key for any success, and anything anyone wants to learn can be learned by reading, as you don't only get one perspective but many. 20 books are better than learning from one chef.

Yes really. Thai women prefer their own. They can relate because of the language, culture and growing up in the same place, with much the same background. That women all want fun, emotional needs met and being provided for is a given, anywhere. Most that go with foreigners have either been hurt by locals and or know a foreigner will meet their material needs. The rest of what I said is spot on. You can't put celebrities of any area into this, as they will attract mostly because of their money.

Where did I say I've had lots of failed relationships? I said the women I've had children with weren't good parental or partner material. I've been with many women, but there are many reasons people don't stay with others, and it doesn't just mean one is bad or treating the other wrong. Different future plans, familiar values, places wanted to live, all can end a decent relationship. I'm thinking you haven't read many books on the subject as you dismiss them, although many books all say the same things. You read many, think, then make a decision what makes sense. There's no cut and dried method to determine what percentage of books is good or bad, as some are based on opinions and most are based on gathering evidence by talking to many individuals and couples. I "get" people a lot more than you'll ever imagine, and very likely a lot more than you do. I already knew a lot about people from living in the world and dating a lot of women, listening to them, and listening to people who were successful in their relationships. What makes a good relationship is having two people who are first attracted to each other, are loyal, honest, trustworthy and want the same things in the future. Why do you think a man reads many things on relationships when it's mostly women who do? it's a man who wants the best for his relationships, woman and family. My only problem was picking unstable women to have children with, as many worldwide can attest in their own lives, be it the man or the woman who made the wrong choices. If you haven't read more than a couple of books, you'll never understand because we're all in the "real" world, no matter if you read or not.

Mostly facts. Where else does anyone get factual evidence than from professionals in any particular subject? Taking others opinions that aren't educated enough or aren't in that business is less valid than taking advice from the former. I'm not speaking of Thais but people in general, as all people are pretty much the same, with the same personality types, traits and human habits, with a few differences in cultures. He asked me where I got my information from and I told him. Any man with money can end up with women in any country as there are enough greedy, material minded women to go around. You don't need to speak their language although it can help. You don't need to like their music, food, politics, religion or national sports. Many expats never learn the language and many have wives that can't speak their language. Money keeps her around, which usually means a much better life than being with a local, especially in the country. Thais prefer Thais if money isn't involved. If you want barrimundi you need to have money, especially if that fish is a lot younger than you. If you want a pretty, young woman that's independent here, you need to be in shape, be close to her age, plus have money.